Poukisa pou m 'Èske jwenn marye Se konsa, Young?

Yè mwen te fè yon arè byen ta lannwit nan magazen an gen tan pwan yon bagay kèk ak mwen te gen yon konvèsasyon trè enteresan ak kesye a. Nou te fè ti pale kòm li te tcheke atik mwen, ak Lè sa a li ofri m 'yon kat rabè men mwen te di l' madanm mwen deja te gen yon sèl. Sa a lè konvèsasyon an te resevwa plezi. Mwen konnen konvèsasyon sa a tout twò byen paske mwen te gen li anpil fwa anvan. Li ale yon bagay tankou sa a ...

moun: Kisa!? W ap marye?

m ': Yeah mwen te te marye pou de ak yon mwatye ane etonan.

moun: Ki laj ou? Ou gade tankou yon ti bebe.

m ': Mwen se ven twa.

moun: Ou se konsa jenn! Poukisa nan mond lan ou ta fè sa?

m ': Poukisa nou pa ta mwen?

nan 2009, Mwen te marye nan laj apèn legal ak apèn respektab nan ven yon sèl ane fin vye granmoun. Pandan frekantasyon mwen, angajman, ak maryaj kout, Mwen te mande tan ak tan ankò kesyon tankou, "Poukisa jwenn marye se konsa jenn? Ki sa ki nan Rush a?”, ak pi renmen pèsonèl mwen, "Ou ta dwe te mete tout espwa ak jwi lavi ou!”

Gen kèk nan jan yo mande kesyon sa yo te viv tankou etranje, men gen kèk te fanmi. Te mwen fou jwenn marye nan tankou yon "jenn” laj?

Oke, kite m 'ba ou twa rezon mwen deside jwenn marye lè m' te fè.

1. Mwen te rankontre yon fanm Bondye

Kòm yon elèv nevyèm ane dizwit ane fin vye granmoun nan kolèj Bib, Mwen pa te aktivman kap chèche yon madanm, Men, Bondye te wè anfòm prezante m 'nan yon jèn fanm apre kè l'. Li te bèl, men pi enpòtan li te renmen Jezi. Li te konnen ke li te yon pechè nan bezwen nan favè Bondye a, ak li te gen yon modès, skolarizabl kè. Nou te fini yo te yon pati nan legliz la menm, Se konsa, mwen te rive nan gade l 'sèvi, grandi, ak fidèlman bay tan li bay lòt moun. Mwen te kòmanse pale ak sèk fon kè m 'sou li. Zanmi'm yo, konseye, ak pastè tout te dakò – li te yon fanm Bondye. Mwen te kapab wè tèt mwen ap mache ak li yo ak renmen li pou tout rès lavi m '.

2. Mwen te pare

Nan tan sa a mwen te kòmanse panse osijè de reyalite a nan maryaj ak sa li vle di komèt tèt ou bay yon moun pou yon vi. Mwen te mande tèt mwen si wi ou non mwen te ki gen matirite e ki responsab ase. Mwen fouye nan Ekriti yo e panse sou responsablite yo nan yon mari, li pale to zanmi marye ak konseye. Apre anpil nan lapriyè ak konvèsasyon, konseye m 'ak pastè yo nan legliz mwen an te di m' yo te panse mwen te pare yo pouswiv li. Mwen te elated. Men, mwen pa ta kouri dèyè l 'si mwen te panse mwen pa t' prepare yo espirityèlman mennen l ', bay pou li, ak yo dwe tèt la nan yon fanmi.

3. Maryaj se yon benediksyon

Nan premye fwa mwen te santi tankou mwen te gen pwouve ke yo naysayers yo ki marye jèn se ok pafwa. Men, lè mwen gade nan ekri nan Liv la mwen pa t 'jwenn bagay tankou, "Maryaj egal lanmò! Kouri soti nan li!” oswa, "Mete maryaj koupe jouk ou pa ka mete li koupe ankò,” oswa, "Se sèlman jwenn marye lè w ap twò fin vye granmoun yo jwi lavi,” oswa, "Jwe jaden an pou yon ti tan ak Lè sa a chwazi youn nan pi byen.”

Olye de sa Mwen te jwenn kòmandman tankou, "Kouri jivenil lanvi”, ak mwen li pasaj tankou Pwovèb 18:22 ki di, "Moun ki jwenn yon madanm jwenn yon bon bagay ak jwenn favè soti nan Seyè a.”

Se konsa, lè moun ki di, "Ki sa ki posede ou jwenn marye se konsa jenn?” repons nouvo mwen an se, "Ou ap mande kesyon an sa ki mal.” Mwen panse ke nan rasin lan nan kesyon sa a se sipozisyon an ke maryaj vòlè yon bagay do ban mwen, tankou si se mwen jenn gason k ap gaspiye nan pran angajman renmen sakrifis lè li te kapab itilize pou plezi aksidantèl ak efritman.

Maryaj se yon kado bèl soti nan Bondye! Li se yon mwayen pou favè. Mwen te jwenn yon madanm, e ke se yon bon bagay. Mwen pa dakò ak lojik la ki di, wete benediksyon pi rich Bondye a osi lontan ke ou kapab. Olye de sa mwen ta ka di jwi kado bon Bondye a ak jeran yo pou tout bèl pouvwa li.

Sa a se pa yo di ke tout moun ta dwe jwenn marye lè m 'te fè. Li ta vle al move si mwen ta gen tan te eseye jwenn marye anvan m 'te pare. Kèk nan nou bezwen gen matirite plis, ak lòt moun nan nou bezwen priye pou kontantman ak konfyans Seyè a ak distribisyon li. Objektif mwen se pa vle di ke pi piti a ou jwenn marye, plis apa pou Bondye a ou se. Mwen jis vle dissiper mit a ke nou ta dwe pran reta adilt ak sèlman konsidere maryaj yon fwa nou ap trant oswa plis.

Pa gen regrete

Yè swa sou twitter yon moun mande m 'si mwen regrèt marye konsa jenn. repons mwen? absoliman pa.

Li nan youn nan desizyon ki pi bon mwen janm fè. Mwen se pi kontan ak sent pase mwen te gen de ak yon mwatye de sa, e ke sa a yon bon bagay. Mwen pa vle fè l 'sanble tankou mwen se kèk anomali super ra. Mwen konnen anpil jan ki te marye menm jan jèn oswa ki gen mwens pase m '. Yo menm tou wè maryaj kòm yon kado epi yo te wè fwi a nan ki kado. M 'ak madanm mwen pouvwa gen jenn kounye a, men mwen priye pou favè renmen madanm mwen byen jouk nan fen lavi nou. Jouk lè sa a mwen vle obeyi bon konprann nan Pwovèb la ak "fè fèt pou madanm nan tan jennès nou.”

PATAJE

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  1. Jannon FitzpatrickReply

    Mwen respè pa dakò ak Kevin Ferere. Ou pa ka konnen sa renmen ye jiskaske ou konnen ki moun ki Bondye se, paske Bondye se renmen! Bib la pa di anyen sou date alantou oswa kominike avèk lòt moun ke ou jwenn ke yon sèl. an reyalite, Izarak layed sou sou Rebeka, yo te konnen li te youn nan pou l '. Li pa t 'dat alantou oswa pale ak Leya nan sa si li te pi bon Se konsa, li ta konnen si wi ou non Rachèl te vrèman sa li te vle oswa ou pa.

    Pale nan eksperyans pwòp mwen, M 'te fè dat lòt moun epi li te jwenn sa renmen pa t'. Se pa sèlman soti nan relasyon pwòp mwen, Men, nan paran mwen’ ak sè’ relasyon. Pwoblèm nan te, yo te pa relasyon ki baze sou Pawòl la oswa renmen Bondye a e se pou sa yo pa t 'travay deyò. M 'te fè jwenn yon nonm Godly, se konsa li ka travay deyò wout la ke ou di, Men, mwen ak tout kè kwè ke si mwen ta gen tan tann ak siveye kè m 'nan men moun lòt relasyon ki pa t' dwa pou m ', Mwen ta gen tan te nan yon pi bon ak mwens kase pozisyon, recieve mari m 'nan pèspektiv yon fanm Godly la olye ke pèspektiv yon fanm kase a ak bagaj nan travay nan.

    Pa gen mank respè gen entansyon, men mwen kwè ke se yon deklarasyon dra lajman mal ki ta ka reyèlman trennen kè jèn nan yon direksyon ki mal. (Google enfòmasyon sou Godly date vs. modèn Date. Genyen kèk bagay reyèlman bon nan la.)

    • KevinFerereReply

      Ou tou pwouve m 'dwa. Bib la ka di tou sa li vle, men w ap eksperyans, yo tout ou gen yo ale koupe nan. Apre sa, ki moun ou pran Bondye soti nan yon akimilasyon nan sa w ap anseye ak eksperyans ou. Alafen, sa ou kwè se yon chwa, men ki sa ou konnen se enpoze sou pa reyalite.

      Apre sa, yeah, deklarasyon an ka yon ti jan jeneral, men li ta dwe pran ak yon grenn sèl, tankou nan anyen.

      • Lokelani70Reply

        Mwen menm mwen te respè pa dakò ak Kevin Ferere.
        Bagay la sèlman ki te pwouve se ke ou te fè yon desizyon konsyans pa yo viv lavi ou pou Bondye, gremesi pawòl li, Bib la. Lè nou konsidere ke, nou te fè desizyon an yo viv lavi nou nan yon maryaj Godly, nan pawòl Bondye a. Reyalite a matyè a se, yon sèl pa pral gen konpreyansyon an konplè sou sa a blog si Bondye pa mete premye plas nan lavi yon sèl la.
        Priye pou tout maryaj! Bondye beni!

        • KevinFerereReply

          Mwen te fè yon desizyon konsyans jwenn Bondye pou tèt mwen epi yo pa pa sa ki yon moun te moutre m '. pa enkyete, Mwen itilize yo dwe jis tankou ou.

          • AC

            Mwen ta jis renmen di, ou pa ka jwenn Bondye. Bib la te di nou ap mouri. moun ki mouri pa kapab fè anyen. Bondye jwenn nou.

        • Lokelani70Reply

          Oh… Mwen se konsa regrèt Kevin, ou dwe konfonn. Bondye a m'ap sèvi se pa yon Bondye ki pwòp tèt ou moun k ap chèche-. Mangonmen se pa volonte Bondye, men renmen eachother otan ke Li renmen nou se! Tankou mwen te ekri deja, mete Bondye premye se sa ki nesesè yo konplètman konprann sa a blog, kòm repons ou pwouve pwen mwen. Se pou tout sa nou di ak fè gen fè Bondye plezi. Bondye beni epi yo gen tèt ou yon aswè etonan.

        • Fru-Mukete ArnoldReply

          Hahaha, kenbe k ap chèche, ou pral jwenn li- sonje kreyasyon revele li tou. infact, Mwen pral ba ou yon Trick, jis chwazi Bib la epi ale jete l 'tankou yon liv istwa anyen tout reklamasyon yo li fè e menm memorize yo Lè sa a,, tcheke deyò lòt liv epi konpare reklamasyon yo. Men, definitivman ou pral bezwen yon moun yo eksplike ou nouvote, pa kenbe tounen depi ou se yon moun k ap chèche nan verite.

        • KevinFerereReply

          Si ou kwè nan Bondye kòm anpil jan ou di ou fè, poukisa ou santi ou bezwen an bay prèv li tèlman? Mwen pa gen Bondye, paske li se nan mwen. Se mwen menm ki l ', li se m'. Men, mwen regrèt, ou pa ka konprann ki ka ou?

        • DelinabiniReply

          mwen dakò ki jan ou ka gen Bondye ak ki jan Bondye kapab ou te ou aktyèlman kreye tèt ou si ou te Bondye?

        • KevinFerereReply

          move mwen, Typo: *Mwen pa gen pwouve Bondye *.

          Men, kòmantè a vle di sa li di. Kèlkeswa sa se nan ou, ki se ki sa ou. pa bezwen pè yo aksepte ke verite jis paske w ap anseye ke li nan sa ki mal.

  2. Adis HunterReply

    100 % avek ou! Mwen menm tou te rankontre mari mwen an 20 ak yon ane pita nou te marye. Mwen te gen yo gen konvèsasyon yo menm ak moun lòt nasyon o aza, fanmi ak zanmi e mwen vle ankouraje w yo rete fidèl a Seyè a ak madanm bèl ou nan tout fason ki discribed nan pawòl Bondye a. Mari mwen ak mwen yo kounye a se 30 ane fin vye granmoun epi lè mwen di moun mwen te “San pwoblèm mwen tap” marye pou prèske 10 ane yo alte!!! “Vrèman”?? Fè menm kòmantè sa yo vag nan “gaspiye jèn nou” elatriye elatriye. Men, Bondye te tèlman gen kè sansib ak bon nou ke mwen cant eksprime nan mo ki jan beni mwen menm ki te rankontre mari m 'lè m' te fè. Nou renmen reminising sou ane kolèj nou ansanm, ak reve sou tout gwo bagay sa yo ke lavi gen pou nou devan! Nou genyen 2 ti fi bèl ak yon ti gason ti bebe sou wout la (ke nou avèk imilite lapriyè pou ane sa a ak Bondye ba) , (atually mwen se akòz jodi a ;-))..epi nou kould gen plis asire w ke li te yon sendika Devine nan men Bondye yo pote nou ansanm.

    natirèlman, Nou se pa pafè (byenke zanmi m 'sanble yo panse sa paske nou Dont fè fas a pwoblèm sa yo komen monn lan nan enfidelite, mank respè ak diskite konstan), men nou gen dezakò, atitid balanse, dificulties finansye elatriye, diferans lan se ke nou Konte sou Bondye a plon etap nou an, nou respekte youn ak lòt epi eseye pi byen nou yo pa janm pèdi FAITH, kominikasyon, epi chèche konsèy nan men lespri sen kòm yon koup ak individually..My mari se moun nan pi inik mwen te janm te rankontre ak nou tou de konprann ke kle nan kontantman nan yon maryaj se PA nan fè oswa achte “bagay” fè eachother kontan men Lè ou konnen kiyès nou ye nan Kris la, yo kòmandman l yo sou maryaj ak renmen youn ak lòt san kondisyon, kèlkeswa defo nou an oswa ki jan nou ka “santi” nan moman sa , konnen ke HAPPINESS ap toujou gen yon emosyon tanporè ki disparèt, men vre JOY sèlman vini nan men Senyè a.

    Mwen swete ou menm ak madanm ou anpil ane nan JOY Benediksyon!!!
    I Love mizik ou twò nan chemen an ;)..

  3. JoshReply

    Sòti a,

    Ou se yon gwo egzanp nan jèn kretyen ki vle fè lwanj Bondye nan chemen an, yo trete fanm! Mèsi! Mwen jis te resevwa angaje, menm 22, epi gade pou pi devan pou sèvi Seyè a nan maryaj pou ane kap vini yo!

  4. Johnny_renteriaReply

    Kwè li oswa pa men mwen te marye a laj de 18. Mwen te nan okenn fason pare yo dwe yon mari nan sans finansye a ak mwen te deja yon papa. Men, mwen te jis te bay lavi m 'yo moute nan Kris la ak mwen te konnen ke fanm yo mwen te la avèk ta dwe youn a grandi avè m'. Moun mande m 'menm bagay yo kòm byen. Mwen jwenn li tris si ke maryaj se yon wè jan yon move bagay. jodi a, Mwen te panse sou sa ak mwen te vini ak konklizyon an ke gen moun ki te vin tèlman egoyis ki te panse a pran responsablite yon lòt moun prèske enposib. Maryaj se pa sou lè ak poukisa ou te marye men sou ki moun ki santre sou ke maryaj. Apre sa, li ta dwe Kris la…

  5. DeboraReply

    mwen panse ke u r trip..i dwat gen yon frnd ki te marye @ 19 (yo v te marye 4 6 yrs NW)N lkng @ l 'koulye a nou reyalize apa de aksepte Kris la nan dat lavi li se ta pi bon desizyon li te janm fè….menm si mwen dwe admèt mwen menm mwen pa pare 2 jwenn married..it fè m pè menm kosinis mwen pa vle 2 dwe branche 2 d moun mal 4 d rès lavi m 'men mwen konnen Jezi pa janm ap kite m' fè d mal chwa…tou mwen pafwa mande y jwenn marye lè mwen jwenn tout mwen vle nan men Jezi N li pa janm ka BRK HRT mwen?….desizyon lavil Our te gen rezon N m'ap gv u gwo pous moute 4 ki!:)

  6. Lance PetersonReply

    Awesome. Pitit gason m 'tou te marye 2 1/2 ane de sa nan yon bèl bagay fanm Bondye epi yo tou de te mi laj la fin vye granmoun nan 19. istwa ou fè m sonje nan yo.

  7. Brandon ClementsReply

    Mwen renmen Sòti a sa a! Mwen te resevwa marye nan 22 ak mwen absoliman renmen maryaj mwen. Li nan komik paske mwen jis te gen yon konvèsasyon ki sanblab ak yon asistan estasyon gaz sou yon mwa de sa. Li rale tout la, “Poukisa marye lè ou ka gen lèt la pou gratis?” kesyon ak kè m 'kase pou li. Apre sa, mwen te ale nan di li ke madanm mwen pa t 'yon bèf–ke li te pè e mwen renmen l '.

    Mèsi pou pataje!

  8. Louib2001Reply

    Lwanj pou Seyè a pou ou, frè ak madanm bèl ou te jenn lan. Mwen priye pou Senyè a ap vide favè kontinyèlman pandan tout lavi ou, paske ou te obeyi pawòl li. mwen se 28 e yo te marye kounye a pou prèske de zan ak madanm mwen epi mwen te gen yon maryaj kè kontan ak yon bèl 10 mit k'ap manje rad ti bebe fin vye granmoun. Mwen toujou te vle jwenn marye pi piti, men mwen kwè li pa te tan ankò pou m 'jouk Seyè a te fè bon bagay mwen prèske 5 ane pase (yo dwe egzak nou te rankontre nan jou a nou te fèt ankò 31 Le 2006). Mwen pa t 'konnen nou kote destine yo dwe ansanm kòm mwen te pran li kòm yon sè òdinè nan legliz. Mwen te tou konsantre sou kwasans espirityèl mwen, men twa zan de sa je m 'louvri ak tout rès la jan yo di se listwa.

    Li se nan ajanda Satan an pou moun pa t 'dwe marye, sa yo ke yo ap viv nan peche ak nou deja konnen sa ki pral rive. Èske nou gade nan pousantaj la nan divòs nan kò a jodi a? Kouman sou frè ak sè fornicating nan legliz la, because of what society dictates.

    If we look at how our cities are filled with youth violence today, do we take a moment to think of some of the root causes? The moment man exchange Godly values for circular ism all this fell apart. Even Christian parents are ignorantly promoting circular ism by discouraging their children not to get married young (at the age of concern obviously). The reasons are I quoteyou need to get an education, maybe when you finish your masters and have a decent job, then start to think about marriage”. That sound wise doesn’t it ? So what happens when your Christian child is goes to university and then moves in with boy/girl friend whose either Christian or non?

    Please do not get me wrong(that’s just some of the things I have come across), because the above statement does not apply to all. Education is very important as one acquires knowledge for their respective profession so they could work and provide for their future families etc, but marriage wont stop one from succeeding in what ever area in life one chooses to follow, as a matter of fact a marriage in general promotes growth i.e great ministry, good heath, wealth and the list goes on. Remember the two becomes one flesh and can chase 10 000 wow, that means that in agreement what ever they ask God faithfully they will attain, awizom…..

    In close I would like to suggest that we as Christians start teaching our children at a young age on the importance of first living for God and secondly the importance of marriage( to those who’ve been given the gift) so that they grow up wanting to please God in this area. Once again well done my brother and to all those living the word of God. rete beni.

  9. AnnaReply

    This really spoke to me. mwen se 21 in a relationship and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told that I’mtoo young to be thinking about settling down”, I should wait tolive life first”, finish school and establish a career before I enter courtship/marriage. You have an amazing and inspiring testimony. I wish you and your wife a lifetime of blessings and happiness together!

  10. anonymousReply

    mwen se 20 and have never been in a relationship so I’m not going to be married by 21 but I definitely respect your logic. I always have the mindsetto each his own”. I think you and your wife will definitely go the distance and I’m so proud of the steps that you took prior to marriage. It looks like both of you took the committment very seriously, which I applaud.

  11. Tony DoyleyReply

    Very blessed to read your blog about marriage at an early age. My wife got married at 18 and we have been happily married for 10 years now. Sure we’ve had some ups and downs, but I believe God has guided us steadily all these years and now we are stronger than ever. Thank you for your amazing testimony.

  12. KLE PhotographyReply

    Congrats on your young marriage! My husband and I went through the same thing when we got married 8 years ago at 20 years old! So we know exactly what you’re going through! People thought we got married because I was pregnant (I wasn’t) or because he was an illegal alien (he’s an American citizen). We didn’t have much of our friends in our corner as they were doing the single thing. But now at 28 they are coming around and trying tocatch up.I’m glad God blessed me with my husband regardless of my age. God bless both of you!

    BTW We live in the DMV area! (MD) maybe we all can meet up or go to church together! We still don’t have married friends lol.

  13. KevinFerereReply

    I don’t think anything is being stolen from you, it’s what you’re giving up. It’s cool to have structure in the Bible, but it’s up to you to dictate your life, not a book; despite the guidance that it provides.

    It’s commendable being committed and young, but part of thatyouthful lustis the learning and growing you get from meeting and socially engaging different women. Learning what you like and don’t like to do, see, and feel; instead of your scope being so limited to just one person.

    You can’t really say you know who you are and what you’re about, or even what you really want, if you haven’t interacted but so much with other women for them to show that to you. You don’t know what Love is if you don’t know what it’s not.

    • GuestReply

      You do not need to know what Love is not if you know what Love is. How would you know if someone gives you a fake $100 bill unless you know what the real $100 bill look like. There is only one real $100 bill, just study that and you can tell when someone gives you a fake. The same with love. There are many counterfeits out there, but if you know what the real is, then you will be able to spot the fake. Since God is love, anything ungodly cannot be love.

      • KevinFerereReply

        Hence you must date around and meet and have sex with other people. My point exactly. What is ungodly is subjective. You may try to be legalistic about it because it is in our nature to do so, sepandan, we must let go of these ideals being that there is too much grey area amid the context.

        • Angeldoll1Reply

          I disagree with your statement having sex with other people- STD’s, AIDS and unwanted pregnancies, are the consequences of such relationships. If one pursues such relationships, they would not learn about proper commitment and the deeper and spiritual aspects of love rather than lust. Also I disagree with your views about dating around before you want to commit becausedating aroundis not a prerequisite to know a spouse from a nonspouse. Godly courting/dating was made for humans as depicted in the Bible whereas having mutiple partners, having random sex are the traits of animals.

          • AJ

            Angeldoll1it’s pretty naive of you to think that all non-marital sex necessarily leads toSTD’s, AIDS and unwanted pregnancies”… but of course, you wouldn’t know that if you haven’t taken to time to get your head out of your dusty old book and gain some life experience.

        • KevinFerereReply

          You look at it negatively. If you’re mature and wise enough you’ll go about it the right way. The more you avoid something, the closer you come to it. Focus on the positives and that’s what you’ll get. But of course your religion doesn’t teach you that.

    • JoshReply

      Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” (Jan 15:13) You know what love is if you know Christ.

      • KevinFerereReply

        Please sir, if you’re going to regurgitate scripture, the least you can do is apply your own thought to it. It’s a reference, not a speech guide.

        • elleReply

          Your take on scripture is wrong and the way you think you’re projecting yourself as a Christian who doesn’t follow the Bible butreferencesit but chooses to live by your own code and picks and chooses what, if anything to follow that’s of God is concerning….

          Most of what you’re claiming to stand on is false doctrine.

  14. Gabe TavianoReply

    Nice to see you blogging here Trip! Thanks for praying for me this week, God sure has been good.

    The crazy thing about you getting married so young is that your ears and eyes have been opened to God more in your few years than some that have closed Him off for much longer. You know that God is a part of your marriage just as much as the two of you are, and that’s huge. Mèsi pou pataje!

  15. Madeleine FarrellReply

    This is an excellent thought process. Mwen te resevwa marye nan 17 and my husband was 19. At the time we were not Christian, and also, we did not ‘have toget married. Still for some reason we did. We have been married almost 28 1/2 years now, are parents of 5 and grandparents of 2. I LOVE my life. Not to say there were times in our marriage that one of us just wanted to walk away and never come back, not to say anger and resentment were not part of our daily lives for a season, or that thinking ew made the biggest mistake of our lives was not a thought process. But we committed. And when divorce is not an option, GOD brings the healing in time.

    My daughter got married at 20 and there was not one encouragement she ever got from people. She didn’t understand why people feel it is a last resort instead of a timely blessing. Even among the Christian community.

    Our son on the other hand got married at Christmas time, at the age of 27. Just hadn’t found the right girl. One thing.. the right boy/girl is going to e the right boy/girl even through the tough times. Just cling to The Cross.

  16. CLReply

    I couldn’t agree more. So many people seem to think that marriage is awful and there is especially no reason torushinto it, but it is something that God wants to use to bless and sanctify us. Thank you for the post!

    >>But when I looked in the Scriptures I didn’t find stuff like, "Maryaj egal lanmò! Kouri soti nan li!"oswa, "Mete maryaj koupe jouk ou pa ka mete li koupe ankò,"oswa, "Se sèlman jwenn marye lè w ap twò fin vye granmoun yo jwi lavi,"oswa, “Play the field for a while and then pick the best one.”

    • AnaReply

      Thank you so much for the visit to my blogI think I figured out the feed adedrss for you (I posted it in my comments). You have a darling family, by the way! Congrats on your anniversary!

  17. PraisemovementReply

    Thanks for your transparency and formaking Jesus look good”. Mad respect for the way you livin’and bringinglory to the Word.

  18. Andrea Paige JacksonReply

    That is a fantastic testimony. And you posted it on mine and my husband’s tenth anniversary! (We got married OLD, menm si.) : )

  19. JcsmsoulReply

    god bless u brother! i know exactly what u mean although i found the lord later in life and i wish i was married to a godly man thats loyal to his wife! these dayz its very hard to find that! and another reason i hope and pray i get married and find the one is because u dont feel guilt when making love when ur married! god bless u!

  20. JazminReply

    Thank you so much not every one will see marriage as a blessing. Only those that trust and believe in our Lord Jesus Christ will. I to got married at a very young age and at 28 years old me and my husband have 3 beautiful children and our lives are devoted to adore and worship our father in heaven. Marriage isn’t easy though, it has it’s ups and downs but through the grace and mercy of God and surrendering to his will one is able to grow. Thank you very much for your amazing story it is a true blessing. My the Lord continue to let you and your wife grow I ask for his wisdom and most of all many blessings in your favor.

  21. Tachy MusicaReply

    I got married so “jenn” as well, and this is a blessing, we always together (including our daughter of course), we share everything, and help each other, some ppl think that if you get married so young it will be for a short time, but thanks God we almost 8 years married and the most important trying to servinGod at all times…Benediksyon

  22. Agopylove09Reply

    that is so awesome!! im 25 and ive been thinking about what all comes along with being a good wife and truly being submissive and having god as your center and always seeking his counsel for it all and just truly letting christ take the lead and building that relationship on the solid ground of christ jesus..falling in love with our savior first is truly a must!! having that intimate relationship with HIM alllows you to grow and know what love really is and GOD provides that love that u give to your spouse.. so greatful for a savior Who always provides..<3

  23. Joe StevensReply

    Am an oldee who agrees fully with Triplee. Though of course it is different strokes (ages) for different folks. And everyone must marry at their God-designed time. mwen se 50 yrs old, got married to my sweetheart when I was 23 and she was 20! Koulye a, 27 years and 1 month later, there is continuous (bon) fireworks between us, still madly in love, best friends and walking together in God’s purpose. Wouldn’t trade the age I married for 6 months later! But even my kids must know their circumstacces are not necessarily identical to ours, nor are God’s timings and plans for them exactly the same.

  24. Femi OlowoReply

    Am an oldee who agrees fully with Triplee. Though of course it is different strokes (ages) for different folks. And everyone was marry at their God-designed time. mwen se 50 yrs old, got married to my sweetheart when I was 23 and she was 20! Koulye a, 27 years and 1 month later, there is continuous (bon) fireworks between us, still madly in love, best friends and walking together in God’s purpose. Wouldn’t trade the age I married for 6 months later!

  25. ReverandjeffReply

    I know this one all too wellJust celebrated our 13th year of marriage, and i’m 35.. I had the same folks question me the same way, but we both just knew God had ordained it and designed it. We intersected each other’s lives at PIVOTAL moments where we ended up being each others anchor, with a common anchor of Christ. The best part is when we get the chance to talk to younger people who are struggling with relationships/marriage and we get to tell our exceptional testimony !!! Kòm yon kesyon de reyalite, had some of these discussions with JPaul some years ago.. Small world !!! God has given those who seek it the RIGHT VALUE system, and we VALUE our rib instead of runnin after chickenbones. :)

  26. BobshumakerReply

    My Dad & Mom were high school sweethearts and they got married after graduation (both were 18 years old). They are still happily married to this day and have never express any regrets about their lives together. Becoming an adult might begin with marriageand your attitude concerning your decision mirrors my parents. Godly marriages are few and far between in this century….God will bless you and keep you happy for at least 50 oswa 60 ane!

  27. Jeffreycotton7Reply

    I thank you and your wife so much for sharing your stories. mwen se 21 and feel like i’m going through almost the same situation. I’m just not married yet. I have that mindset of why wait if you and your partner are in love, both are spiritual, positive, and perfect through each others eyes. My girl and I have no doubt that we are going to be married one day. But even though we both want to be married, she’s more of a take her time; we have all the time in the world type person. I’m more of an ASAP we are not promised tomorrow type person. So why wait? She is a very smart girl. She reminds me of your wife and her story a little. Thinking that things might get in the way of school and career goals. But that’s more towards the talk of kids after marriage. I always tell her that I don’t want to have our first child close to 30 years old. I don’t want my body to start getting weaker because of age, which would make it harder and more tiring to play around with my kids. I want 7 at the most and 3 at the least. So its good to get started at a decent age. But I will continue to try to leave it in God’s hands and not worry about it too much.

  28. aneetarhReply

    thank u so much Trip n Jess, n everyone hu dt has shared an encouragement in one way or d oda. now i’m no longer scared of gettn married early especially considern d fact dt we both love God. God bls u

  29. DashReply

    Jannon Fitzpatrick, I agree that God is love. The only way to experience true love is to experience the one who created love. Between to people we can create nothing to that caliber unless we are letting God guide our love lives as well. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friendsJhn 15:13. Love is not finding a self satisfaction (KevinFerere), or finding someone who can satisfy and stimulate electrical impulses in your brain. Iwonilman, your picture of theCreation of Adamon your page comes from the Renaissance period which was when the ideology of love and dating turned into something for the individual gratification no matter what the cost to someone else. That painting in itself is heretical stating that Adam is reaching out to God and took part in his creation. The Irony is this, Michelangelo at the end of his life saw what he had done and repented, trying to mix Christianity and Humanism (Man being the measure of all things). This ideology of love is where is I think you are coming from ? which is the same thing they practiced in Greek, Renaissance, and today’s culture. There really isnothing new under the sun”-Solomon, also from the Bible.

  30. Paul JonesReply

    hey trip been married since i was 22 ak 28 kounye a. just had our 6th anv. god has bless us with 4 young ones. i pray that he keep blessing you and your family.

  31. Danz_17unlockedReply

    This is lovely Trip, May God richly bless u and ur wifeand may others b blessed by this ^_^ <3

  32. CLLReply

    What a lovely testimony to the goodness of God and what He can do in lives that are totally surrendered to Him. My husband and I were married relatively young (nan 24) and like you and your wife, God saw fit to bring us together for His glory. Our son married young, at age 20 earlier this yeargasp :-) and he definitely found a good thing in his godly wife. We wanted nothing more for him and it’s a blessing.

  33. KarendaReply

    Ki sa ki yon gwo atik! My husband and I got married young as well, mwen te 22 and my husband was 25. We just celebrated 15 years of marriage. Jezi, has brought us closer together as a couple over the years, teaching us todie to ourselvesin order to better love and serve each other. Selfishness is the number one destroyer of most marriages.

    Thank you for your willingness to be up front and honest about the topic of marriage as it relates to Scripture!

  34. MichaelReply

    My wife and I married at 21 as well, and that was 11 years and 6 children ago (bio/adopted/foster). I didn’t know I wastoo youngto marry, I just knew she was the one I didn’t want to live without! God has been good.

  35. AJReply

    Reading between the lines: we loved Jesus and we were horny.

    I see this happen all the time among Christians and think arguments such as these that dance around the real motivation are hilarious. It’d be sinful to just have sex, so it’s far wiser to rush into a lifelong commitment.

  36. CLARAReply

    The God that begun that Marriage shall surely see you through it all. You are an encouragement to young christian youths and couples Trip. Bondye beni ou!!

  37. JOBReply

    I got married at the age of 21 and in the same year as you Trip Lee, nan 2009. I met her in church when I was 16 years old and we have been together for almost 8 years now. We served God together with AYCM ministries, reaching out to villages and sharing the word of God in the Philippines. We told each other everydayI love you because I see how much you love God”. I do not ever regret asking her for her hand in marriage. The past 4 years of marriage has been a blessing.

  38. IzarakReply

    God’s word is indeed supreme. Pwovèb 18:22 clearly spells this out.
    Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord´´.
    My take for whoever wants to get married is to first and foremost ask for God’s direction in choosing the right partner. We as humans shouldnt make our own choices and forcifully ask God to bless it. olye de sa, we should surrender in total obedience, reach out for God’s grace and ask for guidance to follow his direction for our lives.

  39. SteveMcMillonReply

    I respect this so much!! Its so encouraging because I have had a desire to be married ever since I was 6 yrs old and alot of people put me down for it. In many ways it created insecurities in me. Thank you again for this!

  40. TerriReply

    A little over 35 years ago I married my high school sweetheart. We were both 18, almost 19. We had many naysayers and my dad even hoped I would get divorced and find a doctor. When God arranges a marriage it doesn’t matter what the age of the bride and groom. Many blessings!

  41. MissyReply

    I was married young as well (20 to be exact). Now at 32, I feel as though you can be married at any given age and at any given time to whoeverand God will use a person that loves Him in any circumstance to draw Himself closer to that personall you have to be is willing to be holy as He is holy. That’s why I don’t believe there isthe one”… Any persons who choose to get married, becomethe one’sfor eachother :)

  42. JohnnyReply

    Mèsi anpil. My wife and I have a similar story. A friend posted this today and it was what I needed. Praise our Lord Jesus!

  43. LiseReply

    Thank you for this article! mwen se 36 years old and I have been married for 19yrsyep, mwen te 17 when I married my 18yr old husband! We have six kids, love The Lord and are very happy :) we are asked similar questions all the time and while it may not be a popular choice or the right choice for many, I am so happy and confidant everyday that we made the right choice for us.

  44. SteffanReply

    This is amazing. I know plenty of people who think this is the biggest mistake of your life. mwen se 22 and have really been considering this with someone I have known and loved since my sophomore year of high school. I am sure things aren’t sunshine and rainbows for you, nor do I expect it to be for me. I commend you for putting aside all of the negativity and looking at the larger picture and what you felt God lead you to. If no one else is ever happy for you, I truly am.

  45. Kim HunterReply

    I met my husband at 14 we got married when I was 21 epi li te 23 we have been together for 22 years and married for 15 of those 22 there’s nothing wrong with getting married young its just how a person looks at life….because really your lifr is what you make it….and yes me and my husband are saved and believe in god and we are living our life for him with god all things are possible especially a long healthly loving marriage nothing easy but with god you can make it…….BE BLESSED!!

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  47. CherisseReply

    What a blessing to know the Lord and to understand his word. I wish there were more people like you. Don’t let the Devil discourage you. We know he is everywhere.

  48. GrantYoungReply

    My wife and I got married when we were 22 and I had the same experience. Friends that were saved and unsaved wanted to let me know I had more life to live. My barber reminded me of all the clubbing and partying I could do. mwen “closefriends explained that there were other fish in the sea to explore. Oke, we actually got married around the same time 3 other couples our age did! We’re a minority but definitely not alone and it’s encouraging to remember that.

    By God’s grace we just celebrated 3 years and it’s been awesome! Thank you for sharing Trip!

  49. MakReply

    My take would be that if you are going to get married so young, you better know the consequences of doing so. It is very difficult even in the very best of circumstances. If you aren’t ready to work the hardest you’ve ever worked and totally sacrifice and deal with lots of disappointments and heartache, don’t sign up for it. Sepandan, if you can endure (and some people do) if can be rewarding at times.

  50. KevinReply

    I love this biblically based perspective. It’s rare among American Christian, where the cultural and social structures are so anti-marriage, to see a young person, even an older person, have such a spiritually mature view on the value of God’s institution. Based on many of the comments I’ve read, this perspective sounds so foreign to people, even in the Church because we’ve allowed ourselves to lean towards the social norms of the day rather than the biblical truth of what God holds to be valued and treasured. Praying for you Trip, keep sharing the Gospel and the truth of God’s word made practical and real in the believer’s life.

  51. PastorRobReply

    I want to let you know Trip- Lee I got married 2 months after I turned 21. Is God all in it? Was He all in it despite people opinion and their reasoning on why I shouldn’t get married that I needed to wait. Man of God I have been married for 16 years now with 2 Beautiful girls and I am thoroughly greatful to God for a Godly wise, honorable precious jewel. The beauty about your testimony is it was meant for you to tell it!!!

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  53. MavisReply

    I have advice for all young people. If you are 18 or over, start looking for a spouse! Sex outside if marriage will bring you nothing but heartache, leaness of soul and bad health, mental and physical. Being married is a joy and economic booster! You can get so much more done and enjoy lufe so much more if you are not alone. Your parents probably got divorced because they did not follow their hearts in their youth! I don’t have the space to explain it all, but you are built to be mated. Start making yor list of must have traits right away and marry young while you have your whole heart to give. mwen se 53 and very grayeful to be happily married. I was married at 31 -heartbroken many times and lots if wasted youth-way way too late. Hope done if you will be wise in your youth and enjoy it by being present in it!

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  55. MercyReply

    My friend bought me this book when we were teens about being a young, dignified Christian woman. Of course it encouraged waiting until after marriage and everything and had verses throughout. It mentioned and she brought it up herself that God doesn’t want for us to date. I made a vow to myself that I would have boundaries with guys (I think I almost am completely done with outgrowing my shyness). I would save certain things for marriage but on and off the past 2 years I’ve gotten depressed. I’ve felt lonely. I wondered what’s wrong with me and if I’m good enough. I’m not. I don’t know every bible verse. I need to study a lot more. I’ve been trying and I don’t want to get to know just any guy because I can become heartbroken and he can lead me down a path God doesn’t want me down but I get lonely. It’s always beautiful to see other young people in love. It’s even BETTER if they’re married and I know it’s not good to be jealous but everyone says “oh, it’ll come during YOUR time”. I think about it regularly lately. I met this really nice guy. We have very similar personalities but he said he doesn’t go to church. He said he believes in God and I know I’m not perfect myself but I can’t help but wonder because I don’t think he’s actively seeking God if I’m going to regret something. Women aren’t supposed to try and change men I heard. It leads to disappointment supposedly. Oke, I’m tired of waiting. I guess I’ll learn the hard way. I’m not having sex though. mwen se 23 and still stand strong on that but I’m confused why I don’t deserve a husband now. Everybody else gets what they want. It’s so annoying that I can’t stop thinking about guys. I get so depressed sometimes. If I marry this guy and he hasn’t changed will we be unequally yoked? Some people have everything. And I’m not saying money. I just want someone who appreciates me. It’s too much to explain.

    • NatalieReply

      Mercy:
      You are still only 23! :) Don’t worry about not finding the “dwat” one, there is not just one person out there that is a good option. And just to clarify: YOU ARE WORTH IT. There is a reason that you are you and on this earth at this time. You are precious to Jesus, just read and claim His promises when you start to think that you are not worth it. My favorite is: “I will never leave you or forsake you.
      Someone I knew recently got divorced, and a huge issue in their marriage was that she was a believer and he was not. A decision you will have to make will beis God worth it?” Keep seeking the Lord with all your heart, and HE will direct you. He will guide you. He will provide the encouragement you need when you feel overwhelmed and depressed. Something I have found very helpful is reading Scripture out loud before I go to bed, and especially when I feel down and under attack from the enemy. You never know what God has just around the corner.. if only you wait. I know it sounds so hard and honestly, annoying, but if you will keep seeking the Lord, He will satisfy you in this season. There is a reason you are in the season! You never know how God will use it as a testimony to help other young girls who are struggling with the same thing! :) I hope this helped in some way! Benediksyon!

  56. MichealaReply

    Mwen te resevwa marye nan 21 and it was beautiful
    You can’t help who you fall in love with or when you fall in love with them,
    I never thought I would be the type to marry young and miss out on thefun thingsin life .. but i don’t think i did, I just shared myfun thingswith someone I love and couldn’t imagine living without.

  57. GisselleReply

    Hi I’m Gisselle I’m from Honduras. mwen se 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We met 15 months ago in his church in New York! I live in Honduras.. Therefore it has been a long distance relationship. I’m in my second year of college and so as he. We’ve talked about getting married. And some of our relatives and elders from his church supports us and tell us is the best thing to do. I’m still insecure about it.. My mom isn’t too open about me getting married so young and so as my sisters. We have been praying since we first thought about marriage as a possibility. If you could write me to my email i would be grateful!

  58. JenniferReply

    We were married 21 ane pase. mwen te 19 and my husband was 21. We have drawn closer to each other and to God. Three kids later we are looking forward to the next 20.

  59. CharlesReply

    I just wanted to say thank you for the straight forward way that you preach Gods word. I just watched the ‘Fallinmusic video after a day of trails and temptations and feel as though God spoke right into what I’m going through. The amazing Gift of Grace that we share cannot be measured or taken for granted. Thank you so much for re-opening my eyes to something so foundational in my walk with God. I also pray that God will bless you in your ministry.

  60. ChideraReply

    Once God shows you someone and the person has the same passion for God as you and ready to walk with you all the way. it doesn’t matter what age, once the time comes you marry. The thing is just acknowledge him in all of thy ways, he’ll make your paths straight (Pwovèb 3:6). Just have the passion and love for God, at the right time he’ll provide you with your helpmate who’ll stand with you through it all. Don’t wanna part, then don’t part with God. In ALL of thy ways acknowledge him, he’ell make your path straight.

  61. StacyReply

    My husband is 3/4 black and a quarter white.(Se mwen menm ki blan). My husband I got married young also I 18 going to 19 and my husband was 20. People told us not to, we were making a mistake and will send in divorce. We didn’t listen we got married and now we have been 16 ane. God is in control.

  62. jaysmithReply

    Kevin–you seem like you have a few things down. And you are working your way up. Keep going, kid! Alafen, to know yourself half as well is most of the vattle, despite any shortcomings. Benediksyon!

  63. TheRealHonestTruthReply

    Well for the people out there that have been BLESSED with very Excellent luck with NO health problems at all and being married with a family with a lot of money certainly have so much to be very thankful for since they really should have NO reason to complain when many of us are NOT that lucky at all even though many of you did get married too young which there are a lot of you that are still together today.

  64. RachelSanchezReply

    My husband and I got married earlier this year. He is 22, and I am 21. I get asked all the time why I wouldthrow my youth awayor why I would even think about getting married in college. I surprisingly get the most hurtful comments from older women who seem to look down on me. It’s heartbreaking that others can’t recognize that I am actually really enjoying my youth with my most favorite person in the world. It’s sad when people (even older generations) think that it’s perfectly fine for people in their 20s to sleep around, but when they get married it’s shocking and horrible. We just hope our marriage can inspire others to take the leap when they feel ready, regardless of what society tells them.