Ни Өсөн Мин Улай Иртә Кейәүгә?

Кисә мин кисә менән закончить өсөн кибеткә захватить бер нисә әйберҙәрҙең, һәм минең өсөн бик ҡыҙыҡлы һөйләшеү менән кассиром. Беҙ бер ни тиклем һөйләштек, ул шул тиклем отсканировать минең товарҙары, һәм шул ваҡытта ул миңә тәҡдим яһаны дисконт картаһы, әммә мин, тине ул, минең хатыным иде бер үк. Бына ҡасан һөйләшеү ләззәт алдым. Мин беләм, был һүҙ бик яҡшы, сөнки был минең бик күп тапҡыр. Ул бара, нәмә кеүек был...

Кеше: Тип!? Һеҙ женаты?

Миңа: Әлбиттә, мин өйләнгән ине дауамында ике ярым йыл.

Кеше: Ни тиклем һеҙ? Һин выглядит бала кеүек.

Миңа: Мин егерме өс.

Кеше: Һеҙ шулай итеп йәш дә булһаҡ! Ни өсөн донъяла еңел ине һеҙ эшләнегеҙ, тип?

Миңа: Ни өсөн мин түгел?

" 2009, Мин кейәүгә шул саҡ хоҡуҡи яҙҙы постепенно йәштә егерме бер йыл. Ваҡытында минең ухаживать, ҡатнашты, ҡыҫҡа һәм никах, Миңа задавать бер генә тапҡыр мәсьәләләре, "Ни өсөн өйләнергә шундай йәш? Т нимәгә бындай пешка?”, һәм минең яратҡан, "Һеҙ көтөргә тейеш ине һәм наслаждаться һеҙҙең тормош!”

Ҡайһы бер кешеләр, задавка бындай һорауҙар таныш булмаған кешеләргә, әммә ҡайһы ғаилә иде. Иле ҡытайҙа, мин сумасшедшем өсөн өйләнергә бындай "йәш” йәше?

Ярай, рөхсәт итегеҙ миңә бирергә һеҙгә өс сәбәптәр, ни өсөн мин өйләнергә ҡарар итә башлағас, мин.

1. Мин ҡаршы алды благочестие ҡатын-ҡыҙҙы

Нисек унһигеҙ йәшлек первокурсник " библейского көллиәте, Мин дә актив ищу хатынын, тик Хоҙайға ине, теләсә таныштырыу, минең менән йәш ҡатын-ҡыҙ киткәс, уның йөрәге. Ул иде красива, ләкин был күпкә ҙур, ул яратҡан Иисуса. Ул белһәм, тип уның булды грешник мохтаж Божьи благодать, һәм уның баҫалҡы ине, понятий йөрәк. Ахыр сиктә, беҙ инек бер өлөшө бер үк сиркәүе, шулай булғас, мин ҡарарға тейеш, уға хеҙмәт итергә, үҫә, һәм дөрөҫ бирергә, уға башҡа ваҡытта. Мин башланы һөйләргә минең эске круг уның тураһында. Минең дустарым, остаздар, пасторы һәм барыһы да килеште – ул иде благочестие ҡатын-ҡыҙ. Мин алыр инем күрергә, тип, мин иду һәм уның менән яратыу, уның өсөн ҡалған өлөшөндә минең тормошомда.

2. Мин әҙер инем

Шул ваҡытҡа мин башланы тураһында уйларга ысын барлыҡта никах һәм был шулай булғас ышаныс менән тапшырырға теләр ине ҡытайҙа кемгә үҙен ҙә булһа тормош буйлап. Мин тип һораны үҙен, аламмы байтаҡ өлкәндәр һәм яуаплы. Мин эҙләгән аша изге Писания һәм уйланы тураһында ире өлкәлә, һәм һөйләштеләр женатый дустар, остаздар. Һуң ҙур күләмдә доғалар һөйләү һәм, минең уҡытыусы һәм пастор минең сиркәү диде миңә, мин әҙер инем уны преследовать. Мин маҡтап туялмай ине. Тик мин түгел,’T эйә преследовать уны, әгәр мин уйлаған, был’т әҙер, рухи етәкселек уны, тәъмин итеү һәм уны, һәм булырға, ғаилә башлығы.

3. Никах-был яҡшы теләк

Башта мин тойманым, мин иҫбатларға тейеш скептик, тип женя йәш ҡайсағында ок. Әммә мин посмотреть был писания мин тапмаған кеүек әйберҙәр, "Никах үлем равняться! Йүгерергә, уның!” йәки, "Ҡуйырға никах, һеҙ әлегә алмайсы һыуҙарға,” йәки, "Ғына өйләнергә, һин күп стар өсөн, наслаждаться тормышы,” йәки, "Уйнай ҡырҙа, һуңынан һайларға яҡшы.”

Моның урынға мин таптым шундай команда, ҡайһылай, "Йүгерергә йәш поход”, мин уҡыған пассажир, нисек притчи 18:22 нимә тип әйт, "Кем таба хатынын, ул тапҡан файҙаһына алған кинәнес-се Әфәнделәр.”

Шуға күрә, кешеләрҙең тиҙәр, "Заставить сине кейәүгә сығырға шундай йәш?” минең яңы яуап, "Һеҙ знаете дөрөҫ һорау.” Минең уйлауымса, уның нигеҙендә мәсьәлә булып тора фараз тураһында хәбәр никах крадет нәмә минән, әйтерһең дә, минең йәшлек юҡҡа татарстанда ҡылынған жертвенный любви, ул ҡулланылырға мөмкин " өсөн случайно удовольствия һәм шелушин.

Никах-был иҫ киткес бүләк Хоҙайҙан! Был тигәнде аңлата благодать. Мин тапҡан үҙенә хатынын, һәм был яҡшы. Килешмәм менән логико, тип әйт, һыуҙарға Божьи благословение мөмкин тиклем оҙағыраҡ. Моның урынға инем, - тине, наладить Божьи яҡшы бүләктәр һәм распорядитель улар өсөн бер ғорурлыҡ.

Был түгел, тимәк, барыһы да өйләнергә тейеш, мин яһаны. Ине, насар булһа, мин пропитаться поженятся менән элек сағыштырғанда, мин әҙер инем. Ҡайһы бер сығып, етәксе һ. б. кәрәк, күп релм, һәм ҡалғандар кәрәк ҡарап молиться өсөн ҡәнәғәтләнгәнлек ышаныс һәм Алдаһалар һәм уның ваҡыт. Минең маҡсат түгел булып тора, тиһәк, һеҙ йәшрәк поженятся, күберәк булған һайын, һеҙ иң ҡәҙерле. I just want to dispel the myth that we should delay adulthood and only consider marriage once we’re thirty or older.

Түгел, Үкенәлер

Кисә Твиттер тигән бер кеше тип һораны мине, әгәр мин пожалели, тип шулай иртә кейәүгә. Минең яуап? Абсолют түгел.

Был иң яҡшы ҡарарҙар минең тормошомда. Мин бәхетлерәк һәм святые ҡарағанда инем, ике йыл ярым элек, һәм был яҡшы. Мин теләмәм кеүек тойолдо, сөнки мин әллә ниндәй супер редкая аномалия. Мин беләм, бик күп кешеләр өйләнешә был юн йәштә йәки йәшрәк мине. Улар ҙа күрҙек никах бүләк итә һәм улар күргән дә моның ара. Мин һәм минең хатыным булырға мөмкин хәҙер йәш, тик мин моль өсөн оло бәхет, мөхәббәт уҡ хатыным аҙағына ҡәҙәр тормош етәксе һ. б.. Ә әлегә мин телем повидаться зирәклеге һәм әйтемдәр "тешатся жену йәшлек.”

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  1. Jannon FitzpatrickЯуап

    I respectfully do not agree with Kevin Ferere. You cannot know what love is until you know who God is, because God is Love! The Bible doesn’t say anything about dating around or interacting with others to find that one. Ысынлыҡта,, Isaac layed on on Rebecca and knew she was the one for him. He didn’t date around or talk to Leah to so if she was better so he would know whether or not Rachel was really what he wanted or not.

    Speaking from my own experience, I did date others and found what love was not. Not only from my own relationships, but from my parentsand sistersrelationships. The problem was, улар мөнәсәбәттә булып, аллаһы тәғәлә һүҙенең һәм мөхәббәткә нигеҙләнгән, шуға күрә бер нәмә лә булмай сыға һәм уларға тап. Мин диндар кеше таба, сөнки был шулай килеп сығырға мөмкин, һеҙ тип әйтермен, Әммә мин ысын күңелдән ышанам ни, әгәр ҙә мин шул көтөү менән минең йөрәге һаҡлана һәм, икенсе яҡтан, мин уң булыр өсөн түгел, Мин күпкә яҡшыраҡ ине, һәм аҙ позицияһын һынала, тәҡүәле ҡатын алыу өсөн ирем менән минең ҡарашҡа, ҡатын-ҡыҙҙар күҙлеге аша түгел, ә эштәре менән томат поклажа.

    Мин теләйем һеҙгә обидел, әммә мин уйлайым, был күп йәһәттән одеял тип раҫлауы хата, йөрәк йәш шул яҡтан мөмкин түгел рулить булырлыҡ.. (Диндар тураһында мәғлүмәт google ҡаршы таныштырҙы.. Хәҙерге Танышты. Ысынлап та, ҡайһы бер әйберҙәрҙе шунда яҡшы булыр.)

    • KevinFerereЯуап

      Шулай уҡ һеҙгә иҫбат итермен, - тип, мин хоҡуғы. Теләһә нимә әйтә алам Библия, әммә һин барыһынан да тәжрибә, һеҙгә китергә кәрәк.. Һәм аллаһ һеҙгә кем тип атала, кульминация, һәм һеҙ үҙ тәжрибәһен өйрәтә тип. Аҙағында, һеҙ нимә ышанам-был һайлау, тик шуны беләм икән, көсләп булмай ысынбарлыҡ.

      Һәм д, дөйөм мөрәжәғәттәр аҙ булыуы мөмкин, әммә ул ҡабул ителергә тейеш тоҙ менән иген, был да дөрөҫ..

      • Lokelani70Яуап

        Кевин менән хөрмәт менән мин риза түгел Ферере.
        Берҙән, тип иҫбатлап булмай, был нәмә һүҙ аша түгел, уның намыҫлы йәшәү өсөн һеҙ үҙ аллы тормошҡа ҡарар ҡабул итә., Библия. Ә, беҙ тәҡүәле ҡарар ҡабул никахта йәшәгән., аллаһы тәғәлә һүҙҙәре аша. Ысынлыкта, был блог бер кем дә туп-тулы булыуын аңланым, әгәр ҙә аллаһ тормошонда беренсе урынға ҡуйған..
        Бөтә ҡылған өсөн никах! А.!

        • KevinFerereЯуап

          Мин аңлы ҡарар ҡабул итеү өсөн аллы табыу һәм үҙе өсөн түгел, тигән кемдер мине өйрәтә. Тулҡынланып түгел, Мин ҡулланыла, бары тик һеҙ булған өсөн.

          • Алмаш ток

            Мин ябай ғына телем, әйтергә, Аллаһ һеҙҙең таба алмай.. Тәүратта әйтелгәнсә, беҙ үле. Үлгән кеше бер ни эшләй алмай.. Беҙ аллы табыу.

        • Lokelani70Яуап

          Ссср… Сөнки мин жаль, Кевин, һеҙ тейеш, бутау. Мин түгел, Хоҙай булһа. а. шкурник. Аллаһ ихтыяры булһа ла борсолорға, шулай ҙа бер-беребеҙҙе ныҡ яраттыҡ, сөнки уның беҙҙе яратыуына! Элек мин нисек яҙа, аллаһ беренсе урынға ҡуйыу-был нәмә кәрәк, был тулыһынса аңлар өсөн блог, минең һеҙ нисек яуап иҫбат правота. Бөтәһе лә мөмкин, тип әйтеп булмай эшләп, беҙ алла һәм угодный. Аллаһ мөбәрәк кис була һәм үҙенең иҫ киткес.

        • Фру-Mukete АрнольдЯуап

          Хахах, эҙләү дауам итә, һеҙ уны тапҡан- хәтерләп, уның ижад емеше асылды. Ысынлыкта, Мин һеҙгә бүләк трюктар, выкидывать библия һәм уны алыу ябай китә, китап нисек, барыһынан да билдәләй, тип раҫлай һәм шул саҡта уның хәтеренә яһаны, хатта улар, китап һәм башҡа талаптар менән таныштырыу, сағыштырырға. Әммә кем моғайын, һеҙ тура-тип аңлата һеҙ ҙә-, үҙе лә тотанаҡлыҡ, сөнки һеҙ-хәҡиҡәт эҙләүсе.

        • KevinFerereЯуап

          Шулай уҡ, әгәр һеҙ аллаға ышанам, һеҙҙең кеүек раҫланы, һеҙ ни өсөн кәрәклеген тойоп, уны шул тиклем иҫбат итеү өсөн? Юҡ, мин А., сөнки мин уны.. Мин уның ул һәм мин. Әммә мин жаль, һин аңлай алмай, һине алам, тип?

        • DelinabiniЯуап

          аллаһ һеҙҙән риза түгел, һәм мин һеҙгә үҙе нисек булдыра ала, дөрөҫөн аллаһ кеүек була ала, әгәр һин-А.?

        • KevinFerereЯуап

          Минең насар, опечатка: *Мин алланың барлығын иҫбат итергә кәрәк.*

          Әммә был аңлатманы тигәнде аңлата, - тип һөйләне ул.. Бөтә, тип эсендә урынлашҡан сезне, бынан тыш, һеҙ. Тик был дөрөҫ түгел, сөнки ҡабул итеүҙән ҡурҡҡан, тип өйрәт һин, был дөрөҫ.

  2. Аддис-ҺунарсыЯуап

    100 % һеҙҙең менән! Мин дә үҙ иремде осраттым. 20 һәм беҙ үткән йылда өйләнешә. Мин бар шундай уҡ һөйләшеүҙәр булырға тейеш, осраҡлы менән незнакомцы, мин телем һеҙҙең дустары һәм ғаиләһен саҡырған һәм, һеҙгә тоғро ҡала һәм мәсихселәр өсөн бөтә матур ҡыҙ, - тип һүҙҙәрен тасуирлай.. Хәҙер мин һәм минең ирем 30 һәм кешенең ҡасан йылда мин әйтәм, мин “Бәхетле, етеш” өйләнгән тиерлек 10 ахнуть йылда улар!!! “Ысынлап”?? Буталсыҡ шулай уҡ иҫкәрмәләр яһаны “раят үҙ йәшлеге” һәм т. юл һ. б.. Әммә беҙ мәрхәмәтлек һәм мәрхәмәтле булған хоҙайым шулай була, тип мин һүҙемде бирә алмам, минең иремде мин нисек ҡаршы ала йылмайып, миңә ҡасан эшләргә. Студент йылдарында беҙ бергә булды беҙҙең яратыу reminising, бөйөк тураһында хыяллана һәм бөтә әйберҙәре, улар алда тормош! Беҙҙең бар 2 ҡыҙ һәм малайҙарҙы юлдан матур (хоҙай биргән беҙҙең өсөн доға ҡыла һәм был йыл смиренно) , (бөгөн мин atually ;-))..һәм беҙ күберәк була алмай, тип ышана баш союзы леван был аллаһ өсөн, беҙ бергә килтереп.

    Әлбиттә, беҙ идеаль (хәйер, минең дуҫ шулай тип уйлайым, сөнки беҙ түгел, донъяуи проблемалар менән осраша измена, һәм бәхәсләшергә, хөрмәт), ләкин беҙҙең фекер айырымлыҡтары булды., кәйеф урғыла, финанс ҡыйынлыҡтарына һәм башҡалар., айырма, Хоҙай беҙ нимәгә таянабыҙ, беҙҙең хәрәкәткә килтереү өсөн, беҙ бер ҡасан да бер-береһенә хөрмәт һәм ышанысын юғалтмаҫҡа тырыша., аралашыу, изге рух етәкселеге эҙләү һәм, минең ирем кеүек, бергә..пар-был кешелә иң үҙенсәлекле, һәм мин улар икеһе лә беҙҙе аңлап ҡаршы алалар, йә һатам тип бәхет асҡыстары ла никах яһалды. “әйберҙәр” бер-береңде бәхетле итеү, ләкин беләм, беҙгә кем булһа ла Христос, бер-береһен яратып һәм уны үҙгәртеүе кәрәк никах тураһында ҡағиҙә, ситтә етешмәй йәки беҙгә ҡарап, нисек беҙ ултырабыз “хис” был мәлдә. , беләһеңме, хистәрҙең мәңгелек булыуында бәхет ваҡытлыса тип, кем китереп, ләкин ысын мәсих килгәс шатлыҡтарҙан ғына тормай.

    Һезгә һәм һеҙҙең ҡатындарығыҙҙы, приветствие йыл күп шатлыҡтар!!!
    Музыка яратам да мин юлда ;)..

  3. ДжошЯуап

    Сәфәре,

    Миҫал өсөн һеҙгә, гүзәл йәш христиан булып тора, сөнки тел ул-аллаға дан, ҡатын-ҡыҙға нисек ҡарап, улар! Рәхмәт! Мин генә никахлашыу, мин 22, алты йыл хеҙмәт итә һәм алға ҡарап, никахҡа оҙаҡ.!

  4. Johnny_renteriaЯуап

    Ышанаһығыҙмы, юҡмы, әммә мин йәшендә кейәүгә сыға. 18. Мин ире мәғәнәһе финанс әҙер булып килә, һәм мин инде атай булып. Әммә мин үҙемдең тормош ғына мәсих бирә, һәм мин беләм, мин ҡатыным менән булып үҫә минең менән нимә була. Бер нәмәләрҙе минән һораған һәм шул уҡ кешеләр, шул тиклем яҡшыраҡ. Мин ышанам, был моңһоу ҙа, никах-ул насар. Бөгөн, Мин ошо хаҡта уйланым һәм һығымтаға килә, шул тиклем кеше булыр тип гостиная, яуаплылыҡты үҙ өҫтөнә алған башҡа кешеләр был хаҡта уй бөтөнләй булманы тиерлек. Никах-ул хаҡта түгел, ҡасан һәм ни өсөн һин кейәүгә сыға, әммә шул хаҡта, тирә-яҡ кешеһе, никах. Һәм уның мәсихлек булырға тейеш…

  5. ДебораЯуап

    минең уйлауымса, сәйәхәттәр-береһе..улар мин хоҡуғы булып, уларға өйләнә @ 19 (ХВА улар кейәүҙә булған. 4 6 лена СЗ)lkng н @ хәҙер беҙ уны аңлайбыҙ, был ҡабул итерлек хәл мәсих үҙенең айырым да яҡшы тормош, ул уны ҡасан булһа нишләр….мин тейеш тип танырға ла, мин әҙер түгел 2 мин кейәүгә сыға..был ҡурҡытманы, сөнки мин теләмәм 2 зацепляться 2 шул да кеше Түгел 4 әммә мин белеп ҡалыр минең тормошомдоң да бер өлөшө, - тип уйларга мин сделала дөрөҫ һайлау мөмкинлеге бирелгән Ғайса бер ҡасан да…мин ҡайһы берҙәрегеҙ шулай уйлайҙыр, г өйлән, мин ала барыһы да мин телем менән Ғайсаны, ул беркасан ла алманы минең ЗГТ брк?….уға бар хоҡуҡ һәм булырға ҡарар гвардия н недурно 4 дата!:)

  6. MNM103Яуап

    Был, ысынлап та ла, күп нәмәгә өйрәтте мине. Афарин уның был яҡтан да ҡатыным һәм һеҙ ишеткән!

  7. Лэнс ПетерсонЯуап

    Иҫ киткес. Минең улдары ла өйләнгән. 2 1/2 ике йыл элек иҫ киткес тәҡүәле булһағыҙ һәм улар оло йәштәге ҡатын-ҡыҙ. 19. Мин һеҙгә улар тураһындағы хикәйәне хәтерләтә.

  8. Брэндон КлементсЯуап

    Мин яратам был сәфәр! Мин өйләнгән. 22 бик яратам мин һәм минең никах. Был смешные, ай самаһы элек бындай хеҙмәткәрҙәр менән һөйләшеү булды, сөнки мин бары бер генә АЗС. Выдать уның бөтә, “Ни өсөн өйләнә, ҡасан аласыз алырға бушлай һөт?” минең күңеле һынған һәм, уның һорауы. Шунан һуң мин уның һөйләшеүҙе дауам итә, был ҡатын минең һыйыр түгел–мин уны яратам һәм уны класс.

    Алмашыу өсөн рәхмәт!

  9. Louib2001Яуап

    Аллаға шөкөр, һинең өсөн, һинең һөйөклө ҡатын һәм һеҙ йәшлек ағаһы. Мин доға ҡылып, Раббы һеҙ өҙлөкһөҙ ҡойоу өсөн бөтә тормош дауамында файҙаһы, сөнки уның һүҙҙәре һине итәғәт. Мин 28 һәм хәҙер мин булған минең никах һәм ҡатын өйләнешә һәм матур һәм бәхетле тиерлек ике йыл 10 балалар күбәләк. Һәр саҡ йәш минең кейәүгә сығырға теләйем, әммә мин ышанам, сөнки минең өсөн әле ваҡыты түгелдер, мин мәсих түгел, әйберенә лә әлегә яҡшы килтерә 5 элек йыл (билдәле булыуынса, көн беҙҙең танышыу булды, беҙ яңынан тыуҙы 31 Декабрь 2006). Мин беләм, беҙ бергә йәшәргә насип булһа, мин уны нисек итеп алыу апай береһе рядовой. Мин үҙем рухи үҫешенә лә туплаған була., ләкин өс йыл элек минең күҙҙәр асыла, ә инде тип әйтә тарихы.

    Көн тәртибенә был Шайтан, кеше булыр өсөн өйләнеү, шулай булғас, улар гонаһлы булып йәшәй, ә беҙ белә инде, булыр тип. Беҙ бөгөн айырылышыу кимәлдә организмдар ҡарай.? Апаһы һәм ағаһы кеүек, әйтерһең, сиркәү секс менән шөғөлләнә., шуның өсөн, йәғни, йәмғиәт машинисткаға тураран.

    Әгәр беҙ, ҡарап ҡарайыҡ, бөгөн беҙҙең йәштәр араһында көс ҡалғанды тулыландырыу., беҙ, мәленән файҙаланып, аҫабалыҡ тураһында уйланырға бер сәбәп өсөн? Был мәлдә бөтә кешеләр өсөн был түңәрәк божески разливается. исм алмашыу ҡиммәте. Хатта уларҙың ата-әсәһенә ярҙам буйынса түңәрәк христиан неосведомленность блогы ҡамасаулай бала, кейәүгә сыға алмай (хәүеф йәшкә ахыры.). Сәбәбе цитата”кәрәк һеҙҙә белем алған, бәлки, һеҙҙең һәм һеҙ лайыҡлы хужа булырға эшен тамамланы, һуңынан никах тураһында уйлана башлай.”. Не правда ли аҡыл яңғырай ? Шулай уҡ булып башлай, аҙаҡ балаларына күскән һәм һеҙҙең менән барған малайҙы христиан университеты/дуҫ ҡыҙ, улар йә христиан, йә юҡ?

    Зинһар, мине дөрөҫ аңларға(тик бына ҡайһы бер нәмәләр, һәм мин ул), because the above statement does not apply to all. Education is very important as one acquires knowledge for their respective profession so they could work and provide for their future families etc, but marriage wont stop one from succeeding in what ever area in life one chooses to follow, as a matter of fact a marriage in general promotes growth i.e great ministry, good heath, wealth and the list goes on. Remember the two becomes one flesh and can chase 10 000 wow, that means that in agreement what ever they ask God faithfully they will attain, awesome…..

    In close I would like to suggest that we as Christians start teaching our children at a young age on the importance of first living for God and secondly the importance of marriage( to those who’ve been given the gift) so that they grow up wanting to please God in this area. Once again well done my brother and to all those living the word of God. Ҡала Блаженный.

  10. AnnaЯуап

    This really spoke to me. Мин 21 in a relationship and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told that I’mtoo young to be thinking about settling down”, I should wait tolive life first”, finish school and establish a career before I enter courtship/marriage. You have an amazing and inspiring testimony. I wish you and your wife a lifetime of blessings and happiness together!

  11. anonymousЯуап

    Мин 20 and have never been in a relationship so I’m not going to be married by 21 but I definitely respect your logic. I always have the mindsetto each his own”. I think you and your wife will definitely go the distance and I’m so proud of the steps that you took prior to marriage. It looks like both of you took the committment very seriously, which I applaud.

  12. Tony DoyleyЯуап

    Very blessed to read your blog about marriage at an early age. My wife got married at 18 and we have been happily married for 10 years now. Sure we’ve had some ups and downs, but I believe God has guided us steadily all these years and now we are stronger than ever. Thank you for your amazing testimony.

  13. KLE PhotographyЯуап

    Congrats on your young marriage! My husband and I went through the same thing when we got married 8 years ago at 20 years old! So we know exactly what you’re going through! People thought we got married because I was pregnant (I wasn’t) or because he was an illegal alien (he’s an American citizen). We didn’t have much of our friends in our corner as they were doing the single thing. But now at 28 they are coming around and trying tocatch up.I’m glad God blessed me with my husband regardless of my age. God bless both of you!

    BTW We live in the DMV area! (MD) maybe we all can meet up or go to church together! We still don’t have married friends lol.

  14. KevinFerereЯуап

    I don’t think anything is being stolen from you, it’s what you’re giving up. It’s cool to have structure in the Bible, but it’s up to you to dictate your life, not a book; despite the guidance that it provides.

    It’s commendable being committed and young, but part of thatyouthful lustis the learning and growing you get from meeting and socially engaging different women. Learning what you like and don’t like to do, see, and feel; instead of your scope being so limited to just one person.

    You can’t really say you know who you are and what you’re about, or even what you really want, if you haven’t interacted but so much with other women for them to show that to you. You don’t know what Love is if you don’t know what it’s not.

    • GuestЯуап

      You do not need to know what Love is not if you know what Love is. How would you know if someone gives you a fake $100 bill unless you know what the real $100 bill look like. There is only one real $100 bill, just study that and you can tell when someone gives you a fake. The same with love. There are many counterfeits out there, but if you know what the real is, then you will be able to spot the fake. Since God is love, anything ungodly cannot be love.

      • KevinFerereЯуап

        Hence you must date around and meet and have sex with other people. My point exactly. What is ungodly is subjective. You may try to be legalistic about it because it is in our nature to do so, ай-һай, we must let go of these ideals being that there is too much grey area amid the context.

        • Angeldoll1Яуап

          I disagree with your statement having sex with other people- STD’s, AIDS and unwanted pregnancies, are the consequences of such relationships. If one pursues such relationships, they would not learn about proper commitment and the deeper and spiritual aspects of love rather than lust. Also I disagree with your views about dating around before you want to commit becausedating aroundis not a prerequisite to know a spouse from a nonspouse. Godly courting/dating was made for humans as depicted in the Bible whereas having mutiple partners, having random sex are the traits of animals.

          • AJ

            Angeldoll1it’s pretty naive of you to think that all non-marital sex necessarily leads toSTD’s, AIDS and unwanted pregnancies”… but of course, you wouldn’t know that if you haven’t taken to time to get your head out of your dusty old book and gain some life experience.

        • KevinFerereЯуап

          You look at it negatively. If you’re mature and wise enough you’ll go about it the right way. The more you avoid something, the closer you come to it. Focus on the positives and that’s what you’ll get. But of course your religion doesn’t teach you that.

      • KevinFerereЯуап

        Please sir, if you’re going to regurgitate scripture, the least you can do is apply your own thought to it. It’s a reference, not a speech guide.

        • elleЯуап

          Your take on scripture is wrong and the way you think you’re projecting yourself as a Christian who doesn’t follow the Bible butreferencesit but chooses to live by your own code and picks and chooses what, if anything to follow that’s of God is concerning….

          Most of what you’re claiming to stand on is false doctrine.

  15. Gabe TavianoЯуап

    Nice to see you blogging here Trip! Thanks for praying for me this week, God sure has been good.

    The crazy thing about you getting married so young is that your ears and eyes have been opened to God more in your few years than some that have closed Him off for much longer. You know that God is a part of your marriage just as much as the two of you are, and that’s huge. Алмашыу өсөн рәхмәт!

  16. Madeleine FarrellЯуап

    This is an excellent thought process. Мин өйләнгән. 17 and my husband was 19. At the time we were not Christian, and also, we did not ‘have toget married. Still for some reason we did. We have been married almost 28 1/2 years now, are parents of 5 and grandparents of 2. I LOVE my life. Not to say there were times in our marriage that one of us just wanted to walk away and never come back, not to say anger and resentment were not part of our daily lives for a season, or that thinking ew made the biggest mistake of our lives was not a thought process. But we committed. And when divorce is not an option, GOD brings the healing in time.

    My daughter got married at 20 and there was not one encouragement she ever got from people. She didn’t understand why people feel it is a last resort instead of a timely blessing. Even among the Christian community.

    Our son on the other hand got married at Christmas time, at the age of 27. Just hadn’t found the right girl. One thing.. the right boy/girl is going to e the right boy/girl even through the tough times. Just cling to The Cross.

  17. CLЯуап

    I couldn’t agree more. So many people seem to think that marriage is awful and there is especially no reason torushinto it, but it is something that God wants to use to bless and sanctify us. Thank you for the post!

    >>But when I looked in the Scriptures I didn’t find stuff like, "Никах үлем равняться! Йүгерергә, уның!"йәки, "Ҡуйырға никах, һеҙ әлегә алмайсы һыуҙарға,"йәки, "Ғына өйләнергә, һин күп стар өсөн, наслаждаться тормышы,"йәки, “Play the field for a while and then pick the best one.”

    • AnaЯуап

      Thank you so much for the visit to my blogI think I figured out the feed adedrss for you (I posted it in my comments). You have a darling family, by the way! Congrats on your anniversary!

  18. JcsmsoulЯуап

    god bless u brother! i know exactly what u mean although i found the lord later in life and i wish i was married to a godly man thats loyal to his wife! these dayz its very hard to find that! and another reason i hope and pray i get married and find the one is because u dont feel guilt when making love when ur married! god bless u!

  19. JazminЯуап

    Thank you so much not every one will see marriage as a blessing. Only those that trust and believe in our Lord Jesus Christ will. I to got married at a very young age and at 28 years old me and my husband have 3 beautiful children and our lives are devoted to adore and worship our father in heaven. Marriage isn’t easy though, it has it’s ups and downs but through the grace and mercy of God and surrendering to his will one is able to grow. Thank you very much for your amazing story it is a true blessing. My the Lord continue to let you and your wife grow I ask for his wisdom and most of all many blessings in your favor.

  20. Tachy MusicaЯуап

    I got married so “йәш” as well, and this is a blessing, we always together (including our daughter of course), we share everything, and help each other, some ppl think that if you get married so young it will be for a short time, but thanks God we almost 8 years married and the most important trying to servinGod at all times…Фатиха

  21. Agopylove09Яуап

    that is so awesome!! im 25 and ive been thinking about what all comes along with being a good wife and truly being submissive and having god as your center and always seeking his counsel for it all and just truly letting christ take the lead and building that relationship on the solid ground of christ jesus..falling in love with our savior first is truly a must!! having that intimate relationship with HIM alllows you to grow and know what love really is and GOD provides that love that u give to your spouse.. so greatful for a savior Who always provides..<3

  22. Joe StevensЯуап

    Am an oldee who agrees fully with Triplee. Though of course it is different strokes (ages) for different folks. And everyone must marry at their God-designed time. Мин 50 yrs old, got married to my sweetheart when I was 23 and she was 20! Хәҙер 27 years and 1 month later, there is continuous (good) fireworks between us, still madly in love, best friends and walking together in God’s purpose. Wouldn’t trade the age I married for 6 months later! But even my kids must know their circumstacces are not necessarily identical to ours, nor are God’s timings and plans for them exactly the same.

  23. Femi OlowoЯуап

    Am an oldee who agrees fully with Triplee. Though of course it is different strokes (ages) for different folks. And everyone was marry at their God-designed time. Мин 50 yrs old, got married to my sweetheart when I was 23 and she was 20! Хәҙер 27 years and 1 month later, there is continuous (good) fireworks between us, still madly in love, best friends and walking together in God’s purpose. Wouldn’t trade the age I married for 6 months later!

  24. ReverandjeffЯуап

    I know this one all too wellJust celebrated our 13th year of marriage, and i’m 35.. I had the same folks question me the same way, but we both just knew God had ordained it and designed it. We intersected each other’s lives at PIVOTAL moments where we ended up being each others anchor, with a common anchor of Christ. The best part is when we get the chance to talk to younger people who are struggling with relationships/marriage and we get to tell our exceptional testimony !!! Нисек дөрөҫөн әйткәндә,, had some of these discussions with JPaul some years ago.. Small world !!! God has given those who seek it the RIGHT VALUE system, and we VALUE our rib instead of runnin after chickenbones. :)

  25. BobshumakerЯуап

    My Dad & Mom were high school sweethearts and they got married after graduation (both were 18 years old). They are still happily married to this day and have never express any regrets about their lives together. Becoming an adult might begin with marriageand your attitude concerning your decision mirrors my parents. Godly marriages are few and far between in this century….God will bless you and keep you happy for at least 50 йәки 60 йыл!

  26. Jeffreycotton7Яуап

    I thank you and your wife so much for sharing your stories. Мин 21 and feel like i’m going through almost the same situation. I’m just not married yet. I have that mindset of why wait if you and your partner are in love, both are spiritual, positive, and perfect through each others eyes. My girl and I have no doubt that we are going to be married one day. But even though we both want to be married, she’s more of a take her time; we have all the time in the world type person. I’m more of an ASAP we are not promised tomorrow type person. So why wait? She is a very smart girl. She reminds me of your wife and her story a little. Thinking that things might get in the way of school and career goals. But that’s more towards the talk of kids after marriage. I always tell her that I don’t want to have our first child close to 30 years old. I don’t want my body to start getting weaker because of age, which would make it harder and more tiring to play around with my kids. I want 7 at the most and 3 at the least. So its good to get started at a decent age. But I will continue to try to leave it in God’s hands and not worry about it too much.

  27. aneetarhЯуап

    thank u so much Trip n Jess, n everyone hu dt has shared an encouragement in one way or d oda. now i’m no longer scared of gettn married early especially considern d fact dt we both love God. God bls u

  28. DashЯуап

    Jannon Fitzpatrick, I agree that God is love. The only way to experience true love is to experience the one who created love. Between to people we can create nothing to that caliber unless we are letting God guide our love lives as well. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friendsJhn 15:13. Love is not finding a self satisfaction (KevinFerere), or finding someone who can satisfy and stimulate electrical impulses in your brain. Ironically, your picture of theCreation of Adamon your page comes from the Renaissance period which was when the ideology of love and dating turned into something for the individual gratification no matter what the cost to someone else. That painting in itself is heretical stating that Adam is reaching out to God and took part in his creation. The Irony is this, Michelangelo at the end of his life saw what he had done and repented, trying to mix Christianity and Humanism (Man being the measure of all things). This ideology of love is where is I think you are coming from ? which is the same thing they practiced in Greek, Renaissance, and today’s culture. There really isnothing new under the sun”-Solomon, also from the Bible.

  29. Paul JonesЯуап

    hey trip been married since i was 22 һәм 28 хәҙер. just had our 6th anv. god has bless us with 4 young ones. i pray that he keep blessing you and your family.

  30. ХЛЛЯуап

    What a lovely testimony to the goodness of God and what He can do in lives that are totally surrendered to Him. My husband and I were married relatively young (" 24) and like you and your wife, God saw fit to bring us together for His glory. Our son married young, at age 20 earlier this yeargasp :-) and he definitely found a good thing in his godly wife. We wanted nothing more for him and it’s a blessing.

  31. KarendaЯуап

    Ниндәй иҫ киткес мәҡәләләр! My husband and I got married young as well, Мин булһам 22 and my husband was 25. We just celebrated 15 years of marriage. Ғайса, has brought us closer together as a couple over the years, teaching us todie to ourselvesin order to better love and serve each other. Selfishness is the number one destroyer of most marriages.

    Thank you for your willingness to be up front and honest about the topic of marriage as it relates to Scripture!

  32. МайклЯуап

    My wife and I married at 21 as well, and that was 11 years and 6 children ago (bio/adopted/foster). I didn’t know I wastoo youngto marry, I just knew she was the one I didn’t want to live without! God has been good.

  33. AJЯуап

    Reading between the lines: we loved Jesus and we were horny.

    I see this happen all the time among Christians and think arguments such as these that dance around the real motivation are hilarious. It’d be sinful to just have sex, so it’s far wiser to rush into a lifelong commitment.

  34. CLARAЯуап

    The God that begun that Marriage shall surely see you through it all. You are an encouragement to young christian youths and couples Trip. Булһын хоҙай благословениот һезгә!!

  35. JOBЯуап

    I got married at the age of 21 and in the same year as you Trip Lee, in 2009. I met her in church when I was 16 years old and we have been together for almost 8 years now. We served God together with AYCM ministries, reaching out to villages and sharing the word of God in the Philippines. We told each other everydayI love you because I see how much you love God”. I do not ever regret asking her for her hand in marriage. The past 4 years of marriage has been a blessing.

  36. ИсаакЯуап

    God’s word is indeed supreme. Мәҡәлдәр 18:22 clearly spells this out.
    Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord´´.
    My take for whoever wants to get married is to first and foremost ask for God’s direction in choosing the right partner. We as humans shouldnt make our own choices and forcifully ask God to bless it. Ә, we should surrender in total obedience, reach out for God’s grace and ask for guidance to follow his direction for our lives.

  37. SteveMcMillonЯуап

    I respect this so much!! Its so encouraging because I have had a desire to be married ever since I was 6 yrs old and alot of people put me down for it. In many ways it created insecurities in me. Thank you again for this!

  38. TerriЯуап

    A little over 35 years ago I married my high school sweetheart. We were both 18, almost 19. We had many naysayers and my dad even hoped I would get divorced and find a doctor. When God arranges a marriage it doesn’t matter what the age of the bride and groom. Many blessings!

  39. MissyЯуап

    I was married young as well (20 to be exact). Now at 32, I feel as though you can be married at any given age and at any given time to whoeverand God will use a person that loves Him in any circumstance to draw Himself closer to that personall you have to be is willing to be holy as He is holy. That’s why I don’t believe there isthe one”… Any persons who choose to get married, becomethe one’sfor eachother :)

  40. LiseЯуап

    Thank you for this article! Мин 36 years old and I have been married for 19yrsyep, Мин булһам 17 when I married my 18yr old husband! We have six kids, love The Lord and are very happy :) we are asked similar questions all the time and while it may not be a popular choice or the right choice for many, I am so happy and confidant everyday that we made the right choice for us.

  41. SteffanЯуап

    This is amazing. I know plenty of people who think this is the biggest mistake of your life. Мин 22 and have really been considering this with someone I have known and loved since my sophomore year of high school. I am sure things aren’t sunshine and rainbows for you, nor do I expect it to be for me. I commend you for putting aside all of the negativity and looking at the larger picture and what you felt God lead you to. If no one else is ever happy for you, I truly am.

  42. Kim HunterЯуап

    I met my husband at 14 we got married when I was 21 һәм ул булды. 23 we have been together for 22 years and married for 15 of those 22 there’s nothing wrong with getting married young its just how a person looks at life….because really your lifr is what you make it….and yes me and my husband are saved and believe in god and we are living our life for him with god all things are possible especially a long healthly loving marriage nothing easy but with god you can make it…….BE BLESSED!!

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  44. CherisseЯуап

    What a blessing to know the Lord and to understand his word. I wish there were more people like you. Don’t let the Devil discourage you. We know he is everywhere.

  45. GrantYoungЯуап

    My wife and I got married when we were 22 and I had the same experience. Friends that were saved and unsaved wanted to let me know I had more life to live. My barber reminded me of all the clubbing and partying I could do. Минең “closefriends explained that there were other fish in the sea to explore. Ярай,, we actually got married around the same time 3 other couples our age did! We’re a minority but definitely not alone and it’s encouraging to remember that.

    By God’s grace we just celebrated 3 years and it’s been awesome! Thank you for sharing Trip!

  46. МаркЯуап

    My take would be that if you are going to get married so young, you better know the consequences of doing so. It is very difficult even in the very best of circumstances. If you aren’t ready to work the hardest you’ve ever worked and totally sacrifice and deal with lots of disappointments and heartache, don’t sign up for it. Ай-һай, if you can endure (and some people do) if can be rewarding at times.

  47. КевинЯуап

    I love this biblically based perspective. It’s rare among American Christian, where the cultural and social structures are so anti-marriage, to see a young person, even an older person, have such a spiritually mature view on the value of God’s institution. Based on many of the comments I’ve read, this perspective sounds so foreign to people, even in the Church because we’ve allowed ourselves to lean towards the social norms of the day rather than the biblical truth of what God holds to be valued and treasured. Praying for you Trip, keep sharing the Gospel and the truth of God’s word made practical and real in the believer’s life.

  48. PastorRobЯуап

    I want to let you know Trip- Lee I got married 2 months after I turned 21. Is God all in it? Was He all in it despite people opinion and their reasoning on why I shouldn’t get married that I needed to wait. Man of God I have been married for 16 years now with 2 Beautiful girls and I am thoroughly greatful to God for a Godly wise, honorable precious jewel. The beauty about your testimony is it was meant for you to tell it!!!

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  50. MavisЯуап

    I have advice for all young people. If you are 18 or over, start looking for a spouse! Sex outside if marriage will bring you nothing but heartache, leaness of soul and bad health, mental and physical. Being married is a joy and economic booster! You can get so much more done and enjoy lufe so much more if you are not alone. Your parents probably got divorced because they did not follow their hearts in their youth! I don’t have the space to explain it all, but you are built to be mated. Start making yor list of must have traits right away and marry young while you have your whole heart to give. Мин 53 and very grayeful to be happily married. I was married at 31 -heartbroken many times and lots if wasted youth-way way too late. Hope done if you will be wise in your youth and enjoy it by being present in it!

  51. GOSPELMAGDOTCOMЯуап

    Dear Trip Lee,
    We appreciate reading your articles.
    Could you give us the authorization to translate your articles into french and to publish them on our website: gospelmag.com?
    Thank you very much in advance for your answer.
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  52. MercyЯуап

    My friend bought me this book when we were teens about being a young, dignified Christian woman. Of course it encouraged waiting until after marriage and everything and had verses throughout. It mentioned and she brought it up herself that God doesn’t want for us to date. I made a vow to myself that I would have boundaries with guys (I think I almost am completely done with outgrowing my shyness). I would save certain things for marriage but on and off the past 2 years I’ve gotten depressed. I’ve felt lonely. I wondered what’s wrong with me and if I’m good enough. I’m not. I don’t know every bible verse. I need to study a lot more. I’ve been trying and I don’t want to get to know just any guy because I can become heartbroken and he can lead me down a path God doesn’t want me down but I get lonely. It’s always beautiful to see other young people in love. It’s even BETTER if they’re married and I know it’s not good to be jealous but everyone says “ссср, it’ll come during YOUR time”. I think about it regularly lately. I met this really nice guy. We have very similar personalities but he said he doesn’t go to church. He said he believes in God and I know I’m not perfect myself but I can’t help but wonder because I don’t think he’s actively seeking God if I’m going to regret something. Women aren’t supposed to try and change men I heard. It leads to disappointment supposedly. Ярай,, I’m tired of waiting. I guess I’ll learn the hard way. I’m not having sex though. Мин 23 and still stand strong on that but I’m confused why I don’t deserve a husband now. Everybody else gets what they want. It’s so annoying that I can’t stop thinking about guys. I get so depressed sometimes. If I marry this guy and he hasn’t changed will we be unequally yoked? Some people have everything. And I’m not saying money. I just want someone who appreciates me. It’s too much to explain.

    • НаталиЯуап

      Mercy:
      You are still only 23! :) Don’t worry about not finding the “хоҡуҡын” one, there is not just one person out there that is a good option. And just to clarify: YOU ARE WORTH IT. There is a reason that you are you and on this earth at this time. You are precious to Jesus, just read and claim His promises when you start to think that you are not worth it. My favorite is: “I will never leave you or forsake you.
      Someone I knew recently got divorced, and a huge issue in their marriage was that she was a believer and he was not. A decision you will have to make will beis God worth it?” Keep seeking the Lord with all your heart, and HE will direct you. He will guide you. He will provide the encouragement you need when you feel overwhelmed and depressed. Something I have found very helpful is reading Scripture out loud before I go to bed, and especially when I feel down and under attack from the enemy. You never know what God has just around the corner.. if only you wait. I know it sounds so hard and honestly, annoying, but if you will keep seeking the Lord, He will satisfy you in this season. There is a reason you are in the season! You never know how God will use it as a testimony to help other young girls who are struggling with the same thing! :) I hope this helped in some way! Фатиха!

  53. MichealaЯуап

    Мин өйләнгән. 21 and it was beautiful
    You can’t help who you fall in love with or when you fall in love with them,
    I never thought I would be the type to marry young and miss out on thefun thingsin life .. but i don’t think i did, I just shared myfun thingswith someone I love and couldn’t imagine living without.

  54. GisselleЯуап

    Hi I’m Gisselle I’m from Honduras. Мин 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We met 15 months ago in his church in New York! I live in Honduras.. Therefore it has been a long distance relationship. I’m in my second year of college and so as he. We’ve talked about getting married. And some of our relatives and elders from his church supports us and tell us is the best thing to do. I’m still insecure about it.. My mom isn’t too open about me getting married so young and so as my sisters. We have been praying since we first thought about marriage as a possibility. If you could write me to my email i would be grateful!

  55. JenniferЯуап

    We were married 21 элек йыл. Мин булһам 19 and my husband was 21. We have drawn closer to each other and to God. Three kids later we are looking forward to the next 20.

  56. CharlesЯуап

    I just wanted to say thank you for the straight forward way that you preach Gods word. I just watched the ‘Fallinmusic video after a day of trails and temptations and feel as though God spoke right into what I’m going through. The amazing Gift of Grace that we share cannot be measured or taken for granted. Thank you so much for re-opening my eyes to something so foundational in my walk with God. I also pray that God will bless you in your ministry.

  57. ChideraЯуап

    Once God shows you someone and the person has the same passion for God as you and ready to walk with you all the way. it doesn’t matter what age, once the time comes you marry. The thing is just acknowledge him in all of thy ways, he’ll make your paths straight (Мәҡәлдәр 3:6). Just have the passion and love for God, at the right time he’ll provide you with your helpmate who’ll stand with you through it all. Don’t wanna part, then don’t part with God. In ALL of thy ways acknowledge him, he’ell make your path straight.

  58. СтейсиЯуап

    My husband is 3/4 black and a quarter white.(Минең аҡ). My husband I got married young also I 18 going to 19 and my husband was 20. People told us not to, we were making a mistake and will send in divorce. We didn’t listen we got married and now we have been 16 йыл. God is in control.

  59. jaysmithЯуап

    Кевин–you seem like you have a few things down. And you are working your way up. Keep going, kid! Аҙағында, to know yourself half as well is most of the vattle, despite any shortcomings. Фатиха!

  60. TheRealHonestTruthЯуап

    Well for the people out there that have been BLESSED with very Excellent luck with NO health problems at all and being married with a family with a lot of money certainly have so much to be very thankful for since they really should have NO reason to complain when many of us are NOT that lucky at all even though many of you did get married too young which there are a lot of you that are still together today.

  61. RachelSanchezЯуап

    My husband and I got married earlier this year. He is 22, and I am 21. I get asked all the time why I wouldthrow my youth awayor why I would even think about getting married in college. I surprisingly get the most hurtful comments from older women who seem to look down on me. It’s heartbreaking that others can’t recognize that I am actually really enjoying my youth with my most favorite person in the world. It’s sad when people (even older generations) think that it’s perfectly fine for people in their 20s to sleep around, but when they get married it’s shocking and horrible. We just hope our marriage can inspire others to take the leap when they feel ready, regardless of what society tells them.