As ik post foto fan myn famylje op sosjale media, de reaksjes binne altyd fun. De meast foarkommende binne, "Jo soan is sa kreas!"Of" Wat in moaie húshâlding!"Mar ien fan 'e oare mienskiplike antwurd is, "Is dyn frou wit?"Minsken freegje my by shows soms te. It antwurd is ja. Myn frou is in miks fan Hongaarsk, Italiaansk, en Poalsk-dêr't oan de measte minsken krekt betsjut ja, sy is wyt. Dit is relevant foar guon, mar skokkende of sels teloarstellend foar oaren. Ik tink net dat immen moatte wurde skrokken of teloarsteld troch ynterrasiale houliken, mar ik noch woe om te praten oer wêrom't ik troude bûten myn "ras.
It beslút om trouwe immen út in oare etnyske eftergrûn wie net in taaie ien foar my. Ik nea sitten en skreau út in foar- en neidielen list. Al as ik die, it feit dat myn frou hat nea sjoen in ôflevering fan "Martin" wêze soe yn de con kategory. mar eerlijk, Ik net agonize oer it of sykje rie oer de fraach oft it wie OK. Ik wie oertsjûge dat se wie de frou foar my te trouwen, ek al wie se net swart.
Guon soe nea beskôgje marrying ien dy't wie net deselde etnisiteit as harren, sa lit my jim wêrom't ik dien.
ferwachtings
Om earlik te wêzen, Ik altyd ferwachte om trouwe in swarte frou. Ik fûn froulju fan alle eftergrûnen moaie, mar swarte famkes wiene myn "foarkar." Mar doe't ik oankaam op myn kolleezje kampus yn 2006, Ik wie net op syk nei in frou op alle. Ik krekt woe te groeien yn myn leauwe en krije in goed ûnderwiis. Myn earste album hie krekt komme út, dus ik hie genôch oare dingen te rjochtsjen op. Mar as ik mei minsken oan 'e skoalle, in Sophomore namme Jessica echt fongen myn oandacht en wy waard freonen.
Wy rûn yn deselde fermiddens en wy bedarre by deselde tsjerke, dus wy seagen inoar in soad. En de mear ik krige witte har, de mear ik waard lutsen oan har. Sy echt ús Jezus en hja hie dit bernlike reewilligens om te dwaan wat Hy frege. Har meilijen foar earme minsken passearde my en se hie in beskieden hert dat reagearre nei it Wurd. Oer dat earste jier, Ik seach har offerje ûntelbere oeren fan har tiid tsjinne by ús tsjerke. Op top fan alles fan dat, Ik ús wêzen om har. Us petear, oft serieus of silly, altyd streamde mei gemak. Sa ik úteinlik begûn te freegje mysels, "Soe ik trouwe dit meisje?"
foarkar
Jessica net sjen as ik ferwachte myn takomstige frou te sjen, mar eerlijk dat die der net ta om my. Net krije my ferkeard, Ik tocht se wie moai út de earste kear moete ik har. En ik wie nea tsjinstelling ta marrying in wyt famke. Ik krekt net tink ik soe. Mar as ik groeide yn myn leauwen en myn hert feroare, myn foarkar begûn feroaret te. Myn wichtichste foarkar wie, dat myn frou wêze godly, en Jessica wie. Sa ik wifed har.
Nea foar in stuit die ik fiel as ik wie settling. It fielt mear as settling te oersjen in goddelike frou inkeld fanwegen har etnisiteit. Ik nea woe skatte myn foarkar foar in frou oer wat ik nedich yn in frou.
Der is neat needsaaklikerwize mis mei it hawwen foarkar, mar wy moatte hâlden se mei in iepen hân. Ik wit wat minsken dy't oersjen in potinsjele fromme spouse om't se net passe wat willekeurige foarkar. Guon fan ús foarkar echt net út dat folle. Guon fan ús foarkar kinne sels wêze dwaze, dus wy moatte oerlizze allegearre nei Skrift.
As jo en jo spouse binne yn 'e midden fan de striid, skin toan net út. Body type en sosjale status lykje insignificant. Jo wolle se te wêze godly en dimmene. En as myn frou en ik begjinne te ferheegjen ús earste bern, Ik koe net mear tankber foar har. Sy is in geweldige mem en in goddelike ynfloed op myn soan-noch fan dy hawwe wat te dwaan mei har etnyske eftergrûn. It is OK om wol dingen yn in spouse, mar wy moatte tsjinjen ús begearten nei wat God wol foar ús yn in spouse. Wat ik woe en nedich meast wie in goddelike partner, en dat is krekt wat God jûn.
CLL
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:50 pm
Goed sein Trip. Myn man is wyt en ik bin swart en ik wurd hieltyd frege wat my makke om immen bûten myn ras te kiezen. Ik antwurdzje altyd dat God de kar foar my makke en Hy die sa'n geweldige baan, better dan ik oait op mysels koe dwaan. God is goëd! Bliuw dwaan wat jo dogge! 116! Jezus earst oant wy ûnder de ierde binne!
Erika
novimber 17, 2013 / by 8:59 bin
Tank foar de earlikens Trip Lee. ik bin it dermei iens. Jo kinne in foarkar hawwe, mar jo moatte it mei in iepen hân hâlde, want as kristen is jo earste ynset foar Kristus en jo partner moat dat stypje. Gelikense djerre…
hear
jannewaris 2, 2014 / by 3:52 bin
Geweldige post Trip.
Ik haw problemen mei it besjen fan jo blog op myn tillefoan. De siden lykje fêst te hâlden, it hinderjen fan lofts-rjochts rôljen en wurden oan 'e ein fan elke rigel lykje ôfsnien fan myn skerm, sadat ik soms gjin sin kin meitsje fan guon sinnen. Ik bin der net wis fan oft dit in probleem is mei myn browser of miskien in technyk yn 'e opset fan it blog. Ik woe it gewoan opbringe foar it gefal dat der wat fan jo ein kin wurde dien.
Tank.
bliuw segene.
Maria
jannewaris 10, 2015 / by 8:10 pm
Myn dochter hâldt fan dyn muzyk. Feitlik, ik moat tajaan; Ik ek:). Doe't se my foar it earst yntrodusearre oan tourmuzyk tegearre mei ús oare favoryt, LaCrae) Ik wie krekt sa bliid foar jo Godlike ynfloed fia jo muzyk. Mar ik bin wat alert bleaun. Benijd oft jo muzyk jo karakter manifestearre. Troch dit te lêzen bin ik der wis fan dat jo in godlike man binne. Ik bid in protte segeningen foar jo en jo prachtige frou en adorable soan. Persoanlik sprutsen, en yn in tiid dêr't safolle kwea is, etnisiteit is krekt dat. Men is wier gelok om in frou te hawwen (ast bist in man) dy't fan Jezus hâldt en Him tsjinnet rjochts neist dy.
AdamCraven
jannewaris 26, 2017 / by 10:24 bin
Profeten!!! Ik haw noait echt begrepen wêrom't guon minsken in godlike frou oersjoen gewoan om't se net passe yn ien fan har foarkar. Ik haw in suster dy't hast in foarkar sette foar lok. Se gie úteinlik nei it prachtige wurd fan god en bea der oer en bea en úteinlik krige se har antwurd en ik no 2 nichtsjes en in grutte god eangstme sweager!! Jo moatte noait jo foarkarren foar god sette, om't elke kear as immen spuie yn it gesicht fan God en myn foarkarren foar jo!!
Nahledge
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:52 pm
Dope post fam!
Michael
oktober 8, 2014 / by 4:48 bin
Hiel rjocht!
Alexis
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:54 pm
Noch altyd in better leafdesferhaal as skimertsjuster.
Daniel Troutman
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:51 pm
Hilarysk!
Foar dat
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:36 pm
HELE DEI in better leafdesferhaal dan Twilight.
Ella
oktober 31, 2013 / by 6:23 pm
Wier dat :)
Terrell
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:54 pm
Amen Broer…
Carina
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:54 pm
As God liedt, wy moatte folgje. Ik tink bibelsk sjoen wy binne allegear ien ras, earst fan Adam en Eva en letter alle neikommelingen fan Noach. It kin tûzenen jierren en hûnderten generaasjes duorje om werom te kommen, mar wy begûnen allegearre fan itselde plak. Ien ras, in protte etnisiteiten.
Britta
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:55 pm
Ik bin it folslein mei iens! Foardat ik myn man moete, hie ik altyd leaver skjinskeen reade hollen, mar doe moete ik David. Hy wie in keale keardel mei in sik lang genôch foar my om te flechten! Hy wie/is alles wat God my tasein hie dat ik yn in man soe fine, mar as ik mar nei in beskate uterlik socht hie, hie ik it bêste dat God foar my hie mist!
David B
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:56 pm
Ik wurdearje dit. Ik kin net wachtsje oant it praktyske, dit is hoe't wy genede dogge yn it deistich, boek is cowritten troch Trip en Jessica!
Enan
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:57 pm
Tankewol Trip foar dit geweldige artikel. Om earlik te wêzen mei dy, Ik wie aardich ferrast doe't ik fûn út oer dyn frou syn ras. Mar, Ik leau dat Gods plannen foar ús libben, net altyd oerien mei wat wy ferwachtsje of wolle. Sa, dit artikel hat my oanmoedige om te bidden en myn motiven rjocht te krijen; dus as de juste persoan my wei komt, As God it wol, Ik bin klear. Tank nochris bro. Hâld fan dy en dyn famylje yn Jezus. God seinigt.
Rachel
oktober 31, 2013 / by 1:57 pm
Wow. Ik bin tankber foar jo iepen en earlike hert oer dit ûnderwerp, as ik bin der wis fan dat it net oanpakt genôch! Myn man en ik binne itselde “ras” mar ik kin sjen dat deselde kontroverse oer domme dingen lykas immens sosjale status (wat foar wurk se hawwe), as se bern hawwe, wat har ferline west hat, nettsjinsteande oft se yn Kristus binne of net. Ik wit foar in feit dat ik myn man troud wêze soe, nettsjinsteande syn ras, status, of eftergrûn. Gods leafde en genede bedekt alles en makket it allegear nij en moai. En lykas jo seine, HY wit wat wy mear nedich binne as wy sels dogge. Tankewol foar dizze post!!
Paul
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:00 pm
Dit wie…. befrijing.
Kristal
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:01 pm
Werklik prachtich. Ik hâld fan dat jo neamden hoe't jo foarkarren feroare doe't jo prioriteiten feroare. God is geweldich, Hy hat it bêste foar elk fan ús, mar wy moatte út ús eigen wei komme, sadat wy sjen kinne, ûntfange en wurdearje se. Ik bin in swarte frou dy't koe net skele minder oer ras. Myn gebed is om minsken te sjen lykas God se sjocht en yn syn wil te kuierjen. Dat is it. Hy is ús makker, wa binne wy om rasistysk te wêzen?
Hart
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:02 pm
Geweldich blog dat minsken moatte lêze. Ik bin Libaneesk Armeensk en myn man is swart en wy gongen troch en geane troch in protte fertriet fan myn famylje.
Ik hie noait in foarkar fan etnisiteit. Foardat ik waard rêden ik hie 3 serieuze relaasjes fan ferskillende etnisiteit en nei't ik bewarre en groeide yn myn relaasje mei Kristus gie it allegear oer wa't ik bin “neamd” wêze mei; dy't God hat “ornearre” foar my.
Opgroeie wie net sasear in foarkar, mar in eask fan myn famylje om te trouwen binnen myn etnisiteit, mar it koe my net skele; ik waard dochs altyd as it swarte skiep beskôge…
Foar my wie alles wat telde wat de wil fan 'e Hear foar myn libben is en doe't myn man oan my iepenbiere waard, hie ik sa'n frede en sa'n wittende dat ik op myn grûn stie. Wy bidde noch altyd dat de herten fan myn famylje fersacht wurde, mar op it lêst is alles wat der ta docht is dat ik yn Gods wil en syn paad bin en d'r is gjin wêr't ik oars wêze wol..Ik bin feilich en feilich yn syn wil.
Michael
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:03 pm
Dit wie in geweldige post Trip. Ik haw noait ynteressearre field yn myn eigen etnisiteit, Hispanic, mar nei't ik mear yn myn leauwe groeid bin, is it my dúdliker wurden dat de hûdskleur net safolle útmakket. Dit wie verfrissend om te lêzen en ik tankje God dat hy jo sa'n geweldige frou joech om jo te helpen troch Him te ferhearlikjen. Tank foar de ynspiraasje yn al jo berjochten!
Jarred
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:03 pm
Myn frou en ik binne blanke minsken. De Hear triuwde ús yn adoptaasje foar ús earste bern. Yn dat proses kinne jo kieze wat jo wolle. It is hast as in puppy útsykje. Hoe dan ek, ien fan 'e karren dy't jo kinne meitsje is foar ras. Wy hawwe gjin probleem mei in ras, lykwols, wêr't ik fan bin HATE se swarte minsken. Dat wy keas foar om gjin swart bern oan te nimmen fanwegen har en de manier wêrop se soene wurde behannele doe't wy se werom namen om myn pake en beppe te sjen. Ik haw faaks wraksele mei dy kar. Hawwe wy dien it goede ding? Wiene wy ús bern beskermje fan dy haat, of wiene wy spylje God yn ús eigen libben? Wy binne no noflik mei dy kar, want it is foarby, mar wat tinksto?
DeeDee
oktober 31, 2013 / by 6:26 pm
Jarred-
Ik lês dyn post… Ik bin swart, en waard oannommen troch myn âlden dy't wyt binne. Sels de rjochter dy't de saak behannele wie swart. Mem en heit wiene senuweftich, om't wy yn in gebiet wennen dêr't ik en ien fan myn oare oannommen sibben miskien net sa bewekke wiene fan 'e foaroardielen fan minsken. Dat wurdt sein, hja fertrouden God, en nea tsjinkommen situaasjes fan soarch.
Ik tink en leau dat jo en jo frou dien hawwe wat it bêste wie foar jo famylje. Elke situaasje is unyk en God jout ús in mjitte fan genede om de lytse en grutte mominten fan it libben te navigearjen. be stimulearre! Wa wit, miskien krije jo de kâns om wer oan te nimmen en in swart te kiezen (of oare etnisiteit) bern! God koe dyn herten doe, en hy wit it sels op dit stuit.
cecé
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:51 pm
Jared,
Ik kom út in famylje dêr't myn blanke âlden hawwe oannommen 6 swarte bern. Ik tink dat it heul earlik is foar jo allegear om wirklik te erkennen dat it oannimmen fan bûten jo ras betsjut dat jo heul opsetlik moatte wêze om jo bern har kultuer te belibjen, en ferkenne har swartens. As God jo wier roppen hie om nei te stribjen nei it grutbringen fan in swart bern, dan moat it net sa maklik wêze dat jo famylje jo út dat beslút beynfloedzje. lykwols, de fragen moatte steld wurde, is it beslút om mear oer my oan te nimmen, of it bern dat in hûs nedich hat? Kin ik alle efterstân fan freonen en famylje ferneare dy't komt mei it oannimmen fan in bern bûten myn ras? Ferwachtsje ik dat it bern wurdt grutbrocht op in manier dy't har twingt om op te jaan wa't se binne om lid fan myn famylje te wêzen? Sil ik romte litte foar myn bern om te kinnen wrakselje troch har identiteit fan libjen tusken wrâlden? Is de maatskippij ynsteld op in manier dy't mear it belang fan my as in blanke persoan begeunst om oan te nimmen oer de wiere behoeften fan it bern? Hoe etysk is dit oannameproses?
It oannimmen fan in bern betsjut in hiele mindset-feroaring, en fysyk ferpleatsen as de omjouwing wêryn jo binne net begeunstigje de behoeften fan jo bern. Relaasjes sille moatte wurde boud mei dyjingen dy't komme út in perspektyf dat jo kinne nea folslein resonearje mei (swart wêze). Wy libje yn in rasistyske wrâld, en dat moat sa bewust makke wurde troch jo en it bern dat jo grutbringe. As jo keazen om dat net te erkennen, dan dogge jo op in protte manieren in skande oan josels en it bern dat jo oannimme. Adopsje is net oer jo it earme swarte bern te rêden. It giet oer jo wurde motivearre út in plak fan leafde en wirklik it hert fan it evangeelje útlibje om jo neiste te fermoedsoenjen en leaf te hawwen. Dit giet net oer dy, as in blanke persoan.
Op in protte manieren binne dit mar in pear fragen dy't jo moatte konfrontearje. As jo net ree binne om dit en safolle mear te fernearen, dan net adoptearje in swart bern wie nei alle gedachten in goed beslút. Ik pleatste in artikel hjirûnder wêrmei jo dizze dingen op in djippere manier kinne freegje troch ras út te noegjen yn 'e dialooch en in glimp te krijen fan adoptearren en har ûnderfiningen.
Net elk ferhaal is in súksesferhaal en faaks binne dat net de ferhalen dy't heard wurde. Ik bin gelok foar myn ûnderfiningen en myn famylje. Op folle manieren, Ik haw in protte mooglikheden krigen om te ferkennen wa't ik bin mei in protte kânsen, lykwols, Ik wit wol dat it kosten meibringt en dêr moatte wy romte oer litte om oer te praten.
http://colorlines.com/archives/2013/08/gazillion_voices_explores_race_and_identity_in_adoption.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+racewireblog+%28Colorlines.com%29&utm_content=FaceBook
Kara
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:05 pm
HAHA! “Myn wichtichste foarkar wie, dat myn frou wêze godly, en Jessica wie. Sa haw ik har frou.” Bêste line yn it blog. Bliid dat God jo liede ta in geweldige frou. :)
John Evangel
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:08 pm
hi Trip!
Lange tiid lêzer & harker. Earste kear kommentator. Ik hâld echt fan dit artikel.
Myn famylje is Nigerian, en myn heit stjoerde my in willekeurige tekst ien tiisdeitemoarn om 4am sizzen “As jo wolle trouwe, soargje derfoar dat it ien is fan deselde eftergrûn as jo binne. Op syn heechst, itselde lân.”
Fansels, Ik wist net wat te sizzen, omdat wy hawwe nea besprutsen dit foar. #Ûnhandich.
Ik wit wol dat ik fan myn frou hâlde sil, as ik bin klear, nettsjinsteande teint, rasiale eftergrûn, taalbarriêres, en alle oare mooglike ferskillen. It wichtichste foar my is dat se in yntegraal diel fan myn famylje is – Gods famylje. Dat is genôch.
Nochris tank!
Tilda
oktober 31, 2013 / by 6:37 pm
hahaha. Naija-âlders kinne hurd wêze op houlik . Mar guon makket it net út mei wa't jo trouwe
Quentin Lawson
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:09 pm
“Stean”… “Applaudearjen”….
komme
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:12 pm
Tank foar it dielen fan jo hert Trip. Wy binne allegear itselde as wy strip de hûd. God hat elk gelyk en unyk makke neffens syn spesjale ûntwerp. God segenje dy en dyn famylje.
JoshHaan
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:12 pm
Neat ferkeard lykas jo sei Trip oer trouwe mei immen fan in oar ras. Wat der ta docht is dat wa't jo of ik trouwe dat se fan Jezus hâlde (Merk 12:30 ESV) en dat se fan dy werom hâlde en dat wy fan har hâlde lykas God de Tsjerke hâldt. God segenje dy Trip en dyn famylje
MichaelJ
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:13 pm
Awesome ôfbraak fan hoe't de Hear wurdt hieltyd feroaret de “eagen fan ús hert” ôfstimd mei de “eagen fan ús holle”. Ik kin my relatearje oan de útdagings, ek al bin ik noch net troud, want in godlike frou dy't in winsk hat om har Ferlosser te behagen is wichtiger as hokker uterlik attribút. Lokwinske mei jo alle jierren en mei God de rêst bliuwe segenje.
JB
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:17 pm
Ik hear dy Trip, goede post.
Virgil
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:17 pm
Ik winskje dat ik koe trouwe in swarte frou!
Nolan
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:18 pm
Tank foar de post! Echt oanmoedige troch jo blog, ynspirearre my om myn eigen te begjinnen! Tank.
OJ
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:25 pm
Moaie post!! Tank
arthur do bist net genêzen
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:25 pm
Wy hawwe allegear deselde heit, mar ferskate memmen, itselde bloed fan Jezus rint yn ús,hûd is gewoan hûd,mar wat yn ús is, makket it measte út ,prachtige Mr Trip Lee. mei God jo en jo famylje segenje foar jo prachtige ynspiraasje.
deidreBaker
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:29 pm
Wow! Ik wist net dat jo troud wiene en dat se in blanke frou is, as in swarte froulju en in frou fan God, lokwinsken foar it finen fan wiere leafde! Ik hâld fan hoe't jo útlein hawwe wêrom't jo mei jo frou trouden, en do hast ek net, mar jo ferhaal is geweldich! sa foar dy broer en dyn leaflike frou Jessica, Ik winskje jim in protte jierren ta! Wês segene!
Elizabeth
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:31 pm
Hallo Trip,
Jo meitsje in poerbêst punt! Ik haw leard fan jo artikel dat it net útmakket oer de hûdtoan, mar wat wichtich is is hoe't de persoan rint mei God en har hert!! Tankewol foar it dielen fan in prachtich ferhaal.
Jimmy Sorrels
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:32 pm
Dat makket perfekt sin. Wat gjin sin is, is rasisme. Sûnt der is mar ien ras, rasistysk wêze is tsjin it minsklik ras. D'r binne ferskate minskengroepen, mar mar ien ras, mar dit liket in ferliezend argumint te wêzen mei minsken mei wa't ik it besprutsen, ek al is it de wierheid.
Timo
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:33 pm
Great post, Reis!
Jeffrey Cravens
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:34 pm
“Ik woe noait myn foarkarren foar in frou wurdearje oer wat ik nedich wie yn in frou.”
Sa'n wiere en djippe ferklearring. Myn heit is swart, mem is wyt, se binne troud west 35 jier. En ek wat rûge jierren mar midden yn dy konflikten, “hûdskleur” definityf makke neat út. De Heare hat genedich en trou west.
Reis, dizze post is verfrissend bro. Ik bin in wike fuort fan it fieren fan myn earste jier fan houlik mei in godlike frou dy't my alle dagen útdaagt mei har meilijen. Se is tafallich ek fan it Latyn, Frânsk en hawaiian fatsoenlik. Dat it lêzen fan dit is tige wurdearre.
Nochris tank, Jeff.
WALTER
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:34 pm
ik fiel itselde tink bûten it fak ik bin swart ik wol net trouwe yn myn ras ek haw ik myn redenen ik hâld fan oare soarten froulju
Michelle
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:35 pm
Tankewol foar it dielen en ljocht skine op dit. Of wyt, Swart, ensfh jo hawwe oanrekke wat echt wichtich is. De geast fan rasisme hat ús op in protte gebieten in lange tiid hindere. Ik leau dat wy dochs trochbrekke. God segent dy & dyn groeiende famylje.
Chevy Thompson
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:36 pm
gelyk oan myn ferhaal. Tank 4 pleatsing
Bachizzle
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:37 pm
Ik haw in gedachte, Ik bin in lânseigen Amerikaan ( Yndiaanske) Ik sjoch it hoe't jo hawwe en dogge reis. Ik studearre oan Southern sem. en minsken freegje my wannear giest trouwe? Ik reagearje mei “as de tiid rjocht is en ik haw gelyk”. Ik hâld myn eagen iepen en sis ik “Ik wol in godlike frou dy't sa fereale sil wêze op Jezus dat se syn wurd earje sil”. En it raskwestje komt wol op, mar ik sis dat it lestich is om in frou te finen dy't Jezus earet is wurd dat in lânseigen is lykas ik fanwegen de kulturele aspekten en ynfloeden fan pentakostalisme en matriarchial systeem yn 'e lânseigen Amerikaanske kultuer. Tank foar dyn wurden
CoreyH
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:37 pm
Ik genoat fan it lêzen fan dizze post Trip. Ik bin in grutte fan fan dy, mar ik hâld fan it feit dat jo iepen binne oer de kwestje fan ras. eerlijk, ras moat net skele as it giet om wa't wy trouwe. It iennichste ding dat der út moat is as se in kristen binne, en as se binne ôfstimd mei de wil fan God foar dyn libben. Bûten de essensjele, ras of hûdskleur is gewoan in ferskil yn hoe't wy sjogge. Ik haw datearre bûten myn ras. Ik bin swart en myn eks is Koreaansk / Wyt. It wie noait in probleem foar ús, mar ik wit noch tiden doe't wy krije staren fan oaren. It wie in nijsgjirrige ûnderfining, mar neat fan 'e negativiteit (dat wie net folle) soe stopje my út dating immen oars bûten myn etnisiteit of trouwe se. Dat wie noait in probleem mei my, myn famylje of freonen. It punt is, wy hawwe allegear ús foarkar, mar wy moatte earst rjochtsje op wat God wol foar ús libben. Moai om te sjen dat dit petear posityf is.
Paul
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:40 pm
Is d'r in privee manier wêrop wy dizze kwestje kinne beprate, lykas ik en dy.
Twinkle
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:46 pm
Ik tankje God dat jo it artikel skreaun hawwe, om't as ienige kristlike froulju, Ik begryp hoe wichtich it is om folslein iepen te wêzen foar wat God seit, ynklusyf wa't er tastiet te kommen yn dyn libben en sels nimt út. Ik bin tankber foar de ferklearring dy't jo makke hawwe “wy moatte ús winsken yntsjinje oan wat God wol foar ús yn in spouse”. Dit yn himsels helpt my om myn manier fan tinken en waarnimmen ôf te sluten om te rjochtsjen op wat God foar my en myn libben wol. Ik bin swart en haw de foarkar swarte manlju; lykwols wurket God oan myn hert yn dat gebiet sûnt ik begjin om him te sykjen oangeande in godlike man. Tink oan hoefolle minsken eins de ferkearde persoan kieze om te trouwen of sels misse wa't God foar har hat gewoan fanwegen har beheiningen / foarkarren. great artikel! It hat my wirklik seinge en ik bin der wis fan dat safolle oaren.
Skateboard
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:48 pm
Being út it Suden en biracial, Ik haw omgean mei konflikten oer ynterrasiale dating in protte. Ik kin gean fan in prachtich bern fan God te wêzen nei wat guon beskôgje as in flater of in ferneatigjende term. Presearje dat jo hjir oer prate! Hoopje dat myn man my like akseptearret as jo en jo frou fan elkoar wiene! 116!
JON
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:50 pm
Goede post, ik tink dat it in protte kearen net needsaaklik is dat wy in bepaalde kleur of etnyske eftergrûn leaver hawwe, it is wat jo wend binne. Troch jo in kristen te wêzen en God jo eagen te iepenjen fûnen jo jo goede ding. Lokwinske broer.
Seinigje
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:51 pm
Perfekt.
Ricky
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:52 pm
Geweldige post Trip! Der is gjin romte yn it evangeelje foar rasisme.
Daniel Troutman
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:53 pm
Ik tink dat it cool en yntelligint fan jo is om dizze post te skriuwen. It helpt minsken dy't leafde net wite triviale kategoryen lykas ras of nasjonaliteit. 1 Corinthians 13 seit neat oer ras; it praat oer geduld, dimmenens, en wiisheid. Grutte ups foar de geweldige post!
Wil
oktober 31, 2013 / by 2:53 pm
Rjocht op! Dit is in segen. Ik bin frege, teloarsteld gesichten sjoen, en ik haw minsken heard praten wêrom / hoe't ik fêstige of waard “wipte”. Ik bea foar in godfreze frou en Hy stjoerde my har. Ik hâld fan myn frou dy't tafallich wyt is (Ik bin swart). Sy & ús bern binne myn grutste segen fan God en ik soe it net oars wolle. Tankewol foar jo iepen earlikens. Leafde oertsjûget alles.
Grutsk op 116!
Majoar
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:02 pm
Geweldich ferhaal Trip en lokwinske. Ik winskje dat jo eksplisyt makke hawwe dat jo kar foar in frou neat te krijen hie mei wat ferkeard wie mei of ûntbrekt yn in swarte frou. It ferhaal lit in leechte op dat gebiet. Ek, it moat dúdlik makke wurde dat miskien jo kar foar in tsjerke en in skoalle jo yn in posysje sette om minder swarte froulju te wêzen. In protte swarten libje as minderheden yn alle gebieten fan 'e maatskippij en dit hat in effekt op itselde ras houliken. Ik persoanlik soe graach sjen swarte froulju mei kwaliteit swarte manlju, mar ik kin net stride mei wat God hat gearfoege. De bêste winsken foar dy en dyn famylje b
David
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:06 pm
Excellent blog. Ik sil de term brûke moatte “wifing” no. respekt, fansels.
Sean
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:07 pm
Myn frou & Ik bin wyt… wy hawwe 3 wite bern en 1 Afrikaanske soan (Etioopje). Wy krije wat fan deselde fragen en ûneven stoarjen, mar wy witte dat wy troch God ornearre binne om in famylje te wêzen!
Ik wurdearje jo earlikens en iepenheid foar Gods wil foar jo libben… wat ik tink is it haadpunt fan jo artikel – Op syk nei Gods wil ynstee fan ús eigen foarkar!
Dit bibelske konsept kin wêze “kopiearre & plakt” oan elk aspekt fan in leauwigen libben… en moat!
Thanks Tripp!
J Holla
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:10 pm
Reis,
Ik applaudearje jo foar jo reewilligens om jo te dielen “redenen” foar trouwen bûten ras. Myn earste gedachte, as in man troud mei in Aziatyske frou, wie wêrom fiele jo de needsaak om dit foar ELKENEN te rjochtfeardigjen. Fansels, fan myn en myn frou’ skin toan is fergelykber, ús eftergrûnen en opfieding binne sa fier fan elkoar ôf, elkenien koe sizze “wêrom bist mei har troud?”Lykas jo neamden, dyn wiif, is DE frou, DE helper, de oare (as myn frou lêst, “BETTER”) de helte dy't Hy foarsjoen hat. God bringt dy yn ús libben dy't wy moatte hawwe, om ús út te daagjen om ús better te meitsjen. Dus wat as immen oars liket as my oan 'e bûtenkant. Lykas dy, wy soene allegear dejingen moatte sykje mei in hert dat God siket, dat is it moaiste attribút dat men kin besitte.
kesh
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:18 pm
Great post. Om earlik te wêzen leau ik dat folle mear kristenen benammen inkele kristlike froulju (mysels ynbegrepen) soe troud wêze of koe earder troud wêze as wy wat fan ús ûndjippe ideeën kwytreitsje. Krekt koartlyn bin ik begûn te bidden God Ik wol ur bêste. Wy moatte ús himelske Heit fertrouwe dat hy wit wat wy nedich binne. Myn wichtichste ding is dat ik in man wol dy't God freze en ik hâld fan hoe't jo sein hawwe dat it haadsaak ras ferfangt, ek al sil God ús segenje mei de winsken fan ús hert. Geweldige post n God segenje
Nicole
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:20 pm
Geweldich wurk om josels net allinich út te drukken, mar dogge dat op in manier dat oaren sille begripe. As wy begjinne te feroarjen ús perspektyf op it libben yn it algemien, wy sille sjen in protte fan wat wy “ferwachtsje” hat neat te krijen mei de wil fan 'e Heit. Hoe tichter wy by him binne, hoe mear en mear ús “ferwachtings” feroarje om't se begjinne te linen mei SY wil en net ús eigen. God segenje dy en dyn famylje. Bliuw dwaan wat jo dogge myn broer yn Kristus. Swart, wyt of pears, kleur spilet gjin rol as it giet om it ferienigjen fan it lichem fan Kristus. Ik bin segene wurden mei in geweldige man fan God, dy't tafallich myn deselde etnisiteit is, mar mear as alles is hy in man nei Gods eigen hert, dat is alles dat telt yn myn boek.
Andrea
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:22 pm
Thanks Trip! It hat my wirklik oan it tinken brocht oer myn eigen foarkarren en hoe't ik soms in earmlange hâld fan guon goede manlju, om't ik se net oantreklik fûn. Punten op problemen fan grutskens. Mar echt oanmoedige troch de opmerkingen dy't ynterrasiale relaasjes stypje. Ik winskje dat myn famylje dizze opfettingen dielde. As ik trou in swarte man, it sil net maklik wêze.
jason
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:38 pm
Ik fyn it geweldich dat jo foarby hûdskleur en etnisiteit sjoen hawwe. Ik kin it net ferneare as minsken dat oanhâlde en om hokker reden dan ek binnen harren ras bliuwe wolle. Wy binne minsken mei ferskate skaden fan hûd, allegear beynfloede troch sûnde. Myn famke is Spaansk en ik bin swart, mar ik sjoch noait nei har en sjoch in Spaanske frou, Ik sjoch nei har en sjoch krekt in frou, nettsjinsteande hûdskleur of etnisiteit.
Mrs Hendrix
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:48 pm
Amen. Ik bin segene troch jo antwurd. Ienris hawwe wy in relaasje mei Kristus, Syn wil wurdt ús wil en syn wil wie foar jo te wiif dyn frou lol…. (as dat sels sin hat). Hy ûntwurp har spesjaal foar jo oarsom. Se wierskynlik fangt in protte flack foar trouwe a “Swart” dude, mar de Heare wist krekt wat jimme beide nedich hiene. Sykje Him earst en alle dingen sille jo tafoege wurde (ynklusyf de rjochter spouse).
Bliuw sillige broer en bliuw ek in segen foar oaren.
Leilani Bailey
oktober 31, 2013 / by 3:48 pm
God segenje dyn Union Trip.
Tankewol foar it dielen fan jo persoanlike ûnderfining.
Gods Marriage ferbûn bestiet net út kleur of ras. Syn ivige Leafde is boppe alles..
stacy
oktober 31, 2013 / by 4:05 pm
Sa bliid dat jo dit pleatst hawwe. As it produkt fan in bi-rasiale houlik en de frou fan in man dy't net ien fan har wjerspegelet :) dit ûnderwerp is heul echt foar my. God hat my boppe mjitte seinge mei myn man, en it makket my pynlik om te tinken dat d'r dejingen binne dy't wegerje wat God foar har hat fanwegen har eigen ûnwittendheid / rasisme.
Favorite line: “Sa haw ik har frou.” LOL!
Natalie
oktober 31, 2013 / by 4:30 pm
Wat in grut artikel, en ik bin bliid dat d'r minsken binne lykas jo dy't it petear iepenje oer in ûnderwerp lykas dit en der echt mei binne, omdat der altyd liket te wêzen in stigma oan ynterrasiale relaasjes.
Ik bin Sineesk en myn man is swart, en de striid dy't wy op ús reis tegearre hawwe tsjinkaam west hawwe taai en in echte test. Wy binne jong troud krekt as do en dyn frou, ik wie 21 en hy wie 24. Wy hawwe 2 dochters tegearre, en doe't ik út allinnich mei harren, Ik sil wurde stoppe yn 'e strjitte en frjemden soe wêze as “is de heit swart?”
Meast fan al is de striid mei myn famylje west, om't se noait tochten dat ik mei in swarte trouwe soe. Wy hiene in lyts houlik en mear as de helte fan myn famylje wegere te kommen. Mar God is geweldich omdat troch dat alles, it leauwen fan myn mem waard beproefd, mindsets binnen myn famylje wiene feroare. Myn man is no akseptearre, en myn mem soe him no erkenne as har skoansoan (dat is in grutte deal foar ús!) Der is noch wat te gean, mar safolle is foarútgien, dat ik God alle eare jaen. Keep it up Trip, do bist in ynspiraasje foar oaren en ik bid dat God jo sil bliuwe seingje, dyn famylje en dyn ministearje.
PS: Jo moatte delkomme om yn Londen op te treden, UK wat tiid!!
LoganSharp
oktober 31, 2013 / by 4:38 pm
Hiel goed sein. Myn frou is Hispanic, ik bin wyt. Ras kaam my noait yn 'e gedachte foar hiel wat jo seine doe't jo jo frou moete; Ik seach de passy fan myn frou foar God, har winsk om studinten te tsjinjen en wy genoaten in protte fan deselde films en muzyk en bidden foar elkoar tidens dating. Ik begryp net wêrom't minsken tinke dat ynterrasiale houliken binne “frjemd”.
Tank foar it dielen fan dat mei jo fans en it jaan fan oanmoediging.
Natasha
oktober 31, 2013 / by 4:39 pm
Dat wie awesome! Tankewol foar it dielen fan reis. Gods leafde hat gjin bysûndere foarkar mar befrijing. Jo ferhaal wie in segen.
LeonMartinez
oktober 31, 2013 / by 4:41 pm
Moai tsjûgenis! Earlik sein spruts dit tsjin my en hoewol ik noch noait rasiale foarkar of sa hie, it stelde my noch altyd gerêst dat God sil foarsjen wat wy NEED, net needsaaklik wolle. Jo binne in wiere ynspiraasje en libbene tsjûgenis fan 'e libbensferoarjende krêft fan God. God segenje dy en dyn moaie lytse famke!
Rewantae
oktober 31, 2013 / by 5:01 pm
Prachtich artikel, Reis! Earste kear kommentator hjir!
You are so on point when you say, “Ik woe noait myn foarkarren foar in frou wurdearje oer wat ik nedich wie yn in frou.” Somtiden, I feel overlooked as a female because my personality and temperament are a certain way. I’m what you might call “frjemd” of “different” according to many people I know. Some guys like a girl who’s a little more into mainstream fashion or someone who’s a little more social and outspoken than I am. At other times, I think that maybe I’m making myself less available by my own little discriminating ideas. Those ways aren’t based on race, but more on someone’s background or their mode of transportation… because I ride the bus to school, and I don’t appreciate it when a guy tries to flirt with me on public transportation. (The idea is that if as a man riding the bus or train, you can’t afford to get a car and drive one, you have little money or are spending it on the wrong things, and therefore have no business trying to talk sweet to me. LOL… but this is also wrong.) I’m praying that the Lord help me to stay in His will for my life, so that when the time comes for that certain someone to find the “good thing,” I’ll be ready. :)
God seinigt, bro.
Juni
oktober 31, 2013 / by 5:25 pm
I totally agree that race should be one of those open hand preferences, but I don’t agree that it, or other ‘preferences’ are meaningless when dealing with conflict. Spitigernôch, in my experience, what I felt was an open hand preference, and surrendered it in favor of the Godly man before me,became a serious source of tension in my marriage, many years later, when my husband gained alot of weight, on top of what I already considered was an overweight frame. I had always been attracted to more athletic types, so when I was faced with even more weight gain, Ik jou ta, I was sexually turned off. That led to conflict, and the conflict made my preference become a mountain. Instead of being a simple physical preference I put aside in favor of the bigger picture of the wonderful man of God he is, the conflict we were having about me not being enthusiastic about sex, sparked feelings that I ‘gave up’ something that was tangibly important and necessary, and now was faced with having to be a dutiful and loving sexual partner to someone I could not respond to physically. Only God’s grace has brought us through thus far, mar, eerlijk, his body is still a major turn off, and I still wish I had hung on to my preference and waited for someone who fit my physical type, as well as my need for a Godly husband
Maddy
oktober 31, 2013 / by 5:26 pm
Aw, but I wanted to marry you. Good for you anyway. Bad for me..
SheilaTurner
oktober 31, 2013 / by 5:28 pm
As a multi-raced individual, I have raised my children to look at the character of an individual when choosing a boyfriend/girlfriend and less about color of skin. Because of that they have dated people from all races and have been exposed to many cultures. My comment has always been as long as they treat them with respect and love them, who am I to tell you that you can’t be with that someone based on skin color.
I have to say that my favorite part of this blog is this statement right here, “Ik woe noait myn foarkarren foar in frou wurdearje oer wat ik nedich wie yn in frou.”
That right there sums it up!!!!
Eric
oktober 31, 2013 / by 5:42 pm
Good news! She isn’t even “wyt”! And you aren’t even “Swart” Reis. Those terms are bunk. Praise God we are all of the one Adamic race. Even though we are different ethnicities, we are reconciled in Christ! Amen bro. Good article. One Blood. One Son.
jessica
oktober 31, 2013 / by 5:49 pm
Geweldich! Tank foar it skriuwen fan dit. You are such an encouragement, and I praise God there are godly couples like you and your wife out there. Ek, I’m sure that together, you are able to reach a lot more people than you would be able to apart. Keep reppin Jesus.
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Leesa
oktober 31, 2013 / by 6:03 pm
This was so awesome to read! hiel stimulearje. I myself have dealt with the disppointing and rasist comments. My husband is white and I am black. We both come from to totally diffrent worlds. I never thought I would marry outside my race. I even vainly prayed that God would seen me a black man with dreads lol. But I thank God he knew what was best for me and blessed not with just a white man but my king on earth! Since we’ve been married I have truly understood what it means to love in these earthly bodies. Not to tell all our biz but we have been struggling with fertility issues and I thank God for my husband because he has continued to encourage me. We love your music and your ministry. God segenje dy en dyn famylje!
kaileybrown
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:27 pm
Ik bin wyt, and my husband is black. When i introduce him most people wait until he leaves to say “he isnt what i expected!!” it used to make me mad. Lykas, who are you to judge my marriage. Now i just shrug and say “he wasnt what i expected either, but i know 100% that he is the one God sent to me” its nice to know your aproach. And just know your true fans know why she is your wife.
Taylor
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:37 pm
****TRIP LEE****
Dat “martin” Comment has me rolling on the floor Laughing…but I definitely feel this entire Blog!! Man looks on the Outside and God looks at the heart. My wife often quotes that A womans heart should be so hidden in God. That a man has to seek him in Order to really Find her…
jake
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:51 pm
All who have been baptised into Christ have put on Christ, there is neither Jew nor Greek, Scinthian nor Barbarian. This is the truth revealed in holy writ, lykwols, many a believer still have “unrenewed” minds that’s. Why ethnicity is still an issue. I will continue to grown in birth pangs until Christ be formed in us all.
Pamela
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:53 pm
Good word! Love the family pics. Blessings!
Leesa
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:54 pm
I am not married yet but a lot of my cousins are and they are married to people from different races from all around the world. It’s so cool that families can be made of so many different skins colors. I think interracial marriages are so beautiful because they remind us that we are all His children EQUALLY and beautifully created. The Lord looks at the heart and so should we as humans in friendships and romantic relationships.
IAMDJLADYJ
oktober 31, 2013 / by 7:54 pm
This inspired and blessed me in so many ways. I love to see interracial couples/marriages! It’s always been my desire as a black woman to marry outside my race. I look forward to the day I meet my spouse knowing he was hand picked and designed for me! We have to get to that place above all else where we turn to God and accept all He has for us. Sure it’s OK to ask or tell God what u want or like. Dig this He already knows. Better yet He knows what’s best for us. So we have to be mindful of what we ask or pray for. What u want is not always what u need! Trust God make your petitions known and allow Him to do what He do!
AmandaB
oktober 31, 2013 / by 8:05 pm
I’m really glad you married Jessica. She is an amazing person with an amazing heart. You two have an amazing influence on people as a married couple who are in love with each other and Jesus. Just thank you so much for looking at the heart and not the color on the face.
Paula
oktober 31, 2013 / by 8:23 pm
Reis, all i can say is excellent, words can’t express the joy in having you share with such transparency about why you married your wife, This is really going to help those see from another perspective and who maybe pursuing marriage in the future. God truly knows what’s best for us. May the lord continue bless your family!
atiya
oktober 31, 2013 / by 8:25 pm
moai & ferbazend….
dmoney
oktober 31, 2013 / by 9:00 pm
Reis, thank you for preaching the truth to the misinformed and to me personally. though i am black im always pictured myself with someone of a different race. but i God has been slowly dealing with me to be accepting of all races and that the important thing is his heart reflects that of Christ. Thats what matters the most. Plus you have the full love and support of my home church. we are full of biracial couples and mixed kids. plus i have so many mixed friends that there overrunning the country lol. im proud of you for standing up and telling the world what they need to hear :)
SP
oktober 31, 2013 / by 9:09 pm
I enjoyed reading this post, Reis. It hits close to home. I am also in an interracial marriage. I am black (Jamaican, Native American, the ancestry can go on) and my husband is hungarian, german, etc.—so he’s white. I always knew I wouldn’t marry a black guy and I didn’t know what race my future husband would be. So just like you, I went to college not wanting to date but to grow as a Christ-follower and get an education and I met and fell in love with a special young white male.
When we started dating, a few months in we knew we would get married some day and we did just that a few years later. I was privileged enough to grow up in a diverse area and have family members who were also in interracial relationships so, his skin color never phased me. I saw him for who he was; a godly man whose heart was full of love, humility and kindness. He looked past my skin color as well, looking at my heart and seeing me for who I am on the inside. There is no doubt that God brought us together. I couldn’t have hand-picked a better husband for myself on any given day. Ja, I may have had my preferences too as to what I wanted my husband to be, but truth is, God truly did give me so much more than I deserve and so much more that I never knew I even wanted.
There are times when being an interracial couple seems awkward in certain situations but last time I checked-we all bleed the same color.
Jeffrey
oktober 31, 2013 / by 9:34 pm
“Der is neat needsaaklikerwize mis mei it hawwen foarkar, but we have to hold them with an open hand.” Great quote in every vein of life!
MarcosJackson
oktober 31, 2013 / by 9:46 pm
Betanke foar it pleatsen dit! I enjoy the honesty and transparency. God bless the both of you!
Melodye
oktober 31, 2013 / by 9:57 pm
I’m thankful for people who are willing to listen to God above society in all areas of life and allow their minds to be conformed to His will and His way. I think often we don’t even realize the box and parameters that we place on ourselves. My family was military so we’ve been colorblind for the most part all growing up. However in the South preferences and stereotypes reign supreme, often… I even had a close guy friend in college tell me that I was the most beautiful, smart, amazing girl he’d ever known but he just never thought he’d date a ___( insert race here)___ girl. BROKE MY HEART. hah and I didn’t even like him in that way. I’m glad you allowed yourself to fall in love and are in turn obediently opening your story up to others.
jason
oktober 31, 2013 / by 10:43 pm
Numbers 12:1-11…No need to justify yourself to men bro, seek to show yourself approved unto the Lord. A pure heart & faithfulness towards the Lord Jesus will cancel any charge or words any man can spek against you.
kangstawillz
oktober 31, 2013 / by 11:15 pm
Yo trip u are the man.I will also do the same.lol.I will marry in the lord and skin colour race,e.t.c won’t matter as long as she a godly one.GOD bless u man.
Lindsey
novimber 1, 2013 / by 12:00 bin
Its so encouraging to read this. I’m white and my husband is black, and we live in a mostly hispanic neighborhood. Wy hawwe 2 beautiful girls but as you can imagine we get alot of looks. Our own families can be pretty negative at times. But the most important thing we’ve learned is that even though there’s cultural differences (especially when it comes to raising the kids), the most important thing is to keep our hearts and desires with Jesus.
FortuneLawrence
novimber 1, 2013 / by 1:20 bin
I’m so blessed by your post Trip!
I have a question though. I am an African(Swart) lady and I prefer white guys to black. That is mostly because I’m not so comfortable with some of the traditions in my home country. ik moat sizze, I love black men a lot but like I said, my country has some ridiculous beliefs. Would you say I’m wrong in making such preferences?
Julia
novimber 1, 2013 / by 1:53 bin
Great article Trip. I love what you said about race not being an issue. I’m white or at least look it to most people. I was raised in a biracial home…my mom is Italian and Hispanic and my dad was white. I am currently dating a wonderful black man who doesn’t have an issue with me not being the same race as him. He sees me as beautiful. Black women on the other hand see me as a threat. They only see me as white…if they only knew the truth. It shouldn’t matter what race you are all that matters is that 5he person u marry is a believer too. Thanks again for the article.
Daniel
novimber 1, 2013 / by 6:27 bin
I used to use verses to discourage this kind of marriage. “Adam and Eve were most likely the same color / Samson’s dad wanted him to marry someone from the people of Israel / Isaac’s dad went to great lengths to find a wife from among ‘his people’ for Isaac, etc…”
My discussions on this topic were unkind, spotty and — quite frankly — baseless.
And then God changed my heart and put me in a situation where I had no option but to lean on Him. He taught me what it is to trust in Him. And that’s when I started valuing those around me who also trust in Him. I drew closer to God’s people — regardless of culture background — and fell in love with His disciples because of the grace, faith and love they demonstrated.
And that’s how this American ended up marrying a beautiful, godly Brazilian girl. It’s been 10 months and God has taught us both so much! It’s been a sweet relationship that has proved over and over again: God’s ways are best, when our conceptions are put to the test.
Tracy
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:05 bin
I have always wondered how a child feels being mixed. I know for me I would want to be fully one race or the other. It wouldn’t matter which, Chinese, Eskimo, Indian etc. It is a question I have never heard addressed.
ELVISNIXON.com
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:17 bin
Great post
One caveat:
Hungarians are Magyars. Magyars are lineal descendants of Attila the Hun (hence the term HUNgarian) who are often referred to as the “Mongolian hordes” -Attila is still one of the most popular boys names in Hungary- as is Arpad- therefore they are,technically, Aziatysk.
So you are even more diverse/multicultural than you thought!
RyonFreeman
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:32 bin
goed guod
BrendaF
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:37 bin
That was awesome! Her race honestly didn’t even click to me until i saw this post. I am black and my husband is half black and white (although he looks hispanic) and i get jokes all the time from people saying that i don’t like black men. Oh and don’t let them see my kids. BOL! It’s always a double take. I have been married 7 years and it’s still funny to this day. God bless your family man!
TamaraC
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:41 bin
Amen! Dankewol! Your testimony goes all around the world… People need that. God segent dy!!
Message from Germany, Europe!
Keinya
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:44 bin
I appreciate this post so much. I am in an interracial marriage as well and my husband and I both have stories about how people who may know us and feel like they know us pretty well somehow learn of what our spouse looks like or in my case sees a pic of my kids (because they could pass for his look alone until you know they are part black then you may catch certain little features) and immediately sees they must likely don’t have a black dad and that was their expectation. Ek, my kids fluently speak another language so that really confuses people since our last name is Lawrence. There’s a story behind that too because he is of mixed race too (just not black). Hoe dan ek, I love the fact that you touched on this because for some, it’s such a huge deal and even struggle as there are some strong racial influences and pressures in our world (media, our loved ones even, friends, ensfh). My feelings are mutual to yours and many others who commented. Dankewol!
Keinya
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:48 bin
Trouwens, I LOVE the song “goed ding” about your wife. It’s really beautiful and makes me think of my own relationship. Thx for great music too! :)
Logan
novimber 1, 2013 / by 9:17 bin
I LOVE “ROBOT”!!! I’m going to be dancing to it for a carnival.
Michael
novimber 1, 2013 / by 9:37 bin
“Sa haw ik har frou.” I’m stealing that.
TylerDouglas
novimber 1, 2013 / by 9:53 bin
OH COME ON!!!!! I am Caucasian, and even I have seen every episode of Martin
debbie
novimber 1, 2013 / by 10:08 bin
I am so happy to read this and see that others share my same feelings towards marriage and “ras”, god bless!
jason
novimber 1, 2013 / by 10:35 bin
1 samuel 16:7…The Lord judges by the heart, so why dont we? We should make what the Lord has said our standard, not what our flesh wants/neither the standards of this world. Yn dit gefal, from a man’s perspective, the standard for a wife is Proverbs chapter 31, not skin tone/not the worldly standard of marrying inside your own “race/ethnicity.”
tabby
novimber 1, 2013 / by 11:20 bin
dude that is awesome!
tony
novimber 1, 2013 / by 11:31 bin
I appreciate this because I’m African American and my wife is Hispanic. Her race was never a factor to me, because of her heart for the Lord. We now have a baby girl. When I look at my wife and daughter I don’t see a Hispanic woman, or a mixed baby. I just see the two biggest blessings in my life (apart from the Lord Jesus). Sometimes I even forget that we are an interracial couple and family. It’s not exactly easy all the time because of other people, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family!
andrew
novimber 1, 2013 / by 1:09 pm
Reis, thank you so much for this. ik bin wyt, and from Cincinnati and where i grew up I was usually the only white kid on the block. My wife had completely different upbringing. she grew up in rural Nebraska as a Mexican. I can’t even begin to explain some of the stories she would tell me that her and her brothers had to grow up with because of the hate, stereotypes, and flat out ignorance of the people she grew up with.
She moved to the Nati to be close to me. She moved there thinking she would not have to put up with, hear, or experience the things she went through growing up. Wow, were we both shocked! The things people would say to us in the mall, at the park, or just out to eat. You would think we were on the show, “What Would You Do.” It was a struggle, our love kept us strong, our friends had our back, and our God kept us together.
We now have been married for 11 years have 4 beautiful children to show for it. We also now live in that same small rural town where she grew up. The hate is less, but the looks are still there. The thing we always say/do whenever we experience these “attacks” we lift those who are “attacking” us up in prayer. The Bible talks about love your enemy as yourself, and though I don’t consider these people to be my enemies, the concept of the scripture is still the same.
Leafde, we just need to show everyone love. No matter the race or background of a person, God loves them, and we are to be like Christ, so we too should love them.
Takudzwa
novimber 1, 2013 / by 1:58 pm
Wonderful article Trip lee. As for i’m still single but since i was little i had interest in marrying a white woman because two of my uncles got married to white women. When i got saved i didn’t see any difference between black or white but as long as we are practicing the same Faith.
Andrew Almond
novimber 1, 2013 / by 2:39 pm
Wonderful post Trip. I’ve been struggling a lot recently with dating questions such as who I should date, and when, and why, and how to wait on God through all that stuff recently, and this post was very insightful. Tankewol foar it dielen.
Jenna
novimber 1, 2013 / by 2:43 pm
Wonderful post! Reis, you have a beautiful family, and I thank you for sharing your heart. Although my husband and I are both white, we grew up very differently. He is a true country boy and self-proclaimed redneck. I have always felt more comfortable around black people, even as a small child. I was never opposed to marrying a white man, but my preferences were definitely geared toward men in the hip-hop culture. People often ask us how we ended up together, and most people are shocked to find out my husband is white. He isn’t what I had envisioned for myself growing up, but he is everything I needed in a husband and father for our kids. The Lord has truly blessed me, and I can’t imagine my life any other way!
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RG
novimber 1, 2013 / by 3:31 pm
No longer your heart or preference but what God has planned/willed. It’s amazing how God’s providence is revealed. I am Native American who grew up on a reservation and my husband is Mexican. We both grew up in different states yet we believed in the same Sovereign God who willed where he wanted us to serve HIM and made provision for us to meet. We now live near the reservation in my home state. I prayed (as a new Christian at the age of 8) that God would use me in my home church and I would never have known that God would grow me into a Pastor’s wife of this said church! dochs, I’m blessed to know that this same powerful God who created the world could also use us to show other His great love and grace. To come along side my husband as his helper to share the gospel to my own people.
This was a great encouragement to me. And it’s great to hear how God can change a heart to do His will! Continue to do His work!
Thank you for the songs and the truths you incorporate. Our family enjoys your music. Especially my teenage sons.
halfNhalf
novimber 1, 2013 / by 3:32 pm
My husband is mexican, and I’m filipino. Wit ik 3 languages and learning a few more. My best friend is black and her husband is arabian. It is amazing to see a mixture of races at churches and even in groups.
We really do just look at the content of one’s character. It’s neat to learn languages and see all of the beautiful cultures. In Christ there’s no Jew, Greek, Male nor female.
matt
novimber 1, 2013 / by 4:06 pm
One of my more embarrassing “foarkar” looking back was for my wife to be a Denver Broncos fan.
gelokkich, God allowed me to grow in maturity before he brought my stunner to me.
Maria
novimber 1, 2013 / by 4:13 pm
ik bin wyt, I got pregnant, first year of medical school with a black mans baby. At three months pregnant, God sent me a friend – a brown Indian man. We were both just starting our medical school careers. What I was about to do was crazy enough. When he told his parents about me they threatened to withdraw all support, his brothers refused to speak to me. After a year and a half we got married we are still in school, raising our son and still have people confused. God is sa goed, at one of the most difficult times in my life, he gave me a friend, a godly man, to love me, all of me, my + baby. Heres to a real man. Heres to a very loving and gracious Father.
Alecia Robinson
novimber 1, 2013 / by 4:48 pm
This is hypocritical but when I see an interracial couple in public I think nothing of it EXCEPT for when I see a Black man with a non-Black girl. I don’t even flinch if its vice versa but I do know that being a Black man in this society is harder than most. I used to work in a hotel alongside Black men and while guests treated me with respect and believed I could do my job with excellence, they flipped the switch with my Black co-workers right in front of me. I could deliver towels to their room but the guests wouldn’t open the door for them. I could check guests in with ease but they were asked “Ik wit it net. Can you handle this?” I could stand outside on break without bother but the police stopped them to ask “What are you guys doing?” People judge and treat Black men differently and I haven’t figured out why. So when I see a Black man with anyone else, my first thought is “He is trying to make life easier on himself.” My second thought is “He wants his kids to have her features.” But hey, who am I to judge? (Even though I do) I will most likely marry outside my race simply because of my LOVE of adventure so like I said in the beginning, this point is just straight hypocritical. At least you married yours for the right reasons.
Lynn Burgess
novimber 1, 2013 / by 7:06 pm
I applaud Trip & Jessica Lee. Integration of the true church of Jesus Christ and “interracial” marriage within the church is the answer to racism in our culture. There is only one race, the human race, “male and female He created them…” (genesis 5:2in), and nowhere does scripture say to marry those of your same skin tone or eye shape.
Tiona
novimber 1, 2013 / by 8:14 pm
Thanks for the article! As a single black woman who loves God and seeks to live my life in a way that pleases him and reflects his love to others, I have prayed hard about this topic. The single men in the churches I have attended have mostly been non-black men. At times I feel like I am at the bottom of the totem pole, competing against the white, Asian and Hispanic women with long, flowing hair and features that I will never have. Even in looking through some of the Christian dating sites, I have noticed that a large percentage of the men with solid profiles indicate they are interested in pretty much all ethnicities except African-American.
Your article was encouraging to me and spot on. I will trust God to provide in all areas of my life, including my relationships. Tank!
Thanks for your honesty!
Grandmother
novimber 1, 2013 / by 10:31 pm
Many, many years ago when my oldest son was about 2, we were driving through a black section of town and he commented that all the people were black and asked why was everyone black. I tried to explain that a long time ago people thought it was better if all the white people lived in one area and all the black people lived in one area. I further said that now we know it doesn’t make any difference what color your skin is. Out of the mouth of babes……hy sei, “yeah, the important thing is that we got skin!”
Jays_Page
novimber 2, 2013 / by 12:56 bin
genesis 2:18
Spreuken 12:4
Spreuken 31:10-31
Well said brother.
tendekai
novimber 2, 2013 / by 3:32 bin
marring a God fearing woman is the best you can ever do to have a happy family. well said trip what you want in a women is far more important than what she should look like.
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Kaila
novimber 2, 2013 / by 4:19 pm
I love that you were so open and honest with this post. I feel like the act of interracial marriage and dating is a topic people need be more open to discuss because in every generation I feel as though people have an issue with it. From my point of view I think it’s beautiful to see how love doesn’t discriminate.
But I also think my openness toward it is because I have always grown up in a community where it wasn’t just one race and my parents never raised me to dislike anyone because of their skin. Mar, I did experience some slack my junior year when I took my best friend, who was white, to prom because my paternal grandmother isn’t fond of white people. lykwols, her reaction didn’t change my mind about who I should or shouldn’t date.
I never had a preference on what race I dated. Mar, when my family found out I had a boyfriend and he was black, they were surprised. They were surprised because my immediate family has been living in a predominately white area for the past 10 years and they thought that would sway my relationships.
daniel
novimber 2, 2013 / by 4:43 pm
This was a very encouraging post. My wife is black/El Salvadorean. .. and I am a Korean man…. It is absolutely unheard of in Korean culture to marry outside of Korean race let alone a black/latina woman. As an odd interracial couple we have faced much adversity, but the only thing that mattered was Christ and our bond in Christ through friendship to courtship and now in our marriage.
I never really post on things like this but this post did speak to me and confirm my resolve in how I council others who are in pursuit of finding a spouse in their ethnicity.
Kevin
novimber 2, 2013 / by 8:12 pm
I think this is an amazing story. I love how transparent you are because a lot of us try to hide things like wanting preferences, but i love how you said we have to submit them. I pray that God continues to show me things like this because I truly believe that it will help me to keep my heart and eyes on God and His Word and not just the appearance of the women around me.
JoeyE
novimber 4, 2013 / by 9:01 pm
My wife never thought she’d marry a Yankee, Hispanic, Jewish Christian. I’m glad she did. :)
MJ
novimber 5, 2013 / by 1:18 pm
STELLAR! Than you for sharing your love story. Jeugd, college students and young adults are in DESPERATE need of such examples! I know because I’ve been having a blast talking about sex, dating and relationships with them since 2003. Will definitely be sharing with them at https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.
God seinigt, Reis!
zacharybrunotte
novimber 6, 2013 / by 6:19 pm
I’m a white man with a black wife. We are still in our first year, but no regrets! We have our fist child on the way and we love our little family. Like Trip Lee, I pictured myself marrying a woman of my own race (I think its just natural). But I never once questioned it or thought of it to be “rjochts” of “wrong.” She is of God. Thats the only race that I look at!!
NTOBEKO
novimber 7, 2013 / by 2:01 bin
Amen fam, glory to God for diversity grace and peace.
ugh
novimber 7, 2013 / by 8:51 pm
You wifed her? Ugh, you couldn’t have said married?
Jenn
novimber 7, 2013 / by 9:50 pm
Reis,
I remember when you and Jessica first started dating! I remain encouraged to see you two continuing on in God’s grace. This was a great blog and I think it may be freeing for many people as they choose to look at the heart of the person rather than the outer.
Jenn :)
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Joel
novimber 12, 2013 / by 4:25 pm
Amen brother
“Run hard and fast towards the savior and if you see someone, in the corner of your eye running in the same direction, you should take a second look”
Rachael
novimber 27, 2013 / by 4:08 pm
Absolutely love this! I’m sharing this with my parents. My parents have issues with the fact that I find myself interested in guys of a different race. Even though I have not always been interested in the most godly guys, there has been times when I was interested in a quite godly man, but because he was not white my parents completely dismissed and forbade any sort of relationship with them. I am definitely sharing this with them, hopefully this will open their eyes.
Tasi
novimber 30, 2013 / by 11:15 pm
Broer, words like interracial relationship should be taken out of our vocabs. There is only one human race.
Maurice
desimber 6, 2013 / by 2:59 pm
Never saw it that way. I’m not racist, but in my growing up, there was a notion they taught us in our culture that implied that white girls only love you and hate your family. They love to be closed in. So my grandparents always said “if you want us not to come to your wedding or not to pay you visits at your home, marry a white girl. Because she won’t allow us to get close to you.”
Abby
desimber 9, 2013 / by 2:55 pm
I agree trip lee
I think that if you love her dearly and god approves I say why not
I think it was Gods plan for you to meet Jessica !
Abby
desimber 9, 2013 / by 2:56 pm
Btw I love your music trip lee
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Livy
desimber 17, 2013 / by 9:23 pm
It’s funny. ik bin wyt (part Hispanic, but no one would know by looking at me), and my husband is white, but he’s from the country and I’m from the city. He’s from the south, and I’m from the north. We aren’t THE SAME just because our skin tones are similar. We walk and talk and process things at different paces, and our families are really different, but we love each other, and God brought us together. Culturally, lykwols, it takes adjusting for both of us. Dat, along with being equally yoked to serve the Lord, is what marriage is all about! Glad you spoke up!
Teboho Sekhosana
jannewaris 13, 2014 / by 5:47 bin
Our Awesome God created us in His Own image,so colour doesn’t say a thing.Love you my brother
corina
jannewaris 19, 2014 / by 11:40 pm
That is the most beautiful story………especially your wife…you guys are blessed. …AMEN to ur story! !!!
donald
jannewaris 25, 2014 / by 7:17 pm
Wierheid
Sincere
thanks for speaking up
amanda
jannewaris 26, 2014 / by 9:16 pm
Reis! First and foremost, your music is beautiful and awe inspiring. I love the message you preach in each and every single song. Continue the wonderful talent God has given you! Interracial relationships and marriages are absolutely gorgeous. It shouldn’t matter what race one is, but like you said, a Godly spouse. I am Caucasian, but have been attracted to African American men my whole life. My family is very, very, very accepting of this. :) lykwols, I pray that God sends me the right one, who has gentlemen and godlike qualities. I yearn for a man who says they love Christ more than they love me, respectful, and sweet. This has opened my eyes though to be open to all races instead of just black. God Bless both you and Jessica!
Terrice
jannewaris 29, 2014 / by 11:39 bin
Dit wie in grut artikel… i really enjoy reading your blog. Thanks for sharing your stories and being so transparent. The Lord is using you in so many wonderful ways! God seinigt!
Schia
jannewaris 29, 2014 / by 9:55 pm
Wow, this article is awesome! Glory to God! Reis, you are a really good writer as well. I felt like I was reading a romance novel or something while reading your post. Lots of smiling and “awwwwww!” LOL Thanks for being a godly influence on so many fronts.
LeisleyAbrahams
jannewaris 30, 2014 / by 2:41 bin
Thanks Trip that’s the best way it has been explained to me ever!!My girl friend and I are praying and waiting on the Lord for the next step.I’m black full blonde African and She’s white..I’m always getting questions as to why i like her and not girls my skin but all i see in her is a godly woman on fire for Jesus, Loves Jesus more than she will ever love me and that’s something I need in my life..You truly inspired me #wiseWordsTrip #NoWonderYouMyFavRapper
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AprilC
maart 3, 2014 / by 8:41 pm
I’m really glad that you took the time out to write this. This post is kind of random, never really thought about it (heck, I never even knew this page existed until today). Nonetheless, I’m glad you wrote it…I think the part that sparked my interest the most was the whole preference issue. I was married to a man for 5 jier (wy hawwe 3 children together) who didn’t want to be married anymore because in his words—I wasn’t his preference (he would often use a chocolate ice cream / vanilla ice cream analogy to attempt to prove his point–his preference was a woman with a um….”nice” body–I’ll leave it at that). The crazy thing is he actually does Christian rap—(????). Hoe dan ek, I’m glad to see that you went about the right way—putting God’s desires above your fleshly desires…..Hoe dan ek, continue to Love your wife like Christ Loves the Church….I’ll keep you all in my prayers…..
Sincerely,
April C.
Greenville NC
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april 17, 2014 / by 5:49 pm
Usually I do not read article on blogs, but I wish to say that this write-up very forced me to take a look at and do so! Your writing style has been amazed me. Dankewol, very nice post.
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ANDRE
augustus 31, 2014 / by 1:45 pm
Yep. Same reason i married a white girl. Tige tank foar it dielen. Good read. Gracefully put. God bless you and your family brother. Praise The Lord, foreal tho.
Tgirl
novimber 22, 2014 / by 9:24 pm
Goed, I think people are more shocked by the fact that the few GOOD BLACK men are wife-ing White women and not us MANY BLACK women. It’s sad that racial comments exist, but it just the way people feel, in especially, women- that are Black. I have double standards my boyfriend is Latino & I’m Black and that’s okay (for Black women to date outside of their race). On other hand, when I see a decent (which are very few) Black man with a White/Other woman, I be like DANG another one of our brothers gone…now that’s just speaking from the heart racism or not. it is what it is.
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Jeff
desimber 4, 2014 / by 10:05 bin
Hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult question. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. I only dated and had married a black women who I married more for obligation (bern) and cultural expectation than mutual interest. Since I had no relationship with God aside from occasional church visits I believe I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me. I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life. The point is the Kingdom as the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all.
Jeff
desimber 4, 2014 / by 10:39 bin
Hey Trip, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult topic. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. In the past I had dated and married a black women out of obligation (bern) and cultural expectation (famylje) than mutual affection. Since I had no relationship with God beyond church attendance, I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me.
I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life and our desperate need for his grace. The Kingdom is the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all the nations. We will pray for your family and please pray for us too.
kennedy
desimber 18, 2014 / by 2:13 bin
I joined trip I never think I can get someone as some site always for lieying and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails but u can’t escape God’s plan thus was like exciting to me an I read it being back my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture only person love & care about her “who is me” with God all is possible she is my really choice.
kennedy
desimber 18, 2014 / by 2:19 bin
I joined trip I never think I can get someone honest as some site always for lier and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails to contact them but u can’t escape God’s plan this was like exciting to me and I read it being black my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture etc… only person right person & care about her “who is me” with God all is possible she is my really choice.
ryan
desimber 27, 2014 / by 1:43 bin
NEED ADVICE:
I’m dating a girl who prefers black guys… and I’m white. She assures me that she likes me a lot, but it’s still a huge insecurity to me. I hope to one day marry this girl. Is there anything to good read on this issue or any sort of advice?
– Tank
Maleshia
jannewaris 8, 2015 / by 11:37 pm
Yes Trip! I am a single black woman and a predominately white university and this type of conversation always comes up amongst my circle of black girlfriends. Although I have preferences for black men (I’m all for black love), I’m always open to dating outside of my ethnicity because you never know who God can use to make a difference in your life. I see people for who they are based on their personality, character, their values, and their beliefs more than anything as I’m getting to know them. Looks do matter and there are certain social contexts that may be misunderstood if the significant other was raised in a different ethnic culture, but these factors are not dealbreakers. If anything, they’ll make a relationship more interesting. Your story is such a beautiful love story that I too hope to experience someday. All in all, you can’t help who you fall in love with, regardless of if their black, wyt, giel, Barney purple, or Ninja Turtle green. Love is universal and transcends all ethnicities. We as Christians are supposed to love all even with our differences. Sometimes your soul mate, true match, life partner, and best friend is someone who is completely opposite of who you ever imagined yourself being with. It makes me smile to hear that embrace how you were drawn to Jessica for the humble, compassionate, and God-fearing woman that she was and still is. Your union is a true testament that your shared faith in God transcends all differences. be segene.
Merk
febrewaris 22, 2015 / by 3:17 bin
Hey, I feel you. I have Australian Aboriginal heritage and I always wanted to marry another Koori (Aboriginal) but because of culture and ancestral religions it made it very hard. I ended up marrying a Anglo Red head. But She LOVES Jesus and that’s what matters.
isaac
april 9, 2015 / by 11:50 pm
Blessed to know am not on the wrong track as I get close to the time I will make a choice on life partner!
jamel
july 12, 2015 / by 9:17 bin
Goed guod
cece
spetimber 24, 2015 / by 3:56 pm
God bless you and your family in Jesus name it does not matter what raise you are it matters on how they treat you and you are the best pastor ever real
Ezra
novimber 6, 2015 / by 3:17 pm
genesis 15:12-14
“And when the sun was going down, a deep sleep fell upon Abram; en, lo, an horror of great darkness fell upon him. And he said unto Abram, Know of a surety that thy seed shall be a stranger in a land that is not theirs, and shall serve them; and they shall afflict them four hundred years; And also that nation, whom they shall serve, will I judge: and afterward shall they come out with great substance.”
According to the Song of Solomon 1:4-6:
“I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother’s children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.”
Conversely Numbers 12:10-15 states that Mariam is cursed by God when she disrespects his prophet, thus Mariam was stripped of her hue or color becoming white as snow. The irony of this element is that Christians have murdered whole cultures and Caucasians claim they are the chose people, when the bible is Hebrew book about an Egyptian God who specifies that Israel/Jacob bore 12 sons and produced the tribe of Israel who are black, like all members of the Holy Lineage.
I know who I am. And I am not opposed to Nubian people dating/marrying white people. I would never do it, but it just speeds up the process, so that peace can inherit the Earth instead of what we are enduring now.
Nathan Yonas
novimber 26, 2015 / by 1:01 pm
may God bless u & ur family continously
u da best
PK
desimber 24, 2015 / by 3:08 pm
I’m happy I found this post. I wish more people in interracial relationships expressed them9 in this manner versus having to put down other groups of people. In all honesty, the Lord has been working on my heart when it comes this subject. I used to not care at all about who someone was dating/married to racially speaking. lykwols, some negative encounters with interracial couples and the current anti-black woman movement left me jaded. But thank God for his grace, because He’s restoring my heart and opening my eyes to see people and marriage the correct way – even the ones that express negative attitudes towards the ethnic group I belong to.
jony marvo
jannewaris 3, 2016 / by 4:18 pm
looking foward to seeing a white woman that will like and marry me for who I am for better or worst it is my dream
Ali
jannewaris 25, 2016 / by 1:44 pm
What I have to say is very sad .. I m from the eastern part of the world and my I married a white girl.
its tough the cultrual difference.. We are getting divorce.
My family doesnt wants to meet me and I never get adjusted in her family.
She was the perfect women I can ever have, we are divorcing due to interracial issues..
My parents are sick and they want to visit US and they cant live with my wife. I am the head of the household so I have to takecare of my family backhome.
Im heartbroken, devastated right now becuase its happening now we are going thru divorce .
I will always love her
Gift
maart 5, 2016 / by 1:59 pm
Wow. That is very powerful, Encouraging and it open our eyes to see beyond our physical eyes because two people God unite them to Fulfil His purpose.
TheHonestTruth
maart 27, 2016 / by 1:15 pm
Well i am a white Good man and i still Can’t meet a Good woman to settle down with since the women of today are so much Different than the past.
Eric
Meie 2, 2016 / by 12:22 pm
I really could care less what ethnicity your wife is, but it is incredible to hear you address this (or any) issue with such humility and poise. Thank you for seeking God first.
Brooke
juny 4, 2016 / by 5:06 pm
By all accounts are words could be no truer, for a believer or not. I must emphasize you use toward the direct,” I never cared, werklik, what ethnicity my wife was to become, as I first choice would have seen her as black.” Like many, I have stuggled in my Faith as seeking duty in His will, but I do believe with all that is me, that He will send me the desires of my heart ( not just a personal preference) because for me, I believe that is where apart of my patience and/or Faith is developing. As I do agree with YOUR story as it is YOUR testimony, I equally hold account to waiting for what seems the impossible because it lead by a desire, a need, not just a want. To be more specific: I would physically love to be in the company of David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth, and Ben Affleck (when single), but I have no desire to marry them; not when my heart desires the beauty, sterkte, character, and valor of the wonderfully-created black man! Had we remained in a world free from sin, this probably would not be a much concern, but in a world were such a beautifully-made human has been degraded, humiliated, chastised, disrespected, etc…I foresee no need not to complete my journey with him sent by Him. en lastly, foar my, given today’s disconcerning examples of a black man, I want and need my son to see that what once was, (a good man like his father before he passed) can still and will be again…….
Sincerely,
B.
Marwa
juny 25, 2016 / by 2:37 pm
It is a very great joy and blessing to my life, i and my husband have begin childless for 8years now due to my inability for me to give birth and it has resolves to problems everyday in my home,so i visited a female friend in Florida,and she came up with an idea of adopting a child which i never had in mind,and now i got no choice than to apply for a child and to my surprises everything went easily and today i am happy with the Hansom little boy(Wisdom)i adopted from the Inter country child adoption center.
Mary
juny 28, 2016 / by 10:22 bin
This makes me very relief.That was a good decision to make. You never know when the right person comes around.No matter what race I will stick to that as an African American.That I don’t always have to be in my comfort zone that I can go out the box. I really appreciate this statement you gave . May God bless you and your family with many many more blessings in your life.
andrew
augustus 18, 2016 / by 1:04 pm
iam Andrew Samuel
Marcus
spetimber 13, 2016 / by 9:00 bin
Great to all of you who have married children of God. We should marry people who know how to love us and that WILL love us! This info is for daters only–not married couples; sa, if you’re married, stay married, PLEASE! If you are dating, then ask God to show who you are supposed to marry–because you don’t know sincerely! People can play nice-nice/hypocrite well for different reasons and fool you, people can be good people(but not the right one for the road that God has for you–NOT COMPATIBLE SPIRITUALLY–even 2 children of God may have 2 different roads that do not line up; remember the bible verses where I believe the disciples rebuked a man of God because he was not associated with them directly; Jezus’ answer shows that people can have acceptable missions to God, but be incompatible; then again, God told Hosea to marry a prostitute–if my memory serves me correctly). Sa, by choosing the wrong one(sometimes, a child of God can be the wrong one for you), you might miss out on blessings that might only be unlocked with the right one. You may even bring a curse to you; your kids might be sickly or some may die before you; you might not be the right parent for you child; you may be infertile or infertile for a long time; you love one another and something’s still not right; you might get someone who has fooled you(there are witches, wizards, hypocrites, violent abusers, uncaring naggers, cheaters, ascribers to open sex or LGBT lifestyles, mentally unstable people, ascribers to bestiality–who only use the family pet as a cover, atheists or agnostics–who have used religion to win you over, liars, the narcissistic or selfish, alcoholics and drugheads, conpeople and getting illegal money, pagans/satanists, lazy people, the childish–negatively speaking, fansels, verbal abusers, cursers, people who will never repent, serial killers, pedophiles/incestuous people, etc. out there).
You ask God, because He has a plan for you and because(if you divorce for whatever reason) it’s my sincere belief that you aren’t supposed to get married again until your spouse dies(or have sex again for those who are crafty). You’re not supposed get divorced period(except for sexual unfaithfulness), but you should be without sex or marriage if you do for whatever reason. Can you honestly say that if you(if you get a HORROR of a spouse and you can’t take it–it shouldn’t happen even then, but what are most going to do) or your spouse is the reason why you get divorced that you can go without marital sex for a period that might go outside your sexual prime(this period could be several decades)?! THAT’S WHY YOU SHOULD ASK GOD WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY! It avoids sin later(because you may or may not get lucky, but He knows) and your Christian journey is maximized! What if God did not answer your marital issue(kids, te) prayers–letting you reap what you’ve sown for choosing to marry for personal reasons only?!
Marcus
spetimber 13, 2016 / by 10:59 bin
On another issue: there are some marriages(unless you know God has signed off on them–ask Him to be sure; don’t guess) that could be asking for trouble: 1. BMWF marriages in America: we live in world of white progressive, objective racism! White racists are aggressive with racism more than any group that I’ve ever seen! And the black man is enemy number 1! They put disgusting things in your food, blacks and their kids may get filthy/germ-laced hugs and handshakes, spells/curses may be put on the man or his kids, cops profile and mistreat black men far more aggressively if a BMWF marriage is proclaimed as you are supposed to, they disown family, sy “nepotize” pure white family members(kids, te) and discriminate against mixed members(kids) and the black man, they murmur against their “enemies”, they attack and/or kill black men, certain brother/sister relationships will become strained or inimical and almost all white brother/sister-in-laws will have no or an inimical relationship with their black counterpart, teachers subtly villify, etc. Can you imagine possibly your kids having no/a cheap relationship with their maternal family? At Christmas: white kids get a $150 gift from this member, but your kids get $25 gift or nothing. Can you imagine if something happened to your loved one(husband or child) and wondering whether your family had something to do with it and not being able to prove it? Many of these things can be expected; but also, these couples have to deal with the things that other marriages have to deal with, te! Bills, domestic home/property care, family expenditures(sometimes unexpected), kids discussion(SPECIAL and requires more time than others–even encouraging your child to realize that racist whites see them as black and maintaining a balance that he/she loves both parents and all people the same respectively), jobs, spending time with your friends so that they remain your friends, etc. There’s so much going on that makes the marriage unhappy, if God did not ordain it!
2. Marriages where there’s a big gap in religious philosophy or where the main points of the religious teachings are opposite or not compatible. Just ask king Solomon. Christian and muslim. Christian and buddhist. Christian and hinduism. Christian and atheism. Christian and satanism(illuminati, freemasonry, and their other sects and ties). Be sure that God wants you there before entering, because God may use you to convert the person or someone else in your journey who will listen!
BRIAN
desimber 28, 2016 / by 6:25 bin
Geweldich,
Good article, it has reverently talked to my soul.
May God bless you and your family forever to eternal life.
Joel
jannewaris 2, 2017 / by 4:03 pm
This is so Awesome. Ik hâld der fan. God segent dy.
Mbah Joel
jannewaris 2, 2017 / by 4:04 pm
This is so Awesome. Ik hâld der fan. god
bless you.
JoshuaKirkland
jannewaris 7, 2017 / by 2:42 pm
Reis,
I really admire your drive, determination, willingness, & leauwe. The fact that this disease you have has plagued you & really made life difficult for you is absolutely crazy! lykwols, you perserve & fight through all of that & continue to complete the things God ask of you. When I heard that the Unashamed Tour of 2012 was your last group tour, my mind began to wonder as to why you’re hanging it up. Once I found out that you had your fatigue disorder & that you were staring a pastoral internship, I began to understand that God had another purpose for you. When Rise was released, I was SOOOO excited! Man, I was soooooo hype! To tell you the truth, The Good Life was the 1st Christian Hip-Hop album I listened to & purchased. Ever since then, I’ve been hooked onto hip hop music that praises Jesus. Your music has been so influential in my life. I pray that you continue to fight through your struggles and impact the kingdom! #116
Blosam
maart 8, 2017 / by 3:10 pm
Wonderful story. I am happy or you. I am married to my own ethnicity but that didn’t save me from miserable life I am living. I only kept my marriage to protect my kids future and God hates divorce. I live in a hell hoping to go to haven.
Achi
Meie 7, 2017 / by 5:57 pm
Love is everything…color is nothing…
LaKiKI
Meie 11, 2017 / by 9:57 pm
Who are you trying to convince of your choice? Jo, or us? If you truly picked your wife, because of GOD this article would not exist. You don’t need permission. Ja, I am sure there were plenty of Black Godly women that were just as amazing as the woman you chose. But you didn’t want them, nor had an interest. Your desire was for your wife. This is fine. Just stop trying to justify it, as it is ridiculous and condescending.
I AM Guessing only comments that cosign your status get posted, but I will try again. Free speech matters!
james
jannewaris 23, 2018 / by 1:46 pm
WOW REALLY. You need to go to God and get in the word. I dont think you know what you are talking about cause you clearly missed the point of this. Im thinking you dont realize the purpose of him doing this is to help and encourage others with the same situation. The way you came off sounds like its of resentment or ignorance or maybe even prejudence itself because you think he trying to throw it in peoples face he is with a white woman and thats not the case. It sounds like you mad he with a white girl period.
Tiffany
juny 27, 2017 / by 5:55 bin
What’s up Trip. This is Tee. I really enjoyed this article. Even though I’m years behind. Lol. But honestly there is a reason I’m just seeing this. My husband is white and I too grew up imagining myself with a black man. But God created me to be different. Even growing up I was the cool kid on the block, known as one of the fellas. Then in college the fellas title change when they thought I was cute. But because I’m a officer that was to hard for a black man to support me on. So I got blessed at 30. 3 years strong with a beautiful little girl. I just pray the world can come together and know love has no color. God seinigt
P.S. My Lil brother wife is Asian, married 9 jier. My mom calls us her melting pot of love.
CAPTJIMJIMANAMBO
july 16, 2017 / by 7:59 bin
GOD BLESS YOU!
YOU BLESSED ME.
Millz
augustus 5, 2017 / by 10:35 bin
Good Morning,
Both my wife and I appreciate such dialogue as we feel these types of narratives as “touchy” as they can be need to be addressed in our society and more importantly as Christians. I am a young black man myself, my wife, who is white, is seven year younger than I. We both love Christ deeply. As we truly believe that through prayers Christ gave us each other. We now are parents of four beautiful children in a blended family. This union God created for us certainly didn’t come with its obstacles we lost friends and family along the way that we still pray for. The truth is God’s plan for us is never what we intended. And the bible is chock-full of scenarios that speak on our God’s plan and His divine perfection. (Hosea/Gomer is a perfect example)
I think the world view of interracial unions have been marred by the tapestry of prejudice, haat, many other wicked and evils things that have plagued the thoughts of mankind since our inception. It’s the reason why the bible which is the greatest love story of them all still resonates even after all these millennias.
My wife and I have experienced this hatred first-hand from both our cultures and even others not our own. It’s even more interesting when it is from a person who claims to be Christian or those who haven’t processed their own ignorance. When these things occur to us we see it as a blessing because we realize just how close we are to hearing God’s voice and not our own. Hy (Kristus) at those very moments hits us with Galatians 2:20, it is then we realize the fight we may want to have isn’t ours to fight. Does it make it easier to hear that? Hielendal net, they only reveal more questions like: “ok, I can’t fight back but what about my children? How do I protect them from the hatred they see?
That’s when you realize that your marriage was not only a personal, physical journey but a spiritual one.
My wife and I are in our ninth year on marriage (insert applause) and we haven’t been more stronger and more united because we see our mission now, it couldn’t be so much more clearer. When the bible says we are the light of the world, we truly are! And some may not comprehend that, but then you find the few who say to themselves: “yeah! What you two have I want that!”
To my brother Trip and his wonderful family and extended family I say this,
Your journey has just begun my brother and sister . Be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might. He will guide you so long as you never stop running to Him.
There will be many obstacles I know for certain you probably have already experienced them living in the South. But you are an example of the true beauty of our God, and Lord Jesus Christ. In love and marriage this shows best, for the bible says multiple times that “For there is no respect of person with God” – Romeinen 2:11
God Bless You and all the others on this post who name the name Jesus Christ
Achi
spetimber 22, 2017 / by 11:55 bin
I may do same Godwilling
Dawnn
spetimber 22, 2017 / by 3:16 pm
Bro, I so appreciate and respect you on this post. I’ve heard my fair share of reasons why black men marry women of a different race/ethnicity. This is one of the few times I’ve heard a brotha’ express the importance of Godly attributes over comparisons of why women of one ethnicity are better than women of another ethnicity. And truly it is about Kingdom purpose over preference. May our God continue to bless you, your wife and family!
Trinitee Hudson
oktober 20, 2017 / by 12:29 bin
My brother in Christ. I am so blessed by this article. Thank you for allowing the word to teach and settle issues people don’t understand.
I am encouraged by your stance in your marriage but also your ministering truth. God segenje dy en dyn famylje.
Joshua Fordham
jannewaris 6, 2018 / by 3:03 pm
I do not feel that this article was needed. I have never seen a group of people feeling the need to justify the desire to marry white as I have seen in black people more specifically black men. I noticed that black people who date and marry non white groups do not justify why they married that non white person. If they do, it is not to the degree that black people who married white.
I just have a hard time believing that all those races of women at that school that were serving God and loving him to the fullest didn’t catch your eye but the white girl, the woman who has been said to be black man’s kryptonite, caught your eye for marriage. You just wanted to marry white and trying to bring God into that as a means to not seem like every this was so God ordained when this behavior predates slavery.
If you want to date white okay but to write an article means there is something not settling in your spirit.
Amen
jannewaris 10, 2018 / by 1:04 pm
No wonder why so many black women are pissed these days.
Joshua Storm
febrewaris 3, 2018 / by 1:50 bin
ik bin it mei dy iens, Trip Lee. I have come to know that the whole person is comprised of spirit, soul, and body. So we are spirit beings, with souls, and we live in a body. It is very unfortunate that most people look at the “house” yet what matters is the spirit/heart of the person. I’d just love to re-emphasize this for someone out there reading my comment here. A man is a spirit-being. He has a soul (emotions and thoughts) and he lives in a physical body.
That white or black skin that most people are always quick to identify is just a house where we live. Mine is black, perhaps yours is black. To define people by the color of their “house” is like judging the contents of a letter from the look of the envelope. The reason why they say “his body was laid to rest” is because you are not your body, but rather you live in it. If we all appreciated these truths, there wouldn’t be any race or color issues. God is creative, he knew that this earth was his canvas, and he could never paint it all white, or all black. The beauty of art is in the blend of colors, not just one. That’s precisely why we ought to celebrate one another’s race instead of ranting about our differences. A cake contains a good amount of several ingredients including eggs, salt, sugar, etc. When they are blended together and baked, we get good cake out of that. Try to put salt, sugar, oil, and eggs in your mouth before baking and you’ll probably puke your guts out!
So whether your wife/husband is yellow, wyt, green or whatever is nothing worth discussion. The point is whether y’all find a connection that y’all think is worth keeping all your lives. Period. I honestly think that people who segregate on basis of race are small-minded, and they can’t see whole person (spirit, soul and body).
Biota Macdonald
Meie 14, 2018 / by 10:34 pm
Love that you wrote about this! I’m in an interracial marriage myself, and in many ways I was able to relate with a lot of what you shared.
Triola Dulaney-Ndiaye
augustus 20, 2018 / by 12:54 bin
People and their opinions! You guys keep living for God! You have a beautiful family!
RealityCheck
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