Hoekom ek getroud is so jonk: Uit die oogpunt my vrou se

Oor 'n maand gelede het ek 'n blog te vertel mense hoekom ek so jonk getroud. Ek was diep bemoedig deur die antwoorde van almal wat dit lees en my gebed is dat die Here sal ons help om meer Bybels te dink oor die huwelik. As jy nie kry om te lees dat die oorspronklike post check dit uit hier: Hoekom het ek trou so jonk?

Wel na soveel mense het na my en het my vertel hoe nuttig dit was vir hulle, Ek het gedink dit sou net so nuttig wees om my vrou laat, Jessica, beantwoord dieselfde vraag uit haar perspektief. So hier is dit. Wat het my vrou besluit om te trou so jonk? Sy sê…

1. I found a godly man

Toe ek die eerste keer ontmoet Trip, Ek is nie van plan om enige tyd gou getroud. Maar uit die heel eerste keer het ons uit, Ek het geweet daar was iets anders omtrent hom. Hy was oor die Evangelie passievol in 'n manier wat ek nog nooit voorheen in 'n man van my ouderdom gesien het. Ek het ook nog nooit iemand ontmoet met so 'n wyse perspektief op dating. Danksy sy dissipelskap voor kollege hy het presies geweet wat hy gedink het 'n goddelike verhouding moet lyk en hy was nie bereid om 'n kompromie wat.

Ek sal erken dat ek gesukkel met hierdie eerste. Dit het gelyk of te ernstig en oormatige. Maar met verloop van tyd die Here begin om te wys my die wysheid in 'n verhouding versadig met gemeenskap, seksuele en emosionele suiwerheid, en dateer vir die doel van die huwelik. As jy nie gereed is om te trou, dan is sy waarskynlik nie 'n goeie idee om mekaar se harte te betrek. In Hooglied ons nie gewaarsku om liefde te wek voordat dit tyd. as vroue, ons is baie emosionele wesens en so toe ek 'n man wat passievol was oor die uitvoer van ons verhouding op 'n manier wat my hart sal waak ontmoet, Ek het geweet ek het 'n bewaarder :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Tydens ons hofmakery gevra ons sekere mense om intiem betrokke wees in ons verhouding. Hulle sal ons hou aanspreeklik teenoor ons grense en ons te help om wyse besluite te neem oor ons verhouding. Ons het ook deur middel van voorhuwelikse berading voordat ons selfs verloof geraak. Hierdie twee dinge toegelaat dat ons die wysheid van ouer soek, wyser broers en susters oor die vraag of dit 'n goeie idee om te trou. God het ons pastore en mentors van ons plaaslike kerk gegee vir 'n rede. Hulle help ons dink deur ons besluite oordeelkundig en gee 'n Goddelike buite perspektief. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

As 'n groentjie in die kollege Ek het wat ek graag superwoman sindroom noem. Ek was baie onafhanklik en loopbaan gedryf, baie gekant teen die idee van dat daar 'n man. Ek dink nie daar is iets verkeerd met onafhanklike of loopbaan gedryf, maar in my hart dit was meer as dit. Ek was verag God se ontwerp vir mans en vroue. Ek sou nooit gesê dat hardop, maar as ek was eerlik, Ek was gefrustreerd met wat ek gedink het die Bybel te sê het oor vroue. Ons is swakker, Ons kan nie leer, Ons kan nie lei, ons is nie van die hoof van die huishouding, en my baie gunsteling, Ons is 'n sagmoedige en stille gees het. Ek het gedink ek niks, maar 'n sagmoedige en stille gees gehad en ek was nie geïnteresseerd in die verandering van my persoonlikheid. Al hierdie gedagtes het my gelei om te dink dat die huwelik was iets wat my terug sal hou. Dit sou my daarvan weerhou voortsetting al die loopbaan drome Ek het en 'n paar dae sou ek eindig met 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Gelukkig, oor die jare die Here my geleer het en het vir my gewys hoe dit lyk regtig soos 'n godvresende vrou wees. Om 'n godvresende vrou is nie gedefinieer deur wat jy doen of nie doen nie. Ek weet baie van die goddelike vroue wat getrou die Here in 'n korporatiewe werk dien en talle vroue wat hul kinders en mans getrou te dien by die huis. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

As 'n getroude vrou wat ek so baie oor wat dit beteken om 'n godvresende vroue geleer het en ek voel nie af vasgeketting deur my man of my huwelik. God se ontwerp vir die huwelik is vir ons 'n goeie en Sy heerlikheid. Ken en glo dit het my die selfvertroue om te trou op die ouderdom van 22. Twee en 'n half jaar later, Ek het nie spyt nie, en ek kan net bid dat die Here nog steeds ons huwelik seën.

AANDELE

44 kommentaar

  1. Jdharden1antwoord

    Dis ongelooflik, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Baie dankie Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. God seën jou.

  2. Jannon Fitzpatrickantwoord

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Dankie dat U deel!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777antwoord

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. Ek is 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 jaar. nou, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Hou van jou, by 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. nou, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt Novakantwoord

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17antwoord

    Wow this was really great! as 'n 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11antwoord

      Eintlik, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,ens” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai Riddleantwoord

    ek hou hiervan!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne Kellyantwoord

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001antwoord

    Prys die Here vir jou broer en jou pragtige vrou van jou jeug. Ek bid dat die Here guns voortdurend sal gooi in jou lewe, omdat jy sy woord geluister. Ek is 28 en is nou getroud vir byna twee jaar en ek en my vrou het 'n gelukkige huwelik en 'n pragtige 10 mot oue baba. Ek wou nog altyd om ontslae jonger getroud, maar ek glo dit is nog nie tyd vir my tot die Here byna gebring my goeie ding 5 jare terug (om presies te wees wat ons ontmoet op die dag wat ons het wedergebore 31 Desember 2006). Ek het ons nie weet waar bestem om saam te wees as ek haar het as 'n gewone suster van die kerk. Ek is ook te konsentreer op my geestelike groei, maar drie jaar gelede het my oë oopgemaak en die res soos hulle sê, is geskiedenis.

    Dit is in die agenda van Satan vir mense nie om te trou, sodat hulle lewe in die sonde en ons weet reeds wat gaan gebeur. Het ons gekyk na die tempo van egskeiding in die liggaam vandag? Hoe gaan dit met broers en suster ontug in die kerk, as gevolg van wat die samelewing dikteer.

    As ons kyk na hoe ons stede is gevul met die jeug geweld vandag, ons neem 'n oomblik om te dink aan 'n paar van die oorsake? Die oomblik man ruil Goddelike waardes vir omsendbrief ism al hierdie val uitmekaar. Selfs Christelike ouers onwetend die bevordering van omsendbrief ism deur ontmoedig hul kinders nie getroud jong te kry (op die ouderdom van kommer natuurlik). Die redes is ek haal”wat jy nodig het om 'n opvoeding te kry, Miskien as jy klaar jou meesters en 'n ordentlike werk, dan begin om te dink oor die huwelik”. Dat 'n gesonde doen wyse nie dit ? So, wat gebeur wanneer jou Christelike kind universiteit toe gaan en dan beweeg in met boy / vriendin wie óf Christen of nie?

    Moet asseblief nie my verkeerd verstaan ​​nie(dit is net 'n paar van die dinge wat ek teëkom), omdat die bogenoemde stelling geld nie vir almal. Onderwys is baie belangrik as een verkry kennis vir hul onderskeie beroep sodat hulle kan werk en voorsiening te maak vir hul toekomstige geslagte ens, maar die huwelik gewoond een keer om te slaag in wat ooit area in die lewe een kies om te volg, as 'n saak van die feit 'n huwelik in die algemeen bevorder groei d.w.z groot bediening, goeie Heath, rykdom en die lys gaan aan. Onthou die twee word een vlees en kan jaag 10 000 Sjoe, wat beteken dat dit eens wat ooit hulle God vra getrou sal hulle bereik, ontsagwekkende…..

    In noue wil ek stel voor dat ons as Christene begin leer ons kinders op 'n jong ouderdom op die belangrikheid van die eerste lewende vir God en tweedens die belangrikheid van die huwelik( aan diegene wat het is die geskenk) sodat hulle grootword wil om God te behaag in hierdie gebied. Weereens baie geluk my broer en al die inwoners van die Woord van God. Bly geseënd.

  9. Iwantstate01antwoord

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    Dankie!

  10. Katherine2cantwoord

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Dankie!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Dankie!!!

  11. ChosenVantwoord

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. Chelsterantwoord

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose Munhawaantwoord

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51antwoord

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_Branchantwoord

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 jaar oud, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Dankie vir hierdie. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold Moforantwoord

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. Ek is 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela Johnsonantwoord

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..Het jy al ooit! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhantwoord

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 Dit

  19. Rchllnndreherantwoord

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. Ek is 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel Wrightantwoord

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812antwoord

    I Totally Agree. Ek is getroud op die ouderdom van 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel Riveraantwoord

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 en sy was 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis Hunterantwoord

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Dankie vir die deel.

  24. Cy Hudsonantwoord

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann Sellerantwoord

    21 jaar oud, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. Pulemoliseantwoord

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Sjoe!(dats why u had 2 trou,lol!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukantwoord

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. Kailaantwoord

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. maar, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. Coltonantwoord

    hey Trip! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!