Hoekom ek getroud 'n Wit meisie

Wanneer ek 'n boodskap foto's van my familie op sosiale media, die antwoorde is altyd pret. Die mees algemene is, "Jou seun is so mooi!"Of" Wat 'n pragtige familie!"Maar een van die ander algemene reaksies is, "Is jou vrou wit?"Mense vra my by skoue soms te. Die antwoord is ja. My vrou is 'n mengsel van Hungarian, Italiaanse, en Pools-wat vir die meeste mense net beteken ja, sy is wit. Dit is irrelevant tot 'n, maar skokkende of selfs teleurstellend om ander. Ek dink nie enige iemand moet geskok of teleurgesteld veelrassige huwelike, maar ek wou nog om te praat oor die rede waarom ek getroud buite my "ras.

Die besluit om iemand te trou uit 'n ander etniese agtergrond was nie 'n moeilike een vir my. Ek het nog nooit gaan sit en skryf uit 'n voor-en nadele lys. Alhoewel as ek gedoen het, die feit dat my vrou nooit 'n episode van "Martin" gesien sou wees in die kategorie con. maar eerlik, Ek het nie so angstig hieroor en daaroor of soek raad oor of dit OK. Ek was oortuig dat sy die vrou was vir my om te trou, selfs al het sy was nie swart.

Sommige sou nooit oorweeg trou iemand wat nie dieselfde etnisiteit was as hulle, so laat ek jou hoekom ek dit gedoen vertel.

verwagtinge

Om eerlik te wees, Ek verwag altyd om te trou 'n swart vrou. Ek het gevind dat vroue van alle agtergronde pragtige, maar swart meisies was my "voorkeur." Maar toe ek daar aankom op my kollege kampus in 2006, Ek is nie op soek na 'n vrou ten alle. Ek wou net om te groei in my geloof en 'n goeie opvoeding. My eerste album het net uit te kom, so het ek baie ander dinge om te fokus op. Maar as ek met mense by die skool, 'n stage met die naam Jessica regtig gevang my aandag en ons het vriende.

Ons het in dieselfde kringe en ons beland by dieselfde kerk, so ons het mekaar baie. En hoe meer ek by haar weet, hoe meer ek is gevestig op haar. Sy was lief vir baie Jesus en sy het hierdie kinderlike bereidwilligheid om te doen wat Hy vra. Haar deernis vir behoeftige mense uitgedaag my en sy het 'n nederige hart wat gereageer het op die Woord. Oor daardie eerste jaar, Ek het gesien hoe haar offer ontelbare ure van haar tyd te dien by ons kerk. Op die top van dit alles, Ek het daarvan gehou om rondom haar. ons gesprek, of ernstige of dom, altyd gevloei met gemak. So ek uiteindelik begin om myself te vra, "Moet ek trou hierdie meisie?"

Voorkeure

Jessica lyk nie soos ek my toekomstige vrou verwag om te kyk, maar eerlik dat maak nie saak vir my. Moenie my verkeerd verstaan ​​nie, Ek het gedink sy pragtige uit die eerste keer dat ek haar ontmoet het, was. En ek was nog nooit in teenstelling met trou met 'n wit meisie. Ek het net nie gedink ek sou. Maar soos ek grootgeword in my geloof en my hart verander, my voorkeure begin te verander. My belangrikste voorkeur was dat my vrou wees goddelike, en Jessica was. So ek wifed haar.

Nooit 'n oomblik het ek voel soos ek was die vestiging. Dit voel meer soos die vestiging te vergeet 'n godvresende vrou bloot as gevolg van haar etnisiteit. Ek wou nooit waardeer my voorkeure vir 'n vrou meer as wat ek nodig in 'n vrou.

Daar is niks noodwendig verkeerd met dat voorkeure, maar ons het om hulle te hou met 'n oop hand. Ek weet dat sommige mense wat 'n potensiële Goddelike gade miskyk omdat hulle nie inpas paar random voorkeur. Sommige van ons voorkeure regtig nie dat daar nog baie saak nie. Sommige van ons voorkeure kan selfs dwaas wees, so ons moet almal aan die Skrif.

Wanneer jy en jou eggenoot is in die middel van konflik, velkleur maak nie saak. Liggaamstipe en sosiale status lyk onbelangrik. Jy wil hê hulle moet goddelike en nederig wees. En as ek en my vrou begin om ons eerste kind in te samel, Ek kon nie meer dankbaar vir haar wees. Sy is 'n wonderlike ma en 'n goddelike invloed op my seun-nie waarvan niks te doen het met haar etniese agtergrond. Dit is OK om dinge wil in 'n gade, maar ons moet ons begeertes aan wat God wil hê dat ons in 'n gade. Wat ek wou en nodigste was 'n godvresende vennoot, en dit is presies wat God voorsien.

AANDELE

187 kommentaar

  1. CLLantwoord

    Goed gesê Trip. My man is bruin en ek is swart en ek voortdurend te vra wat my gemaak het kies iemand buite my ras. Ek antwoord altyd dat God die keuse gemaak vir my en Hy het so 'n wonderlike werk, beter as wat ek ooit kon gedoen het op my eie. God is goed! Hou doen wat jy doen! 116! Jesus eerste totdat ons onder die aarde!

    • Erickaantwoord

      Dankie vir die eerlikheid Trip Lee. ek stem saam. Jy kan 'n voorkeur het, maar jy het om dit te hou met 'n oop hand, want as 'n Christen jou eerste verbintenis is om Christus en u gade moet ondersteun wat. eweredig yolked…

    • Wadsworthantwoord

      Groot post Trip.
      Ek het probleme met die lees van jou blog op my selfoon. Die bladsye lyk vaste verhinder links-regs te blaai en woorde aan die einde van elke lyn lyk afgesny van my skerm sodat ek kan soms nie sin vir 'n paar sinne te maak. Ek is nie seker of dit is 'n probleem met my leser of dalk 'n tegniese punt in die opstel van die blog se. Wou net om dit op te pas Incase iets bring kan gedoen word vanaf jou einde.
      Dankie.
      Bly geseënd.

    • Mariaantwoord

      My dogter is lief vir jou musiek. eintlik, Ek moet erken; ek doen ook:). Toe sy my die eerste keer aan musiek toer saam met ons ander gunsteling, lacris) Ek was net so bly vir jou Goddelike invloed via jou musiek. Maar ek gebly het ietwat waarskuwing. Wonder of jou musiek gemanifesteer jou karakter. Lees dit Ek is daarvan oortuig dat jy 'n Goddelike man. Ek bid nog vele seëninge vir jou en jou pragtige vrou en pragtige seun. persoonlik praat, en in 'n tyd waar daar is so baie gedoen wat verkeerd, etnisiteit is net dat. Een daarvan is werklik bevoorreg om 'n vrou te hê (as jy 'n man) wat Jesus liefhet en dien Hom reg langs kant van jou.

    • Adam Cravenantwoord

      AMEN!!! Ek het nog nooit regtig verstaan ​​hoekom sommige mense oor die hoof gesien 'n toegewyde vrou bloot omdat hulle nie inpas in een van hul voorkeure. Ek het 'n suster wat amper sit 'n voorkeur voor geluk. Sy het uiteindelik tot die wonderlike Woord van God en bid daaroor en gebid en uiteindelik het sy haar antwoord en ek nou 2 niggies en 'n groot God vrees broer-in-wet!! Jy moet nooit jou voorkeure sit voor God, want elke keer as iemand hulle basies spoeg in die gesig van God en my voorkeure voordat jy!!

  2. Carinaantwoord

    As God lei, ons moet volg. Ek dink die Bybel praat ons almal een ras, eerste van Adam en Eva dan later almal afstammelinge van Noag. Dit kan duisende neem jare en honderde generasies om terug te kry, maar ons het alles begin vanaf dieselfde plek. een ras, baie etniese groepe.

  3. Brittaantwoord

    Ek stem heeltemal! Voordat ek my man ontmoet het ek altyd verkies skoon geskeer rooi koppe, maar dan het ek David. Hy was 'n kaal man met 'n bokkie lank genoeg vir my om braid! Hy was / is alles wat God my dit beloof het ek in 'n man, maar as ek was net op soek na 'n sekere voorkoms sou ek gemis het op die beste ding wat God vir my het!

  4. David Bantwoord

    Ek waardeer dit. Ek kan nie wag til die praktiese, dit is hoe ons die genade doen in die alledaagse, boek is cowritten deur Trip en Jessica!

  5. Enanantwoord

    Baie dankie reis vir hierdie wonderlike artikel. Om eerlik te wees met jou, Ek was 'n bietjie verbaas toe ek uitgevind het oor ras jou vrou se. maar, Ek glo dat God se planne vir ons lewens, nie altyd ooreenstem met wat ons verwag of wil. so, hierdie artikel het my aangemoedig om te bid en kry my motiewe reg; so wanneer die regte persoon nie kom saam my pad, God-gewillige, Ek is gereed. Dankie dat jy weer bro. Lief vir jou en jou fam in Jesus. God seën.

  6. Rachelantwoord

    Sjoe. Ek is dankbaar vir jou oop en eerlike hart oor hierdie onderwerp, want ek is seker dit is nie genoeg aangespreek! Ek en my man is dieselfde “ras” maar ek kan dit dieselfde omstredenheid oor dom dinge sien soos iemand se sosiale status (watter soort werk wat hulle het), as hulle kinders, wat hulle verlede was, ongeag die weer dit is in Christus of nie. Ek weet vir 'n feit sou ek my man het getroud nie saak sy ras, status, of agtergrond. God se liefde en genade is meer as alles en maak dit al die nuwe en 'n pragtige. En soos jy sê, Hy weet wat ons meer nodig as ons onsself doen. Dankie vir hierdie post!!

  7. Crystalantwoord

    absoluut pragtig. Ek is lief vir dat jy genoem hoe jou voorkeure verander wanneer jou prioriteite verander. God is awesome, Hy het die heel beste vir elkeen van ons, maar ons moet uit ons eie manier te kry sodat ons kan sien, ontvang en waardeer hulle. Ek is 'n swart vrou wat nie minder kan omgee ras. My gebed is om mense te sien soos God hulle sien en loop in Sy wil. Dis dit. Hy is ons Skepper, wie is ons rassisties te wees?

  8. takbokkeantwoord

    Groot blog wat mense nodig het om te lees. Ek is Libanese Armenian en my man is swart en ons het in die en gaan deur 'n baie hartseer uit my familie.
    Ek het nog nooit 'n voorkeur van etnisiteit het. Voordat ek gered het ek 3 ernstige verhoudings van verskillende etnisiteit en nadat ek gered en gegroei in my verhouding met Christus was dit alles oor wie ek is “genoem” te wees met; wat God het “geordende” vir my.
    Grootword dit was nie soseer 'n voorkeur, maar 'n vereiste by my familie te trou binne my etnisiteit maar ek het nie omgegee; Ek was altyd beskou as die swartskaap in elk geval…
    Vir my is al wat saak maak, is wat die Here se wil is vir my lewe en wanneer my man aan my geopenbaar het ek so 'n vrede en so 'n wete dat ek staan ​​my grond. Ons is nog steeds bid vir harte my familie se te versag, maar op die ou end al wat saak maak is dat ek in God se wil en Sy pad en daar is nie waar anders ek wil be..I is veilig in Sy wil.

  9. Michaelantwoord

    Dit was 'n groot post Trip. Ek het nog nooit gevoel belangstel in my eie etnisiteit, Spaans, maar as ek meer in my geloof het gegroei het dit meer duidelik geword vir my dat velkleur maak nie saak soveel. Dit is verfrissend om te lees en ek dank God dat Hy jou so 'n groot vrou te help om voort te gaan Hom te verheerlik. Dankie vir die inspirasie in al jou boodskappe!

  10. Jarredantwoord

    My vrou en ek is wit mense. Die Here gestoot ons in aanneming vir ons eerste kind. In daardie proses wat jy kan kies wat jy wil hê. Dis amper soos die pluk uit 'n hondjie. In elk geval een van die keuses wat jy kry om te maak is vir ras. Ons het nie 'n probleem met enige ras, egter, waar ek vandaan kom hulle haat swartmense. So het verkies ons om nie 'n swart kind as gevolg van hulle en die manier aan te neem dat hulle sou behandel word wanneer ons het hulle terug na my ouma en oupa sien. Ek het al dikwels in die worsteling met daardie keuse. Het ons doen die regte ding? Is ons kind te beskerm teen wat haat, of is ons speel God in ons eie lewens? Ons is gemaklik met daardie keuse nou, want dit is oor, maar wat dink jy?

    • Deedeeantwoord

      Jarred-

      Ek lees jou post… Ek is swart, en is aangeneem deur my ouers wat wit. Selfs die regter wat die saak hanteer is swart. Ma en Pa was senuweeagtig, want ons in 'n gebied waar ek en een van my ander aangeneem broers en susters kan nie gewees het as bewaak van vooroordele se mense woon. Dit gesê, hulle vertrou God, en nooit teëgekom situasies van kommer.

      Ek dink en glo dat jy en jou vrou het wat die beste vir jou familie. Elke situasie is uniek en God gee vir ons 'n mate van genade aan die lewe se klein en groot oomblikke navigeer. aangemoedig! Wie weet, miskien sal jy die kans om aan te neem weer kry en kies 'n swart (of ander etnisiteit) kind! God het geweet julle harte dan, en hy weet dit selfs in hierdie oomblik.

    • CECEantwoord

      Jared,
      Ek kom uit 'n familie waar my wit ouers het aangeneem 6 swart kinders. Ek dink dit is baie eerlik vir julle almal om waarlik erken dat die aanneming van buite jou ras beteken dat jy baie doelgerig wees oor sodat jou kind om hul kultuur te ervaar, en verken hulle swartheid. As God jou werklik geroep het om na te streef verhoging van 'n swart kind, dan moet dit nie so maklik wees om jou familie invloed jy uit daardie besluit. Maar, die vrae gevra moet word, is die besluit om meer te neem oor my, of die kind wat moet 'n huis? Sou ek kan aansien die teenreaksie van vriende en familie wat kom met die aanneming van 'n kind buite my ras? Ek verwag dat die kind aan die orde gestel in 'n manier dat hulle dwing om op te gee wie hulle is om 'n lid van my familie wees? Ek sal ruimte vir my kind in staat wees om te worstel deur hul identiteit van die lewe tussen wêrelde? Word die samelewing opgestel in n manier wat meer die belang van my om wit persoon bevoordeel te neem oor die ware behoeftes van die kind? Hoe etiese is hierdie aannemingsproses?
      Aanneming van 'n kind beteken 'n hele ingesteldheid verskuiwing, en fisiese ontwortelden as die omgewing wat jy is in nie u kind se behoeftes ten gunste van. Verhoudings moet gebou word met diegene wat kom uit 'n perspektief wat jy nooit ten volle kan aanklank vind by (synde swart). Ons leef in 'n rassistiese wêreld, en dit het so bewus van jou en die kind wat jy in te samel wat gemaak moet word. As jy verkies om nie te erken dat, dan is jy op baie maniere doen 'n slegte diens aan jouself en die kind wat jy neem. Aanneming is nie oor jou kry om die arm swart kind te red. Dit gaan oor wat jy uit 'n plek van liefde word gemotiveer en werklik uit te leef die hart van die evangelie te versoen en is lief vir jou naaste. Dit gaan nie oor wat jy, as 'n wit persoon.
      In baie opsigte dit is net 'n paar vrae wat jy nodig het om te konfronteer. As jy nie gereed is om hierdie en soveel meer verduur, dan nie die aanneming van 'n swart kind was waarskynlik 'n goeie besluit. Ek gepos 'n artikel onder wat jou toelaat om hierdie dinge in 'n dieper manier bevraagteken deur te nooi ras in die dialoog en kry 'n kykie van geadopteerden en hul ervarings.
      Nie elke storie is 'n suksesverhaal en dikwels diegene is nie die stories gehoor. Ek is bevoorreg om my ervarings en my familie. In baie maniere, Ek is toegestaan ​​met baie moontlikhede te verken wat ek met baie geleenthede, egter, Ek weet dat dit kom met 'n koste en ons moet ruimte laat vir wat word gepraat oor.

      http://colorlines.com/archives/2013/08/gazillion_voices_explores_race_and_identity_in_adoption.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+racewireblog+%28Colorlines.com%29&utm_content=FaceBook

  11. Karaantwoord

    HAHA! “My belangrikste voorkeur was dat my vrou wees goddelike, en Jessica was. So ek wifed haar.” Beste lyn in die blog. Bly God lei jou na 'n groot vrou. :)

  12. John Evangelieantwoord

    Hi Trip!
    Lang tyd leser & luisteraar. Eerste keer opmerkings. Ek is regtig lief vir hierdie artikel.
    My familie is Nigeriese, en my pa het my 'n ewekansige teks een Dinsdagoggend by 4:00 sê “As jy wil om te trou, maak seker sy iemand uit dieselfde agtergrond as jy. by die meeste, dieselfde land.”
    Natuurlik, Ek het nie geweet wat om te sê, want ons het nog nooit hierdie bespreek voor. #ongemaklike.
    Ek weet dat ek sal hou van my vrou, wanneer ek gereed, ongeag gelaatskleur, rassige agtergrond, taalgrense, en enige ander moontlike verskille. Die belangrikste ding vir my is dat sy 'n integrale deel van my familie – God se familie. Dis genoeg.
    Weereens dankie!

  13. vriendeantwoord

    Dankie dat jy jou hart Trip. Ons is almal dieselfde wanneer ons die vel te stroop. God het elkeen ewe en uniek geskape na sy spesiale ontwerp. God seën jou en jou gesin.

  14. JoshHaanantwoord

    Niks verkeerd soos jy gesê Trip oor trou iemand van 'n ander ras. Wat belangrik is, is dat wat jy ooit of ek trou wat hulle is lief vir Jesus (Mark 12:30 ESV) en dat hulle sal is lief vir jou terug en dat ons is lief vir haar soos God die Kerk liefhet. God seën jou ingepak en jou gesin

  15. MichaelJantwoord

    Awesome uiteensetting van hoe die Here is voortdurend aan die verander die “oë van ons hart” in lyn te bring met die “oë van ons kop”. Ek kan verband hou met die uitdagings, selfs al het ek nog nie is getroud, omdat 'n godvresende vrou wat 'n begeerte om tevrede te stel het haar Verlosser is belangriker as enige uiterlik kenmerk. Baie geluk met julle almal is jare en mag God voortgaan om die res te seën.

  16. Arthur simuchileantwoord

    Ons het almal dieselfde pa maar verskillende moeders dieselfde bloed van Jesus loop in ons,vel is net vel,maar wat binne ons die meeste saak maak ,wonderlike mnr Trip Lee.may God seën jou en jou gesin vir jou wonderlike inspirasie.

  17. deidreBakerantwoord

    Sjoe! Ek het nie geweet jy getroud was en dat sy 'n wit vrou, as 'n swart vroue en 'n vrou van God, Geluk met die vind van ware liefde! Ek hou van hoe jy verduidelik hoekom jy jou vrou getroud, en jy het regtig nie te hê, maar jy storie is ongelooflik! so na jou broer en jou pragtige vrou Jessica, Ek wens julle baie jare! Wees geseënd!

  18. Elizabethantwoord

    hallo Trip,

    Jy maak 'n uitstekende punt! Ek het leer uit jou artikel dat dit maak nie saak oor die velkleur, maar wat belangrik is, is hoe die persoon loop met God en hulle hart!! Dankie vir die deel 'n pragtige storie.

  19. Jimmy Sorrellsantwoord

    Dit maak perfekte sin. Wat nie sin maak is rassisme. Want daar is net een ras, rassistiese te wees is om te wees teen die mensdom. Daar is verskillende bevolkingsgroepe maar net een ras, maar dit lyk na 'n verlies van argument met mense wat ek het dit bespreek met selfs al is sy die waarheid wees.

  20. JeffreyCravensantwoord

    “Ek wou nooit my voorkeure waarde vir 'n vrou meer as wat ek nodig het in 'n vrou.”

    So 'n ware en diepgaande verklaring. My pa is swart, ma is wit, hulle is getroud 35 jaar. En 'n paar rowwe jaar te maar in die middel van die konflikte, “velkleur” beslis nie saak. Die Here het genadig en getrou.

    Trip, hierdie post is verfrissend bro. Ek is 'n week weg van die viering van my eerste jaar van die huwelik 'n Goddelike vrou wat my uitdaag daaglikse met haar medelye. Sy het ook gebeur van Latyns wees, Franse en Hawaiian ordentlike. So lesing hierdie is hoog op prys gestel.

    Weereens dankie, Jeff.

  21. WALTERantwoord

    Ek voel dieselfde dink buite die boks ek so bruinerig is ek wil nie trou in my ras nie ek het my redes ek hou van ander vorme van vroue

  22. Michelleantwoord

    Dankie vir die deel en lig te werp op hierdie. of wit, swart, ens wat jy het gepraat oor wat werklik belangrik is. Die gees van rassisme het ons verhinder om 'n lang tyd in 'n baie gebiede. Ek glo dat ons tog deur te breek. God seën jou & jou groeiende gesin.

  23. Bachizzleantwoord

    Ek het 'n gedagte, Ek is 'n inheemse Amerikaanse ( Indiese) Ek sien dit hoe jy en doen trip. Ek studeer aan Suider-sem. en mense vra my wanneer gaan jy trou? Ek reageer met “wanneer die tyd reg is en ek is reg”. Ek doen hou my oë oop en ek sê “Ek wil 'n goddelike vrou wat so in liefde sal wees met Jesus wat sy Sy woord sal eer”. En die ras kwessie nie opkom nie, maar ek sê dit is moeilik om 'n vrou wat Jesus vereer vind is woord wat inheemse Amerikaanse soos ek as gevolg van die kulturele aspekte en invloede van pentecostal isme en matriarchial stelsel in inheemse Amerikaanse kultuur. Dankie vir jou woorde

  24. Krihantwoord

    Ek geniet die lees van hierdie pos Trip. Ek is 'n groot fan van jou, maar ek hou van die feit dat jy oop oor die kwessie van ras is. eerlik, ras behoort nie saak wanneer dit kom by wat ons trou. Die enigste ding wat moet saak is as hulle 'n Christen, en as hulle is in lyn met die wil van God vir jou lewe. Buite die noodsaaklikhede, ras of velkleur is net 'n verskil in die manier waarop ons kyk. Ek het buite my ras gedateer. Ek is swart en my ex is Koreaanse / Wit. Dit was nog nooit 'n probleem vir ons, maar ek onthou tye wanneer ons ons staar van ander. Dit was 'n interessante ervaring, maar nie een van die negatiwiteit (wat nie veel was) sou my stop dating iemand anders buite my etnisiteit of hulle trou. Dit was nog nooit 'n probleem met my, my familie of vriende. Die punt is, Ons het almal ons voorkeure, maar ons moet fokus op dit wat God wil vir ons lewens eerste. Lekker om te sien dat hierdie gesprek is positief.

  25. vonkelantwoord

    Ek God dat jy die artikel geskryf het bedank omdat as 'n enkele Christen vroue, Ek verstaan ​​hoe belangrik dit is heeltemal oop vir wat God sê om te wees, insluitend wat hy toelaat om in te kom om jou lewe en selfs neem daaruit. Ek is dankbaar vir die stelling wat jy gemaak “Ons moet ons begeertes aan wat God wil hê dat ons in 'n eggenoot”. Dit binne homself help my om my manier van dink en wis af te sluit ten einde te fokus op wat God wil vir my en my lewe. Ek is swart en het swart mans preferenced; egter God is besig met my hart in daardie gebied sedert ek begin om hom te soek in verband met 'n goddelike man. Dink oor hoe baie mense eintlik kies die verkeerde persoon om te trou of selfs misloop wat God het vir hulle net as gevolg van hulle op beperkings / voorkeure. groot artikel! Dit het werklik my geseën en ek is seker so baie ander.

  26. skaatsplankantwoord

    Om uit die Suid-en biracial, Ek het gehandel oor konflikte oor veelrassige dating baie. Ek kan gaan van 'n pragtige kind van God met wat sommige beskou as 'n fout of 'n neerhalende term. Preciate jy praat op hierdie! Hoop dat my man is as die aanvaarding van my as jy en jou vrou was van mekaar! 116!

  27. JONantwoord

    Goeie post ek dink dat baie van die tye is dit nie noodwendig dat ons verkies om 'n sekere kleur of etniese agtergrond, dit is wat jy gebruik om. Deur u 'n Christen en laat God om jou oë oop gevind jy jou goeie ding. Geluk bro.

  28. Daniel Troutmanantwoord

    Ek dink dit is cool en intelligente van jou om hierdie post te skryf. Dit help mense wat liefde nie weet triviale kategorieë soos ras of nasionaliteit. 1 Kor 13 niks oor ras sê; dit praat oor geduld, nederigheid, en wysheid. Big ups vir die groot post!

  29. salantwoord

    Reg so! Dit is 'n seën. Ek het gevra, gesien teleurgesteld gesigte, en Ek het mense hoor praat hoekom / hoe ek vereffen of geword “geklopte”. Ek bid vir 'n Godvresende vrou en Hy My gestuur het haar. Ek is lief vir my vrou wat gebeur wit te wees (Ek is swart). sy & ons kinders is my grootste seën van God en ek wil nie hê dit enige ander manier. Dankie vir jou oop eerlikheid. Die liefde doen transendeer alle.

    Trots op 116!

  30. grootantwoord

    Groot storie Trip en Geluk. Ek wens jy wil eksplisiete dat jou keuse van 'n vrou het niks te doen met iets verkeerd was saam met of ontbreek in 'n swart vrou gemaak het. Die storie laat 'n leemte op daardie gebied. ook, dit moet duidelik gestel word dat dit dalk jou keuse van 'n kerk en 'n skool sit jy in 'n posisie om rond minder swart vroue wees. Baie swartes woon as minderhede in al areas van die samelewing en dit het 'n uitwerking op dieselfde ras huwelike. Ek persoonlik sou graag swart vroue met gehalte swart mans sien, maar ek kan nie argumenteer met wat God saamgevoeg het. Beste wense aan jou en jou gesin b

  31. Seanantwoord

    My vrou & Ek is wit… ons het 3 wit kinders en 1 Afrikaanse seun (Ethiopië). Ons kry 'n paar van die dieselfde vrae en vreemde staar, maar ons weet dat ons is deur God ingestel om 'n gesin te wees!
    Ek waardeer jou eerlikheid en openheid aan God se wil vir jou lewe… wat ek dink is die belangrikste punt van jou artikel – Op soek na God se wil eerder as ons eie voorkeur!
    Hierdie Bybelse konsep kan wees “kopieer & geplak” om elke aspek van 'n gelowige lewe… en moet!

    Dankie Tripp!

  32. JHollaantwoord

    Trip,
    Ek verwelkom jou vir jou bereidwilligheid om te deel jou “redes” vir trou buite ras. My eerste gedagte, as 'n man getroud met 'n Asiatiese vrou, is die rede waarom jy voel die behoefte om dit te regverdig vir ALMAL. Natuurlik, myn en my vrou se’ velkleur is soortgelyk, ons agtergronde en opvoeding is so ver van mekaar, enigiemand kan sê “waarom het jy haar trou?”Soos jy genoem, jou vrou, is, die vrou, DIE eggenoot, die ander (As my vrou lees, “bETER”) helfte wat Hy voorsien. God bring diegene in ons lewens wat ons nodig het om te hê, ten einde ons uitdaag om ons beter te maak. So, wat as iemand verskyn anders as my aan die buitekant. Hou van jou, Ons moet almal op soek na diegene met 'n God soek hart wat die mooiste eienskap kan 'n mens in besit neem.

  33. metantwoord

    groot post. Om eerlik te wees ek glo dat baie meer Christene veral enkele Christen vroue (myself ingesluit) sou trou of kon gewees het vroeër getroud as ons ontslae geraak van sommige van ons vlak idees. Net onlangs het ek het begin om God bid ek wil ur beste. Ons het aan ons Hemelse Vader vertrou dat hy weet wat ons nodig het. My belangrikste ding is ek wil 'n man wat God vrees en ek hou van hoe u gesê dat belangrikste ding vervang ras alhoewel God ons sal seën met die begeertes van ons hart. Groot post N God seën

  34. Nicoleantwoord

    Groot taak van nie net jouself uit te druk, maar om dit te doen op 'n manier wat ander sal verstaan. Wanneer ons begin om ons perspektief verander op lewe in die algemeen, Ons sal 'n baie van wat ons sien “verwag” het niks te doen met die wil van die Vader. Hoe nader ons aan Hom, die meer en meer ons “verwagtinge” verander omdat hulle begin om in lyn met sy wil en nie ons eie. God seën jou en jou gesin. Hou doen wat jy doen my broer in Christus. Swart, wit of pers, kleur speel geen rol wanneer dit kom by die liggaam van Christus verenig. Ek is geseën met 'n wonderlike man van God, wat gebeur met my dieselfde etnisiteit wees, maar meer as enigiets wat hy is 'n man na God se hart wat al wat saak maak in my boek.

  35. Andreaantwoord

    Dankie Trip! Dit is regtig het my denke oor my eie voorkeure en hoe by tye Ek het 'n armlengte van 'n paar goeie here gehou net cos ek het nie ag hulle aantreklik. Punte na kwessies van trots. Maar regtig bemoedig deur die kommentaar ondersteun veelrassige verhoudings. Ek wens my familie gedeel hierdie sienings. As ek trou met 'n swart man, dit sal nie maklik wees nie.

  36. Jasonantwoord

    Ek dink dit is wonderlik dat jy kyk verby kleur en etnisiteit vel. Ek kan dit nie verdra as mense hou aan wat en wil om te bly in hul wedloop vir een of ander rede. Ons is mense met verskillende skakerings van vel al wat geraak word deur die sonde. My meisie is Spaans en ek is swart, maar ek kyk nooit na haar en sien 'n Spaanse vrou, Ek kyk na haar en sien net 'n vrou, ongeag van kleur of etnisiteit vel.

  37. MrsHendrixantwoord

    Amen. Ek is geseënd deur jou reaksie. Sodra ons 'n verhouding met Christus, Sy wil raak ons ​​wil en Sy wil was vir jou as vrou jou vrou lol…. (indien dit maak selfs sin). Hy ontwerp haar spesiaal vir jou in andersom. Sy vang waarskynlik 'n baie Flack vir trou met 'n “swart” dude, maar die Here het presies geweet wat die van julle albei nodig. Soek hom eerste en alle dinge sal vir julle bygevoeg word (insluitend die reg eggenoot).

    Bly Geseënde broer en voortgaan om 'n seën vir ander te wees, asook.

  38. Leilani Baileyantwoord

    God seën jou Trip Unie.
    Dankie vir die deel van jou persoonlike ervaring.
    Gode ​​huweliksverbond nie bestaan ​​uit kleur of ras. Sy ewige Liefde oorskry nie..

  39. Stacyantwoord

    So bly jy hierdie gepos. As die produk van 'n bi-rassige huwelik en die vrou van 'n man wat nie weerspieël een van hulle :) hierdie onderwerp is baie real vir my. God het my geseën uitermate met my man, en dit pyn my om te dink daar is diegene daar buite wat sal weier wat God vir hulle as gevolg van hulle eie onkunde / rassisme.
    gunsteling lyn: “So ek wifed haar.” lol!

  40. Natalieantwoord

    Wat 'n groot artikel, and Im glad that there are people out there like you who are opening up the conversation about a subject like this and being real with it, because there always seems to be a stigma attached to interracial relationships.

    I’m Chinese and my husband is black, and the struggles we’ve encountered along our journey together have been tough and a real test. We got married young just like you and your wife, ek was 21 en hy was 24. Ons het 2 daughters together, and when Im out alone with them, I’ll get stopped in the street and strangers would be likeis the daddy black?”

    Most of all the struggle has been with my family, because they never thought that I’d marry a black man. We had a small wedding and over half of my family refused to come. But God is amazing because through all of that, my mum’s faith was tried and tested, mindsets within my family had been changed. My husband is accepted now, and my mum would acknowledge him as her son in law now (which is a huge deal for us!) There’s still some way to go, but so much has progressed that I give all glory to God. Keep it up Trip, you’re an inspiration to others and I pray that God will continue to bless you, your family and your ministry.

    PS: You need to come down to perform in London, UK some time!!

  41. LoganSharpantwoord

    Very well said. My wife is hispanic, I’m white. Race never came into the thought for me for very much what you said when you met your wife; I saw my wife’s passion for God, her desire to minister to students and we enjoyed a lot of the same movies and music and prayed for each other during dating. I don’t get why people think interracial marriages areweird”.

    Thanks for sharing that with your fans and giving encouragement.

  42. Natashaantwoord

    Dit was awesome! Thank you for sharing trip. God’s love has no particular preference but deliverance. Youre story was a blessing.

  43. LeonMartinezantwoord

    Beautiful testimony! Honestly this spoke to me and though I’ve never had racial preference or anything like that, it still reassured to me that God will provide what we NEED, not necessarily want. You’re a true inspiration and living testimony of the life-changing power of God. God Bless you and your beautiful little fam!

  44. Reewantaeantwoord

    Wonderful article, Trip! First time commenter here!

    You are so on point when you say, “Ek wou nooit my voorkeure waarde vir 'n vrou meer as wat ek nodig het in 'n vrou.” soms, I feel overlooked as a female because my personality and temperament are a certain way. I’m what you might callweird” of “differentaccording to many people I know. Some guys like a girl who’s a little more into mainstream fashion or someone who’s a little more social and outspoken than I am. At other times, I think that maybe I’m making myself less available by my own little discriminating ideas. Those ways aren’t based on race, but more on someone’s background or their mode of transportationbecause I ride the bus to school, and I don’t appreciate it when a guy tries to flirt with me on public transportation. (The idea is that if as a man riding the bus or train, you can’t afford to get a car and drive one, you have little money or are spending it on the wrong things, and therefore have no business trying to talk sweet to me. lol… but this is also wrong.) I’m praying that the Lord help me to stay in His will for my life, so that when the time comes for that certain someone to find thegood thing,” I’ll be ready. :)

    God seën, Bro.

  45. Juniantwoord

    I totally agree that race should be one of those open hand preferences, but I don’t agree that it, or other ‘preferencesare meaningless when dealing with conflict. Ongelukkig, in my experience, what I felt was an open hand preference, and surrendered it in favor of the Godly man before me,became a serious source of tension in my marriage, many years later, when my husband gained alot of weight, on top of what I already considered was an overweight frame. I had always been attracted to more athletic types, so when I was faced with even more weight gain, ek erken, I was sexually turned off. That led to conflict, and the conflict made my preference become a mountain. Instead of being a simple physical preference I put aside in favor of the bigger picture of the wonderful man of God he is, the conflict we were having about me not being enthusiastic about sex, sparked feelings that I ‘gave upsomething that was tangibly important and necessary, and now was faced with having to be a dutiful and loving sexual partner to someone I could not respond to physically. Only God’s grace has brought us through thus far, maar, honestly, his body is still a major turn off, and I still wish I had hung on to my preference and waited for someone who fit my physical type, as well as my need for a Godly husband

  46. SheilaTurnerantwoord

    As a multi-raced individual, I have raised my children to look at the character of an individual when choosing a boyfriend/girlfriend and less about color of skin. Because of that they have dated people from all races and have been exposed to many cultures. My comment has always been as long as they treat them with respect and love them, who am I to tell you that you can’t be with that someone based on skin color.

    I have to say that my favorite part of this blog is this statement right here, “Ek wou nooit my voorkeure waarde vir 'n vrou meer as wat ek nodig het in 'n vrou.”

    That right there sums it up!!!!

  47. Ericantwoord

    Good news! She isn’t evenwhite”! And you aren’t even “swart” Trip. Those terms are bunk. Praise God we are all of the one Adamic race. Even though we are different ethnicities, we are reconciled in Christ! Amen bro. Good article. One Blood. One Son.

  48. Jessicaantwoord

    Ontsagwekkende! Thanks for writing this. You are such an encouragement, and I praise God there are godly couples like you and your wife out there. ook, I’m sure that together, you are able to reach a lot more people than you would be able to apart. Keep reppin Jesus.

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  50. Leesaantwoord

    This was so awesome to read! baie bemoedigende. I myself have dealt with the disppointing and rasist comments. My husband is white and I am black. We both come from to totally diffrent worlds. I never thought I would marry outside my race. I even vainly prayed that God would seen me a black man with dreads lol. But I thank God he knew what was best for me and blessed not with just a white man but my king on earth! Since we’ve been married I have truly understood what it means to love in these earthly bodies. Not to tell all our biz but we have been struggling with fertility issues and I thank God for my husband because he has continued to encourage me. We love your music and your ministry. God seën jou en jou gesin!

  51. kaileybrownantwoord

    Ek is wit, and my husband is black. When i introduce him most people wait until he leaves to sayhe isnt what i expected!!” it used to make me mad. soos, who are you to judge my marriage. Now i just shrug and sayhe wasnt what i expected either, but i know 100% that he is the one God sent to meits nice to know your aproach. And just know your true fans know why she is your wife.

  52. Taylorantwoord

    ****TRIP LEE****

    Daardie “martinComment has me rolling on the floor Laughingbut I definitely feel this entire Blog!! Man looks on the Outside and God looks at the heart. My wife often quotes that A womans heart should be so hidden in God. That a man has to seek him in Order to really Find her

  53. jakeantwoord

    All who have been baptised into Christ have put on Christ, there is neither Jew nor Greek, Scinthian nor Barbarian. This is the truth revealed in holy writ, egter, many a believer still haveunrenewedminds that’s. Why ethnicity is still an issue. I will continue to grown in birth pangs until Christ be formed in us all.

  54. Leesaantwoord

    I am not married yet but a lot of my cousins are and they are married to people from different races from all around the world. It’s so cool that families can be made of so many different skins colors. I think interracial marriages are so beautiful because they remind us that we are all His children EQUALLY and beautifully created. The Lord looks at the heart and so should we as humans in friendships and romantic relationships.

  55. IAMDJLADYJantwoord

    This inspired and blessed me in so many ways. I love to see interracial couples/marriages! It’s always been my desire as a black woman to marry outside my race. I look forward to the day I meet my spouse knowing he was hand picked and designed for me! We have to get to that place above all else where we turn to God and accept all He has for us. Sure it’s OK to ask or tell God what u want or like. Dig this He already knows. Better yet He knows what’s best for us. So we have to be mindful of what we ask or pray for. What u want is not always what u need! Trust God make your petitions known and allow Him to do what He do!

  56. AmandaBantwoord

    I’m really glad you married Jessica. She is an amazing person with an amazing heart. You two have an amazing influence on people as a married couple who are in love with each other and Jesus. Just thank you so much for looking at the heart and not the color on the face.

  57. Paulaantwoord

    Trip, all i can say is excellent, words can’t express the joy in having you share with such transparency about why you married your wife, This is really going to help those see from another perspective and who maybe pursuing marriage in the future. God truly knows what’s best for us. May the lord continue bless your family!

  58. dmoneyantwoord

    Trip, thank you for preaching the truth to the misinformed and to me personally. though i am black im always pictured myself with someone of a different race. but i God has been slowly dealing with me to be accepting of all races and that the important thing is his heart reflects that of Christ. Thats what matters the most. Plus you have the full love and support of my home church. we are full of biracial couples and mixed kids. plus i have so many mixed friends that there overrunning the country lol. im proud of you for standing up and telling the world what they need to hear :)

  59. SPantwoord

    I enjoyed reading this post, Trip. It hits close to home. I am also in an interracial marriage. I am black (Jamaican, Native American, the ancestry can go on) and my husband is hungarian, german, etc.—so he’s white. I always knew I wouldn’t marry a black guy and I didn’t know what race my future husband would be. So just like you, I went to college not wanting to date but to grow as a Christ-follower and get an education and I met and fell in love with a special young white male.

    When we started dating, a few months in we knew we would get married some day and we did just that a few years later. I was privileged enough to grow up in a diverse area and have family members who were also in interracial relationships so, his skin color never phased me. I saw him for who he was; a godly man whose heart was full of love, humility and kindness. He looked past my skin color as well, looking at my heart and seeing me for who I am on the inside. There is no doubt that God brought us together. I couldn’t have hand-picked a better husband for myself on any given day. Ja, I may have had my preferences too as to what I wanted my husband to be, but truth is, God truly did give me so much more than I deserve and so much more that I never knew I even wanted.

    There are times when being an interracial couple seems awkward in certain situations but last time I checked-we all bleed the same color.

  60. Jeffreyantwoord

    “Daar is niks noodwendig verkeerd met dat voorkeure, but we have to hold them with an open hand.Great quote in every vein of life!

  61. Melodyeantwoord

    I’m thankful for people who are willing to listen to God above society in all areas of life and allow their minds to be conformed to His will and His way. I think often we don’t even realize the box and parameters that we place on ourselves. My family was military so we’ve been colorblind for the most part all growing up. However in the South preferences and stereotypes reign supreme, oftenI even had a close guy friend in college tell me that I was the most beautiful, smart, amazing girl he’d ever known but he just never thought he’d date a ___( insert race here)___ girl. BROKE MY HEART. hah and I didn’t even like him in that way. I’m glad you allowed yourself to fall in love and are in turn obediently opening your story up to others.

  62. Jasonantwoord

    Numbers 12:1-11…No need to justify yourself to men bro, seek to show yourself approved unto the Lord. A pure heart & faithfulness towards the Lord Jesus will cancel any charge or words any man can spek against you.

  63. kangstawillzantwoord

    Yo trip u are the man.I will also do the same.lol.I will marry in the lord and skin colour race,e.t.c won’t matter as long as she a godly one.GOD bless u man.

  64. Lindseyantwoord

    Its so encouraging to read this. I’m white and my husband is black, and we live in a mostly hispanic neighborhood. Ons het 2 beautiful girls but as you can imagine we get alot of looks. Our own families can be pretty negative at times. But the most important thing we’ve learned is that even though there’s cultural differences (especially when it comes to raising the kids), the most important thing is to keep our hearts and desires with Jesus.

  65. FortuneLawrenceantwoord

    I’m so blessed by your post Trip!
    I have a question though. I am an African(swart) lady and I prefer white guys to black. That is mostly because I’m not so comfortable with some of the traditions in my home country. I must say, I love black men a lot but like I said, my country has some ridiculous beliefs. Would you say I’m wrong in making such preferences?

  66. Juliaantwoord

    Great article Trip. I love what you said about race not being an issue. I’m white or at least look it to most people. I was raised in a biracial homemy mom is Italian and Hispanic and my dad was white. I am currently dating a wonderful black man who doesn’t have an issue with me not being the same race as him. He sees me as beautiful. Black women on the other hand see me as a threat. They only see me as whiteif they only knew the truth. It shouldn’t matter what race you are all that matters is that 5he person u marry is a believer too. Thanks again for the article.

  67. Danielantwoord

    I used to use verses to discourage this kind of marriage. “Adam and Eve were most likely the same color / Samson’s dad wanted him to marry someone from the people of Israel / Isaac’s dad went to great lengths to find a wife from among ‘his peoplefor Isaac, ens…”

    My discussions on this topic were unkind, spotty and — quite frankly — baseless.

    And then God changed my heart and put me in a situation where I had no option but to lean on Him. He taught me what it is to trust in Him. And that’s when I started valuing those around me who also trust in Him. I drew closer to God’s people — regardless of culture background — and fell in love with His disciples because of the grace, faith and love they demonstrated.

    And that’s how this American ended up marrying a beautiful, godly Brazilian girl. It’s been 10 months and God has taught us both so much! It’s been a sweet relationship that has proved over and over again: God’s ways are best, when our conceptions are put to the test.

  68. Tracyantwoord

    I have always wondered how a child feels being mixed. I know for me I would want to be fully one race or the other. It wouldn’t matter which, Chinese, Eskimo, Indian etc. It is a question I have never heard addressed.

  69. ELVISNIXON.comantwoord

    groot post

    One caveat:
    Hungarians are Magyars. Magyars are lineal descendants of Attila the Hun (hence the term HUNgarian) who are often referred to as theMongolian hordes” -Attila is still one of the most popular boys names in Hungary- as is Arpad- therefore they are,tegnies, Asian.

    So you are even more diverse/multicultural than you thought!

  70. BrendaFantwoord

    That was awesome! Her race honestly didn’t even click to me until i saw this post. I am black and my husband is half black and white (although he looks hispanic) and i get jokes all the time from people saying that i don’t like black men. Oh and don’t let them see my kids. BOL! It’s always a double take. I have been married 7 years and it’s still funny to this day. God bless your family man!

  71. TamaraCantwoord

    Amen! Dankie! Your testimony goes all around the worldPeople need that. God seën jou!!
    Message from Germany, Europe!

  72. Keinyaantwoord

    I appreciate this post so much. I am in an interracial marriage as well and my husband and I both have stories about how people who may know us and feel like they know us pretty well somehow learn of what our spouse looks like or in my case sees a pic of my kids (because they could pass for his look alone until you know they are part black then you may catch certain little features) and immediately sees they must likely don’t have a black dad and that was their expectation. ook, my kids fluently speak another language so that really confuses people since our last name is Lawrence. There’s a story behind that too because he is of mixed race too (just not black). In elk geval, I love the fact that you touched on this because for some, it’s such a huge deal and even struggle as there are some strong racial influences and pressures in our world (media, our loved ones even, vriende, ens). My feelings are mutual to yours and many others who commented. Dankie!

  73. Keinyaantwoord

    Terloops, I LOVE the songGood Thingabout your wife. It’s really beautiful and makes me think of my own relationship. Thx for great music too! :)

  74. Jasonantwoord

    1 Samuel 16:7…The Lord judges by the heart, so why dont we? We should make what the Lord has said our standard, not what our flesh wants/neither the standards of this world. In hierdie geval, from a man’s perspective, the standard for a wife is Proverbs chapter 31, not skin tone/not the worldly standard of marrying inside your ownrace/ethnicity.

  75. Tonyantwoord

    I appreciate this because I’m African American and my wife is Hispanic. Her race was never a factor to me, because of her heart for the Lord. We now have a baby girl. When I look at my wife and daughter I don’t see a Hispanic woman, or a mixed baby. I just see the two biggest blessings in my life (apart from the Lord Jesus). Sometimes I even forget that we are an interracial couple and family. It’s not exactly easy all the time because of other people, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family!

  76. Andrewantwoord

    Trip, thank you so much for this. I’m white, and from Cincinnati and where i grew up I was usually the only white kid on the block. My wife had completely different upbringing. she grew up in rural Nebraska as a Mexican. I can’t even begin to explain some of the stories she would tell me that her and her brothers had to grow up with because of the hate, stereotypes, and flat out ignorance of the people she grew up with.

    She moved to the Nati to be close to me. She moved there thinking she would not have to put up with, hear, or experience the things she went through growing up. Sjoe, were we both shocked! The things people would say to us in the mall, at the park, or just out to eat. You would think we were on the show, “What Would You Do.It was a struggle, our love kept us strong, our friends had our back, and our God kept us together.

    We now have been married for 11 years have 4 beautiful children to show for it. We also now live in that same small rural town where she grew up. The hate is less, but the looks are still there. The thing we always say/do whenever we experience theseattackswe lift those who areattackingus up in prayer. The Bible talks about love your enemy as yourself, and though I don’t consider these people to be my enemies, the concept of the scripture is still the same.

    Love, we just need to show everyone love. No matter the race or background of a person, God loves them, and we are to be like Christ, so we too should love them.

  77. Takudzwaantwoord

    Wonderful article Trip lee. As for i’m still single but since i was little i had interest in marrying a white woman because two of my uncles got married to white women. When i got saved i didn’t see any difference between black or white but as long as we are practicing the same Faith.

  78. Andrew Almondantwoord

    Wonderful post Trip. I’ve been struggling a lot recently with dating questions such as who I should date, and when, and why, and how to wait on God through all that stuff recently, and this post was very insightful. Dankie dat U deel.

  79. Jennaantwoord

    wonderlike post! Trip, you have a beautiful family, and I thank you for sharing your heart. Although my husband and I are both white, we grew up very differently. He is a true country boy and self-proclaimed redneck. I have always felt more comfortable around black people, even as a small child. I was never opposed to marrying a white man, but my preferences were definitely geared toward men in the hip-hop culture. People often ask us how we ended up together, and most people are shocked to find out my husband is white. He isn’t what I had envisioned for myself growing up, but he is everything I needed in a husband and father for our kids. The Lord has truly blessed me, and I can’t imagine my life any other way!

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  81. RGantwoord

    No longer your heart or preference but what God has planned/willed. It’s amazing how God’s providence is revealed. I am Native American who grew up on a reservation and my husband is Mexican. We both grew up in different states yet we believed in the same Sovereign God who willed where he wanted us to serve HIM and made provision for us to meet. We now live near the reservation in my home state. I prayed (as a new Christian at the age of 8) that God would use me in my home church and I would never have known that God would grow me into a Pastor’s wife of this said church! tog, I’m blessed to know that this same powerful God who created the world could also use us to show other His great love and grace. To come along side my husband as his helper to share the gospel to my own people.

    This was a great encouragement to me. And it’s great to hear how God can change a heart to do His will! Continue to do His work!

    Thank you for the songs and the truths you incorporate. Our family enjoys your music. Especially my teenage sons.

  82. halfNhalfantwoord

    My husband is mexican, and I’m filipino. Ek weet 3 languages and learning a few more. My best friend is black and her husband is arabian. It is amazing to see a mixture of races at churches and even in groups.

    We really do just look at the content of one’s character. It’s neat to learn languages and see all of the beautiful cultures. In Christ there’s no Jew, Greek, Male nor female.

  83. mattantwoord

    One of my more embarrassing “voorkeure” looking back was for my wife to be a Denver Broncos fan.

    Gelukkig, God allowed me to grow in maturity before he brought my stunner to me.

  84. Mariaantwoord

    I’m white, I got pregnant, first year of medical school with a black mans baby. At three months pregnant, God sent me a frienda brown Indian man. We were both just starting our medical school careers. What I was about to do was crazy enough. When he told his parents about me they threatened to withdraw all support, his brothers refused to speak to me. After a year and a half we got married we are still in school, raising our son and still have people confused. God is so goed, at one of the most difficult times in my life, he gave me a friend, a godly man, to love me, all of me, my + baby. Heres to a real man. Heres to a very loving and gracious Father.

  85. Aleshia Robinsonantwoord

    This is hypocritical but when I see an interracial couple in public I think nothing of it EXCEPT for when I see a Black man with a non-Black girl. I don’t even flinch if its vice versa but I do know that being a Black man in this society is harder than most. I used to work in a hotel alongside Black men and while guests treated me with respect and believed I could do my job with excellence, they flipped the switch with my Black co-workers right in front of me. I could deliver towels to their room but the guests wouldn’t open the door for them. I could check guests in with ease but they were asked “Ek weet nie. Can you handle this?” I could stand outside on break without bother but the police stopped them to askWhat are you guys doing?” People judge and treat Black men differently and I haven’t figured out why. So when I see a Black man with anyone else, my first thought isHe is trying to make life easier on himself.My second thought isHe wants his kids to have her features.But hey, who am I to judge? (Even though I do) I will most likely marry outside my race simply because of my LOVE of adventure so like I said in the beginning, this point is just straight hypocritical. At least you married yours for the right reasons.

  86. Lynn Burgessantwoord

    I applaud Trip & Jessica Lee. Integration of the true church of Jesus Christ and “interracial” marriage within the church is the answer to racism in our culture. There is only one race, the human race, “male and female He created them…” (Genesis 5:2'n), and nowhere does scripture say to marry those of your same skin tone or eye shape.

  87. Tionaantwoord

    Thanks for the article! As a single black woman who loves God and seeks to live my life in a way that pleases him and reflects his love to others, I have prayed hard about this topic. The single men in the churches I have attended have mostly been non-black men. At times I feel like I am at the bottom of the totem pole, competing against the white, Asian and Hispanic women with long, flowing hair and features that I will never have. Even in looking through some of the Christian dating sites, I have noticed that a large percentage of the men with solid profiles indicate they are interested in pretty much all ethnicities except African-American.

    Your article was encouraging to me and spot on. I will trust God to provide in all areas of my life, including my relationships. Dankie!

    Thanks for your honesty!

  88. Grandmotherantwoord

    Many, many years ago when my oldest son was about 2, we were driving through a black section of town and he commented that all the people were black and asked why was everyone black. I tried to explain that a long time ago people thought it was better if all the white people lived in one area and all the black people lived in one area. I further said that now we know it doesn’t make any difference what color your skin is. Out of the mouth of babes……hy het gesê, “Ja, the important thing is that we got skin!”

  89. tendekaiantwoord

    marring a God fearing woman is the best you can ever do to have a happy family. well said trip what you want in a women is far more important than what she should look like.

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  91. Kailaantwoord

    I love that you were so open and honest with this post. I feel like the act of interracial marriage and dating is a topic people need be more open to discuss because in every generation I feel as though people have an issue with it. From my point of view I think it’s beautiful to see how love doesn’t discriminate.

    But I also think my openness toward it is because I have always grown up in a community where it wasn’t just one race and my parents never raised me to dislike anyone because of their skin. maar, I did experience some slack my junior year when I took my best friend, who was white, to prom because my paternal grandmother isn’t fond of white people. Maar, her reaction didn’t change my mind about who I should or shouldn’t date.

    I never had a preference on what race I dated. maar, when my family found out I had a boyfriend and he was black, they were surprised. They were surprised because my immediate family has been living in a predominately white area for the past 10 years and they thought that would sway my relationships.

  92. danielantwoord

    This was a very encouraging post. My wife is black/El Salvadorean. .. and I am a Korean man…. It is absolutely unheard of in Korean culture to marry outside of Korean race let alone a black/latina woman. As an odd interracial couple we have faced much adversity, but the only thing that mattered was Christ and our bond in Christ through friendship to courtship and now in our marriage.

    I never really post on things like this but this post did speak to me and confirm my resolve in how I council others who are in pursuit of finding a spouse in their ethnicity.

  93. Kevinantwoord

    I think this is an amazing story. I love how transparent you are because a lot of us try to hide things like wanting preferences, but i love how you said we have to submit them. I pray that God continues to show me things like this because I truly believe that it will help me to keep my heart and eyes on God and His Word and not just the appearance of the women around me.

  94. MJantwoord

    STELLAR! Than you for sharing your love story. jeug, college students and young adults are in DESPERATE need of such examples! I know because I’ve been having a blast talking about sex, dating and relationships with them since 2003. Will definitely be sharing with them at https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.

    God seën, Trip!

  95. zacharybrunotteantwoord

    I’m a white man with a black wife. We are still in our first year, but no regrets! We have our fist child on the way and we love our little family. Like Trip Lee, I pictured myself marrying a woman of my own race (I think its just natural). But I never once questioned it or thought of it to be “reg” of “wrong.She is of God. Thats the only race that I look at!!

  96. Jennantwoord

    Trip,

    I remember when you and Jessica first started dating! I remain encouraged to see you two continuing on in God’s grace. This was a great blog and I think it may be freeing for many people as they choose to look at the heart of the person rather than the outer.

    Jenn :)

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  98. Joelantwoord

    Amen broer

    Run hard and fast towards the savior and if you see someone, in the corner of your eye running in the same direction, you should take a second look

  99. Rachaelantwoord

    Absolutely love this! I’m sharing this with my parents. My parents have issues with the fact that I find myself interested in guys of a different race. Even though I have not always been interested in the most godly guys, there has been times when I was interested in a quite godly man, but because he was not white my parents completely dismissed and forbade any sort of relationship with them. I am definitely sharing this with them, hopefully this will open their eyes.

  100. Mauriceantwoord

    Never saw it that way. I’m not racist, but in my growing up, there was a notion they taught us in our culture that implied that white girls only love you and hate your family. They love to be closed in. So my grandparents always saidif you want us not to come to your wedding or not to pay you visits at your home, marry a white girl. Because she won’t allow us to get close to you.

  101. Abbyantwoord

    I agree trip lee
    I think that if you love her dearly and god approves I say why not

    I think it was Gods plan for you to meet Jessica !

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  103. Livyantwoord

    It’s funny. I’m white (part Hispanic, but no one would know by looking at me), and my husband is white, but he’s from the country and I’m from the city. He’s from the south, and I’m from the north. We aren’t THE SAME just because our skin tones are similar. We walk and talk and process things at different paces, and our families are really different, but we love each other, and God brought us together. Culturally, alhoewel, it takes adjusting for both of us. Daardie, along with being equally yoked to serve the Lord, is what marriage is all about! Glad you spoke up!

  104. Amandaantwoord

    Trip! First and foremost, your music is beautiful and awe inspiring. I love the message you preach in each and every single song. Continue the wonderful talent God has given you! Interracial relationships and marriages are absolutely gorgeous. It shouldn’t matter what race one is, but like you said, a Godly spouse. I am Caucasian, but have been attracted to African American men my whole life. My family is very, very, very accepting of this. :) Maar, I pray that God sends me the right one, who has gentlemen and godlike qualities. I yearn for a man who says they love Christ more than they love me, respectful, and sweet. This has opened my eyes though to be open to all races instead of just black. God Bless both you and Jessica!

  105. Terriceantwoord

    Dit was 'n groot artikel… i really enjoy reading your blog. Thanks for sharing your stories and being so transparent. The Lord is using you in so many wonderful ways! God seën!

  106. Schiaantwoord

    Sjoe, this article is awesome! Glory to God! Trip, you are a really good writer as well. I felt like I was reading a romance novel or something while reading your post. Lots of smiling andawwwwww!” LOL Thanks for being a godly influence on so many fronts.

  107. LeisleyAbrahamsantwoord

    Thanks Trip that’s the best way it has been explained to me ever!!My girl friend and I are praying and waiting on the Lord for the next step.I’m black full blonde African and She’s white..I’m always getting questions as to why i like her and not girls my skin but all i see in her is a godly woman on fire for Jesus, Loves Jesus more than she will ever love me and that’s something I need in my life..You truly inspired me #wiseWordsTrip #NoWonderYouMyFavRapper

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  109. AprilCantwoord

    I’m really glad that you took the time out to write this. This post is kind of random, never really thought about it (heck, I never even knew this page existed until today). Nonetheless, I’m glad you wrote itI think the part that sparked my interest the most was the whole preference issue. I was married to a man for 5 jaar (ons het 3 children together) who didn’t want to be married anymore because in his wordsI wasn’t his preference (he would often use a chocolate ice cream / vanilla ice cream analogy to attempt to prove his pointhis preference was a woman with a um….”lekker” bodyI’ll leave it at that). The crazy thing is he actually does Christian rap—(????). In elk geval, I’m glad to see that you went about the right wayputting God’s desires above your fleshly desires…..In elk geval, continue to Love your wife like Christ Loves the Church….I’ll keep you all in my prayers…..

    Sincerely,
    April C.
    Greenville NC

  110. ANDREantwoord

    Yep. Same reason i married a white girl. Dankie vir die deel. Good read. Gracefully put. God bless you and your family brother. Praise The Lord, foreal tho.

  111. Tgirlantwoord

    Wel, I think people are more shocked by the fact that the few GOOD BLACK men are wife-ing White women and not us MANY BLACK women. It’s sad that racial comments exist, but it just the way people feel, in especially, women- that are Black. I have double standards my boyfriend is Latino & I’m Black and that’s okay (for Black women to date outside of their race). On other hand, when I see a decent (which are very few) Black man with a White/Other woman, I be like DANG another one of our brothers gonenow that’s just speaking from the heart racism or not. dit is wat dit is.

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  113. Jeffantwoord

    hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult question. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. I only dated and had married a black women who I married more for obligation (kind) and cultural expectation than mutual interest. Since I had no relationship with God aside from occasional church visits I believe I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me. I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life. The point is the Kingdom as the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all.

  114. Jeffantwoord

    hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult topic. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. In the past I had dated and married a black women out of obligation (kind) and cultural expectation (gesin) than mutual affection. Since I had no relationship with God beyond church attendance, I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me.

    I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life and our desperate need for his grace. The Kingdom is the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all the nations. We will pray for your family and please pray for us too.

  115. kennedyantwoord

    I joined trip I never think I can get someone as some site always for lieying and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails but u can’t escape God’s plan thus was like exciting to me an I read it being back my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture only person love & care about herwho is mewith God all is possible she is my really choice.

  116. kennedyantwoord

    I joined trip I never think I can get someone honest as some site always for lier and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails to contact them but u can’t escape God’s plan this was like exciting to me and I read it being black my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture etconly person right person & care about herwho is mewith God all is possible she is my really choice.

  117. Ryanantwoord

    NEED ADVICE:
    I’m dating a girl who prefers black guysand I’m white. She assures me that she likes me a lot, but it’s still a huge insecurity to me. I hope to one day marry this girl. Is there anything to good read on this issue or any sort of advice?
    – Dankie

  118. Maleshiaantwoord

    Yes Trip! I am a single black woman and a predominately white university and this type of conversation always comes up amongst my circle of black girlfriends. Although I have preferences for black men (I’m all for black love), I’m always open to dating outside of my ethnicity because you never know who God can use to make a difference in your life. I see people for who they are based on their personality, character, their values, and their beliefs more than anything as I’m getting to know them. Looks do matter and there are certain social contexts that may be misunderstood if the significant other was raised in a different ethnic culture, but these factors are not dealbreakers. If anything, they’ll make a relationship more interesting. Your story is such a beautiful love story that I too hope to experience someday. All in all, you can’t help who you fall in love with, regardless of if their black, white, yellow, Barney purple, or Ninja Turtle green. Love is universal and transcends all ethnicities. We as Christians are supposed to love all even with our differences. Sometimes your soul mate, true match, life partner, and best friend is someone who is completely opposite of who you ever imagined yourself being with. It makes me smile to hear that embrace how you were drawn to Jessica for the humble, compassionate, and God-fearing woman that she was and still is. Your union is a true testament that your shared faith in God transcends all differences. Be blessed.

  119. Markantwoord

    Haai, I feel you. I have Australian Aboriginal heritage and I always wanted to marry another Koori (Aboriginal) but because of culture and ancestral religions it made it very hard. I ended up marrying a Anglo Red head. But She LOVES Jesus and that’s what matters.

  120. ceceantwoord

    God bless you and your family in Jesus name it does not matter what raise you are it matters on how they treat you and you are the best pastor ever real

  121. Esraantwoord

    Genesis 15:12-14
    “And when the sun was going down, a deep sleep fell upon Abram; en, lo, an horror of great darkness fell upon him. And he said unto Abram, Know of a surety that thy seed shall be a stranger in a land that is not theirs, and shall serve them; and they shall afflict them four hundred years; And also that nation, whom they shall serve, will I judge: and afterward shall they come out with great substance.”

    According to the Song of Solomon 1:4-6:
    “I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother’s children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.”
    Conversely Numbers 12:10-15 states that Mariam is cursed by God when she disrespects his prophet, thus Mariam was stripped of her hue or color becoming white as snow. The irony of this element is that Christians have murdered whole cultures and Caucasians claim they are the chose people, when the bible is Hebrew book about an Egyptian God who specifies that Israel/Jacob bore 12 sons and produced the tribe of Israel who are black, like all members of the Holy Lineage.

    I know who I am. And I am not opposed to Nubian people dating/marrying white people. I would never do it, but it just speeds up the process, so that peace can inherit the Earth instead of what we are enduring now.

  122. PKantwoord

    I’m happy I found this post. I wish more people in interracial relationships expressed them9 in this manner versus having to put down other groups of people. In all honesty, the Lord has been working on my heart when it comes this subject. I used to not care at all about who someone was dating/married to racially speaking. Maar, some negative encounters with interracial couples and the current anti-black woman movement left me jaded. But thank God for his grace, because He’s restoring my heart and opening my eyes to see people and marriage the correct wayeven the ones that express negative attitudes towards the ethnic group I belong to.

  123. Aliantwoord

    What I have to say is very sad .. I m from the eastern part of the world and my I married a white girl.
    its tough the cultrual difference.. We are getting divorce.

    My family doesnt wants to meet me and I never get adjusted in her family.
    She was the perfect women I can ever have, we are divorcing due to interracial issues..

    My parents are sick and they want to visit US and they cant live with my wife. I am the head of the household so I have to takecare of my family backhome.

    Im heartbroken, devastated right now becuase its happening now we are going thru divorce .

    I will always love her

  124. Giftantwoord

    Sjoe. That is very powerful, Encouraging and it open our eyes to see beyond our physical eyes because two people God unite them to Fulfil His purpose.

  125. TheHonestTruthantwoord

    Well i am a white Good man and i still Can’t meet a Good woman to settle down with since the women of today are so much Different than the past.

  126. Ericantwoord

    I really could care less what ethnicity your wife is, but it is incredible to hear you address this (or any) issue with such humility and poise. Thank you for seeking God first.

  127. Brookeantwoord

    By all accounts are words could be no truer, for a believer or not. I must emphasize you use toward the direct,” I never cared, werklik, what ethnicity my wife was to become, as I first choice would have seen her as black.Like many, I have stuggled in my Faith as seeking duty in His will, but I do believe with all that is me, that He will send me the desires of my heart ( not just a personal preference) because for me, I believe that is where apart of my patience and/or Faith is developing. As I do agree with YOUR story as it is YOUR testimony, I equally hold account to waiting for what seems the impossible because it lead by a desire, a need, not just a want. To be more specific: I would physically love to be in the company of David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth, and Ben Affleck (when single), but I have no desire to marry them; not when my heart desires the beauty, krag, character, and valor of the wonderfully-created black man! Had we remained in a world free from sin, this probably would not be a much concern, but in a world were such a beautifully-made human has been degraded, humiliated, chastised, disrespected, ens…I foresee no need not to complete my journey with him sent by Him. en laastens, vir my, given today’s disconcerning examples of a black man, I want and need my son to see that what once was, (a good man like his father before he passed) can still and will be again…….

    Sincerely,
    B.

  128. Marwaantwoord

    It is a very great joy and blessing to my life, i and my husband have begin childless for 8years now due to my inability for me to give birth and it has resolves to problems everyday in my home,so i visited a female friend in Florida,and she came up with an idea of adopting a child which i never had in mind,and now i got no choice than to apply for a child and to my surprises everything went easily and today i am happy with the Hansom little boy(Wisdom)i adopted from the Inter country child adoption center.

  129. Maryantwoord

    This makes me very relief.That was a good decision to make. You never know when the right person comes around.No matter what race I will stick to that as an African American.That I don’t always have to be in my comfort zone that I can go out the box. I really appreciate this statement you gave . May God bless you and your family with many many more blessings in your life.

  130. Marcusantwoord

    Great to all of you who have married children of God. We should marry people who know how to love us and that WILL love us! This info is for daters onlynot married couples; sodat, if you’re married, stay married, PLEASE! If you are dating, then ask God to show who you are supposed to marrybecause you don’t know sincerely! People can play nice-nice/hypocrite well for different reasons and fool you, people can be good people(but not the right one for the road that God has for youNOT COMPATIBLE SPIRITUALLYeven 2 children of God may have 2 different roads that do not line up; remember the bible verses where I believe the disciples rebuked a man of God because he was not associated with them directly; Jesus’ answer shows that people can have acceptable missions to God, but be incompatible; then again, God told Hosea to marry a prostituteif my memory serves me correctly). so, by choosing the wrong one(sometimes, a child of God can be the wrong one for you), you might miss out on blessings that might only be unlocked with the right one. You may even bring a curse to you; your kids might be sickly or some may die before you; you might not be the right parent for you child; you may be infertile or infertile for a long time; you love one another and something’s still not right; you might get someone who has fooled you(there are witches, wizards, hypocrites, violent abusers, uncaring naggers, cheaters, ascribers to open sex or LGBT lifestyles, mentally unstable people, ascribers to bestialitywho only use the family pet as a cover, atheists or agnosticswho have used religion to win you over, liars, the narcissistic or selfish, alcoholics and drugheads, conpeople and getting illegal money, pagans/satanists, lazy people, the childishnegatively speaking, natuurlik, verbal abusers, cursers, people who will never repent, serial killers, pedophiles/incestuous people, ens. out there).

    You ask God, because He has a plan for you and because(if you divorce for whatever reason) it’s my sincere belief that you aren’t supposed to get married again until your spouse dies(or have sex again for those who are crafty). You’re not supposed get divorced period(except for sexual unfaithfulness), but you should be without sex or marriage if you do for whatever reason. Can you honestly say that if you(if you get a HORROR of a spouse and you can’t take itit shouldn’t happen even then, but what are most going to do) or your spouse is the reason why you get divorced that you can go without marital sex for a period that might go outside your sexual prime(this period could be several decades)?! THAT’S WHY YOU SHOULD ASK GOD WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY! It avoids sin later(because you may or may not get lucky, but He knows) and your Christian journey is maximized! What if God did not answer your marital issue(kids, ook) prayersletting you reap what you’ve sown for choosing to marry for personal reasons only?!

  131. Marcusantwoord

    On another issue: there are some marriages(unless you know God has signed off on themask Him to be sure; don’t guess) that could be asking for trouble: 1. BMWF marriages in America: we live in world of white progressive, objective racism! White racists are aggressive with racism more than any group that I’ve ever seen! And the black man is enemy number 1! They put disgusting things in your food, blacks and their kids may get filthy/germ-laced hugs and handshakes, spells/curses may be put on the man or his kids, cops profile and mistreat black men far more aggressively if a BMWF marriage is proclaimed as you are supposed to, they disown family, hulle “nepotizepure white family members(kids, ook) and discriminate against mixed members(kids) and the black man, they murmur against theirenemies”, they attack and/or kill black men, certain brother/sister relationships will become strained or inimical and almost all white brother/sister-in-laws will have no or an inimical relationship with their black counterpart, teachers subtly villify, ens. Can you imagine possibly your kids having no/a cheap relationship with their maternal family? At Christmas: white kids get a $150 gift from this member, but your kids get $25 gift or nothing. Can you imagine if something happened to your loved one(husband or child) and wondering whether your family had something to do with it and not being able to prove it? Many of these things can be expected; but also, these couples have to deal with the things that other marriages have to deal with, ook! Bills, domestic home/property care, family expenditures(sometimes unexpected), kids discussion(SPECIAL and requires more time than otherseven encouraging your child to realize that racist whites see them as black and maintaining a balance that he/she loves both parents and all people the same respectively), jobs, spending time with your friends so that they remain your friends, ens. There’s so much going on that makes the marriage unhappy, if God did not ordain it!

    2. Marriages where there’s a big gap in religious philosophy or where the main points of the religious teachings are opposite or not compatible. Just ask king Solomon. Christian and muslim. Christian and buddhist. Christian and hinduism. Christian and atheism. Christian and satanism(illuminati, freemasonry, and their other sects and ties). Be sure that God wants you there before entering, because God may use you to convert the person or someone else in your journey who will listen!

  132. JoshuaKirklandantwoord

    Trip,

    I really admire your drive, determination, willingness, & geloof. The fact that this disease you have has plagued you & really made life difficult for you is absolutely crazy! Maar, you perserve & fight through all of that & continue to complete the things God ask of you. When I heard that the Unashamed Tour of 2012 was your last group tour, my mind began to wonder as to why you’re hanging it up. Once I found out that you had your fatigue disorder & that you were staring a pastoral internship, I began to understand that God had another purpose for you. When Rise was released, I was SOOOO excited! man, I was soooooo hype! To tell you the truth, The Good Life was the 1st Christian Hip-Hop album I listened to & purchased. Ever since then, I’ve been hooked onto hip hop music that praises Jesus. Your music has been so influential in my life. I pray that you continue to fight through your struggles and impact the kingdom! #116

  133. Blosamantwoord

    Wonderful story. I am happy or you. I am married to my own ethnicity but that didn’t save me from miserable life I am living. I only kept my marriage to protect my kids future and God hates divorce. I live in a hell hoping to go to haven.