Mengapa saya Got Married So Young: Dari Perspektif Istri saya

Sekitar sebulan yang lalu saya menulis sebuah blog mengatakan orang-orang mengapa saya menikah begitu muda. Saya sangat didorong oleh tanggapan dari semua orang yang membacanya dan doa saya telah bahwa Tuhan akan membantu kita untuk berpikir lebih Alkitabiah tentang pernikahan. Jika Anda tidak bisa membaca bahwa posting asli memeriksanya di sini: Mengapa Apakah saya Get Married So Young?

Nah setelah begitu banyak orang mengulurkan tangan kepada saya dan mengatakan kepada saya bagaimana membantu itu bagi mereka, Saya pikir akan sama membantu untuk membiarkan istri saya, Jessica, menjawab pertanyaan yang sama dari sudut pandangnya. Jadi begini. Apa yang membuat istri saya memutuskan untuk menikah begitu muda? Dia berkata…

1. Saya menemukan seorang pria yang saleh

Ketika saya pertama kali bertemu perjalanan, Aku tidak berencana menikah dalam waktu dekat. Tapi dari pertama kalinya kami pergi keluar, Aku tahu ada sesuatu yang berbeda tentang dia. Dia bergairah tentang Injil dengan cara yang belum pernah terlihat sebelumnya dalam pria usia saya. Saya juga pernah bertemu seseorang dengan perspektif yang bijaksana seperti pada kencan. Berkat murid-Nya sebelum kuliah ia tahu persis apa yang dia pikir hubungan yang saleh harus seperti dan dia tidak mau berkompromi bahwa.

Aku akan mengakui bahwa saya berjuang dengan ini pada awalnya. Tampaknya terlalu serius dan berlebihan. Namun seiring waktu Tuhan mulai menunjukkan kebijaksanaan dalam suatu hubungan jenuh dengan komunitas, kemurnian seksual DAN emosional, dan kencan untuk tujuan pernikahan. Jika Anda tidak siap untuk menikah, maka mungkin bukan ide yang baik untuk terlibat satu sama lain hati. Dalam Kidung Agung kita diperingatkan untuk tidak membangkitkan cinta sebelum waktunya. sebagai perempuan, kita adalah makhluk yang sangat emosional dan jadi ketika saya bertemu dengan seorang pria yang sangat mencintai melakukan hubungan kita dengan cara yang akan menjaga hatiku, Aku tahu aku menemukan penjaga :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Selama pacaran kami kami meminta orang-orang tertentu untuk erat terlibat dalam hubungan kita. Mereka akan membuat kita bertanggung jawab kepada batas-batas kami dan membantu kami membuat keputusan yang bijaksana tentang hubungan kami. Kami juga pergi melalui konseling pranikah sebelum kita bahkan bertunangan. Kedua hal ini memungkinkan bagi kita untuk mencari kebijaksanaan yang lebih tua, saudara bijaksana dan saudara tentang apakah atau tidak itu adalah ide yang baik untuk menikah. Tuhan telah memberi kita pendeta dan mentor dari gereja lokal kami karena suatu alasan. Mereka membantu kita berpikir melalui keputusan kita dengan bijak dan memberikan perspektif luar saleh. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

Sebagai mahasiswa baru di perguruan tinggi saya memiliki apa yang saya suka menyebutnya Syndrome Superwoman. Saya sangat independen dan karir didorong, sangat menentang gagasan membutuhkan seorang pria. Saya tidak berpikir ada sesuatu yang salah dengan menjadi independen atau mengutamakan karir, tapi dalam hati saya itu lebih dari itu. Aku membenci desain Allah untuk pria dan wanita. Saya tidak akan pernah mengatakan bahwa dengan keras, tetapi jika aku jujur, Saya merasa frustrasi dengan apa yang saya pikir Alkitab katakan tentang wanita. Kami adalah lemah, kita tidak bisa mengajar, kita tidak bisa memimpin, kita bukan kepala rumah tangga, dan saya sangat favorit, kami memiliki roh yang lemah lembut dan tenang. Saya pikir saya punya apa-apa tapi roh yang lemah lembut dan tenang dan saya tidak tertarik dalam mengubah kepribadian saya. Semua pikiran ini membuat saya berpikir bahwa pernikahan adalah sesuatu yang akan terus saya kembali. Ini akan menjaga aku dari mengejar semua impian karir saya punya dan beberapa hari aku akan berakhir dengan 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Untungnya, selama bertahun-tahun Tuhan telah mengajarkan saya dan menunjukkan apa yang benar-benar terlihat seperti menjadi seorang wanita saleh. Menjadi seorang wanita yang saleh tidak didefinisikan oleh apa yang Anda atau tidak melakukan. Saya tahu banyak wanita saleh yang setia melayani Tuhan dalam pekerjaan perusahaan dan wanita yang tak terhitung jumlahnya yang melayani anak-anak dan suami mereka setia di rumah. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

Sebagai seorang wanita yang sudah menikah telah saya belajar banyak tentang apa artinya menjadi wanita yang saleh dan saya tidak merasa dirantai oleh suami saya atau pernikahan saya. desain Allah bagi pernikahan adalah untuk kebaikan kita dan kemuliaan-Nya. Mengetahui dan percaya bahwa memberi saya kepercayaan diri untuk menikah pada usia 22. Dua setengah tahun kemudian, Saya tidak menyesal, dan saya hanya bisa berdoa agar Tuhan terus memberkati pernikahan kami.

SAHAM

43 komentar

  1. Jdharden1Balasan

    Itu luar biasa, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Terima kasih Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. Tuhan memberkati Anda.

  2. Jannon FitzpatrickBalasan

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Terima kasih telah berbagi!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777Balasan

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. saya 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 tahun. Sekarang, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Seperti kamu, di 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. Sekarang, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt NovakBalasan

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17Balasan

    Wow this was really great! Sebagai 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11Balasan

      Pada dasarnya, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,dan lain-lain” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai RiddleBalasan

    aku suka ini!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne KellyBalasan

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001Balasan

    Puji Tuhan untuk Anda saudara dan istri Anda indah masa mudamu. Saya berdoa bahwa Tuhan akan mencurahkan nikmat terus-menerus sepanjang hidup Anda, karena Anda telah menuruti firman-Nya. saya 28 dan telah menikah selama hampir dua tahun dan istri saya dan saya memiliki pernikahan yang bahagia dan indah 10 Bayi usia ngengat. Saya selalu ingin menikah muda, tapi saya percaya itu tidak waktu belum bagi saya sampai Tuhan membawa hal yang baik saya hampir 5 tahun lalu (tepatnya kami bertemu pada hari kami lahir baru 31 Desember 2006). Aku tidak tahu kita di mana ditakdirkan untuk bersama karena saya membawanya sebagai adik biasa dari gereja. Saya juga berkonsentrasi pada pertumbuhan rohani saya, tapi tiga tahun yang lalu mata saya terbuka dan sisanya seperti yang mereka katakan adalah sejarah.

    Hal ini dalam agenda Setan bagi orang yang tidak menikah, sehingga mereka hidup dalam dosa dan kita sudah tahu apa yang akan terjadi. Apakah kita melihat tingkat perceraian di tubuh saat ini? Bagaimana saudara dan saudari berzina di gereja, karena apa perintah masyarakat.

    Jika kita melihat bagaimana kota kita dipenuhi dengan kekerasan pemuda hari ini, kita luangkan waktu untuk memikirkan beberapa akar penyebab? Nilai-nilai Ilahi saat pertukaran manusia untuk ism melingkar semua ini berantakan. Bahkan orang tua Kristen bodoh mempromosikan isme melingkar dengan mengecilkan anak-anak mereka untuk tidak menikah muda (pada usia keprihatinan jelas). Alasan yang saya kutip”Anda perlu untuk mendapatkan pendidikan, mungkin ketika Anda selesai master dan memiliki pekerjaan yang layak, kemudian mulai berpikir tentang pernikahan”. suara yang bijaksana tidak itu ? Jadi apa yang terjadi ketika anak Kristen Anda pergi ke universitas dan kemudian bergerak dengan teman laki-laki / gadis yang baik Kristen atau non?

    Jangan salah paham(itu hanya beberapa hal yang saya telah menemukan), karena pernyataan di atas tidak berlaku untuk semua. Pendidikan sangat penting sebagai salah satu memperoleh pengetahuan profesi masing-masing sehingga mereka bisa bekerja dan menyediakan bagi keluarga masa depan mereka dll, tapi pernikahan tidak akan menghentikan salah satu dari berhasil dalam apa yang pernah daerah dalam hidup seseorang memilih untuk mengikuti, sebagai soal fakta pernikahan pada umumnya mendorong pertumbuhan mis pelayanan besar, kesehatan yang baik, kekayaan dan berjalan pada daftar. Ingat dua menjadi satu daging dan dapat mengejar 10 000 Wow, yang berarti bahwa dalam perjanjian apa yang pernah mereka meminta Tuhan dengan setia mereka akan mencapai, mengagumkan…..

    Di dekat saya ingin menunjukkan bahwa kita sebagai orang Kristen mulai mengajar anak-anak kita di usia muda tentang pentingnya hidup pertama bagi Allah dan kedua pentingnya pernikahan( bagi mereka yang telah diberikan hadiah) sehingga mereka tumbuh ingin untuk menyenangkan Tuhan di daerah ini. Sekali lagi dilakukan dengan baik saudara saya dan semua orang yang tinggal firman Allah. tinggal diberkati.

  9. Iwantstate01Balasan

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    Terima kasih!

  10. Katherine2cBalasan

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Terima kasih!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Terima kasih!!!

  11. ChosenVBalasan

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. ChelsterBalasan

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose MunhawaBalasan

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51Balasan

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_BranchBalasan

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 tahun, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Terima kasih untuk ini. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold MoforBalasan

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. saya 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela JohnsonBalasan

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..Pernah! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhBalasan

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 saya t

  19. RchllnndreherBalasan

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. Saya m 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel WrightBalasan

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812Balasan

    I Totally Agree. Saya menikah pada usia 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel RiveraBalasan

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 dan dia 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis HunterBalasan

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Terima kasih sudah berbagi.

  24. Cy HudsonBalasan

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann SellerBalasan

    21 tahun, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. PulemoliseBalasan

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Wow!(dats why u had 2 menikah,lol!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukBalasan

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. KailaBalasan

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. Tapi, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. ColtonBalasan

    Hey Trip! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!