Chifukwa ine ndinakwatira Choncho Young: Mmene mkazi wanga ndi

About mwezi wapitawo Ndinalemba blog Kumawauza chifukwa ine ndinakwatira wamng'ono. Ndinachita amalimbikitsidwa ndi mayankho ochokera amene kuliwerenga pemphero langa wakhala kuti Yehova atithandize kulingalira Baibulo zambiri za ukwati. Ngati inu simunachimvetse kuwerenga kuti malo original fufuzani pano: N'chifukwa Chiyani Ndiyenera pabanja Choncho Young?

Chabwino zitatha anthu ambiri anafika kwa ine ndipo anandiuza kuti kothandiza anali kwa iwo, Ndinkaganiza kuti basi kothandiza mkazi wanga, Jessica, yankhani funso lomwelo mmene iye. Choncho apa. Kodi anapanga mkazi wanga kusankha kukwatiwa wamng'ono? Iye anati ...

1. Ndinapeza munthu waumulungu

Pamene ndinakumana koyamba Ulendo, Sindinali zoti tikwatirane abwera posachedwapa. Koma kwa nthawi yoyamba ife anatuluka, Ndinadziwa kuti anali wosiyana naye. Iye anali mokhudza za Uthenga m'njira I anali asanaonepo pamaso pa munthu msinkhu wanga. Inenso asanakumanepo ndi munthu maganizo amenewa anzeru Chibwenzi. Ndiyamika wophunzira ake pamaso koleji iye ankadziwa chimene iye ankaganiza ubwenzi Mulungu Chioneke ndipo iye sanalole kugonja kuti.

Kunena zoona, I analimbana ndi poyamba. Zinaoneka lalikulu kwambiri ndi kwambiri. Koma pa nthawi Ambuye anayamba Mundionetsa nzeru ubwenzi ladzala ndi anthu ammudzi, chiyero kugonana ndi maganizo, ndi chibwenzi cholinga cha banja. Ngati simuli okonzeka kuti akwatiwe, ndiye mwina mfundo zake zabwino kuchita chilichonse ena mitima. Mu Nyimbo ya Solomo tikuchenjezedwa kuti adzuke chikondi pamaso pa nthawi yake. monga akazi, ndife anthu achisoni kwambiri ndipo pamene ndinakumana ndi munthu amene mokhudza za maphunziro ubwenzi wathu m'njira kodi kuteteza mtima wanga, Ndinadziwa anapeza woyang'anira ndi :)

2. We were encouraged by the people in our lives

Tili pachibwenzi tinafunsa anthu ena kuti mum'dziŵe nawo ubwenzi wathu. Iwo tikhale mlandu malire ndi kutithandiza kusankha zinthu mwanzeru pa nkhani ya ubwenzi wathu. Ife Panalinso uphungu asanakwatirane ife tisanati ngakhale chinkhoswe. Zinthu ziwiri analola kuti ife kupempha nzeru kwa akulu, abale ndi alongo nzeru za kapena anali maganizo abwino kukwatiwa. Mulungu watipatsa abusa ndi akuphunzitsa ku mpingo wapafupi chifukwa. Zimatithandiza kuganizira zochita zathu mwanzeru ndi kupereka Mulungu kunja kaonedwe. Relationships that are conducted in isolation are putting couples at serious risk of sin and unwise decision making. I would really encourage dating couples to have other believers from your community intimately involved in their relationship.

3. The Lord showed me the beauty of marriage

Monga oyamba kumene ku koleji ndinapeza ndimakonda kuitana Superwoman Syndrome. Ndinali pandekha ntchito lotengeka, wotsutsana kwambiri ndi maganizo a osasowa munthu. Ine sindikuganiza pali chirichonse cholakwika ndi kukhala paokha kapena ntchito lotengeka, koma mtima wanga anali kuposa. Ine nanyoza mamangidwe a Mulungu kwa amuna ndi akazi. Ine sindinayambe anati mokweza, koma ngati ine moona mtima, Ine akhumudwa ndi zimene ine ndinaganiza Baibulo adanenapo za akazi. Ife ndife ofooka, ife sangaphunzitse, sitiyenera kungachititse, ife si mutu wa pakhomopo, ndipo ndimaikonda kwambiri, tikufuna kuti mzimu wofatsa ndi wachete. Ndimaganiza kuti chirichonse koma mzimu wofatsa ndi wachete ine sankafuna kusintha umunthu wanga. Onse maganizo amenewa zinandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ukwati chinachake chimene chikanati kundigwiririra ine mmbuyo. Iwo adzasunga ine kuchita maloto onse ntchito ndinali ndi tsiku I adzapsa ndi 10 and half babies on a farm somewhere.

Mwamwayi, zaka Ambuye Wandiphunzitsa ndipo anandionetsa chomwe kwenikweni zikuwoneka ngati kukhala mkazi woopa. Kukhala mkazi woopa Mulungu si kumatanthauza zimene mumachita kapena samachita. Ine ndikudziwa zochuluka za akazi oopa Mulungu amene titumikire Ambuye mu ntchito m'makampani ndi akazi ambirimbiri amene amatumikira ana awo ndi amuna mokhulupirika kunyumba. Biblical womanhood is about understanding God’s unique role for us as women and delighting in the beauty of Gods design.

Monga mkazi wokwatiwa ndaphunzira kwambiri za tanthauzo akazi ndi Mulungu ndipo ine sakuona kuti amangiriridwe pansi ndi mwamuna wanga kapena mkazi wanga. lomwe Mulungu ukwati kuti tipindule ndi ulemerero Wake. Kudziŵa ndi kukhulupirira kuti anandipatsa chidaliro kukwatiwa ali ndi zaka 22. Awiri ndi theka pambuyo pake, Ndilibe bondo, ndipo Ine ndikhoza kupemphera kuti Ambuye apitirize kudalitsa ukwati wathu.

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  1. Jdharden1anayankha

    Ndicho chodabwitsa, how God can write the most perfect love story to those who hand over the pen to him. Thank you Jessica, I really needed this. This encourages me as a 16yr old to submit to God and let him have his way in my love life. Mulungu akudalitseni.

  2. Jannon Fitzpatrickanayankha

    I LOVE THIS!! We are youth pastors at a small church and I always tell the teens, “There are only two things you will ever do in a relationship… 1) Get Married 2) Break up. Breaking up hurts and creates baggage, so if you are not ready to get married, it’s best not to start in a relationship.” (Not that you don’t grow to be ready for marriage in a relationship, but I’m mostly talking to 13-16 yr olds.) Most people start a relationship thinking it will be a small, shortlived, fun thing. But then feelings develop, you fall into sin, and then it’s harder than ever to get out. If we would protect the heart God Gave us as precious, and go at relationships from this perspective, the perspective of it ending up in marriage to a Godly man or woman, we would be far less hurt and broken by the time that Godly man or woman God has for us comes around! Zikomo kugawana!!!

  3. Demonslayer4god777anayankha

    I’m really glad I clicked on the link to read this post. ndine 25 and my husband and I have been married for nearly 5 zaka. Tsopano, I am the first to tell everybody that God is the reason we are married. Like you, pa 21, I was NOT looking for nor did I want a husband, shoot I didn’t want a boyfriend. 2007 was the year God completely changed my life. In January I had just discovered what God really wanted was relationship rather than religion so I was on high(spiritually) and zeal like nothing I had ever experienced before. Next thing I know a month later I was married. Crazy I know. But what can I sayGod told us to do it. And five years later, we are still together, and growing together in Christ. Tsopano, I wouldn’t advise to anyone to do it as rapidly as we did. But I wouldn’t advise against it, if you feel led by God, and have prayed and fast. I pray that God continues to not only grow your marriage but strengthen it. I pray that your love for each other also continues to grow. I bind up anything, anyperson, any spirit, that would try to divide you. I pray that you are blessed with great communication skills, and increased patience. May God keep you, in Jesus name.

  4. Matt Novakanayankha

    Thanks guys for using your courtship and marriage as an example and encouragement for young singles and young married couples. Thanks for glorifying God with your marriage, and sharing your wisdom and experiences with the body of Christ, which is in fact the bride of Christ, so this also gives us a portrait of how we are to live as the bride of Christ. Praise God for the work he has done in your lives to mature you both at such a young age.

  5. Ariep17anayankha

    Wow this was really great! monga 20 y.o. ppl look at me like im insane for having the desire to get married. I would love to see some expansion on what you mean byemotionally pure.I love the trasparency also in what you said. God bless yall

    • Philipns2 5 11anayankha

      kwenikweni, when she saysemotionally pureshe’s talking more about not already in your mind trying to marry the guy or think that you areexclusivelyhis just because you’re dating. That can lead to other sinful thoughts like, “sexual fantasies, lust,etc.” You realize you’re emotionally impure when your vision of that other person’s character is so clouded that you make the relationship an idol in your own mind. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 is so important to live by,especially as a woman because we are, like was mentioned, “emotionalcreatures.

  6. Kerai Riddleanayankha

    ndimakonda izi!!!!!!!!! Sometimes you seem to forget that youre not the only one because so many around you mostly peers seem to think yourjumping the gunso many people to me that i wasnt ready and im too young, but i truly believe this is what god had in store for me. I was scared out of my mind the day after because not only did i get married early at the age of 18 i also married a man i knew less than a year and he was only 19. We had a instant connection like our souls were destined to be together, i love him more now than i ever have hes my partner for life and i wouldnt change it for anything. We prayed together and went to church together got married and had a child together now here we are..It will be 3 years in february and i still have no regrets that i made this move :-) god has blessed me with a good man.. My vows mean the world to me and i wouldnt break them.. Thanks for posting this keep it up i love young loveYou hardly ever see couples last til death but i strive to be that couple til death do we part divorce is not an option!!

  7. Adrienne Kellyanayankha

    God bless you two. He surely will because you trusted Him and His divine plan for the male/female relationship and came into covenant agreement that you would honor Him and each other for life. I’m so proud.

  8. Louib2001anayankha

    Ambuye alemekezeke kuti m'bale ndi mkazi wanu wokondeka wokula. Ine ndikupemphera kuti Mulungu adzatsanulira mtima mosalekeza pa moyo wanu, chifukwa inu mwamvera mawu ake. ndine 28 ndipo takhala m'banja zaka pafupifupi ziwiri ndi mkazi wanga tili ndi banja losangalala ndi wokondeka 10 njenjete akale mwana. Ndinkafunitsitsa kukwatiwa wamng'ono, koma ine ndikukhulupirira sinali nthawi koma ine mpaka Ambuye anabweretsa chinthu wanga wabwino pafupifupi 5 zaka zapitazo (kukhala enieni tinakumana pa tsiku tinachita kubadwanso 31 Dis 2006). Sindinadziwe ife kumene zoyembekezeka kukhala pamodzi monga ndinachichotsera ake ngati mlongo wamba kwa mpingo. Ine ndine ndidalikuyimirirako akupanga kukula wanga wauzimu, koma zaka zitatu zapitazo maso anga anatseguka ndipo ena monga iwo amati ndi mbiri.

    Ndi mu uchimo Satana anthu kuti akwatiwe, kotero kuti iwo amakhala mu uchimo ndipo ife tikudziwa kale zimene zidzachitike. Kodi ife anayang'ana pa mlingo wa chilekaniro mu thupi lero? Nanga bwanji abale ndi mlongo chiwerewere mu mpingo, chifukwa cha zimene anthu kuchipembedzo.

    Ngati tidzamva mmene mizinda yathu imadzaza ndi chiwawa achinyamata ambiri, Kodi ife kaye ganizirani za zomwe muzu? Mphindi munthu kuwombola makhalidwe Mulungu kwa lingaliro zozungulira izi zonse unatha. Ngakhale makolo achikhristu wosazindikira kulimbikitsa zozungulira lingaliro ndi kuletsa ana awo kukwatiwa wamng'ono (pa zaka nkhawa mwachionekere). Pali zifukwa Ine ndibwereza”muyenera kupeza maphunziro, mwina mukamaliza ambuye ako ntchito yabwino, ndiyeno yambani kuganizira za ukwati”. phokoso wanzeru kodi sichoncho ? Choncho chimene chimachitika pamene mwana wanu wachikhristu amapita ku yunivesite ndipo akatero zimathera ndi bwenzi mnyamata / mtsikana wina yemwe mwina Mkhristu kapena osakhala?

    Chonde musagwiritse ine cholakwika(zina mwa zinthu Ndabwera kudutsa basi), chifukwa mawu pamwamba siligwira ntchito kwa onse. Maphunziro ndi wofunika kwambiri monga umaphunzira luso ntchito wawo kotero kuti ntchito ndi kusamalira mabanja awo tsogolo etc, koma ukwati adazolowera kusiya bwino chifukwa cha zimene konse m'dera mu moyo munthu asankha kutsatira, monga momwe zilili ukwati ambiri amalimbikitsa kukula i.e utumiki wopambana, akumathandizika wabwino, chuma ndi mndandanda akupitiriza. Kumbukirani awiri amakhala thupi limodzi ndi tikhoza kumutsatira 10 000 Oo, izo zikutanthauza kuti n'zogwirizana mulimonse akupempha Mulungu mokhulupirika iwo mudzachipeza, zozizwitsa…..

    Kufupi Ndikufuna kuti afotokoze zomwe Akhristu kuyamba kuphunzitsa ana athu ali mwana kufunika kwa moyo koyamba kwa Mulungu ndipo kachiwiri kufunika kwa banja( kwa iwo amene apatsidwa mphatso) kotero kuti iwo amakula amene akufuna kukondweretsa Mulungu m'dera lino. Apanso mwachita bwino m'bale wanga ndi onse okhala mawu a Mulungu. Khalani wodala.

  9. Iwantstate01anayankha

    Jessica, could you share some of the practical things Trip did during your courtship to guard your heart EMOTIONALLY. I understand setting physical purity boundaries. But what did it look like practically in the emotional area?

    zikomo!

  10. Katherine2canayankha

    I so NEEDED to read this!!! Zikomo!! I struggle with the things you once struggled with and I want to honor the Lord and my husband!!!! With that being said, I will continue to strive to be that P31 wife!!! Zikomo!!!

  11. ChosenVanayankha

    I really thank God for your blog. After reading it for the 1st time I was wow’d at Gods work. Three months down the line I read this again and I’m still wow’d. I’m a 22 year old female and with marraigelooming”, your blog is trully inspirational. It is my prayer that my man be as God driven as Trip was in terms of fulfilling his role as a man in our relationship. May God bless you:-)

  12. Chelsteranayankha

    At Man Up, LA, a couple months ago, Jess mentioned that Trip is hercovering,” and here she talked about how she used to be asuperwoman,” but came to learn what godly (submissive) femininity is supposed to look like.
    Can either or both of you speak a little more specifically on what you believe God’s idea is for men’s and women’s roles in a marriage? Y’all are a blessing!!

  13. Nicole-Rose Munhawaanayankha

    I really think your story is wonderful. Both of you grasped the beauty of the gift of marriage and you’ve really inspired me. Congratulations on your marriage and I pray for outrageous love to be shared between you. So happy for you

  14. Godgiven51anayankha

    Such a wise perspective,my wife and I have been married for 5 years and I am also in the Gospel hip hop field,its always awesome to have her in my corner praying when we travel,you wives play an important part in our lives,keep doing what ya doin sis!

  15. Iolene_Branchanayankha

    I put myself on the journey to be a better woman of Christ at the beginning of 2011 and I must say I have come a very far ways and I am extremely proud of myself. During my journey God placed a blessed man in my path and reading this blog has definitely played its part as the last sign needed from my prayers.

    I also had no intentions of searching for a man to spend the rest of my life with at 20 zaka, but here I am, and this blog is extremely encouraging. For me to stand beside him in all his endeavors and be the woman God created me to be and be by his side as God molds him to be the man he needs to be.

    Zikomo kwambiri chifukwa. I really do appreciate it :)

  16. Arnold Moforanayankha

    Whao, Trip and Jessica! You actually do not know how far your lessons are reaching-I am in Cameroon. ndine 25 yr-old and recently took a day in extended time with God to seek God concerning my future partner. Then I came up with a checklist/ Prayer points list of the kind of woman I want to date and eventually marry. Then a day later I met your blog. I think God is preparing me in special way. This is my Wife’s Checklist/ prayer points list:
    ARNOLD’S WIFE CHECKLIST/ PRAYER POINTS LIST
    ATTRIBUTES STRENGTH
    (grade 1-4)
    Devoted and growing Christian
    My suitable Helper
    Respects her parents, her family, the authority and me in my presence and absence
    Partners with me in my ministry
    Submissive in everything
    Has a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
    Shares similar thoughts, struggles, pains, no secrets
    Does not desire outer beauty-clothes, jewelry, hair styles
    Prudent and Generous
    Hardworking
    Makes me desire to work extremely harder

  17. Angela Johnsonanayankha

    What a Blessing You Both Are! Keep On Keeping On With HIM! You Won’t Go Wrong…..munayamba! I got married young but without the wisdom of HIM and others who were led of The Spirit to encourage us to seek HIM first……I must say that anyone who chooses HIS Way will be positioning them selves to receive HIS Plan for them and not their plans for themselves which is Far Greater than Anything we could everthink offor ourselves….TRUST IN HIM!:) I am walking by Faith and not by Sight (2 corinthians 5:7) Or I would have killed my self……Without HIM I saw no good thing. Thank You LORD For Sending The Holy Spirit Who Comforts and Guides me. JESUS Is LORD! ( I am still married and we Both <3 The Lord!) Stay Blessed!:) Much <3 and Peace!:) Very Inspiring of you both to have posted, Thank You Very Much!:)

  18. aneetarhanayankha

    thank u so much Jessica,dis is exactly wot i need right nw. God rilly bls u guys. I’m 21,in a godly relatnshp n my boyfriend wants us 2 get married ASAP. I wasn’t sure if it’s a gud idea cause i felt i wasn’t matured enuf bt i thank God 4 dis,if it’s God’s will den i totally subscribe 2 izo

  19. Rchllnndreheranayankha

    WOW the reasons behind you getting marride are the same as mine were and what still make me believe I made the right choice I also felt God saying this is the one it is time to let go of the past only our pastor didnt approve which made it a hard choice in a way other than I was following God. ine ndiri 22 and just got married 2 mo ago. It may be a short time but God is growing us together and teaching us so much(for me how to open up be soft and be a woman as God created me to be) It was awsome to read this and I want to thank you for taking the time to write it. May God Bless You and Your House!

  20. Rachel Wrightanayankha

    Ya’ll testimony is so awesome! It is is encouraging to hear that ya’ll were able to get married young. I myself am getting married this summer at the age of 21 and God has blessed us in so many ways and continues to amaze us and bless us! Thank you once again from both of you for these uplifting blogs!

  21. Dfletcher812anayankha

    I Totally Agree. Ine anakwatiwa ali ndi zaka 18. Yes I was a baby but, the Lord spoke to me and told me not be afraid to take a leap of faith and being Obedient to the will of God i did. Now Im 24 with Three Kids and my Husband and I are very deep in ministry of music. God has done some impossible things in our lives and I love to hear that other young women and young men of God realize that God has given their soul mate to them and deiced to make the right decision.

    And we cant forget, Mary married Joseph at 14 years of age and Birthed Jesus, She was a virgin and pure in the sight of God. So Ladies and men stay pure for God until u marry!!!

  22. Grabiel Riveraanayankha

    thats great the same has happened to me and my wife , i was 21 ndipo iye anali 18. we let god direct us and be in our marriage and now he showing us his work in our lifes and in our marriage. may god keep blessing yah marriage like he has done in ours god bless

  23. Addis Hunteranayankha

    Thank you for your testimony, I can relate to you in many ways. I do have to admit that I struggle daily withhaving a gentle and quiet spiritpart of marrige..Like you, I was and still am very driven and independant , and acknowledging my husband as the head of household and submitting to his ideas (even when I dont agree) is my biggest challenge as a young wife. I ask God every day to help me humble myself and submitt to my husband in every way. Zikomo kuuza.

  24. Cy Hudsonanayankha

    You guys are such an incredible blessing to young believers! I love these two blogs and thank the LORD for all he has spoke to me through you two!

  25. Jennifer Ann Selleranayankha

    21 zaka, and I feel like you’re describing me. I definitely have that Superwoman Syndrome. Thank you so much for your inspiring testimony, it gives me hope :)

  26. Pulemoliseanayankha

    thnx alot Trip and Jessica,many adults nid 2 see dis,i m truly encouraged by you guys,I luv hw ur sides complement,-Trip met a godly woman and Jessica met a godly man,Oo!(dats why u had 2 kukwatilana,Sekani!) nd we thnk God 4 u guys,u hv shown dat u can b responsible adults at a young age wen adults at an older age cant evn manage a fraction of wat u r doing,big-ups 2 u,nd may God continue 2 bles ur marriage more and more with each day dt comes

  27. simon paul -----ukanayankha

    Thank u so much Jessica for such apowerful encouragement .Am 21 but i alwalys thought growing means focus on a relationship .Sorry to bother you, Does dating someone in a christian relationship meanyou have to marry that very person , though she has got all the intimacy ur looking for..n you dont wanna hurt person..cos she expects uto be her hubbyHow would u handle such a catastrophe?????thxx.

  28. Kailaanayankha

    I know this was written awhile ago and I finally got a chance to read it. koma, I guess this was a good time for me to read it. Seems like God keeps putting little things around to tell me it’s time to put him back into things. And I think not only my relationship with my boyfriend is what’s needs Him back in it, but this shows that He can help smooth things out.

    I also found it interesting that I never thought of my mindset as the Superwomen Syndrome, but I can definitely can say I need help working on mine. That’s how my boyfriend describes me when I try to take on too much whether it be emotionally or work wise.

  29. Coltonanayankha

    Hei Ulendo! I read both of these blogs, and they (along with the godly counsel of family and friends) have been immensely helpful to me in the past few months. I’ve met the girl that I know God has for me to marry, and we’re just waiting on his timing. It’s quite possible that we will end up married even before you were, or at least by then!

    What advice would you give to someone who is in every other way ready to marry, except for the ability to provide a home (because of attending college)?

    Thanks so much!