Hvers vegna Did I Get Married So Young?

Í gær gerði ég seint nótt stöðva í búð til að grípa nokkra hluti og ég átti mjög áhugavert samtal við gjaldkera. Við gerð lítið tala eins og hún skönnuð my items, og þá bauð hún mér afsláttarkort en ég sagði henni að konan mín hafði þegar einn. Það er þegar samtalið fékk gaman. Ég veit þetta samtal allt of vel vegna þess að ég hef haft það mörgum sinnum áður. Það fer eitthvað eins og this ...

maður: Hvað!? Þú ert gift?

Me: Já ég hef verið gift í tvö og hálft frábærum ár.

maður: Hversu gamall ert þú? Þú lítur út eins og barn.

Me: Ég er tuttugu og þrír.

maður: Þú ert svo ung! Hvers vegna í heiminum myndi gera það?

Me: Hvers vegna vildi ég ekki?

í 2009, Ég giftist á varla löglegur og varla virðulegur aldur tuttugu og eins árs að aldri. Í tilhugalífinu minni, þátttöku, og stutt hjónaband, Ég hef verið beðin og tímann aftur spurningar eins, "Hvers vegna giftast svo ung? Hvað er þjóta?”, og mitt persónulega uppáhald, "Þú ættir að hafa beðið og notið lífi þínu!”

Sumir af fólkinu að spyrja þessara spurninga voru útlendingar, en sumir voru fjölskylda. Var ég brjálaður að gifta á svona "ung” aldur?

Jæja látið mig gefa þér þrjár ástæður sem ég ákvað að gifta þegar ég gerði.

1. Ég hitti guðrækilega konu

Sem átján ára gamla freshman í Biblíunni háskóla, Ég var ekki virkur að leita að konu, en Guð sá að passa að kynna mig unga konu eftir hjarta sínu. Hún var falleg, en meira um vert hún elskaði Jesú. Hún var ljóst að hún var syndari í þörf af náð Guðs, og hún hafði auðmjúkur, teachable hjarta. Við enduðum að vera hluti af sömu kirkju, svo ég fékk að horfa á hana þjóna, vaxa, og einlæglega gefa tíma sinn til annarra. Ég byrjaði að tala við innri hring minn um hana. Vinir mínir, leiðbeinendur, og prestar allir sammála – Hún var guðlegur kona. Ég gat séð mig labba með henni og elska hana fyrir the hvíla af lífi mínu.

2. Ég var tilbúinn

Á þessum tíma fór ég að hugsa um raunveruleika hjónaband og hvað það þýðir að skuldbinda þig til að einhver fyrir a ævi. Ég spurði sjálfan mig hvort ég væri þroskaður og ábyrgur nóg. Ég leitaði gegnum Ritninguna og hugsaði um ábyrgð eiginmanns, og talaði til giftra vini og leiðbeinendur. Eftir fullt af bæn og samtal, leiðbeinendum mínum og prestar í kirkjunni minn sagði mér að þeir héldu að ég væri tilbúinn til að stunda hana. Ég var ofsakæti. En ég myndi ekki hafa stundað hana ef ég hélt að ég væri ekki tilbúinn að andlega leiða hana, veita fyrir hana, og að vera höfuð fjölskyldu.

3. Hjónaband er blessun

Í fyrstu Mér fannst eins og ég þurfti að sanna naysayers að giftast ungur er allt í lagi stundum. En þegar ég leit í ritningunum sem ég fann ekki svoleiðis, "Hjónaband jafngildir dauða! Flýja frá henni!” eða, "Settu hjónaband fyrr en þú getur ekki setja það burt lengur,” eða, "Aðeins giftast þegar þú ert of gamall til að njóta lífsins,” eða, "Spila á sviði um stund og þá velja the bestur einn.”

Í stað þess að ég fann skipanir eins, "Flýið unglegur losta”, og ég las leið eins Orðskviðunum 18:22 sem segir, "Sá sem eignast konu, eignast gersemi og hlýtur náðargjöf af Drottni.”

Svo þegar fólk segir, "Hvað átti þig að giftast svo ung?” Ný svar mitt er, "Þú ert að spyrja ranga spurningu.” Ég held að rót þeirri spurningu er sú hugmynd að hjónabandið stelur eitthvað í burtu frá mér, eins og ef æsku mína til spillis í föstu fórnar ást þegar það væri hægt að nota fyrir frjálslegur ánægju og flakiness.

Hjónaband er falleg gjöf frá Guði! Það er leið náðar. Ég fann konu, og það er gott. Ég er ekki sammála með rökum sem segir, sett af ríkustu blessunar Guðs eins lengi og þú getur. Í stað þess að ég myndi segja að njóta góðar gjafir Guðs og ráðsmaður þeim til dýrðar hans.

Þetta er ekki að segja að allir ættu að giftast þegar ég gerði. Það hefði farið illa ef ég hefði reynt að giftast áður en ég var búinn. Sum okkar þurfa að þroskast meira, og aðrir af okkur þarf að biðja fyrir ánægju og treysta Drottni og tímasetningu hans. Markmið mitt er ekki að segja að yngri þú giftast, því meira sem heilagur þú ert. I just want to dispel the myth that we should delay adulthood and only consider marriage once we’re thirty or older.

Engin eftirsjá

Í gærkvöldi á twitter einhver spurði mig hvort ég iðrast að giftast svo ung. svar mitt? Alls ekki.

Það er einn af bestu ákvörðunum sem ég gerði alltaf. Ég er ánægðari og holier en ég var tvö og hálft ár síðan, og það er gott. Ég vil ekki að gera það virðast eins og ég sumir frábær sjaldgæft frávik. Ég veit fullt af fólki sem giftist bara eins og ungur eða yngri en ég. Þeir sáu líka hjónabandið sem gjöf og þeir hafa séð ávöxt þeirrar gjöf. Ég og konan mín kann að vera ungur núna, en ég ætla að biðja um náð til að elska konuna mína vel þar til í lok lífi okkar. Þangað til þá vil ég að hlýða visku Ok og "gleð þig yfir festarmey æsku minnar.”

HLUTIR

92 athugasemdir

  1. Jannon FitzpatrickSvara

    I respectfully do not agree with Kevin Ferere. You cannot know what love is until you know who God is, because God is Love! The Bible doesn’t say anything about dating around or interacting with others to find that one. Reyndar, Isaac layed on on Rebecca and knew she was the one for him. He didn’t date around or talk to Leah to so if she was better so he would know whether or not Rachel was really what he wanted or not.

    Speaking from my own experience, I did date others and found what love was not. Not only from my own relationships, but from my parentsand sistersrelationships. The problem was, they were not relationships based on the Word or God’s Love and that is why they did not work out. I did find a Godly Man, so it can work out the way that you say, BUT I wholeheartedly believe that if I would have waited and guarded my heart from those other relationships that were not right for me, I would have been in a much better and less broken position, to recieve my husband from a Godly woman’s perspective rather than a broken woman’s perspective with baggage to work through.

    No disrespect intended, but I believe that is a largely wrong blanket statement that could really steer young hearts in the wrong direction. (Google information about Godly dating vs. Modern Dating. There’s some really good stuff in there.)

    • KevinFerereSvara

      You also proved me right. The Bible can say whatever it wants, but you’re experiences are all you have to go off of. And whom you call God comes from a culmination of what you’re taught and your experiences. Á endanum, what you believe is a choice, but what you know is imposed upon by reality.

      And yeah, the statement may be a bit general, but it should be taken with a grain of salt, as in anything.

      • Lokelani70Svara

        I also respectfully do not agree with Kevin Ferere.
        The only thing that has been proven is that you have made a conscience decision not to live your life for God through his word, the bible. Whereas, we have made the decision to live our lives in a Godly marriage, through God’s word. The fact of the matter is, one will not have the complete understanding of this blog if God is not put first in one’s life.
        Praying for ALL marriages! Guð blessi!

        • KevinFerereSvara

          I’ve made a conscious decision to find God for myself and not by what someone has taught me. Don’t worry, I used to be just like you.

          • AC

            I’d just like to say, you can’t find God. The bible said we’re dead. Dead people can do nothing. God finds us.

        • Lokelani70Svara

          Oh… I’m so sorry Kevin, you must be confused. The God I serve is not a God of self-seekers. Worrying is not the will of God, but loving eachother as much as He loves us is! Like I wrote previously, putting God first is what is needed to COMPLETELY understand this blog, as your reply proves my point. May EVERYTHING we say and do be pleasing to God. God Bless and have yourself an amazing evening.

        • Fru-Mukete ArnoldSvara

          Hahaha, keep seeking, you will find Him- remember creation reveals Him also. Infact, I ll give you a trick, just pick the Bible and go throw it like a story book noting all the claims it makes and even memorizing them Then, check out other books and compare the claims. But definitely you will need someone to explain you somethings, don’t hold back since you are a seeker of truth.

        • KevinFerereSvara

          If you believe in God as much as you say you do, why do you feel the need to prove Him so much? I don’t have to God, because He’s in me. I am Him and He is me. But I’m sorry, you can’t comprehend that can you?

        • KevinFerereSvara

          My bad, typo: *I don’t have to prove God.*

          But the comment means what it says. Whatever is within you, that is what you are. Don’t be afraid to accept that truth just because you’re taught that it’s wrong.

  2. Addis HunterSvara

    100 % with you! I too met my husband at 20 and a year later we were married. I have had to have the same conversations with random strangers, family and friends and I want to encourage you to stay faithful to the Lord and your lovely wife in every way that is discribed in the word. My husband and I are now 30 years old and when I tell people I’ve beenHAPPILYmarried for almost 10 years they GASP!!! “Really”?? Making the same vague comments ofwasting our youthetc etc. But GOD has been so merciful and good to us that I cant express in words how blessed I am to have met my husband when I did. We love reminising on our college years together, and dreaming about all the great things that life has for us ahead! We have 2 beautiful girls and a baby boy on the way (that we humbly prayed for this year and God granted) , (atually I’m due today ;-))..and we couldnt be more SURE that It was a devine union from God to bring us together.

    Naturally, we are NOT perfect (although my friends seem to think so because we dont face the common worldly problems of unfaithfulness, disrespect and constant arguing), but we do have disagreements, mood swings, financial dificulties etc, the difference is that we Rely on God to lead our steps, we respect one another and try our best to never lose FAITH, communication, and seek guidance from the holy spirit as a couple and individually..My husband is the most unique individual I have ever met and we both understand that the key to happiness in a marriage is NOT in doing or buyingthingsto make eachother happy but Knowing who we are in Christ, following His commandments about marriage and Loving one another unconditionally, regardless of our flaws or how we mayfeelat that moment , knowing that HAPPINESS will always be a temporary emotion that goes away, but true JOY only comes from the Lord.

    I wish you and your wife many years of Blessed JOY!!!
    I Love your music too by the way ;)..

  3. JoshSvara

    Tegund,

    You are a great example to young Christians who want to glorify God in the way they treat women! Þakka þér fyrir! I just got engaged, am 22, and look forward to serving the Lord in marriage for years to come!

  4. Johnny_renteriaSvara

    Believe it or not but i got married at the age of 18. I was in no way ready to be a husband in the financial sense and I was already a father. But I had just gave my life up to Christ and I knew that the women I was with would be the one grow with me. People ask me the same things as well. I find it sad though that marriage is seen as a bad thing. Today, I was thinking about that and I came to the conclusion that people have become so selfish that the thought of taking responsibility of another person almost impossible. Marriage is not about when and why you got married but about who is centered around that marriage. And it should be christ

  5. deborahSvara

    i think u r right trip..i have a frnd who got married @ 19 (they hv been married 4 6 yrs nw)n lkng @ her now we realize apart from accepting Christ in her life dat is d best decision she has ever made….though i must admit i am not ready 2 get married..it scares me cos i don’t want 2 be hooked 2 d wrong person 4 d rest of my life but i know Jesus will never let me make d wrong choicealso i sometimes wonder y get married when i get all i want from Jesus n he can never brk my hrt?….ur decision was right n i gv u thumbs up 4 dat!:)

  6. Lance PetersonSvara

    Awesome. My son also got married 2 1/2 years ago to a wonderful godly woman and they were both the ripe old age of 19. Your story reminded me of them.

  7. Brandon ClementsSvara

    I love this Trip! I got married at 22 and I absolutely love my marriage. It’s funny because I just had a similar conversation with a gas station attendant about a month ago. She pulled the whole, “Why get married when you can have the milk for free?” question and my heart broke for her. Then I went on to tell her that my wife was not a cowthat she was awesome and I love her.

    Takk fyrir að deila!

  8. Louib2001Svara

    Lofið Drottin fyrir þig bróður og yndislega konu þinni æsku þinnar. Ég bið þess að Drottinn mun hella hylli stöðugt í gegnum lífið, vegna þess að þú hlýddir minni orð hans. ég er 28 og hafa verið gift nú í tæp tvö ár og konan mín og ég hafa farsælt hjónaband og yndisleg 10 Moth gamalt barn. Mig langaði alltaf að giftast yngri, en ég held að það var ekki tími enn fyrir mig þangað til Drottinn færði gott minn nánast 5 fyrir mörgum árum (til að vera nákvæmur við hittum á daginn sem við fengum fædd aftur 31 desember 2006). Ég vissi ekki að við hvar víst að vera saman eins og ég tók hana sem venjulegt systur frá kirkjunni. Ég var líka að einbeita sér að andlegum vexti mínum, en þrjú ár síðan augu mín opnast og restin eins og þeir segja er saga.

    Það er í dagskrá Satans að fólk eigi að vera giftur, svo að þeir lifa í synd og við vitum nú þegar hvað mun gerast. Höfum við leit á genginu skilnað í líkamanum í dag? Hvernig væri bræður og systur fornicating í kirkjunni, vegna þess hvað samfélagið ræður.

    Ef við lítum á hvernig borgir okkar eru fyllt með æsku ofbeldi í dag, eigum við að taka a augnablik til að hugsa um sumir af rótum? Andartakið maður skipti Guðræknar gildi fyrir hringlaga ISM allt þetta féll í sundur. Jafnvel kristnir foreldrar eru óafvitandi að stuðla hringlaga ISM af letjandi börn sín ekki giftast ungum (á aldrinum áhyggjuefni vitanlega). Ástæðurnar eru ég vitna”þú þarft að fá menntun, kannski þegar þú hefur lokið herrum og hafa ágætis starf, þá byrja að hugsa um hjónaband”. Að hljóðið er ekki skynsamlegt það ? Svo gerist það þegar Christian barnið er fer í háskóla og þá færist í með vini drengur / stúlka sem annaðhvort kristnir eða ekki?

    Vinsamlegast ekki fá mig rangur(það er bara nokkrar af þeim hlutum sem ég hef rekist á), vegna þess að ofangreind staðhæfing á ekki við um alla. Menntun er mjög mikilvæg eins og einn aflar sér þekkingar á viðkomandi starfsgrein þeirra svo þeir gætu unnið og veita fyrir komandi fjölskyldum sínum osfrv, en hjónaband vanur að stöðva einn af síðari í hvað svæðið í lífi einn kýs að fylgja, sem reyndar hjónabandið almennt stuðlar vöxt þ.e miklu ráðuneyti, gott heiðinni, Auður og the listi goes á. Mundu tveir verður eitt hold og hægt er elta 10 000 Vá, sem þýðir að í samningi hvað sem þeir biðja Guð dyggilega þeir vilja ná, æðislegur…..

    Í lok langar mig að benda til þess að við sem kristnir byrja að kenna börnum okkar á unga aldri um mikilvægi fyrstu líf í Guði og hins vegar mikilvægi hjónabandsins( að þeir sem hafa verið gefin gjöf) svo að þeir vaxa upp og vill þóknast Guði á þessu sviði. Enn og aftur vel gert bróður mínum og öllum þeim sem búa Guðs orð. Dvöl blessaður.

  9. AnnaSvara

    This really spoke to me. ég er 21 in a relationship and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told that I’mtoo young to be thinking about settling down”, I should wait tolive life first”, finish school and establish a career before I enter courtship/marriage. You have an amazing and inspiring testimony. I wish you and your wife a lifetime of blessings and happiness together!

  10. anonymousSvara

    ég er 20 and have never been in a relationship so I’m not going to be married by 21 but I definitely respect your logic. I always have the mindsetto each his own”. I think you and your wife will definitely go the distance and I’m so proud of the steps that you took prior to marriage. It looks like both of you took the committment very seriously, which I applaud.

  11. Tony DoyleySvara

    Very blessed to read your blog about marriage at an early age. My wife got married at 18 and we have been happily married for 10 years now. Sure we’ve had some ups and downs, but I believe God has guided us steadily all these years and now we are stronger than ever. Thank you for your amazing testimony.

  12. KLE PhotographySvara

    Congrats on your young marriage! My husband and I went through the same thing when we got married 8 years ago at 20 ára! So we know exactly what you’re going through! People thought we got married because I was pregnant (I wasn’t) or because he was an illegal alien (he’s an American citizen). We didn’t have much of our friends in our corner as they were doing the single thing. But now at 28 they are coming around and trying tocatch up.I’m glad God blessed me with my husband regardless of my age. God bless both of you!

    BTW We live in the DMV area! (MD) maybe we all can meet up or go to church together! We still don’t have married friends lol.

  13. KevinFerereSvara

    I don’t think anything is being stolen from you, it’s what you’re giving up. It’s cool to have structure in the Bible, but it’s up to you to dictate your life, not a book; despite the guidance that it provides.

    It’s commendable being committed and young, but part of thatyouthful lustis the learning and growing you get from meeting and socially engaging different women. Learning what you like and don’t like to do, see, and feel; instead of your scope being so limited to just one person.

    You can’t really say you know who you are and what you’re about, or even what you really want, if you haven’t interacted but so much with other women for them to show that to you. You don’t know what Love is if you don’t know what it’s not.

    • GuestSvara

      You do not need to know what Love is not if you know what Love is. How would you know if someone gives you a fake $100 bill unless you know what the real $100 bill look like. There is only one real $100 bill, just study that and you can tell when someone gives you a fake. The same with love. There are many counterfeits out there, but if you know what the real is, then you will be able to spot the fake. Since God is love, anything ungodly cannot be love.

      • KevinFerereSvara

        Hence you must date around and meet and have sex with other people. My point exactly. What is ungodly is subjective. You may try to be legalistic about it because it is in our nature to do so, however, we must let go of these ideals being that there is too much grey area amid the context.

        • Angeldoll1Svara

          I disagree with your statement having sex with other people- STD’s, AIDS and unwanted pregnancies, are the consequences of such relationships. If one pursues such relationships, they would not learn about proper commitment and the deeper and spiritual aspects of love rather than lust. Also I disagree with your views about dating around before you want to commit becausedating aroundis not a prerequisite to know a spouse from a nonspouse. Godly courting/dating was made for humans as depicted in the Bible whereas having mutiple partners, having random sex are the traits of animals.

          • AJ

            Angeldoll1it’s pretty naive of you to think that all non-marital sex necessarily leads toSTD’s, AIDS and unwanted pregnancies”… but of course, you wouldn’t know that if you haven’t taken to time to get your head out of your dusty old book and gain some life experience.

        • KevinFerereSvara

          You look at it negatively. If you’re mature and wise enough you’ll go about it the right way. The more you avoid something, the closer you come to it. Focus on the positives and that’s what you’ll get. But of course your religion doesn’t teach you that.

    • JoshSvara

      Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13) You know what love is if you know Christ.

      • KevinFerereSvara

        Please sir, if you’re going to regurgitate scripture, the least you can do is apply your own thought to it. It’s a reference, not a speech guide.

        • elleSvara

          Your take on scripture is wrong and the way you think you’re projecting yourself as a Christian who doesn’t follow the Bible butreferencesit but chooses to live by your own code and picks and chooses what, if anything to follow that’s of God is concerning….

          Most of what you’re claiming to stand on is false doctrine.

  14. Gabe TavianoSvara

    Nice to see you blogging here Trip! Thanks for praying for me this week, God sure has been good.

    The crazy thing about you getting married so young is that your ears and eyes have been opened to God more in your few years than some that have closed Him off for much longer. You know that God is a part of your marriage just as much as the two of you are, and that’s huge. Takk fyrir að deila!

  15. Madeleine FarrellSvara

    This is an excellent thought process. I got married at 17 and my husband was 19. At the time we were not Christian, and also, we did not ‘have to’ giftast. Still for some reason we did. We have been married almost 28 1/2 years now, are parents of 5 and grandparents of 2. I LOVE my life. Not to say there were times in our marriage that one of us just wanted to walk away and never come back, not to say anger and resentment were not part of our daily lives for a season, or that thinking ew made the biggest mistake of our lives was not a thought process. But we committed. And when divorce is not an option, GOD brings the healing in time.

    My daughter got married at 20 and there was not one encouragement she ever got from people. She didn’t understand why people feel it is a last resort instead of a timely blessing. Even among the Christian community.

    Our son on the other hand got married at Christmas time, at the age of 27. Just hadn’t found the right girl. One thing.. the right boy/girl is going to e the right boy/girl even through the tough times. Just cling to The Cross.

  16. CLSvara

    I couldn’t agree more. So many people seem to think that marriage is awful and there is especially no reason torushinto it, but it is something that God wants to use to bless and sanctify us. Thank you for the post!

    >>But when I looked in the Scriptures I didn’t find stuff like, "Hjónaband jafngildir dauða! Flýja frá henni!"eða, "Settu hjónaband fyrr en þú getur ekki setja það burt lengur,"eða, "Aðeins giftast þegar þú ert of gamall til að njóta lífsins,"eða, “Play the field for a while and then pick the best one.”

    • AnaSvara

      Thank you so much for the visit to my blogI think I figured out the feed adedrss for you (I posted it in my comments). You have a darling family, by the way! Congrats on your anniversary!

  17. PraisemovementSvara

    Thanks for your transparency and formaking Jesus look good”. Mad respect for the way you livin’and bringinglory to the Word.

  18. Andrea Paige JacksonSvara

    That is a fantastic testimony. And you posted it on mine and my husband’s tenth anniversary! (We got married OLD, though.) : )

  19. JcsmsoulSvara

    god bless u brother! i know exactly what u mean although i found the lord later in life and i wish i was married to a godly man thats loyal to his wife! these dayz its very hard to find that! and another reason i hope and pray i get married and find the one is because u dont feel guilt when making love when ur married! god bless u!

  20. JazminSvara

    Thank you so much not every one will see marriage as a blessing. Only those that trust and believe in our Lord Jesus Christ will. I to got married at a very young age and at 28 years old me and my husband have 3 beautiful children and our lives are devoted to adore and worship our father in heaven. Marriage isn’t easy though, it has it’s ups and downs but through the grace and mercy of God and surrendering to his will one is able to grow. Thank you very much for your amazing story it is a true blessing. My the Lord continue to let you and your wife grow I ask for his wisdom and most of all many blessings in your favor.

  21. Tachy MusicaSvara

    I got married so “ung” as well, and this is a blessing, we always together (including our daughter of course), we share everything, and help each other, some ppl think that if you get married so young it will be for a short time, but thanks God we almost 8 years married and the most important trying to servinGod at all timesBlessings

  22. Agopylove09Svara

    that is so awesome!! im 25 and ive been thinking about what all comes along with being a good wife and truly being submissive and having god as your center and always seeking his counsel for it all and just truly letting christ take the lead and building that relationship on the solid ground of christ jesus..falling in love with our savior first is truly a must!! having that intimate relationship with HIM alllows you to grow and know what love really is and GOD provides that love that u give to your spouse.. so greatful for a savior Who always provides..<3

  23. Joe StevensSvara

    Am an oldee who agrees fully with Triplee. Though of course it is different strokes (ages) for different folks. And everyone must marry at their God-designed time. ég er 50 yrs old, got married to my sweetheart when I was 23 og hún var 20! nú 27 years and 1 month later, there is continuous (good) fireworks between us, still madly in love, best friends and walking together in God’s purpose. Wouldn’t trade the age I married for 6 months later! But even my kids must know their circumstacces are not necessarily identical to ours, nor are God’s timings and plans for them exactly the same.

  24. Femi OlowoSvara

    Am an oldee who agrees fully with Triplee. Though of course it is different strokes (ages) for different folks. And everyone was marry at their God-designed time. ég er 50 yrs old, got married to my sweetheart when I was 23 og hún var 20! nú 27 years and 1 month later, there is continuous (good) fireworks between us, still madly in love, best friends and walking together in God’s purpose. Wouldn’t trade the age I married for 6 months later!

  25. ReverandjeffSvara

    I know this one all too wellJust celebrated our 13th year of marriage, and i’m 35.. I had the same folks question me the same way, but we both just knew God had ordained it and designed it. We intersected each other’s lives at PIVOTAL moments where we ended up being each others anchor, with a common anchor of Christ. The best part is when we get the chance to talk to younger people who are struggling with relationships/marriage and we get to tell our exceptional testimony !!! Reyndar, had some of these discussions with JPaul some years ago.. Small world !!! God has given those who seek it the RIGHT VALUE system, and we VALUE our rib instead of runnin after chickenbones. :)

  26. BobshumakerSvara

    My Dad & Mom were high school sweethearts and they got married after graduation (both were 18 ára). They are still happily married to this day and have never express any regrets about their lives together. Becoming an adult might begin with marriageand your attitude concerning your decision mirrors my parents. Godly marriages are few and far between in this century….God will bless you and keep you happy for at least 50 eða 60 ár!

  27. Jeffreycotton7Svara

    I thank you and your wife so much for sharing your stories. ég er 21 and feel like i’m going through almost the same situation. I’m just not married yet. I have that mindset of why wait if you and your partner are in love, both are spiritual, positive, and perfect through each others eyes. My girl and I have no doubt that we are going to be married one day. But even though we both want to be married, she’s more of a take her time; we have all the time in the world type person. I’m more of an ASAP we are not promised tomorrow type person. So why wait? She is a very smart girl. She reminds me of your wife and her story a little. Thinking that things might get in the way of school and career goals. But that’s more towards the talk of kids after marriage. I always tell her that I don’t want to have our first child close to 30 ára. I don’t want my body to start getting weaker because of age, which would make it harder and more tiring to play around with my kids. I want 7 at the most and 3 at the least. So its good to get started at a decent age. But I will continue to try to leave it in God’s hands and not worry about it too much.

  28. aneetarhSvara

    thank u so much Trip n Jess, n everyone hu dt has shared an encouragement in one way or d oda. now i’m no longer scared of gettn married early especially considern d fact dt we both love God. God bls u

  29. DashSvara

    Jannon Fitzpatrick, I agree that God is love. The only way to experience true love is to experience the one who created love. Between to people we can create nothing to that caliber unless we are letting God guide our love lives as well. “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friendsJhn 15:13. Love is not finding a self satisfaction (KevinFerere), or finding someone who can satisfy and stimulate electrical impulses in your brain. Það er kaldhæðnislegt, your picture of theCreation of Adamon your page comes from the Renaissance period which was when the ideology of love and dating turned into something for the individual gratification no matter what the cost to someone else. That painting in itself is heretical stating that Adam is reaching out to God and took part in his creation. The Irony is this, Michelangelo at the end of his life saw what he had done and repented, trying to mix Christianity and Humanism (Man being the measure of all things). This ideology of love is where is I think you are coming from ? which is the same thing they practiced in Greek, Renaissance, and today’s culture. There really isnothing new under the sun”-Solomon, also from the Bible.

  30. Paul JonesSvara

    hey trip been married since i was 22 og 28 nú. just had our 6th anv. god has bless us with 4 young ones. i pray that he keep blessing you and your family.

  31. CLLSvara

    What a lovely testimony to the goodness of God and what He can do in lives that are totally surrendered to Him. My husband and I were married relatively young (á 24) and like you and your wife, God saw fit to bring us together for His glory. Our son married young, at age 20 earlier this yeargasp :-) and he definitely found a good thing in his godly wife. We wanted nothing more for him and it’s a blessing.

  32. KarendaSvara

    What a great article! My husband and I got married young as well, I was 22 and my husband was 25. We just celebrated 15 years of marriage. jesus, has brought us closer together as a couple over the years, teaching us todie to ourselvesin order to better love and serve each other. Selfishness is the number one destroyer of most marriages.

    Thank you for your willingness to be up front and honest about the topic of marriage as it relates to Scripture!

  33. MichaelSvara

    My wife and I married at 21 as well, and that was 11 years and 6 children ago (bio/adopted/foster). I didn’t know I wastoo youngto marry, I just knew she was the one I didn’t want to live without! God has been good.

  34. AJSvara

    Reading between the lines: we loved Jesus and we were horny.

    I see this happen all the time among Christians and think arguments such as these that dance around the real motivation are hilarious. It’d be sinful to just have sex, so it’s far wiser to rush into a lifelong commitment.

  35. CLARASvara

    The God that begun that Marriage shall surely see you through it all. You are an encouragement to young christian youths and couples Trip. Guð blessi þig!!

  36. JOBSvara

    Ég giftist á aldrinum 21 and in the same year as you Trip Lee, in 2009. I met her in church when I was 16 years old and we have been together for almost 8 years now. We served God together with AYCM ministries, reaching out to villages and sharing the word of God in the Philippines. We told each other everydayI love you because I see how much you love God”. I do not ever regret asking her for her hand in marriage. The past 4 years of marriage has been a blessing.

  37. IsaacSvara

    God’s word is indeed supreme. Proverbs 18:22 clearly spells this out.
    Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord´´.
    My take for whoever wants to get married is to first and foremost ask for God’s direction in choosing the right partner. We as humans shouldnt make our own choices and forcifully ask God to bless it. Frekar, we should surrender in total obedience, reach out for God’s grace and ask for guidance to follow his direction for our lives.

  38. SteveMcMillonSvara

    I respect this so much!! Its so encouraging because I have had a desire to be married ever since I was 6 yrs old and alot of people put me down for it. In many ways it created insecurities in me. Thank you again for this!

  39. TerriSvara

    A little over 35 years ago I married my high school sweetheart. We were both 18, almost 19. We had many naysayers and my dad even hoped I would get divorced and find a doctor. When God arranges a marriage it doesn’t matter what the age of the bride and groom. Many blessings!

  40. MissySvara

    I was married young as well (20 to be exact). Now at 32, I feel as though you can be married at any given age and at any given time to whoeverand God will use a person that loves Him in any circumstance to draw Himself closer to that personall you have to be is willing to be holy as He is holy. That’s why I don’t believe there isthe one”… Any persons who choose to get married, becomethe one’sfor eachother :)

  41. JohnnySvara

    Thank you so much. My wife and I have a similar story. A friend posted this today and it was what I needed. Praise our Lord Jesus!

  42. LiseSvara

    Thank you for this article! ég er 36 years old and I have been married for 19yrsyep, I was 17 when I married my 18yr old husband! We have six kids, love The Lord and are very happy :) we are asked similar questions all the time and while it may not be a popular choice or the right choice for many, I am so happy and confidant everyday that we made the right choice for us.

  43. SteffanSvara

    This is amazing. I know plenty of people who think this is the biggest mistake of your life. ég er 22 and have really been considering this with someone I have known and loved since my sophomore year of high school. I am sure things aren’t sunshine and rainbows for you, nor do I expect it to be for me. I commend you for putting aside all of the negativity and looking at the larger picture and what you felt God lead you to. If no one else is ever happy for you, I truly am.

  44. Kim HunterSvara

    I met my husband at 14 we got married when I was 21 and he was 23 we have been together for 22 years and married for 15 of those 22 there’s nothing wrong with getting married young its just how a person looks at life….because really your lifr is what you make it….and yes me and my husband are saved and believe in god and we are living our life for him with god all things are possible especially a long healthly loving marriage nothing easy but with god you can make it…….BE BLESSED!!

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  46. CherisseSvara

    What a blessing to know the Lord and to understand his word. I wish there were more people like you. Don’t let the Devil discourage you. We know he is everywhere.

  47. GrantYoungSvara

    My wife and I got married when we were 22 and I had the same experience. Friends that were saved and unsaved wanted to let me know I had more life to live. My barber reminded me of all the clubbing and partying I could do. My “closefriends explained that there were other fish in the sea to explore. Jæja, we actually got married around the same time 3 other couples our age did! We’re a minority but definitely not alone and it’s encouraging to remember that.

    By God’s grace we just celebrated 3 years and it’s been awesome! Thank you for sharing Trip!

  48. MarkSvara

    My take would be that if you are going to get married so young, you better know the consequences of doing so. It is very difficult even in the very best of circumstances. If you aren’t ready to work the hardest you’ve ever worked and totally sacrifice and deal with lots of disappointments and heartache, don’t sign up for it. Hins, if you can endure (and some people do) if can be rewarding at times.

  49. KevinSvara

    I love this biblically based perspective. It’s rare among American Christian, where the cultural and social structures are so anti-marriage, to see a young person, even an older person, have such a spiritually mature view on the value of God’s institution. Based on many of the comments I’ve read, this perspective sounds so foreign to people, even in the Church because we’ve allowed ourselves to lean towards the social norms of the day rather than the biblical truth of what God holds to be valued and treasured. Praying for you Trip, keep sharing the Gospel and the truth of God’s word made practical and real in the believer’s life.

  50. PastorRobSvara

    I want to let you know Trip- Lee I got married 2 months after I turned 21. Is God all in it? Was He all in it despite people opinion and their reasoning on why I shouldn’t get married that I needed to wait. Man of God I have been married for 16 years now with 2 Beautiful girls and I am thoroughly greatful to God for a Godly wise, honorable precious jewel. The beauty about your testimony is it was meant for you to tell it!!!

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  52. MavisSvara

    I have advice for all young people. If you are 18 or over, start looking for a spouse! Sex outside if marriage will bring you nothing but heartache, leaness of soul and bad health, mental and physical. Being married is a joy and economic booster! You can get so much more done and enjoy lufe so much more if you are not alone. Your parents probably got divorced because they did not follow their hearts in their youth! I don’t have the space to explain it all, but you are built to be mated. Start making yor list of must have traits right away and marry young while you have your whole heart to give. ég er 53 and very grayeful to be happily married. I was married at 31 -heartbroken many times and lots if wasted youth-way way too late. Hope done if you will be wise in your youth and enjoy it by being present in it!

  53. GOSPELMAGDOTCOMSvara

    Dear Trip Lee,
    We appreciate reading your articles.
    Could you give us the authorization to translate your articles into french and to publish them on our website: gospelmag.com?
    Thank you very much in advance for your answer.
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  54. MercySvara

    My friend bought me this book when we were teens about being a young, dignified Christian woman. Of course it encouraged waiting until after marriage and everything and had verses throughout. It mentioned and she brought it up herself that God doesn’t want for us to date. I made a vow to myself that I would have boundaries with guys (I think I almost am completely done with outgrowing my shyness). I would save certain things for marriage but on and off the past 2 years I’ve gotten depressed. I’ve felt lonely. I wondered what’s wrong with me and if I’m good enough. I’m not. I don’t know every bible verse. I need to study a lot more. I’ve been trying and I don’t want to get to know just any guy because I can become heartbroken and he can lead me down a path God doesn’t want me down but I get lonely. It’s always beautiful to see other young people in love. It’s even BETTER if they’re married and I know it’s not good to be jealous but everyone says “ó, it’ll come during YOUR time”. I think about it regularly lately. I met this really nice guy. We have very similar personalities but he said he doesn’t go to church. He said he believes in God and I know I’m not perfect myself but I can’t help but wonder because I don’t think he’s actively seeking God if I’m going to regret something. Women aren’t supposed to try and change men I heard. It leads to disappointment supposedly. Jæja, I’m tired of waiting. I guess I’ll learn the hard way. I’m not having sex though. ég er 23 and still stand strong on that but I’m confused why I don’t deserve a husband now. Everybody else gets what they want. It’s so annoying that I can’t stop thinking about guys. I get so depressed sometimes. If I marry this guy and he hasn’t changed will we be unequally yoked? Some people have everything. And I’m not saying money. I just want someone who appreciates me. It’s too much to explain.

    • NatalieSvara

      Mercy:
      You are still only 23! :) Don’t worry about not finding the “rétt” one, there is not just one person out there that is a good option. And just to clarify: YOU ARE WORTH IT. There is a reason that you are you and on this earth at this time. You are precious to Jesus, just read and claim His promises when you start to think that you are not worth it. My favorite is: “I will never leave you or forsake you.
      Someone I knew recently got divorced, and a huge issue in their marriage was that she was a believer and he was not. A decision you will have to make will beis God worth it?” Keep seeking the Lord with all your heart, and HE will direct you. He will guide you. He will provide the encouragement you need when you feel overwhelmed and depressed. Something I have found very helpful is reading Scripture out loud before I go to bed, and especially when I feel down and under attack from the enemy. You never know what God has just around the corner.. if only you wait. I know it sounds so hard and honestly, annoying, but if you will keep seeking the Lord, He will satisfy you in this season. There is a reason you are in the season! You never know how God will use it as a testimony to help other young girls who are struggling with the same thing! :) I hope this helped in some way! Blessings!

  55. MichealaSvara

    I got married at 21 and it was beautiful
    You can’t help who you fall in love with or when you fall in love with them,
    I never thought I would be the type to marry young and miss out on thefun thingsin life .. but i don’t think i did, I just shared myfun thingswith someone I love and couldn’t imagine living without.

  56. GisselleSvara

    Hi I’m Gisselle I’m from Honduras. ég er 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19. We met 15 months ago in his church in New York! I live in Honduras.. Therefore it has been a long distance relationship. I’m in my second year of college and so as he. We’ve talked about getting married. And some of our relatives and elders from his church supports us and tell us is the best thing to do. I’m still insecure about it.. My mom isn’t too open about me getting married so young and so as my sisters. We have been praying since we first thought about marriage as a possibility. If you could write me to my email i would be grateful!

  57. JenniferSvara

    We were married 21 fyrir mörgum árum. I was 19 and my husband was 21. We have drawn closer to each other and to God. Three kids later we are looking forward to the next 20.

  58. CharlesSvara

    I just wanted to say thank you for the straight forward way that you preach Gods word. I just watched the ‘Fallinmusic video after a day of trails and temptations and feel as though God spoke right into what I’m going through. The amazing Gift of Grace that we share cannot be measured or taken for granted. Thank you so much for re-opening my eyes to something so foundational in my walk with God. I also pray that God will bless you in your ministry.

  59. ChideraSvara

    Once God shows you someone and the person has the same passion for God as you and ready to walk with you all the way. it doesn’t matter what age, once the time comes you marry. The thing is just acknowledge him in all of thy ways, he’ll make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:6). Just have the passion and love for God, at the right time he’ll provide you with your helpmate who’ll stand with you through it all. Don’t wanna part, then don’t part with God. In ALL of thy ways acknowledge him, he’ell make your path straight.

  60. StacySvara

    My husband is 3/4 black and a quarter white.(Ég er hvítur). My husband I got married young also I 18 going to 19 and my husband was 20. People told us not to, we were making a mistake and will send in divorce. We didn’t listen we got married and now we have been 16 ár. God is in control.

  61. jaysmithSvara

    Kevinyou seem like you have a few things down. And you are working your way up. Keep going, kid! Á endanum, to know yourself half as well is most of the vattle, despite any shortcomings. Blessings!

  62. TheRealHonestTruthSvara

    Well for the people out there that have been BLESSED with very Excellent luck with NO health problems at all and being married with a family with a lot of money certainly have so much to be very thankful for since they really should have NO reason to complain when many of us are NOT that lucky at all even though many of you did get married too young which there are a lot of you that are still together today.

  63. RachelSanchezSvara

    My husband and I got married earlier this year. He is 22, and I am 21. I get asked all the time why I wouldthrow my youth awayor why I would even think about getting married in college. I surprisingly get the most hurtful comments from older women who seem to look down on me. It’s heartbreaking that others can’t recognize that I am actually really enjoying my youth with my most favorite person in the world. It’s sad when people (even older generations) think that it’s perfectly fine for people in their 20s to sleep around, but when they get married it’s shocking and horrible. We just hope our marriage can inspire others to take the leap when they feel ready, regardless of what society tells them.