Γιατί παντρεύτηκα τόσο νέος: Από την πλευρά της γυναίκας μου

Περίπου πριν από ένα μήνα έγραψα ένα blog λέγοντας λαούς γιατί παντρεύτηκα τόσο νέος. Ήμουν βαθιά ενθαρρύνεται από τις απαντήσεις από όλους όσους το διαβάσουν και η προσευχή μου ήταν ότι ο Κύριος θα μας βοηθήσει να σκεφτούμε περισσότερο βιβλικά για το γάμο. Αν δεν έχετε να διαβάσετε ότι η αρχική θέση το δείτε εδώ: Γιατί έλαβα Παντρεμένος τόσο νέος?

Λοιπόν μετά από τόσα λαοί έφτασε έξω σε μένα και μου είπε πόσο χρήσιμο θα ήταν γι 'αυτούς, Σκέφτηκα ότι θα ήταν εξίσου χρήσιμο να αφήσει τη γυναίκα μου, Jessica, απαντήσει στην ίδια ερώτηση από τη σκοπιά της. Έτσι, εδώ είναι. Τι έκανε η γυναίκα μου αποφασίσει να παντρευτούν τόσο νέος? Αυτή λέει…

1. I found a godly man

Όταν γνώρισα τον πρώτο του ταξίδι, Δεν ήμουν σχεδιασμό για να παντρευτεί σύντομα. Όμως, από την πρώτη κιόλας φορά που βγήκαμε, Ήξερα ότι υπήρχε κάτι διαφορετικό γι 'αυτόν. Ήταν παθιασμένος με το Ευαγγέλιο με έναν τρόπο που δεν είχα δει ποτέ πριν σε έναν άντρα της ηλικίας μου. Επίσης, ποτέ δεν γνώρισα κάποιον με μια τέτοια σοφή άποψη για χρονολόγηση. Χάρη στη μαθητεία του πριν το κολέγιο ήξερε ακριβώς τι σκέφτηκε μια ευσεβής σχέση θα πρέπει να μοιάζει και δεν ήταν πρόθυμοι να συμβιβαστούν ότι.

Θα παραδεχτώ ότι έχω αγωνιστεί με αυτό κατά την πρώτη. Φαινόταν πολύ σοβαρό και η υπερβολική. Αλλά με την πάροδο του χρόνου ο Κύριος άρχισε να μου δείξει τη σοφία σε μια σχέση κορεσμένο με την κοινότητα, σεξουαλική και συναισθηματική καθαρότητα, και χρονολογείται για το σκοπό του γάμου. Εάν δεν είστε έτοιμοι να παντρευτεί, τότε μάλλον δεν είναι καλή ιδέα του να συμμετάσχει ο καθένας τους άλλους καρδιές. Σε Άσμα Ασμάτων μας προειδοποιεί να μην ξυπνήσουμε την αγάπη πριν την ώρα του. Καθώς οι γυναίκες, είμαστε πολύ συναισθηματικά όντα και έτσι όταν γνώρισα έναν άνθρωπο που ήταν παθιασμένοι με τη διεξαγωγή της σχέσης μας με έναν τρόπο που θα φρουρούν την καρδιά μου, Ήξερα ότι βρήκε έναν τερματοφύλακα :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Κατά τη διάρκεια της ερωτοτροπίας μας ζητήσαμε από ορισμένους ανθρώπους να συμμετέχουν στενά στη σχέση μας. Θα μας κρατήσει υπόλογοι για τα όρια μας και να μας βοηθήσει να κάνουν σοφές αποφάσεις σχετικά με τη σχέση μας. Έχουμε, επίσης, πέρασε από το προγαμιαίο παροχή συμβουλών πριν καν αρραβωνιάστηκε. Αυτά τα δύο πράγματα που επιτρέπονται για μας να αναζητήσει τη σοφία των ηλικιωμένων, σοφότεροι τους αδελφούς και τις αδελφές για το αν ή όχι ότι ήταν μια καλή ιδέα να παντρευτούν. Ο Θεός μας έχει δώσει ποιμένες και μέντορες από την τοπική εκκλησία μας για έναν λόγο. Μας βοηθούν να σκεφτούμε μέσα από τις αποφάσεις μας με σύνεση και να δώσει μια ευσεβή εξωτερική προοπτική. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

Ως πρωτοετής στο κολέγιο είχα αυτό που μου αρέσει να αποκαλούμε σύνδρομο Superwoman. Ήμουν πολύ ανεξάρτητο και σταδιοδρομία που οδηγείται, πολύ αντίθετος με την ιδέα του να χρειάζεται έναν άνθρωπο. Δεν νομίζω ότι υπάρχει κάτι λάθος με το να είναι ανεξάρτητοι ή σταδιοδρομία που οδηγείται, αλλά στην καρδιά μου ήταν περισσότερο από αυτό. Ήμουν περιφρονεί το σχέδιο του Θεού για τους άνδρες και τις γυναίκες. Θα είχα ποτέ δεν είπε ότι φωναχτά, αλλά αν ήμουν ειλικρινής, Ήμουν απογοητευμένος με ό, τι νόμιζα ότι η Βίβλος είχε να πει για τις γυναίκες. Είμαστε πιο αδύναμες, Δεν μπορούμε να διδάξουμε, δεν μπορούν να οδηγήσουν, δεν είμαστε ο επικεφαλής του νοικοκυριού, και πολύ αγαπημένα μου, θέλουμε να έχουμε ένα απαλό και ήσυχο πνεύμα. Νόμιζα ότι είχα τίποτα, αλλά ένα απαλό και ήσυχο πνεύμα και δεν ήμουν ενδιαφέρονται για την αλλαγή της προσωπικότητας μου. Όλες αυτές οι σκέψεις με οδήγησαν να πιστεύω ότι ο γάμος ήταν κάτι που θα με κρατήσει πίσω. Θα με κρατήσει από την επιδίωξη όλα τα όνειρα καριέρας που είχα και κάποια μέρα θα καταλήξετε με 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Ευγνομονώς, όλα αυτά τα χρόνια, ο Κύριος μου έχει διδάξει και μου έδειξε τι πραγματικά μοιάζει να είναι μια ευσεβή γυναίκα. Όντας μια ευσεβή γυναίκα δεν καθορίζεται από αυτό που κάνετε ή δεν κάνετε. Ξέρω αφθονία των ευσεβείς γυναίκες που υπηρετούν πιστά τον Κύριο σε μια εταιρική δουλειά και αμέτρητες γυναίκες που υπηρετούν τα παιδιά και τους συζύγους τους πιστά στο σπίτι. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

Ως μια παντρεμένη γυναίκα που έχω μάθει τόσα πολλά για το τι σημαίνει να είναι θεϊκή γυναίκες και εγώ δεν αισθάνομαι αλυσοδεμένο κάτω από το σύζυγό μου ή το γάμο μου. το σχέδιο του Θεού για το γάμο είναι για το καλό μας και τη δόξα Του. Γνωρίζοντας και πιστεύοντας ότι μου έδωσε την αυτοπεποίθηση να παντρευτεί σε ηλικία 22. Δυόμισι χρόνια αργότερα, Δεν έχω καμία λύπη, και μπορώ μόνο να προσεύχομαι ότι ο Κύριος συνεχίζει να ευλογήσει το γάμο μας.

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43 σχόλια

  1. Jdharden1Απάντηση

    Αυτό είναι υπέροχο, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Thank you Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. ο Θεός να σε ευλογεί.

  2. Jannon FitzpatrickΑπάντηση

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Thanks for sharing!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777Απάντηση

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. I am 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 χρόνια. Τώρα, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Like you, στο 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. Τώρα, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt NovakΑπάντηση

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17Απάντηση

    Wow this was really great! Σαν 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11Απάντηση

      Βασικά, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,και τα λοιπά.” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai RiddleΑπάντηση

    I love this!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Louib2001Απάντηση

    Praise the Lord for you brother and your lovely wife of your youth. I pray that the Lord will pour favor continuously throughout your life, because you have obeyed his word. I am 28 and have been married now for almost two years and my wife and I have a happy marriage and a lovely 10 moth old baby. I always wanted to get married younger, but I believe it wasn’t time yet for me until the Lord brought my good thing almost 5 years ago (to be precise we met on the day we got born again 31 Dec 2006). I did not know we where destined to be together as I took her as an ordinary sister from church. I was also concentrating on my spiritual growth, but three years ago my eyes opened and the rest as they say is history.

    It is in Satan’s agenda for people not to be married, so that they live in sin and we already know what will happen. Have we looked at the rate of divorce in the body today? How about brothers and sister fornicating in the church, because of what society dictates.

    If we look at how our cities are filled with youth violence today, do we take a moment to think of some of the root causes? The moment man exchange Godly values for circular ism all this fell apart. Even Christian parents are ignorantly promoting circular ism by discouraging their children not to get married young (at the age of concern obviously). The reasons are I quoteyou need to get an education, maybe when you finish your masters and have a decent job, then start to think about marriage”. That sound wise doesn’t it ? So what happens when your Christian child is goes to university and then moves in with boy/girl friend whose either Christian or non?

    Please do not get me wrong(that’s just some of the things I have come across), because the above statement does not apply to all. Education is very important as one acquires knowledge for their respective profession so they could work and provide for their future families etc, but marriage wont stop one from succeeding in what ever area in life one chooses to follow, as a matter of fact a marriage in general promotes growth i.e great ministry, good heath, wealth and the list goes on. Remember the two becomes one flesh and can chase 10 000 Ουάου, that means that in agreement what ever they ask God faithfully they will attain, awesome…..

    In close I would like to suggest that we as Christians start teaching our children at a young age on the importance of first living for God and secondly the importance of marriage( to those who’ve been given the gift) so that they grow up wanting to please God in this area. Once again well done my brother and to all those living the word of God. Μείνε ευλογημένος.

  8. Iwantstate01Απάντηση

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    Ευχαριστώ!

  9. Katherine2cΑπάντηση

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Ευχαριστώ!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Ευχαριστώ!!!

  10. ChosenVΑπάντηση

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  11. ChelsterΑπάντηση

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  12. Nicole-Rose MunhawaΑπάντηση

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  13. Godgiven51Απάντηση

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  14. Iolene_BranchΑπάντηση

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 years old, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Thank you for this. I really do appreciate it :)

  15. Arnold MoforΑπάντηση

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. I am 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  16. Angela JohnsonΑπάντηση

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..Πάντα! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  17. aneetarhΑπάντηση

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 το

  18. RchllnndreherΑπάντηση

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. Εγώ είμαι 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  19. Rachel WrightΑπάντηση

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  20. Dfletcher812Απάντηση

    I Totally Agree. I got married at the age of 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  21. Grabiel RiveraΑπάντηση

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 and she was 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  22. Addis HunterΑπάντηση

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Thank you for sharing.

  23. PulemoliseΑπάντηση

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Ουάου!(dats why u had 2 get married,lol!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  24. simon paul -----ukΑπάντηση

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  25. KailaΑπάντηση

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. Αλλά, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  26. ColtonΑπάντηση

    Hey Trip! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!