なぜ私はソヨン結婚しました: 私の妻の視点から

約一ヶ月前、私は私が若いので結婚した理由を人々に伝えるブログを書きました. 私は深くそれを読むすべての人からの応答によって励まされたし、私の祈りは、主が私たちが結婚についてもっと聖書的に考えるのに役立つだろうとされています. あなたはここでそれをチェックアウトし、その元の記事を読むために取得していない場合: なぜ私は既婚ソヨンを取得しました?

まあこれほど多くの人々は私に手を伸ばした後、それが彼らのためにどのように役立った私に言いました, 私は私の妻をできるように、同じように役立つだろうと思いました, ジェシカ, 彼女の視点から同じ質問に答えます. だからここにあります. どのような私の妻は若いので結婚することを決定した製? 彼女が言います…

1. I found a godly man

私は最初の旅行に会ったとき, 私はいつでもすぐに結婚することを計画していませんでした. しかし、非常に最初の時から私たちは出て行きました, 私は別の何かが彼について知っていました. 彼は私が男私の年齢に前に見たことがなかったように福音について熱情的でした. 私はまた、デートに、このような賢明な視点を持つ人に会ったことはありません. 大学の前に彼の弟子のおかげで、彼は信心深い関係がどのように見えるべきであり、彼はそれを危険にさらすことを望んでいないと思った正確に知っていました.

私は最初はこれで苦労していることを認めるだろう. それはあまりにも深刻で、過度のように見えました. しかし、時間をかけて、主は私にコミュニティで飽和した関係で知恵を示し始めました, 性的、感情的純度, 結婚のために出会い系. あなたが結婚する準備ができていない場合, そのおそらくない良いアイデアは、お互いの心を係合します. ソロモンの歌では、その時間の前に愛を目覚めさせないように警告されています. 女性として、, 我々は非常に感情的な存在ですので、私は私の心を守るような方法で私たちの関係を行うに情熱だった男に会ったとき、, 私は私がキーパーを見つけた知っていました :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

私たちの求愛の間、我々は密接に私たちの関係に関与していることが特定の人に尋ねました. 彼らは私たちの境界に責任私たちを維持し、私たちは私たちの関係についての賢明な決定を下すに役立つだろう. 私たちも、婚約前に我々はまた、婚前カウンセリングを経て. 私たちは古いの知恵を追求するために許可されたこれら二つのこと, それが結婚することをお勧めしたかどうかについて賢明兄弟姉妹. 神は私たちに理由のために私たちの地元の教会から牧師や指導者を与えています. 彼らは私たちが賢明に私たちの意思決定を通じて考え、信心深い外部の視点を与えるのを助けます. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

大学で新入生として、私は、私はスーパーウーマン症候群を呼び出すために好きなものを持っていました. 私は非常に独立していたとキャリアを駆動します, 男を必要とするという考えに非常に対向し. 私は、被駆動の独立やキャリアであることに何か問題があるとは思いません, しかし、私の心に、それはそれ以上でした. 私は男性と女性のための神のデザインを軽蔑しました。. 私は大声でそれを言ったことがないだろう, しかし、私は正直だった場合, 私は聖書が女性について言わなければならなかったと思ったものにイライラしました. 私たちは弱いです, 我々は教えることはできません, 我々がリードすることはできません, 我々は、世帯主ではありません, そして、私の非常に好きな, 私たちは、穏やかで静かな精神を持つことがあります. 私は穏やかで静かな精神が、何を思っていたし、私は私の性格を変えることに興味がありませんでした. これらの思考のすべては、結婚は私を引き止める何かだったことを考えるように私を導きました. それは私が持っていたすべてのキャリアの夢を追求するから私を保つだろうし、いつの日か私はで終わるだろう 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

感謝して, 長年にわたって主が教えてくれたし、それが本当に信心深い女性にどのように見えるかを見せてくれたました. 信心深い女性であることは、あなたが何をするかによって定義されていないか、しません. 私は忠実に、企業の仕事で主に仕える敬虔な女性や家庭で忠実に自分の子供や夫に仕える無数の女性の多くを知っています. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

既婚女性として、私はそれが信心深い女性であることの意味についてはあまりを学んだと私は私の夫や私の結婚によってダウンの連鎖感じることはありません。. 結婚のための神のデザインは、私たちの良いと彼の栄光のためであります. 知り、信じることは私の歳で結婚するために自信を与えました 22. 2年半後に, 私は後悔していません, そして、私は主が私たちの結婚を祝福し続けていることを祈ることができます.

SHARES

44 注釈

  1. Jdharden1応答

    それは驚くべきことです, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Thank you Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. 神のお恵みがありますように.

  2. ジャノン・フィッツパトリック応答

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! 共有するためのおかげで!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777応答

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. わたし 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 年. 今, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Like you, に 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. 今, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt Novak応答

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17応答

    Wow this was really great! として 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11応答

      基本的に, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,等” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai Riddle応答

    これ大好き!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne Kelly応答

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001応答

    あなたの兄弟とあなたの若者のあなたの素敵な妻のために主を賛美. 私は主があなたの人生全体で継続的に好意を注ぐことを祈ります, あなたは彼の言葉に従っているので、. わたし 28 そして、、ほぼ2年間、今結婚して妻と私は幸せな結婚生活と素敵を持ってきました 10 蛾の赤ちゃん. 私はいつも若い結婚したかったです, 私は主はほとんど私は良いことをもたらしたまでそれは私のためにまだ時間ではなかったと信じて 5 数年前 (正確に言えば、我々は再び生まれてしまった日に会いました 31 12月 2006). 一緒になる運命ところ、私は教会から普通の姉妹として彼女を取ったように私たちは知りませんでした. 私も自分の精神的な成長に集中していました, しかし、3年前、私の目は開かれ、彼らが言うように、残りは歴史であります.

    人々は結婚してはならないのはサタンの議題であります, 彼らは罪に住んでいると我々はすでに何が起こるか知っているので、. 私たちは今日、体内で離婚の割合を見てきました? どのように教会で兄弟や姉妹がfornicatingについて, 理由はどのような社会のおもむくままの.

    私達は私達の都市は今日の若者の暴力で満たされているかを見れば、, 我々は、根本的な原因のいくつかを考えるために時間を割いてください? 円形イズムのための瞬間の男交換敬虔な値は、このすべてがばらばらになりました. でも、クリスチャンの両親は無知若い結婚していない子供たちを落胆することにより、円形のイズムを推進しています (明らかに懸念の年齢で). 理由は、私が引用されています”あなたは教育を取得する必要があります, 多分あなたは、あなたのマスターを終了し、まともな仕事をしているとき, その後、結婚について考え始めます”. その音は賢明なことはしていません ? それでは、あなたのキリスト教の子供が大学に移行するときに発生し、その後そのクリスチャンまたは非男の子/ガールフレンドで動きます?

    誤解しないでください(それはちょうど私が遭遇したことの一部です), 上記の文は、すべてに適用されないので、. 彼らは仕事と自分の将来の家族などのために提供できるように、1がそれぞれの専門職のための知識を獲得するよう教育が非常に重要です, しかし、結婚は文句を言わない1が従うことを選択した生活の中で、これまでどのような分野で成功から1を停止します, 実際の問題として、一般的に結婚は大きな省すなわち成長を促進します, 良いヒース, 富と、リストに載っています. 2は1本の肉になって追いかけることができます忘れないでください 10 000 ワオ, それはこれまで、彼らは忠実に神に尋ねるどんな契約で、彼らが達成することを意味します, 驚くばかり…..

    近くには、私たちはクリスチャンが神のための最初の生活の重要性に若い年齢で子供たちを教え開始し、第二に、結婚の重要性とすることを提案したいです( 贈り物を与えてきた人たちへ) 彼らはこの領域で、神を喜ばせるために望んで育つように、. もう一度よく私の弟を行って、神の言葉を生きて、すべてのものに. 祝福滞在.

  9. Iwantstate01応答

    ジェシカ, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    感謝!

  10. Katherine2c応答

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! ありがとうございました!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! ありがとうございました!!!

  11. ChosenV応答

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. Chelster応答

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose Munhawa応答

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51応答

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_Branch応答

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 歳, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    これありがとう. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold Mofor応答

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. わたし 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela Johnson応答

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..これまで! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarh応答

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 それ

  19. Rchllnndreher応答

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. アイム 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel Wright応答

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812応答

    I Totally Agree. 私は歳の時に結婚しました 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel Rivera応答

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 そして彼女がいました 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. アディスハンター応答

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. 共有していただきありがとうございます.

  24. Cy Hudson応答

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann Seller応答

    21 歳, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. Pulemolise応答

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,ワオ!(dats why u had 2 結婚する,笑!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----uk応答

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. カイラ応答

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. だけど, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. Colton応答

    ちょっとトリップ! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!