Pam yr wyf yn Got Priod Felly Ifanc: O Safbwynt My Wife yn

Tua mis yn ôl, ysgrifennais blog yn dweud Folks pam imi briodi mor ifanc. Cefais fy annog yn fawr gan yr ymatebion gan bawb sy'n ei ddarllen ac fy ngweddi yw bod byddai'r Arglwydd yn ein helpu i feddwl yn fwy y Beibl am briodas. Os na chawsoch i ddarllen y post gwreiddiol atalfa 'ii maes yma: Pam Oeddwn i'n Get Priod Felly Ifanc?

Wel ar ôl cymaint o Folks cyrraedd allan i mi a dweud wrthyf pa mor ddefnyddiol oedd iddynt, Yr wyf yn meddwl y byddai'n yr un mor ddefnyddiol i adael fy ngwraig, Jessica, ateb yr un cwestiwn o'i safbwynt. Felly dyma ei fod yn. Beth wnaeth fy ngwraig yn penderfynu priodi mor ifanc? Hi'n dweud…

1. I found a godly man

Pan gwrddais Trip cyntaf, Doeddwn i ddim yn bwriadu priodi unrhyw adeg cyn bo hir. Ond o'r tro cyntaf aethom allan, Roeddwn i'n gwybod bod rhywbeth yn wahanol am dano. Roedd yn frwd dros yr Efengyl mewn ffordd nad oeddwn erioed wedi gweld o'r blaen yn guy fy oed. Rwyf hefyd yn byth yn cwrdd â rhywun gyda phersbectif mor ddoeth ar dyddio. Diolch i'w ddisgybl cyn goleg fod yn gwybod yn union beth oedd yn meddwl y dylai perthynas duwiol edrych fel ac nid oedd yn barod i gyfaddawdu bod.

Bydd mi gyfaddef fy mod yn cael trafferth gyda hyn ar y dechrau. Yr oedd yn ymddangos yn rhy ddifrifol ac yn ormodol. Ond dros amser dechreuodd yr Arglwydd i ddangos i mi y doethineb mewn perthynas dirlawn gyda chymuned, purdeb rhywiol A emosiynol, ac yn dyddio at y diben o briodas. Os nad ydych yn barod i fod yn briod, Yna ei debyg nad yn syniad da i ymgysylltu gilydd calonnau. Yn Caniad Solomon, rydym yn rhybuddio i beidio â deffro cariad cyn ei amser. fel menywod, rydym yn fodau emosiynol iawn ac felly pan wnes i gyfarfod dyn a oedd angerddol am gynnal ein perthynas mewn ffordd a fyddai'n gwarchod fy nghalon, Roeddwn i'n gwybod fy mod dod o hyd i geidwad :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Yn ystod ein carwriaeth gofynasom rhai pobl i fod yn rhan agos yn ein perthynas. Byddent yn cadw ni atebol i'n ffiniau ac yn helpu i wneud penderfyniadau doeth am ein perthynas. Rydym hefyd yn mynd drwy gwnsela premarital cyn i ni hyd yn oed wedi dyweddio. Mae'r ddau beth yn caniatáu i ni geisio doethineb hŷn, brodyr ddoethach a chwiorydd ai peidio oedd yn syniad da i briodi. Duw wedi rhoi fugeiliaid ac mentoriaid o ein heglwys leol ni am reswm. Maent yn ein helpu i feddwl am ein penderfyniadau yn ddoeth ac yn rhoi safbwynt allanol duwiol. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

Fel freshman yn y coleg roedd gen yr hyn yr wyf yn hoffi i alw Syndrom Superwoman. Roeddwn yn annibynnol iawn ac yn cael ei yrru gyrfa, wrthwynebus iawn i'r syniad o fod angen dyn. Nid wyf yn credu bod unrhyw beth o'i le gyda bod yn annibynnol neu yrfa a yrrir, ond yn fy nghalon ei fod yn fwy na hynny. Roeddwn yn despising dylunio Duw ar gyfer dynion a menywod. Fyddwn i byth wedi dweud hynny ar goedd, ond os oeddwn yn onest, Roeddwn yn teimlo'n rhwystredig gyda'r hyn yr wyf yn meddwl oedd gan y Beibl i'w ddweud am fenywod. Rydym yn wannach, ni allwn ddysgu, ni allwn arwain, Nid ni yw'r pennaeth y cartref, a fy hoff iawn, ydym i gael ysbryd addfwyn a thawel. Yr wyf yn meddwl fy mod wedi unrhyw beth ond ysbryd addfwyn a thawel ac nid oedd gennyf ddiddordeb mewn newid fy personoliaeth. Mae pob un o'r meddyliau hyn fy arwain i feddwl bod priodas yn rhywbeth a fyddai'n dal i mi yn ôl. byddai'n fy cadw rhag mynd ar drywydd yr holl freuddwydion yrfa oedd gennyf a rhai dydd byddwn yn y diwedd gyda 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Diolch byth, dros y blynyddoedd yr Arglwydd wedi dysgu i mi a dangos i mi beth y mae mewn gwirionedd yn edrych fel i fod yn fenyw duwiol. Mae bod nid menyw duwiol yn cael ei ddiffinio gan yr hyn nad ydych yn neu ddim yn ei wneud. Rwy'n gwybod digon o fenywod duwiol sydd ffyddlon yn gwasanaethu yr Arglwydd mewn swydd corfforaethol a merched di-ri sy'n gwasanaethu eu plant a'u gwŷr yn ffyddlon yn y cartref. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

Fel wraig briod rwyf wedi dysgu cymaint am yr hyn y mae'n ei olygu i fod yn fenywod duwiol ac nid wyf yn teimlo eu bod nghadwyno i lawr gan fy ngŵr neu fy briodas. dylunio Duw ar gyfer priodas yn ar gyfer ein da ac yn ei ogoniant. Mae gwybod a chredu a roddodd yr hyder i briodi yn oed i mi 22. Dwy flynedd a hanner yn ddiweddarach, Nid oes gennyf unrhyw difaru, ac ni allaf ond gweddïo fod yr Arglwydd yn parhau i fendithio ein priodas.

CYFRANNAU

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  1. Jdharden1ateb

    Dyna anhygoel, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Diolch yn fawr Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. Dduw bendithia chi.

  2. Jannon Fitzpatrickateb

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Diolch am Rhannu!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777ateb

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. Dwi yn 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 flynyddoedd. Nawr, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Like you, yn 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. Nawr, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt Novakateb

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17ateb

    Wow this was really great! Fel 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11ateb

      Basically, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,ac ati” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

      • Ariep17ateb

        I got you now thanks. Your absolutely right. I myself have struggled with that. That only leads to unnecessary hurt

  6. Kerai Riddleateb

    Rwyf wrth fy modd hwn!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne Kellyateb

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001ateb

    Molwch yr Arglwydd ar eich cyfer chi brawd a'ch gwraig hyfryd o'ch ieuenctid. Yr wyf yn gweddïo y bydd yr Arglwydd yn arllwys ffafr yn barhaus drwy gydol eich bywyd, am eich bod wedi ufuddhau ei air. Dwi yn 28 ac wedi bod yn briod yn awr am bron i ddwy flynedd ac mae fy ngwraig a minnau yn cael priodas hapus a hyfryd 10 oed babi gwyfynod. Rwyf bob amser yn awyddus i briodi iau, ond yr wyf yn credu nad oedd amseru eto i mi nes i'r Arglwydd ddwyn fy beth da bron 5 Flynyddoedd yn ôl (i fod yn fanwl ni gwrdd ar y diwrnod rydym yn cael eu geni eto 31 Rhagfyr 2006). Doeddwn i ddim yn gwybod ein lle mynd i fod gyda'i gilydd fel y cymerais hi fel chwaer cyffredin o eglwys. Roeddwn hefyd yn canolbwyntio ar fy twf ysbrydol, ond dair blynedd yn ôl fy llygaid agor a'r gweddill fel y maent yn ei ddweud yw hanes.

    Mae mewn agenda Satan i bobl beidio â fod yn briod, fel eu bod yn byw mewn pechod, ac rydym eisoes yn gwybod beth fydd yn digwydd. A ydym wedi edrych ar y gyfradd ysgariad yn y corff heddiw? Beth am frodyr a chwaer fornicating yn yr eglwys, oherwydd yr hyn mynnu cymdeithas.

    Os byddwn yn edrych ar sut mae ein dinasoedd yn cael eu llenwi â thrais ieuenctid heddiw, ydym yn cymryd hyn o bryd i feddwl am rai o'r achosion sylfaenol? Mae'r cyfnewid dyn o bryd gwerthoedd duwiol i ism cylchlythyr i gyd mae hyn yn disgyn ar wahân. Mae hyd yn oed rhieni Cristnogol yn amryfus hyrwyddo ism cylchlythyr drwy annog pobl i beidio â'u plant i beidio priodi ifanc (yn oed o bryder yn amlwg). Mae'r rhesymau yn dyfynnaf”mae angen i chi gael addysg, efallai pan fyddwch yn gorffen eich meistri ac yn cael swydd dda, Yna ddechrau meddwl am briodi”. Mae hynny'n gadarn nid doeth mae'n ei ? Felly beth sy'n digwydd pan fydd eich plentyn Cristnogol yn mynd i'r brifysgol ac yna'n symud i mewn gyda ffrind bachgen / merch y mae ei naill ai Cristnogol neu heb?

    Peidiwch â'm camddeall(mai dim ond rhai o'r pethau yr wyf wedi dod ar draws), gan nad yw'r datganiad uchod yn berthnasol i bob. Mae addysg yn bwysig iawn fel un yn caffael gwybodaeth ar gyfer eu proffesiwn perthnasol er mwyn iddynt weithio a darparu ar gyfer eu teuluoedd yn y dyfodol ac yn y blaen, ond wont priodas atal un rhag llwyddo yn yr hyn bynnag ardal mewn bywyd un dewis i ddilyn, fel mater o ffaith priodas yn gyffredinol yn hyrwyddo twf h.y weinidogaeth mawr, rhostir da, cyfoeth ac mae'r rhestr yn mynd ymlaen. Cofiwch fod y ddau yn dod yn un cnawd a gallant fynd ar ôl 10 000 Waw, sy'n golygu bod yn cytuno beth bynnag y maent yn gofyn i Dduw ffyddlon byddant yn cyrraedd, anhygoel…..

    Yn agos Hoffwn awgrymu ein bod fel Cristnogion yn dechrau addysgu ein plant yn ifanc ar bwysigrwydd byw'n gyntaf dros Dduw ac yn ail pwysigrwydd priodas( i'r rhai sydd wedi cael y rhodd) fel eu bod yn tyfu i fyny eisiau plesio Duw yn y maes hwn. Unwaith eto, da iawn chi fy mrawd, ac i bawb sy'n byw y gair Duw. Arhoswch bendithio.

  9. Iwantstate01ateb

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    diolch!

  10. Katherine2cateb

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Diolch!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Diolch!!!

  11. ChosenVateb

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. Chelsterateb

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose Munhawaateb

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51ateb

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_Branchateb

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 mlwydd oed, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Diolch i chi am hyn. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold Moforateb

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. Dwi yn 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela Johnsonateb

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..erioed! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhateb

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 mae'n

  19. Rchllnndreherateb

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. Rwy'n 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel Wrightateb

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812ateb

    I Totally Agree. Priodais yn oed o 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel Riveraateb

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 ac roedd yn 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis Hunterateb

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Diolch i chi am rannu.

  24. Cy Hudsonateb

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann Sellerateb

    21 mlwydd oed, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. Pulemoliseateb

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Waw!(dats why u had 2 priodi,lol!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukateb

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. Kailaateb

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. ond, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. Coltonateb

    Hey Trip! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!

  30. Femiateb

    Thanks for sharing Jessica. this has surely changed my view on dating; not to awaken love before its time. dope!