¿Por qué me casé tan joven: Desde la perspectiva de mi esposa

Hace aproximadamente un mes escribí un blog diciendo a la gente por qué me casé tan joven. Yo estaba profundamente alentado por las respuestas de todos los que lo lean y mi oración ha sido que el Señor nos ayudaría a pensar más bíblicamente sobre el matrimonio. Si no consigue leer ese post original echarle un vistazo aquí: Why Did I Get Married So Young?

Bueno, después de que muchas personas se acercaron a mí y me dijeron lo útil que era para ellos, Pensé que iba a ser tan útil a dejar que mi esposa, Jessica, responder a la misma pregunta desde su perspectiva. Así que aquí está. Lo que hizo mi mujer deciden casarse tan joven? Ella dice…

1. I found a godly man

Cuando conocí por primera vez de viaje, Yo no estaba pensando en casarse en el corto plazo. Pero desde la primera vez que fuimos, Yo sabía que había algo diferente en él. Tenía pasión por el Evangelio de una manera que nunca había visto antes en un chico de mi edad. También nunca conocido a alguien con una perspectiva de tal manera sobre las citas. Gracias a su discipulado antes de la universidad que sabían exactamente lo que pensaba una relación piadosa debe ser similar y no estaba dispuesto a comprometer que.

Debo admitir que tuve problemas con esto al principio. Parecía demasiado grave y excesiva. Pero con el tiempo el Señor comenzó a mostrar la sabiduría en una relación saturada con la comunidad, la pureza sexual y emocional, y que data de fines de matrimonio. Si usted no está listo para casarse, entonces su probablemente no es una buena idea para activar el corazón del otro. En Cantares nos advierte de no despertar el amor antes de tiempo. A medida que las mujeres, somos seres muy emocionales y por lo que cuando me encontré con un hombre que era un apasionado de la realización de nuestra relación de una manera que guardaría mi corazón, Yo sabía que me encontré con un arquero :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Durante nuestro noviazgo nos preguntamos a ciertas personas a estar íntimamente involucrado en nuestra relación. Ellos nos mantendrían cuentas a nuestros límites y ayudarnos a tomar decisiones inteligentes sobre nuestra relación. También fuimos a través de asesoramiento prematrimonial antes de que incluso nos comprometimos. permitidos para nosotros estas dos cosas que buscan la sabiduría de más edad, hermanos y hermanas más acertadas acerca de si era o no una buena idea para casarse. Dios nos ha dado pastores y mentores de nuestra iglesia local por una razón. Ellos nos ayudan a pensar a través de nuestras decisiones con prudencia y dar un punto de vista externo según Dios. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

En su primer año en la universidad tuve lo que me gusta llamar el Síndrome de Superwoman. Yo era muy independiente y carrera conducido, muy opuesto a la idea de necesitar un hombre. No creo que haya nada de malo en ser independiente o carrera driven, pero en mi corazón que era más que eso. Yo estaba despreciando el diseño de Dios para los hombres y las mujeres. Yo nunca he dicho eso en voz alta, pero si yo era honesto, Estaba frustrado con lo que pensé que la Biblia tiene que decir acerca de las mujeres. Somos más débiles, no podemos enseñar, no podemos llevar, no somos el jefe del hogar, y mi muy favorito, vamos a tener un espíritu afable y apacible. Pensé que tenía otra cosa que un espíritu apacible y tranquilo y no estaba interesado en cambiar mi personalidad. Todos estos pensamientos me llevó a pensar que el matrimonio era algo que me obstaculicen. Se me impediría perseguir todos los sueños de carrera que tenía y algún día terminaría con 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Agradecidamente, lo largo de los años, el Señor me ha enseñado y me mostró lo que realmente parece ser una mujer de Dios. Siendo una mujer de Dios no se define por lo que haces o no haces. Sé que un montón de mujeres piadosas que sirven fielmente al Señor en un trabajo corporativo y un sinnúmero de mujeres que sirven a sus hijos y esposos fielmente en su casa. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

Como mujer casada que he aprendido mucho acerca de lo que significa ser una mujer piadosa y no me siento encadenado por mi marido o mi matrimonio. El diseño de Dios para el matrimonio es para nuestro bien y para su gloria. Sabiendo y creyendo que me dio la confianza para casarse a la edad de 22. Dos años y medio más tarde, No tengo nada que lamentar, y sólo puedo rezar para que el Señor siga bendiciendo nuestro matrimonio.

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43 comentarios

  1. Jdharden1Respuesta

    Eso es increíble, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Thank you Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. Dios te bendiga.

  2. Jannon FitzpatrickRespuesta

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Gracias por compartir!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777Respuesta

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. yo soy 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 años. Ahora, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Like you, a 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. Ahora, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt NovakRespuesta

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17Respuesta

    Wow this was really great! Como un 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11Respuesta

      Básicamente, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,etcétera” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai RiddleRespuesta

    I love this!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne KellyRespuesta

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001Respuesta

    Gracias a Dios por que su hermano y preciosa mujer de tu juventud. Oro para que el Señor derramará favor continuamente a lo largo de su vida, porque has obedecido su palabra. yo soy 28 y se han casado desde hace casi dos años, y mi esposa y yo tener un matrimonio feliz y un precioso 10 bebé de la polilla. Siempre quería casarse más joven, pero creo que no era tiempo todavía para mí hasta que el Señor trajo a mi buena cosa casi 5 hace años que (para ser más precisos que nos encontramos en el día que nos nacer de nuevo 31 Dic 2006). No sabía que cuando destinados a estar juntos, ya que la tomó como una hermana ordinaria de la iglesia. También estaba concentrado en mi crecimiento espiritual, pero hace tres años, mis ojos se abrieron y el resto, como dicen, es historia.

    Es en la agenda de Satanás que la gente no se casen, para que vivan en pecado y que ya sabemos lo que pasará. ¿Hemos analizado la tasa de divorcio en el cuerpo hoy? ¿Qué hay de hermanos y hermanas fornicando en la iglesia, debido a lo que dicta la sociedad.

    Si nos fijamos en cómo nuestras ciudades están llenas de violencia juvenil hoy, nos tomamos un momento para pensar en algunas de las causas fundamentales? Los valores de cambio piadosos hombre momento para ISM circular todo esto se vino abajo. Incluso los padres cristianos están promoviendo ignorantemente ismo circular, al desalentar a sus hijos de no conseguir casado joven (a la edad de preocupación, obviamente,). Las razones son cito”que necesita para obtener una educación, tal vez cuando termine su maestría y tener un trabajo decente, a continuación, empezar a pensar en el matrimonio”. Que el sonido no lo hace aconsejable ? Entonces, ¿qué sucede cuando su niño cristiano se va a la universidad y luego se muda con novio / niña cuya cristiano o no?

    Por favor no me malinterpretes(eso es sólo algunas de las cosas que he encontrado), debido a que la declaración anterior no se aplica a todos. La educación es muy importante ya que se adquiere el conocimiento de sus respectivas profesiones para que pudieran trabajar y mantener a sus futuras familias, etc., pero el matrimonio no parará uno de tener éxito en el área de lo que cada vez en la vida que uno elige para seguir, como una cuestión de hecho, un matrimonio en general promueve el crecimiento es decir gran ministerio, buena salud, la riqueza y la lista continúa. Recuerde los dos se convierte en una carne y puede perseguir 10 000 Guau, eso significa que de acuerdo lo que cada vez que piden a Dios fielmente alcanzarán, increíble…..

    En estrecha Me gustaría sugerir que como cristianos empezar a enseñar a nuestros hijos a una edad temprana en la importancia del primer ser vivo para Dios y en segundo lugar, la importancia del matrimonio( a los que les ha dado el regalo) para que crezcan con ganas de agradar a Dios en esta área. Una vez más bien hecho mi hermano y para todos los que viven la palabra de Dios. Manténgase bendita.

  9. Iwantstate01Respuesta

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    Gracias!

  10. Katherine2cRespuesta

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Gracias!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Gracias!!!

  11. ChosenVRespuesta

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. ChelsterRespuesta

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose MunhawaRespuesta

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51Respuesta

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_BranchRespuesta

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 años, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Gracias por esto. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold MoforRespuesta

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. yo soy 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela JohnsonRespuesta

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..Nunca! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhRespuesta

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 eso

  19. RchllnndreherRespuesta

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. Estoy 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel WrightRespuesta

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812Respuesta

    I Totally Agree. I got married at the age of 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel RiveraRespuesta

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 and she was 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis HunterRespuesta

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Gracias por compartir.

  24. Cy HudsonRespuesta

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann SellerRespuesta

    21 años, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. PulemoliseRespuesta

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Guau!(dats why u had 2 casarse,lol!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukRespuesta

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. KailaRespuesta

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. Pero, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. ColtonRespuesta

    Hey viaje! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!