Gịnị mere m lụrụ di Ya mere Young: Site My Nwunye Ele

Dị ka otu ọnwa gara aga, m dere a blog na-agwa folks mere m lụrụ di otú eto eto. O metụrụ m nnọọ ume site na Ibọrọ si niile na-agụ ya na ekpere m anọwo na Jehova ga-enyere anyị aka iche Bible banyere alụmdi na nwunye. Ọ bụrụ na ị ga-esi na-agụ na mbụ post-elele ya ebe a: N'ihi Gịnị Ka M Ga-esi di na Ya mere Young?

Ọma mgbe ọtụtụ folks ruru m ma gwa m otú na-enye aka na ọ bụ maka ha, M chere na ọ ga-abụ nnọọ ka na-enye aka ime ka nwunye m, Jessica, aza ajụjụ ahụ si ele ya. Ya mere, ebe ọ bụ. Gịnị mere nwunye m kpebie ka ọdọ otú eto eto? Ọ na-ekwu ...

1. I found a godly man

Mgbe mbụ m zutere Njem, M na-adịghị eme atụmatụ na-alụ di obula anya. Ma site nnọọ oge mbụ anyị wee si, Ama m na ihe dị iche iche banyere ya. Ọ bụ omiiko banyere Oziọma n'ụzọ na-ahụtụbeghị m n'ihu na a Ihọd afọ ndụ m. M na-ahụtụbeghị onye dị otú ahụ a mara ihe n'ọnọdụ na mkpakọrịta nwoke na nwaanyị. Ya ekele mbet tupu mahadum ọ maara kpọmkwem ihe o chere a Chineke mmekọrịta kwesịrị ka na o kweghị imebi na.

Aghaghị m ikweta na m otụhọde a na mbụ. O yiri kwa oké njọ na ịṅụbiga. Ma ka oge na-Jehova malitere egosi m amamihe na a mmekọrịta jupụtara na ya obodo, mmekọahụ na nke mmetụta uche-adị ọcha, na-akpa n'ihi nzube nke alụmdi na nwunye. Ọ bụrụ na ị bụghị njikere ịlụ di, mgbe ahụ ya ghara ịbụ ezigbo echiche na-arụ ọ bụla ọzọ obi. Na Abụ Sọlọmọn anyị na-dọrọ aka ná ntị agaghị akpọte ịhụnanya tupu oge ya. dị ka ndị inyom, anyị na-ata n'ụzọ mmetụta uche mmadụ na otú mgbe m zutere otu nwoke nke na omiiko banyere na-eduzi mmekọrịta anyị na a n'ụzọ ga-obi m, M maara na m hụrụ onye nēdebe aturu :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Tupu anyị alụọ, anyị jụrụ ụfọdụ ndị na-ọma abuana ke mmekọrịta anyị. Ha ga na-anyị aza ajụjụ anyị ókè ma nyere anyị aka ime mkpebi ziri banyere mmekọrịta anyị. Anyị na-gabigara tupu alụmdi na nwunye ndụmọdụ anyị ọbụna tupu anyị kwekọrịtara ịlụ. Ihe abụọ a-ekwe ka anyị na-achọ amamihe nke tọrọ, mara ụmụnna banyere ma ma ọ bụ na ọ bụ ezi echiche ka ọdọ. Chineke nyere ayi ozuzu aturu na mentors anyị chọọchị dị n'ógbè maka a mere. Ha na-enyere anyị tụlee mkpebi anyị na-eji amamihe na-enye a Chineke n'èzí n'ọnọdụ. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

Dị ka a Freshman na mahadum m nwere ihe na-amasị m na-akpọ Superwoman ọrịa. M nnọọ onwe ya ma ọrụ chụpụrụ, nnọọ emegide echiche nke akpa a nwoke. Echeghị m na e nwere ihe ọjọọ ọ bụla na ịbụ onwe ha ma ọ bụ ọrụ chụpụrụ, ma n'ime obi m, ọ bụ ihe karịrị nke ahụ. M na-elelị Chineke imewe ma nwoke ma nwanyi. M ga-dịghị mgbe kwuru na ya n'olu dara ụda, ma ọ bụrụ na m bụ n'eziokwu, Enwere m nkụda mmụọ na ihe m chere na Bible nwere ikwu banyere ndị inyom. Anyị bụ ndị na-adịghị ike, anyị na-apụghị akụziri, anyị nwere ike adịghị eduga, anyị abụghị ndị onyeisi ezinụlọ, na m nnọọ mmasị, anyị nwere inwe a nwayọọ na nke dị jụụ spirit. Echere m na m nwere ihe ọ bụla ma a nwayọọ na nke dị jụụ spirit na m bụ enweghị mmasị na-agbanwe agbanwe àgwà m. All nke a echiche mere ka m na-eche na alụmdi na nwunye bụ ihe ga-agụ m azụ. Ọ ga-ahụ na m si n'iso niile ọrụ nrọ m nwere na ụfọdụ ụbọchị m ga-emesị 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

ekele, ihe karịrị afọ Jehova kụziiri m na gosi m ihe m n'ezie anya dị ka a akabakde Abasi. Na-a Chineke nwaanyị na-adịghị kọwara ihe ị na-ma ọ bụ na-adịghị eme. Amaara m na ọtụtụ nke ịsọpụrụ ndị inyom bụ ikwesị ntụkwasị obi na-eje ozi Jehova na a ụlọọrụ ọrụ na ọtụtụ ndị inyom na-eje ozi na ụmụ ha na ndị di ikwesị ntụkwasị obi n'ụlọ. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

Dị ka a nwaanyị lụrụ di m mụtara ọtụtụ ihe banyere ihe ọ pụtara na-a Chineke inyom na m na-eche ịgà ala nke di m ma ọ bụ alụmdi na nwunye m. Chineke imewe maka alụmdi na nwunye bụ maka ọdịmma anyị na ebube Ya. Ịmara na ikwere na nyere m obi ike ịlụ di na nwunye na afọ 22. Abụọ na ọkara mgbe e mesịrị, Enweghị m ihe ọ bụla akwa ụta, na m nwere ike na-ekpe ekpere ka Jehova nọgide na-agọzi anyị alụmdi na nwunye.

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44 comments

  1. Jdharden1zaghachi

    Nke ahụ bụ ihe ịtụnanya, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Daalụ Jessica, M mkpa n'ezie a. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. Chukwu gozie gị.

  2. Jannon Fitzpatrickzaghachi

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Daalụ maka nkekọrịta!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777zaghachi

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. m 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 afọ. ugbu a, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Dị ka gị, na 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. ugbu a, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt Novakzaghachi

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17zaghachi

    Wow this was really great! dị ka a 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11zaghachi

      Basically, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,wdg” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai Riddlezaghachi

    ahụrụ m nke a n'anya!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne Kellyzaghachi

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001zaghachi

    Toonụ Jehova n'ihi na ị na nwanne gị mîkemeke nwunye ị lụrụ n'okorobịa. M ekpe ekpere ka Jehova ga-awụpụ amara nọgidere ofụri ndụ gị, n'ihi na i rubere isi okwu ya. m 28 ma e-lụrụ di na nwunye ugbu a fọrọ nke nta ka afọ abụọ na mụ na nwunye m nwere obi ụtọ n'alụmdi na nwunye na a ọmarịcha 10 nla agadi na nwa. M mgbe niile chọrọ ka ọdọ tọrọ, ma m kwere na ọ bụghị oge ma m ruo mgbe Chineke mere ka m ezi ihe fọrọ nke nta 5 afọ ndị gara aga (na-kpọmkwem anyị zutere na ụbọchị anyị ọkọdọ mụrụ ọzọ 31 Dec 2006). M na-amaghị na anyị ebe kara aka na-abụ ọnụ ka m were ya dị ka ihe nkịtị nwanna nwaanyị ụka. M na-etinye uche m uto ime mmụọ, ma afọ atọ gara aga m meghee anya na ndị fọdụrụ dị ka ha na-ekwu bụ akụkọ ihe mere eme.

    Ọ bụ Setan burukwa maka ndị mmadụ ghara ịdị na-lụrụ di na nwunye, nke mere na ha ndụ na mmehie na anyị na-ama ihe ga-eme. Ọ bụ na anyị na-ele anya na ọnụego nke ịgba alụkwaghịm na ahụ taa? Olee banyere ụmụnna ndị nwoke na nwanne fornicating na chọọchị, n'ihi ihe otu dictates.

    Ọ bụrụ na anyị na-ele anya na otú anyị obodo na-ejupụta na-eto eto ime ihe ike taa, na anyị na-a oge na-eche echiche nke ụfọdụ ndị na-akpata? The oge nwoke mgbanwe Ụkpụrụ Chineke maka okirikiri godị niile a dara iche. Ọbụna ndị nne na nna na-ignorantly akwalite okirikiri godị site na-akụda ha na ụmụ ha na-alụ di na-eto eto (na afọ nke nchegbu o doro anya na). Ihe mere na m aguputa”ị chọrọ iji nweta akwụkwọ, ma eleghị anya, mgbe i rụchaa nna unu ukwu na-enwe a ezigbo ọrụ, mgbe na-amalite na-eche banyere alụmdi na nwunye”. Na ụda maara ihe ọ bụ na ọ ? Ya mere, ihe na-eme mgbe gị Christian nwa na-aga na mahadum na mgbe na-akpali na ya na nwa na-enweghị / girl enyi onye ma Christian ma ọ bụ ndị na-abụghị?

    Biko adịghị na-m na-ezighị ezi(nke ahụ bụ nnọọ ihe ụfọdụ m na-abịa gafee), n'ihi na e dere n'elu-adịghị emetụta niile. Education dị ezigbo mkpa ka onye na-enweta ihe ọmụma n'ihi na ha na nwoke na ọrụ ya mere, ha nwere ike na-arụ ọrụ na-enye ha ga-eme n'ọdịnihu ezinụlọ etc, ma na alụmdi na nwunye wont kwụsị onye si ịga nke ọma na ihe mgbe ebe ke ndụ mmadụ họọrọ iso, dị ka a okwu nke eziokwu a alụmdi na nwunye n'ozuzu na-akwalite uto i.e oké ozi, ezi heath, akụ na ụba na ndepụta na-aga. Cheta abụọ na-aghọ otu anụ ahụ na nwere ike ịchụ 10 000 Chaị, na pụtara na nkwekọrịta ihe mgbe ha na-arịọ Chineke ikwesị ntụkwasị obi na ha ga-abịarute, egwu…..

    Na nso ga-amasị m na-egosi na anyị bụ ndị Kraịst na-amalite na-akụziri anyị na ụmụ anyị na a na-eto eto na mkpa nke mbụ dị ndụ n'ihi na Chineke na abuo mkpa nke alụmdi na nwunye( ndị na-na na e nyere onyinye) nke mere na ha too, na-na-amasị Chineke na mpaghara ebe a. Ọzọkwa mere nke ọma nwanne m nwoke na ndị niile na ndị bi na okwu Chineke. -anọ gọziri agọzi.

  9. Iwantstate01zaghachi

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    ekele!

  10. Katherine2czaghachi

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Daalụ!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! Na na-ekwu, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Daalụ!!!

  11. ChosenVzaghachi

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. Chelsterzaghachi

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose Munhawazaghachi

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51zaghachi

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_Branchzaghachi

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 afọ, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Daalụ maka nke a. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold Moforzaghachi

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. m 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela Johnsonzaghachi

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..mgbe! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhzaghachi

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 ọ

  19. Rchllnndreherzaghachi

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. na na na 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel Wrightzaghachi

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812zaghachi

    I Totally Agree. M lụrụ di na afọ 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel Riverazaghachi

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 na na ọ bụ 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis Hunterzaghachi

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Daalụ maka na-ekere òkè.

  24. Cy Hudsonzaghachi

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann Sellerzaghachi

    21 afọ, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. Pulemolisezaghachi

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Chaị!(dats why u had 2 ọdọ,akpa ọchị!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukzaghachi

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. Kailazaghachi

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. ma, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. Coltonzaghachi

    hey Njem! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!