Still a better love story than twilight.

“Standing”… “Applauding”….

Nothing wrong like you said Trip about marrying someone of a different race. What matters is that who ever you or I marry that they love Jesus (Mark 12:30 ESV) and that they will love you back and that we love her like God loves the Church. God bless you Trip and your family

I hear you Trip, good post.

Thanks for the post! Really encouraged by your blog, inspired me to start my own! Thanks.

We all have the same father but different mothers the same blood of jesus runs in us,skin is just skin,but what’s inside us matters most ,wonderfull Mr Trip Lee.may God bless you and your family for your wonderfull inspiration.

Hello Trip,

You make a excellent point! I have learn from your article that it does not matter about the skin tone but what matters is how the person is walking with God and their Heart!! Thank you for sharing a beautiful story.

Great post, Trip!

i feel the same think outside the box i am black i do not want to marry in my race neither i have my reasons i like other kinds of women

similar to my story. Thanks 4 posting

I enjoyed reading this post Trip. I am a big fan of yours, but I like the fact that you are open about the issue of race. Honestly, race shouldn’t matter when it comes to who we marry. The only thing that should matter is if they are a Christian, and if they are aligned with the will of God for your life. Outside of the essentials, race or skin color is just a difference in how we look. I have dated outside of my race. I am black and my ex is Korean/White. It was never an issue for us, but I remember times when we we get stares from others. It was an interesting experience, but none of the negativity (which wasn’t much) would stop me from dating someone else outside of my ethnicity or marrying them. That was never an issue with me, my family or friends. The point is, we all have our preferences, but we should focus on what God wants for our lives first. Nice to see that this conversation is positive.

I thank God that you wrote the article because as a single Christian women, I understand how important it is to be fully open to what God says, including who he allows to come in to your life and even takes out of it. I’m grateful for the statement that you made “we have to submit our desires to what God wants for us in a spouse”. This within itself helps me to close off my way of thinking and perceiving in order to focus on what God wants for me and my life. I’m black and have preferenced black men; however God is working on my heart in that area since I beginning to seek him in regards to a godly husband. Think about how many people actually choose the wrong person to marry or even miss out on who God has for them simply because of their on restrictions/preferences. Great article! It has truly blessed me and I’m sure so many others.

Good post i think that a lot of times it is not necessarily that we prefer a certain color or ethnic background, it is what you are used to. By you being a Christian and allowing God to open your eyes you found your good thing. Congrats bro.

Great post Trip! There is no room in the gospel for racism.

Right on! This is a blessing. I’ve been asked, seen disappointed faces, and I’ve heard folks talking why/how I settled or became “whipped”. I prayed for a God-fearing woman and He sent me her. I love my wife who happens to be white (I’m black). She & our children are my greatest blessing from God and I wouldn’t want it any other way. Thank you for your open honesty. Love does transcends all.

Proud of 116!

Excellent blog. I’m going to have to use the term “wifing” now. Respectfully, of course.

Trip,
I applaud you for your willingness to share your “reasons” for marrying outside of race. My first thought, as a man married to an Asian woman, was why do you feel the need to justify this to ANYONE. Of course, mine and my wife’s’ skin tone is similar, our backgrounds and upbringing are so far from each others, anyone could say “why did you marry her?”As you mentioned, your wife, is THE wife, THE helpmate, the other (if my wife is reading, “BETTER”) half that He has provided. God brings those in our lives that we need to have, in order to challenge us to make us better. So what if someone appears different from me on the outside. Like you, we should all be seeking those with a God seeking heart that is the most beautiful attribute one can possess.

Great job of not only expressing yourself, but doing so in a way that others will understand. When we begin to change our perspective on life in general, we will see a lot of what we “expect” has nothing to do with the will of the Father. The closer we are to him, the more and more our “expectations” change because they begin to line up with HIS will and not our own. God Bless you and your family. Keep doing what you are doing my brother in Christ. Black, white or purple, color plays no role when it comes to the body of Christ uniting. I have been blessed with an amazing man of God, who happens to be my same ethnicity, but more than anything he is a man after God’s own heart which is all that matters in my book.

I think it’s great that you looked past skin color and ethnicity. I can’t stand when people hold to that and want to stay within their race for whatever reason. We are people with different shades of skin all affected by sin. My girl is Spanish and I’m black but I never look at her and see a Spanish woman, I look at her and just see a woman, regardless of skin color or ethnicity.

God Bless your Union Trip.
Thank you for sharing your personal experience.
Gods Marriage covenant does not consist of color or race. His eternal Love exceeds all..

What a great article, and Im glad that there are people out there like you who are opening up the conversation about a subject like this and being real with it, because there always seems to be a stigma attached to interracial relationships.

I’m Chinese and my husband is black, and the struggles we’ve encountered along our journey together have been tough and a real test. We got married young just like you and your wife, I was 21 and he was 24. We have 2 daughters together, and when Im out alone with them, I’ll get stopped in the street and strangers would be like “is the daddy black?”

Most of all the struggle has been with my family, because they never thought that I’d marry a black man. We had a small wedding and over half of my family refused to come. But God is amazing because through all of that, my mum’s faith was tried and tested, mindsets within my family had been changed. My husband is accepted now, and my mum would acknowledge him as her son in law now (which is a huge deal for us!) There’s still some way to go, but so much has progressed that I give all glory to God. Keep it up Trip, you’re an inspiration to others and I pray that God will continue to bless you, your family and your ministry.

PS: You need to come down to perform in London, UK some time!!

This was awesome! Thank you for sharing trip. God’s love has no particular preference but deliverance. Youre story was a blessing.

Wonderful article, Trip! First time commenter here!

You are so on point when you say, “I never wanted to value my preferences for a wife over what I needed in a wife.” Sometimes, I feel overlooked as a female because my personality and temperament are a certain way. I’m what you might call “weird” or “different” according to many people I know. Some guys like a girl who’s a little more into mainstream fashion or someone who’s a little more social and outspoken than I am. At other times, I think that maybe I’m making myself less available by my own little discriminating ideas. Those ways aren’t based on race, but more on someone’s background or their mode of transportation… because I ride the bus to school, and I don’t appreciate it when a guy tries to flirt with me on public transportation. (The idea is that if as a man riding the bus or train, you can’t afford to get a car and drive one, you have little money or are spending it on the wrong things, and therefore have no business trying to talk sweet to me. LOL… but this is also wrong.) I’m praying that the Lord help me to stay in His will for my life, so that when the time comes for that certain someone to find the “good thing,” I’ll be ready. :)

God bless, bro.

Aw, but I wanted to marry you. Good for you anyway. Bad for me..

Good news! She isn’t even “white”! And you aren’t even “black” Trip. Those terms are bunk. Praise God we are all of the one Adamic race. Even though we are different ethnicities, we are reconciled in Christ! Amen bro. Good article. One Blood. One Son.

This was so awesome to read! Very encouraging. I myself have dealt with the disppointing and rasist comments. My husband is white and I am black. We both come from to totally diffrent worlds. I never thought I would marry outside my race. I even vainly prayed that God would seen me a black man with dreads lol. But I thank God he knew what was best for me and blessed not with just a white man but my king on earth! Since we’ve been married I have truly understood what it means to love in these earthly bodies. Not to tell all our biz but we have been struggling with fertility issues and I thank God for my husband because he has continued to encourage me. We love your music and your ministry. God bless you and your family!

****TRIP LEE****

That “martin” Comment has me rolling on the floor Laughing…but I definitely feel this entire Blog!! Man looks on the Outside and God looks at the heart. My wife often quotes that A womans heart should be so hidden in God. That a man has to seek him in Order to really Find her…

Good word! Love the family pics. Blessings!

This inspired and blessed me in so many ways. I love to see interracial couples/marriages! It’s always been my desire as a black woman to marry outside my race. I look forward to the day I meet my spouse knowing he was hand picked and designed for me! We have to get to that place above all else where we turn to God and accept all He has for us. Sure it’s OK to ask or tell God what u want or like. Dig this He already knows. Better yet He knows what’s best for us. So we have to be mindful of what we ask or pray for. What u want is not always what u need! Trust God make your petitions known and allow Him to do what He do!

Trip, all i can say is excellent, words can’t express the joy in having you share with such transparency about why you married your wife, This is really going to help those see from another perspective and who maybe pursuing marriage in the future. God truly knows what’s best for us. May the lord continue bless your family!

Trip, thank you for preaching the truth to the misinformed and to me personally. though i am black im always pictured myself with someone of a different race. but i God has been slowly dealing with me to be accepting of all races and that the important thing is his heart reflects that of Christ. Thats what matters the most. Plus you have the full love and support of my home church. we are full of biracial couples and mixed kids. plus i have so many mixed friends that there overrunning the country lol. im proud of you for standing up and telling the world what they need to hear :)

“There’s nothing necessarily wrong with having preferences, but we have to hold them with an open hand.” Great quote in every vein of life!

I’m thankful for people who are willing to listen to God above society in all areas of life and allow their minds to be conformed to His will and His way. I think often we don’t even realize the box and parameters that we place on ourselves. My family was military so we’ve been colorblind for the most part all growing up. However in the South preferences and stereotypes reign supreme, often… I even had a close guy friend in college tell me that I was the most beautiful, smart, amazing girl he’d ever known but he just never thought he’d date a ___( insert race here)___ girl. BROKE MY HEART. hah and I didn’t even like him in that way. I’m glad you allowed yourself to fall in love and are in turn obediently opening your story up to others.

Yo trip u are the man.I will also do the same.lol.I will marry in the lord and skin colour race,e.t.c won’t matter as long as she a godly one.GOD bless u man.

I’m so blessed by your post Trip!
I have a question though. I am an African(black) lady and I prefer white guys to black. That is mostly because I’m not so comfortable with some of the traditions in my home country. I must say, I love black men a lot but like I said, my country has some ridiculous beliefs. Would you say I’m wrong in making such preferences?

I used to use verses to discourage this kind of marriage. “Adam and Eve were most likely the same color / Samson’s dad wanted him to marry someone from the people of Israel / Isaac’s dad went to great lengths to find a wife from among ‘his people’ for Isaac, etc…”

My discussions on this topic were unkind, spotty and — quite frankly — baseless.

And then God changed my heart and put me in a situation where I had no option but to lean on Him. He taught me what it is to trust in Him. And that’s when I started valuing those around me who also trust in Him. I drew closer to God’s people — regardless of culture background — and fell in love with His disciples because of the grace, faith and love they demonstrated.

And that’s how this American ended up marrying a beautiful, godly Brazilian girl. It’s been 10 months and God has taught us both so much! It’s been a sweet relationship that has proved over and over again: God’s ways are best, when our conceptions are put to the test.

Great post

One caveat:
Hungarians are Magyars. Magyars are lineal descendants of Attila the Hun (hence the term HUNgarian) who are often referred to as the “Mongolian hordes” -Attila is still one of the most popular boys names in Hungary- as is Arpad- therefore they are,technically, Asian.

So you are even more diverse/multicultural than you thought!

That was awesome! Her race honestly didn’t even click to me until i saw this post. I am black and my husband is half black and white (although he looks hispanic) and i get jokes all the time from people saying that i don’t like black men. Oh and don’t let them see my kids. BOL! It’s always a double take. I have been married 7 years and it’s still funny to this day. God bless your family man!

I appreciate this post so much. I am in an interracial marriage as well and my husband and I both have stories about how people who may know us and feel like they know us pretty well somehow learn of what our spouse looks like or in my case sees a pic of my kids (because they could pass for his look alone until you know they are part black then you may catch certain little features) and immediately sees they must likely don’t have a black dad and that was their expectation. Also, my kids fluently speak another language so that really confuses people since our last name is Lawrence. There’s a story behind that too because he is of mixed race too (just not black). Anyway, I love the fact that you touched on this because for some, it’s such a huge deal and even struggle as there are some strong racial influences and pressures in our world (media, our loved ones even, friends, etc.). My feelings are mutual to yours and many others who commented. Thank you!

I LOVE “ROBOT”!!! I’m going to be dancing to it for a carnival.

OH COME ON!!!!! I am Caucasian, and even I have seen every episode of Martin

1 Samuel 16:7…The Lord judges by the heart, so why dont we? We should make what the Lord has said our standard, not what our flesh wants/neither the standards of this world. In this case, from a man’s perspective, the standard for a wife is Proverbs chapter 31, not skin tone/not the worldly standard of marrying inside your own “race/ethnicity.”

I appreciate this because I’m African American and my wife is Hispanic. Her race was never a factor to me, because of her heart for the Lord. We now have a baby girl. When I look at my wife and daughter I don’t see a Hispanic woman, or a mixed baby. I just see the two biggest blessings in my life (apart from the Lord Jesus). Sometimes I even forget that we are an interracial couple and family. It’s not exactly easy all the time because of other people, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family!

Wonderful article Trip lee. As for i’m still single but since i was little i had interest in marrying a white woman because two of my uncles got married to white women. When i got saved i didn’t see any difference between black or white but as long as we are practicing the same Faith.

Wonderful post! Trip, you have a beautiful family, and I thank you for sharing your heart. Although my husband and I are both white, we grew up very differently. He is a true country boy and self-proclaimed redneck. I have always felt more comfortable around black people, even as a small child. I was never opposed to marrying a white man, but my preferences were definitely geared toward men in the hip-hop culture. People often ask us how we ended up together, and most people are shocked to find out my husband is white. He isn’t what I had envisioned for myself growing up, but he is everything I needed in a husband and father for our kids. The Lord has truly blessed me, and I can’t imagine my life any other way!

My husband is mexican, and I’m filipino. I know 3 languages and learning a few more. My best friend is black and her husband is arabian. It is amazing to see a mixture of races at churches and even in groups.

We really do just look at the content of one’s character. It’s neat to learn languages and see all of the beautiful cultures. In Christ there’s no Jew, Greek, Male nor female.

I’m white, I got pregnant, first year of medical school with a black mans baby. At three months pregnant, God sent me a friend – a brown Indian man. We were both just starting our medical school careers. What I was about to do was crazy enough. When he told his parents about me they threatened to withdraw all support, his brothers refused to speak to me. After a year and a half we got married we are still in school, raising our son and still have people confused. God is so good, at one of the most difficult times in my life, he gave me a friend, a godly man, to love me, all of me, me + baby. Heres to a real man. Heres to a very loving and gracious Father.

I applaud Trip & Jessica Lee. Integration of the true church of Jesus Christ and “interracial” marriage within the church is the answer to racism in our culture. There is only one race, the human race, “male and female He created them…” (Genesis 5:2a), and nowhere does scripture say to marry those of your same skin tone or eye shape.

Many, many years ago when my oldest son was about 2, we were driving through a black section of town and he commented that all the people were black and asked why was everyone black. I tried to explain that a long time ago people thought it was better if all the white people lived in one area and all the black people lived in one area. I further said that now we know it doesn’t make any difference what color your skin is. Out of the mouth of babes……he said, “Yeah, the important thing is that we got skin!”

marring a God fearing woman is the best you can ever do to have a happy family. well said trip what you want in a women is far more important than what she should look like.

This was a very encouraging post. My wife is black/El Salvadorean. .. and I am a Korean man…. It is absolutely unheard of in Korean culture to marry outside of Korean race let alone a black/latina woman. As an odd interracial couple we have faced much adversity, but the only thing that mattered was Christ and our bond in Christ through friendship to courtship and now in our marriage.

I never really post on things like this but this post did speak to me and confirm my resolve in how I council others who are in pursuit of finding a spouse in their ethnicity.

My wife never thought she’d marry a Yankee, Hispanic, Jewish Christian. I’m glad she did. :)

I’m a white man with a black wife. We are still in our first year, but no regrets! We have our fist child on the way and we love our little family. Like Trip Lee, I pictured myself marrying a woman of my own race (I think its just natural). But I never once questioned it or thought of it to be “right” or “wrong.” She is of God. Thats the only race that I look at!!

You wifed her? Ugh, you couldn’t have said married?

Amen brother

“Run hard and fast towards the savior and if you see someone, in the corner of your eye running in the same direction, you should take a second look”

Brother, words like interracial relationship should be taken out of our vocabs. There is only one human race.

I agree trip lee
I think that if you love her dearly and god approves I say why not

I think it was Gods plan for you to meet Jessica !

It’s funny. I’m white (part Hispanic, but no one would know by looking at me), and my husband is white, but he’s from the country and I’m from the city. He’s from the south, and I’m from the north. We aren’t THE SAME just because our skin tones are similar. We walk and talk and process things at different paces, and our families are really different, but we love each other, and God brought us together. Culturally, though, it takes adjusting for both of us. That, along with being equally yoked to serve the Lord, is what marriage is all about! Glad you spoke up!

That is the most beautiful story………especially your wife…you guys are blessed. …AMEN to ur story! !!!

Trip! First and foremost, your music is beautiful and awe inspiring. I love the message you preach in each and every single song. Continue the wonderful talent God has given you! Interracial relationships and marriages are absolutely gorgeous. It shouldn’t matter what race one is, but like you said, a Godly spouse. I am Caucasian, but have been attracted to African American men my whole life. My family is very, very, very accepting of this. :) However, I pray that God sends me the right one, who has gentlemen and godlike qualities. I yearn for a man who says they love Christ more than they love me, respectful, and sweet. This has opened my eyes though to be open to all races instead of just black. God Bless both you and Jessica!

Wow, this article is awesome! Glory to God! Trip, you are a really good writer as well. I felt like I was reading a romance novel or something while reading your post. Lots of smiling and “awwwwww!” LOL Thanks for being a godly influence on so many fronts.

I’m really glad that you took the time out to write this. This post is kind of random, never really thought about it (heck, I never even knew this page existed until today). Nonetheless, I’m glad you wrote it…I think the part that sparked my interest the most was the whole preference issue. I was married to a man for 5 years (we have 3 children together) who didn’t want to be married anymore because in his words—I wasn’t his preference (he would often use a chocolate ice cream / vanilla ice cream analogy to attempt to prove his point–his preference was a woman with a um….”nice” body–I’ll leave it at that). The crazy thing is he actually does Christian rap—(????). Anyway, I’m glad to see that you went about the right way—putting God’s desires above your fleshly desires…..Anyway, continue to Love your wife like Christ Loves the Church….I’ll keep you all in my prayers…..

Sincerely,
April C.
Greenville NC

Yep. Same reason i married a white girl. Thank you for sharing. Good read. Gracefully put. God bless you and your family brother. Praise The Lord, foreal tho.

Hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult question. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. I only dated and had married a black women who I married more for obligation (child) and cultural expectation than mutual interest. Since I had no relationship with God aside from occasional church visits I believe I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me. I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life. The point is the Kingdom as the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all.

I joined trip I never think I can get someone as some site always for lieying and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails but u can’t escape God’s plan thus was like exciting to me an I read it being back my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture only person love & care about her “who is me” with God all is possible she is my really choice.

NEED ADVICE:
I’m dating a girl who prefers black guys… and I’m white. She assures me that she likes me a lot, but it’s still a huge insecurity to me. I hope to one day marry this girl. Is there anything to good read on this issue or any sort of advice?
– Thanks

Hey, I feel you. I have Australian Aboriginal heritage and I always wanted to marry another Koori (Aboriginal) but because of culture and ancestral religions it made it very hard. I ended up marrying a Anglo Red head. But She LOVES Jesus and that’s what matters.

Good stuff

Genesis 15:12-14
“And when the sun was going down, a deep sleep fell upon Abram; and, lo, an horror of great darkness fell upon him. And he said unto Abram, Know of a surety that thy seed shall be a stranger in a land that is not theirs, and shall serve them; and they shall afflict them four hundred years; And also that nation, whom they shall serve, will I judge: and afterward shall they come out with great substance.”

According to the Song of Solomon 1:4-6:
“I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother’s children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.”
Conversely Numbers 12:10-15 states that Mariam is cursed by God when she disrespects his prophet, thus Mariam was stripped of her hue or color becoming white as snow. The irony of this element is that Christians have murdered whole cultures and Caucasians claim they are the chose people, when the bible is Hebrew book about an Egyptian God who specifies that Israel/Jacob bore 12 sons and produced the tribe of Israel who are black, like all members of the Holy Lineage.

I know who I am. And I am not opposed to Nubian people dating/marrying white people. I would never do it, but it just speeds up the process, so that peace can inherit the Earth instead of what we are enduring now.

I’m happy I found this post. I wish more people in interracial relationships expressed them9 in this manner versus having to put down other groups of people. In all honesty, the Lord has been working on my heart when it comes this subject. I used to not care at all about who someone was dating/married to racially speaking. However, some negative encounters with interracial couples and the current anti-black woman movement left me jaded. But thank God for his grace, because He’s restoring my heart and opening my eyes to see people and marriage the correct way – even the ones that express negative attitudes towards the ethnic group I belong to.

What I have to say is very sad .. I m from the eastern part of the world and my I married a white girl.
its tough the cultrual difference.. We are getting divorce.

My family doesnt wants to meet me and I never get adjusted in her family.
She was the perfect women I can ever have, we are divorcing due to interracial issues..

My parents are sick and they want to visit US and they cant live with my wife. I am the head of the household so I have to takecare of my family backhome.

Im heartbroken, devastated right now becuase its happening now we are going thru divorce .

I will always love her

Well i am a white Good man and i still Can’t meet a Good woman to settle down with since the women of today are so much Different than the past.

By all accounts are words could be no truer, for a believer or not. I must emphasize you use toward the direct,” I never cared, really, what ethnicity my wife was to become, as I first choice would have seen her as black.” Like many, I have stuggled in my Faith as seeking duty in His will, but I do believe with all that is me, that He will send me the desires of my heart ( not just a personal preference) because for me, I believe that is where apart of my patience and/or Faith is developing. As I do agree with YOUR story as it is YOUR testimony, I equally hold account to waiting for what seems the impossible because it lead by a desire, a need, not just a want. To be more specific: I would physically love to be in the company of David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth, and Ben Affleck (when single), but I have no desire to marry them; not when my heart desires the beauty, strength, character, and valor of the wonderfully-created black man! Had we remained in a world free from sin, this probably would not be a much concern, but in a world were such a beautifully-made human has been degraded, humiliated, chastised, disrespected, etc…I foresee no need not to complete my journey with him sent by Him. And lastly, for me, given today’s disconcerning examples of a black man, I want and need my son to see that what once was, (a good man like his father before he passed) can still and will be again…….

Sincerely,
B.

This makes me very relief.That was a good decision to make. You never know when the right person comes around.No matter what race I will stick to that as an African American.That I don’t always have to be in my comfort zone that I can go out the box. I really appreciate this statement you gave . May God bless you and your family with many many more blessings in your life.

Great to all of you who have married children of God. We should marry people who know how to love us and that WILL love us! This info is for daters only–not married couples; so, if you’re married, stay married, PLEASE! If you are dating, then ask God to show who you are supposed to marry–because you don’t know sincerely! People can play nice-nice/hypocrite well for different reasons and fool you, people can be good people(but not the right one for the road that God has for you–NOT COMPATIBLE SPIRITUALLY–even 2 children of God may have 2 different roads that do not line up; remember the bible verses where I believe the disciples rebuked a man of God because he was not associated with them directly; Jesus’ answer shows that people can have acceptable missions to God, but be incompatible; then again, God told Hosea to marry a prostitute–if my memory serves me correctly). So, by choosing the wrong one(sometimes, a child of God can be the wrong one for you), you might miss out on blessings that might only be unlocked with the right one. You may even bring a curse to you; your kids might be sickly or some may die before you; you might not be the right parent for you child; you may be infertile or infertile for a long time; you love one another and something’s still not right; you might get someone who has fooled you(there are witches, wizards, hypocrites, violent abusers, uncaring naggers, cheaters, ascribers to open sex or LGBT lifestyles, mentally unstable people, ascribers to bestiality–who only use the family pet as a cover, atheists or agnostics–who have used religion to win you over, liars, the narcissistic or selfish, alcoholics and drugheads, conpeople and getting illegal money, pagans/satanists, lazy people, the childish–negatively speaking, of course, verbal abusers, cursers, people who will never repent, serial killers, pedophiles/incestuous people, etc. out there).

You ask God, because He has a plan for you and because(if you divorce for whatever reason) it’s my sincere belief that you aren’t supposed to get married again until your spouse dies(or have sex again for those who are crafty). You’re not supposed get divorced period(except for sexual unfaithfulness), but you should be without sex or marriage if you do for whatever reason. Can you honestly say that if you(if you get a HORROR of a spouse and you can’t take it–it shouldn’t happen even then, but what are most going to do) or your spouse is the reason why you get divorced that you can go without marital sex for a period that might go outside your sexual prime(this period could be several decades)?! THAT’S WHY YOU SHOULD ASK GOD WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY! It avoids sin later(because you may or may not get lucky, but He knows) and your Christian journey is maximized! What if God did not answer your marital issue(kids, too) prayers–letting you reap what you’ve sown for choosing to marry for personal reasons only?!

Awesome,
Good article, it has reverently talked to my soul.

May God bless you and your family forever to eternal life.

This is so Awesome. I love it. God
bless you.

Wonderful story. I am happy or you. I am married to my own ethnicity but that didn’t save me from miserable life I am living. I only kept my marriage to protect my kids future and God hates divorce. I live in a hell hoping to go to haven.

Who are you trying to convince of your choice? You, or us? If you truly picked your wife, because of GOD this article would not exist. You don’t need permission. Yes, I am sure there were plenty of Black Godly women that were just as amazing as the woman you chose. But you didn’t want them, nor had an interest. Your desire was for your wife. This is fine. Just stop trying to justify it, as it is ridiculous and condescending.

I AM Guessing only comments that cosign your status get posted, but I will try again. Free speech matters!