Ke hobane'ng ha ke nyalana Kahoo Young: Ka tsela My Mosali oa

Hoo e ka bang months ago ke ile ka ngola ya blog bolella folks ka lebaka leo ke nyalana le monyenyane haholo. Ke ile ka ho teba ka khothatsoa ke likarabo tse tsoang bohle ba e bala le ho rapela ho ea ka e 'nile hore Morena o ne a tla re thusa hore re nahane biblically ho eketsehileng ka lenyalo. Haeba u sa kang ba bala hore poso mantlha hlahloba ka eona mona: Ke Hobane'ng ha ke Kena Lenyalong Kahoo Young?

Hantle ka mor'a folks ba bangata hakaale ba fihla ho 'na' me a mpolella hore na ba thusang batho ho ne ho bakeng sa bona, Ke ile ka nahana e ne e tla feela joalokaha le molemo ho tlohela mosali oa ka, Jessica, araba potso e tšoanang ka tsela ea hae. Kahoo mona ke. Ke eng e neng mosali oa ka etsa qeto ea ho nyalana le monyenyane haholo? O re: ...

1. I found a godly man

Ha ke qala ho kopana le Trip, Ke ne ke sa rera ho nyalana tla haufinyane. Empa ho tloha ka lekhetlo la pele re a tsoa, Ke ne ke tseba ho ne ho hong ho fapaneng ka eena. O ne a ka takatso e matla mabapi le Likosepele ka tsela e ke neng ke e-s'o bone pele ka Guy lithaka tsa ka. Ke ile ka boela qala ho kopana motho ea nang le pono e nepahetseng joalo e bohlale mabapi le ho intša. Thanks ho ba morutuoa oa hae ka pel'a k'holejeng o ne a tseba hantle seo a neng a nahana kamano ea bomolimo lokela shebahala joaloka 'me o ne a sa ikemisetsa ho sekisetsa hore.

Ke tla lumela hore ke loantšana le sena qalong. Ho ne ho bonahala tebile hakaale haholo 'me ka tsela e feteletseng. Empa ha nako e ntse Morena o ile a qala ho mpontša hore na ho bohlale le kamano e ba phelelang sechabeng ka, ho hloka sekoli ho kopanela liphate le maikutlong, le ratana ka morero oa ho kena lenyalong. Haeba u se u e-s'o lokele ho nyaloa, ntan'o etsahala hore e se khopolo e eona tse ntle ho kopanela mong le e mong bang lipelo tsa. A Sefela sa Lifela re lemosa hore ba se ke tsosa lerato pele ho nako ea eona. Ha basali, re libopuoa maikutlong haholo 'me kahoo ha ke kopana le monna ea neng a ka takatso e matla mabapi le ho khanna kamano ea rōna ka tsela e neng e tla lebela pelo ea ka, Ke ne ke tseba Ke ile ka fumana mohlokomeli e :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Nakong ea lefereho rona re ile a botsa batho ba itseng hore e haufi-ufi ameha kamano ea rōna. Ba ne ba tla re boloka re ikarabella ho meeli ea rōna 'me re thusa hore re etse liqeto tse bohlale mabapi le kamano ea rōna. Re boetse re pholletsa tlhabollo pele ho lenyalo le pele re li ile ba kopanela. lintho tsena tse peli o ile a lumella hore re batle bohlale ba hōlileng ba, bara le barali babo bohlale ka hore na kapa ke ke ha e ne e le mohopolo o motle hore a kene lenyalong. Molimo o re file baruti le baeletsi kerekeng ea habo rōna ka lebaka le. Li re thusa ho nahana pholletsa liqeto tsa rōna ka bohlale 'me u fe ea bomolimo ka ntle pono. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

E le ka tlhokomelo ea ka k'holejeng ke ile ka tlameha seo ke ratang ho bitsa Superwoman Syndrome. Ke ne ke ikemetseng haholo le mosebetsi khannoang, hanyelitseng haholo ho khopolo ea hlokang motho a. Ha ke nahane ho na le letho le phoso leo le ho ba ikemetseng kapa mosebetsi khannoang, empa ka pelong ke ne ho fetang hoo. Ke ile ka ba nyelisa li entsoeng ka mokhoa oa Molimo bakeng sa banna le basali. Ke ne ke tla e-s'o ile a re ka lentsoe le phahameng, empa haeba ke ne ke le ea tšepahalang, Ke ile ka ferekane le seo ke ile ka nahana ka Bibeleng se buang ka basali. Re se fokolang haholo, re ke ke ra ruta, ha re sa ka lebisa, ha re hlooho ea lelapa, le ratang ka ho fetisisa ea ka haholo, re tla ba le moea o bonolo le khutso. Ke ile ka nahana ke ne ke ntho efe kapa efe empa moea bonolo le khutso 'me ke ne ke sa thahaselle ho fetola botho ba ka. All ea menahano tsena se ile sa etsa hore ke nahane hore lenyalo ne e le ntho e neng e tla tšoara nkhutlisetsa. E ne e tla 'ne ke se ke ka phehella litorong tsa bohle mosebetsi o lefang ke ne ke le lilemong tse ka bang letsatsi le ke tla qetella ke le 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Ka lehlohonolo, ho theosa le lilemo Morena nthutile 'me o ile a mpontša seo e hlileng shebahalang joaloka ho ba mosali ea bomolimo. A ntse a mosali e mong ea bomolimo e sa hlalosoa ka seo u se etsang kapa ba sa etse. Ke tseba ho hongata hoo ya basali ba tšabang Molimo ba neng ba ka botšepehi sebeletsa Morena a le mosebetsi o khato tse kopanetsoeng le basali ba bangata ba sebeletsa bana ba bona le banna ba ka botšepehi lapeng. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

E le mosali ea nyetsoeng ke ithutile haholo ka hore na ho bolela'ng ho ba basali ea bomolimo 'me ha ke ikutloa tlameletsoe fatše ke monna oa ka kapa lenyalo la ka. boqapi ba bona Molimo bakeng sa lenyalo ke molemong oa rōna 'me khanya ea Hae. Ho tseba le ho lumela hore o ile a mpha sebete sa hore ba nyale a le lilemo li 22. Tse peli le halofo ka mor'a lilemo tse, Ha ke ikoahlaee ka letho leha e le efe nang le, 'me ke eena feela rapela hore Morena a tsoela pele ho hlohonolofatsa manyalo a rōna.

o bolella

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  1. Jdharden1Reply

    Eo e tsotehang e, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Thank you Jessica, Ke hlile ho hlokahala ena. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. Molimo a o hlohonolofatse.

  2. Jannon FitzpatrickReply

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Thanks bakeng sa kopanela boboleling!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777Reply

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. ke 'na 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 lilemo tse. hona joale, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Joalo ka uena, nakong 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. hona joale, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt NovakReply

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17Reply

    Wow this was really great! e le 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11Reply

      ha e le hantle, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,jj” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai RiddleReply

    ke rata sena!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne KellyReply

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001Reply

    Rorise Morena etsoe u mor'abo r ¯ ona 'me mosali oa hao ea ratehang oa bocha ba hao. Ke rapela hore Morena o tla tšollela ke kamohelo ea tswelela pele ho pholletsa le bophelo ba hao, hobane u mamela lentsoe la hae. ke 'na 28 'me ba' nile ba nyalane hona joale hoo e ka bang lilemo tse peli 'me mosali oa ka' me ke na le lenyalo le thabileng le le ea ratehang 10 tšoèlè oa lesea. Kamehla ke ne ke batla ho nyalana le monyenyane, empa ke lumela e ne e sa nako e sa ntse e le 'na ho fihlela Morena a tlisa ntho e tsa ka tse molemo hoo e ka bang 5 lilemong tse fetileng (ho ba e tobileng re ile ra kopana ka letsatsi la re ile ra tsoaloa hape 31 Dec 2006). Ke ne ke sa tsebe re moo a reretsoe ho ba hammoho ha ke mo nka joaloka morali'abo rōna ea tloaelehileng kerekeng. Ke ile ka boela go tlhoma tlhaloganyo mo ka khōlo ea ka ea moea, empa lilemong tse tharo tse fetileng mahlo a ka bula le ba bang kaofela ha ba ntse ba re ke histori ea.

    E lenaneotherong Satane bakeng sa batho ba se ke ba nyaloa, e le hore ba phele ka sebe 'me re se a ntse a tseba se tla etsahala. Na re talima ka tekanyo ea tlhalo 'meleng kajeno? Ho thoe'ng ka bara le khaitseli ea fornicating ka kerekeng, ka lebaka la seo setjhabeng bitsetsa.

    Haeba re sheba kamoo metseng ea rōna ba tletse pefo bocheng kajeno, Re nka motsotsoana ho nahana ka tse ling tsa lintho tse bakang mathata motso? Motsotso o monna phapanyetsano makgabane Bomolimo bakeng boikhabi chitja ena eohle oela kantle. Esita le batsoali ba Bakreste ba ignorantly kgothaletsa chitja boikhabi ke nyahamisa bana ba bona hore ba se ke ba kena lenyalong ba banyenyane (a le lilemo li nahanisisa ka oona ho hlakile hore). mabaka a ke ke qotsa mantsoe a”u lokela ho fumana thuto, mohlomong ha u qeta benghali ba hao le ho ba le mosebetsi o hlomphehang, ntan'o qala ho nahana ka lenyalo”. molumo oo ba bohlale ha e ? Kahoo se etsahalang ha ngoana oa hao ea Bokreste e tsoela univesithi 'me joale susumelletsa le motsoalle moshanyana ea / ngoanana bao mohlomong Bokreste kapa batho bao e seng?

    Re kōpa hore u se ke ua 'na e fosahetseng(le hore 's tse ling tsa lintho Ke tlile ka mose feela), hobane setatemente sa ka holimo ha e sebetse ho bohle. Thuto ke ea bohlokoa haholo e le e mong fumana tsebo bakeng sa mosebetsi tsona kahoo ba ne ba ka sebetsa le ho fana ka malapa a bona nakong e tlang jj, empa lenyalo tloaetse thibela e le 'ngoe ho tloha atleha ho seo leha e le neng sebakeng sa ka bophelo ba motho a khetha ho latela, joalokaha e le taba ea e le hantle lenyalo le ka kakaretso khothalletsa keketseho e bileng teng i.e tšebeletsong e khōlō, boitshireletso molemo, leruo le lethathamo le tsoela pele. Hopola eo e 'meli e fetoha nama e le' ngoe 'me e ka leleka 10 000 Wow, hore ho bolela hore ka tumellano seo leha e le neng ba botsa Molimo ka botšepehi ba tla finyella, e ntle…..

    Libakeng tse atamelaneng Nka rata ho bontša hore rōna joaloka Bakreste re qala ho ruta bana ba rōna nakong sa le monyenyane ka bohlokoa ba phelang pele bakeng sa Molimo le bobedi ho bohlokoa ba ho lenyalo( ho ba 'nile ba fuoa mpho) e le hore ba hōla batlang ho khahlisa Molimo sebakeng sena. Ka lekhetlo le leng hape ao entseng mor'eso le ho bohle ba phelang lentsoe la Molimo. lula hlohonolofalitsoeng ka lethathamo.

  9. Iwantstate01Reply

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    Thanks!

  10. Katherine2cReply

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! kea leboha!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Kea leboha!!!

  11. ChosenVReply

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. ChelsterReply

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose MunhawaReply

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51Reply

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_BranchReply

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 ba lilemo li, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Thank you for this. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold MoforReply

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. ke 'na 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela JohnsonReply

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..leha e le neng! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhReply

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 e

  19. RchllnndreherReply

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. ke 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel WrightReply

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812Reply

    I Totally Agree. Ke nyalana a le lilemo li 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel RiveraReply

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 'me o ne a 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis HunterReply

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Kea le leboha ka ho kopanela.

  24. Cy HudsonReply

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann SellerReply

    21 ba lilemo li, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. PulemoliseReply

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Wow!(dats why u had 2 nyalana,Ha ha ha...!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukReply

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. KailaReply

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. empa, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. ColtonReply

    Hey Trip! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!