Por que eu casei unha nena branca

Sempre que eu publicar fotos da miña familia en medios sociais, as respostas son sempre divertido. Os máis comúns son, "O seu fillo é tan bonito!"Ou" O que unha fermosa familia!"Pero unha das outras respostas comúns é, "A súa muller branca?"As persoas pregúntanme en concertos por veces demasiado. A resposta é si. A miña muller é unha mestura de Hungarian, italiano, e polaco-que para a maioría da xente só quere dicir si, é branca. Este é irrelevante para algúns, pero impactante ou mesmo decepcionante para os outros. Eu non creo que alguén debería estar impresionado ou decepcionado por casamentos inter-raciais, pero eu quería falar sobre por que eu me casei fóra da miña "raza.

A decisión de casar con alguén dunha orixe étnica diferente non era unha pregunta difícil para min. Nunca sentei e escribín unha lista pros e contras. Aínda que se fixen, o feito de que a miña muller nunca viu un episodio de "Martin" sería na categoría con. pero, honestamente, Non agonize sobre el ou buscar asesoramento sobre se era OK. Estaba convencido de que ela era a muller para min para casar, aínda que ela non era negro.

Algúns nunca consideraría casar con alguén que non era a mesma etnia como, entón deixe-me dicir-lle por que fixen.

expectativas

Para ser honesto, Sempre esperei para casar cunha muller negra. Atopei mulleres de todas as orixes bonitas, pero as nenas negras eran a miña "preferencia". Pero cando cheguei no meu campus universitario en 2006, Eu non estaba buscando unha muller en todo. Eu só quería crecer na miña fe e ter unha boa educación. O meu primeiro álbum tiña acaba de saír, entón eu tiña moitas outras cousas para centrar. Pero como eu coñecín xente na escola, o segundo ano chamada Jessica realmente me chamou a atención e nos facemos amigos.

Corremos nos mesmos círculos e acabamos adherirse á mesma igrexa, polo tanto, viu moi uns ós outros. E canto máis eu teño que coñece-la, canto máis eu estaba atraído por ela. Realmente quería Xesús e ela tiña esa vontade infantil para facer o que pediu. A súa compaixón para con as persoas necesitadas me desafiou e tiña un corazón humilde que respondeu á Palabra. Durante este primeiro ano, Observei a sacrificar incontables horas do seu tempo servindo na nosa igrexa. Na parte superior de todo isto, Eu amei a ser en torno a ela. nosa conversa, grave ou parvo, sempre fluíu con facilidade. Entón, eu finalmente comecei a preguntarme, "Debo casar con esta rapaza?"

preferencias

Jessica non parecía que eu esperaba miña futura esposa de ollar, pero sinceramente que non importa a min. Non me interpretar mal, Eu penso que era fermosa desde a primeira vez que a coñecín. E nunca se opuxo a casar cunha rapaza branca. Eu só non creo que eu faría. Pero como eu medrei na miña fe e meu corazón cambiou, miñas preferencias comezou a cambiar moito. Meu principal preferencia era que a miña muller ser piadoso, e Jessica foi. Entón eu wifed ela.

Nunca un momento me sentín como eu estaba caendo. Se sente máis como resolver a ignorar unha muller de Deus só por mor da súa etnia. Nunca quixen dar valor á miña preferencias para unha muller sobre o que eu necesario nunha muller.

Non hai nada necesariamente malo en ter preferencias, pero temos que perder los coa man aberta. Sei que algunhas persoas que ignoran un potencial cónxuxe piadoso, porque non se encaixan algunha preferencia aleatorio. Algunhas das nosas preferencias realmente non importa que moi. Algunhas das nosas preferencias poden ata ser parvo, polo que debemos enviar todos eles para Escritura.

Cando vostede eo seu cónxuxe están no medio do conflito, ton de pel non importa. tipo de corpo e status social parecer insignificante. Quere que eles sexan piadosa e humilde. E, como a miña muller e eu comezar a elevar o noso primeiro fillo, Non podería estar máis agradecido por ela. Ela é unha nai incrible e unha influencia piadosa no meu fillo ningunha das cales ten nada que ver coa súa orixe étnica. É Aceptar para querer as cousas dun cónxuxe, pero temos que enviar os nosos desexos de que Deus quere para nós nun cónxuxe. O que eu quería e precisaba era de un compañeiro piadoso, e iso é o que Deus providenciou.

accións

195 comentarios

  1. CLLresponder

    Ben dito de viaxe. Meu home é branca e eu son negro e estou constantemente a ser pregunte o que me fixo elixir alguén fóra da miña raza. Sempre respondo que Deus fixo a elección para min e fixo un traballo incrible, mellor do que eu xamais podería ter feito só. Deus é bo! Continúe facendo o que fai! 116! Xesús en primeiro lugar ata que estamos debaixo da terra!

    • Erickaresponder

      Grazas pola honestidade Trip Lee. Estou de acordo. Pode ter unha preferencia, pero tes que seguro-la coa man aberta, porque como cristián seu primeiro compromiso é o de Cristo eo seu cónxuxe ten que soportar que. uniformemente yolked…

    • Wadsworthresponder

      Gran post de viaxe.
      Teño problemas para ver o seu blog no meu teléfono. As páxinas parecen fixo dificultando a desprazamento esquerda-dereita e palabras ao final de cada liña parece cortado da miña pantalla así que eu ás veces non pode facer o sentido dalgunhas frases. Eu non estou seguro se este é un problema co meu navegador ou que un detalle técnico na configuración do blog. Só quería traelo simplemente meter algo se pode facer de seu fin.
      grazas.
      sexa bendicida.

    • Maríaresponder

      A miña filla ama a súa música. en realidade, debo recoñecer; eu tamén:). Cando me presentou a xira de música xunto co noso outro favorito, lacris) Eu estaba tan feliz pola súa influencia divina a través da súa música. Pero eu permanecer un pouco alerta. Queres saber se a súa música manifesta o seu personaxe. Lendo isto estou seguro de que vostede é un home de Deus. Rezo moitas moitas bendicións para vostede ea súa fermosa esposa e fillo encantador. persoalmente falando, e nun momento no que hai tanto mal, etnia é só iso. Un deles é realmente a sorte de ter unha muller (Se vostede é un home) que ama Xesús é o serve á dereita a carón de ti.

    • Adam Cravenresponder

      Amen!!! Nunca entendín por que algunhas persoas negligenciado unha muller de Deus, simplemente porque non se encaixan nunha das súas preferencias. Teño unha irmá que case puxo unha preferencia antes felicidade. Ela acabou indo a marabillosa palabra de Deus e orou sobre iso e orou e finalmente tivo a súa resposta e eu agora 2 sobriñas e un gran deus temendo irmán-de-lei!! Vostede non debe poñer as súas preferencias ante Deus, porque cada vez que alguén que son, basicamente, cuspindo na cara de Deus e as miñas preferencias antes de!!

  2. Carinaresponder

    Como Deus conduce, debemos seguir. Coido que biblicamente falando todos somos unha raza, primeira de Adán e Eva, posteriormente, todos os descendentes de Noé. Pode levar miles de anos e centos de xeracións para volver, pero todos comezou dende o mesmo lugar. unha raza, moitas etnias.

  3. Brittaresponder

    Concordo plenamente! cabezas vermellas afeitado antes de eu coñecín o meu home sempre preferín, pero entón eu coñecín David. Era un cara calvo con cavanhaque tempo suficiente para me trança! Foi / é todo o que Deus me prometeu que ía atopar nun home, pero se eu estaba só a buscar unha certa aparencia eu perdería o mellor que Deus tiña para min!

  4. David Bresponder

    I apreciar este. Eu non podo esperar ata o práctico, é así que facemos graza no cotián, libro é cowritten por viaxe e Jessica!

  5. Enanresponder

    Grazas viaxe a este artigo incrible. Para ser honesto con vostede, Quedei moi sorprendido cando descubrín sobre a raza da súa esposa. pero, Eu creo que os plans de Deus para a nosa vida, non sempre corresponden ao que esperamos ou quere. así, Este artigo ten me incentivou a orar e conseguir os meus motivos dereito; por iso, cando a persoa ben vén ao longo do meu camiño, Se Deus quere, Estou listo. Grazas unha vez máis bro. Amo vostede ea súa Fam en Xesús. Deus bendiga.

  6. Rachelresponder

    wow. Eu son grata polo seu corazón aberto e honesto sobre este asunto, como eu estou seguro que non é abordado o suficiente! Meu home e eu somos o mesmo “raza” pero eu podo ver esta mesma controversia sobre cousas bobas como alguén status social (que tipo de traballo que teñen), se teñen fillos, o que o seu pasado foi, independentemente do wether están en Cristo ou non. Eu sei para un feito que eu tería casado con meu home, non importa a súa raza, Estado, ou o fondo. o amor ea graza de Deus inclúe máis de todo e fai todo novo e bonito. E como dixo, Sabe o que necesitamos máis que nós mesmos. Grazas por este post!!

  7. cristalresponder

    absolutamente fermoso. Encántame que mencionar como as súas preferencias cambiou cando as súas prioridades cambiaron. Deus é incrible, Ten o mellor de cada un de nós, pero necesitamos saír do noso propio camiño para que poidamos ver, e recibir os aprecia. Eu son unha muller negra que non podería me importar menos sobre raza. Miña oración é ver a xente como Deus os ve e andar na súa vontade. É iso aí. El é o noso creador, quen somos nós para ser racista?

  8. cervoresponder

    Gran blog que as persoas precisan ler. Son libanesa Armenia e meu home é branco e que pasou e está pasando por unha gran cantidade de dor da miña familia.
    Nunca tiven unha preferencia de etnia. Antes eu fun salvo eu 3 relacións serios de etnia diferente e despois eu fun salvo e creceu no meu relación con Cristo era todo sobre quen son “chamado” para estar con; que Deus “Ordenado” para min.
    Crecer non era tanto unha preferencia, pero unha esixencia por miña familia para casar dentro do meu etnia, pero eu non me importa; i sempre foi considerado a ovella negra de forma…
    Para min, todo o que importaba era o que a vontade do Señor é a miña vida e cando meu home me foi revelado Eu tiña un tal paz e tal sabendo que eu mantiven a miña posición. Aínda estamos orando por corazóns da miña familia a ser suavizado, pero ao final o único que importa é que estou na vontade de Deus e seu camiño e non hai é onde máis quero be..I estou seguro na súa vontade.

  9. Michaelresponder

    Este foi un gran post de viaxe. Nunca me sentín interesado na miña propia etnia, hispánico, pero como eu medrei máis na miña fe tornouse máis evidente para min que o ton da pel non importa tanto. Este foi refrescante para ler e gracias a Deus que lle deu unha gran muller como para axudar a seguir glorifica-lo. Grazas pola inspiración en todas as súas mensaxes!

  10. jarredresponder

    A miña muller e eu somos persoas brancas. O Señor nos empuxou á adopción de noso primeiro fillo. Nese proceso, pode escoller o que quere. É case como elixir un filhote de can. En fin unha das opcións que comeza a facer é para a carreira. Non temos ningún problema con calquera raza, con todo, onde eu son Eles odian negros. Por iso, optou por non adoptar un neno negra por mor deles e do xeito que eles serían tratados cando os levou de volta a ver os meus avós. Eu sempre loitou con esta opción. Será que imos facer as cousas ben? estabamos protexendo o noso fillo daquel odio, ou estabamos xogando de Deus nas nosas propias vidas? Estamos cómodos con esta opción agora, porque é máis, pero o que pensas?

    • DeeDeeresponder

      jarred-

      Lin o seu post… Eu son negro, e foi adoptado polos meus pais que son branco. Mesmo o xuíz que xulgou o caso era negro. Mamá e papá estaban nerviosos porque vivimos nunha zona onde eu e un dos meus irmáns adoptivos poden non ser tan vixiado de prexuízos da xente. dito, que confiou en Deus, e nunca atopou situacións de preocupación.

      Eu penso e creo que vostede ea súa esposa fixo o que era mellor para a súa familia. Cada situación é única e Deus nos dá unha medida de graza para navegar pequenas e grandes momentos da vida. ser encoraxados! Quen sabe, quizais terá a oportunidade de adoptar novo e seleccione un negro (ou outro etnia) neno! Deus sabía que os seus corazóns, a continuación,, e el sabe diso, mesmo neste momento.

    • Ceceresponder

      Jared,
      Eu veño dunha familia onde os meus pais brancos teñen adoptado 6 nenos negras. Creo que é moi honesto para todos vós para recoñecer verdadeiramente que a adopción de fóra da súa carreira significa que ten que ser moi intencional sobre permitindo que o seu fillo para probar a súa cultura, e explorar a súa negritude. Se Deus tivese realmente chamado lle continuar a creación dun neno negra, el non debe ser tan fácil de ter a súa familia influencia-lo desa decisión. con todo, as preguntas teñen que ser feitas, é a decisión de adoptar máis sobre min, ou o neno que precisa dun fogar? Podo soportar toda a reacción dos amigos e familiares que ven con adoptar un neno da miña raza? Estou esperando o fillo para ser creado de forma que os obriga a renunciar a quen son para ser un membro da miña familia? Vou deixar espazo para o meu fillo para poder loitar pola súa identidade de vida entre mundos? É a sociedade constituída en forma que favorece máis o interese de me ser persoa branca a adoptar sobre as verdadeiras necesidades do neno? Como ética é o proceso de adopción?
      Adoptar un neno significa un cambio de mentalidade enteira, e relocação física o ambiente no que está non favorece necesidades do seu fillo. Relacións debe ser construído con aqueles que están vindo de unha perspectiva que non pode resoar plenamente con (ser negro). Vivimos nun mundo racista, e que ten que ser feita de xeito consciente por ti eo neno aumentar. Se optou por non recoñecer que, entón está en moitas formas facendo un desserviço a si mesmo e ao neno que adoptar. Adopción non é sobre conseguir rescatar o neno negra e pobre. É sobre estar motivado fóra dun lugar de amor e vivir verdadeiramente o corazón do Evanxeo para conciliar e amar o próximo. Isto non é sobre ti, como unha persoa branco.
      De moitas maneiras, estas son só algunhas preguntas que ten que estar confrontando. Se non está preparado para soportar iso e moito máis, non adoptar un neno negra foi, probablemente, unha boa decisión. Poño un artigo baixo que permite cuestionar isto dunha forma máis profunda, invitando carreira para o diálogo e conseguir un reflexo de adoptados e as súas experiencias.
      Non cada historia é unha historia de éxito e moitas veces os que non son as historias escoitarse. Teño a sorte de miñas experiencias e miña familia. De moitas maneiras, I foron concedidas con moitas posibilidades para explorar quen eu son, con moitas oportunidades, con todo, Sei que ven con un custo e hai que deixar espazo para que a ser falado.

      http://colorlines.com/archives/2013/08/gazillion_voices_explores_race_and_identity_in_adoption.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+racewireblog+%28Colorlines.com%29&utm_content=FaceBook

  11. Kararesponder

    haha! “Meu principal preferencia era que a miña muller ser piadoso, e Jessica foi. Entón eu wifed ela.” Mellor liña no blog. Deus contento levalo a unha gran muller. :)

  12. John Evangelresponder

    ola viaxe!
    lector de longa data & oínte. Primeiro comentarista tempo. Eu realmente amo este artigo.
    A miña familia é de Nixeria, e meu pai me enviou un texto aleatorio unha mañá martes ás 04:00 dicindo “Se quere casar, comproba se a súa alguén do mesmo fondo como é. máximo, do mesmo país.”
    Por suposto, Eu non sabía o que dicir, porque nunca discutimos isto antes. #estraño.
    Eu sei que eu amar a miña muller, cando estou listo, independentemente da tez, fondo racial, barreiras lingüísticas, e calquera outras diferenzas posíbeis. O máis importante para min é que é unha parte integrante da miña familia – familia de Deus. É suficiente.
    Grazas de novo!

  13. amigosresponder

    Grazas por compartir o seu corazón de viaxe. Somos todos o mesmo cando tira a pel. Deus creou cada un de igual forma e exclusivamente de acordo co seu deseño especial. Deus bendiga vostede ea súa familia.

  14. JoshHaanresponder

    Nada de malo como dixo de viaxe sobre casar con alguén dunha raza diferente. O importante é que quen queira que ou eu casar con que aman a Xesús (marca 12:30 ESV) e que van te amar de novo e que a amamos como Deus ama a Igrexa. Deus te bendiga viaxe ea súa familia

  15. MichaelJresponder

    Impresionante análise de como o Señor está constantemente a cambiar o “ollos do noso corazón” para aliñar co “ollos da nosa cabeza”. Me podo relacionarse cos retos, aínda que eu non estou casado aínda, porque unha muller piadosa que ten un desexo de agradar o seu Salvador é máis importante que calquera atributo exteriormente. Parabéns por ti todo é anos e que Deus continúe a bendicir o resto.

  16. Arthur simuchileresponder

    Todos temos o mesmo pai, pero nais diferentes do mesmo sangue de Xesús corre en nós,pel é só pel,pero o que está dentro de nós máis importa ,marabilloso Mr viaxe Lee.may Deus bendiga vostede ea súa familia para a súa inspiración marabilloso.

  17. deidreBakerresponder

    wow! Eu non sabía que tiña casado e que é unha muller branca, como unha muller negra e unha muller de Deus, Parabéns por atopar o amor verdadeiro! Encántame como explicou por que se casou con súa esposa, e realmente non ten moito, pero historia é incrible! así irmán e súa encantador esposa Jessica, Eu quero que vostedes moitos anos! sexa bendicido!

  18. Elizabethresponder

    Ola viaxe,

    Fai un excelente punto! Teño aprender seu artigo que non importa sobre o ton de pel, pero o que importa é como a persoa está camiñando con Deus eo seu corazón!! Grazas por compartir unha historia fermosa.

  19. Jimmy Sorrellsresponder

    Isto fai todo o sentido. O que non ten sentido é o racismo. Xa que hai só unha raza, ser racista é ser contra a raza humana. Existen diferentes grupos de persoas, pero só unha carreira, pero este parece ser un argumento a perder con persoas que discutir-lo con aínda que a súa realidade.

  20. JeffreyCravensresponder

    “Nunca quixen valorar as miñas preferencias para unha muller sobre o que eu precisaba unha muller.”

    Tal afirmación verdadeira e profunda. O meu pai é negro, nai é branca, foron casados 35 anos. E algúns anos difíciles tamén, pero no medio destes conflitos, “ton de pel” definitivamente non importa. O Señor foi misericordioso e fiel.

    viaxe, este post é refrescante bro. Eu son unha semana lonxe de celebrar o meu primeiro ano de matrimonio cunha muller temente a Deus que me desafía a diario co seu compaixón. Tamén pasa a ser de Latina, francés e hawaiano decente. Así, a lectura Isto foi moi apreciado.

    Grazas de novo, Jeff.

  21. WALTERresponder

    eu sinto o mesmo pensar fóra da caixa son negro Non quero me casar na miña raza nin eu teño as miñas razóns me gusta de outros tipos de mulleres

  22. Michelleresponder

    Grazas por compartir e publicar luz sobre esta. branco, negro, etc tocou no que é realmente importante. O espírito do racismo nos prexudicado por un longo tempo en unha morea de áreas. Creo que estamos rompendo con todo. Deus te bendiga & súa familia crecente.

  23. Bachizzleresponder

    Eu teño un pensamento, Eu son un nativo americano ( indio) Eu vexo iso como ten e facer viaxe. Estudei na Southern sen. e as persoas me preguntan cando é que vai casar? Eu respondo con “cando é o momento e eu estou seguro”. Eu manter os ollos abertos e digo “Quero unha muller piadosa que será tan apaixonado por Xesús que vai honrar a súa palabra”. E a cuestión racial vén para arriba, pero eu digo que é difícil atopar unha muller que honra Xesús é a palabra que é nativo americano como min por mor dos aspectos culturais e influencias de pentacostalism e sistema matriarcal na cultura do nativo americano. Grazas polas súas palabras

  24. Krihresponder

    Eu gustaría de ler este post de viaxe. Eu son un gran fan seu, pero me gusta do feito de que está aberto sobre a cuestión da raza. honestamente, raza non importa cando se trata de quen nos casamos. O único que importa é se son un cristián, e se eles están aliñados coa vontade de Deus para a súa vida. Fóra dos fundamentos, raza ou cor da pel é só unha diferenza na forma como miramos. Teño datada de fóra da miña raza. Eu son negro e meu ex é coreano / Blanco. El nunca foi un problema para nós, pero eu recordo veces cando chegamos miradas doutros. Foi unha experiencia interesante, pero ningún da negativa (que non era moi) ía me impedir de saír con outra persoa da miña etnia ou casar-los. Iso nunca foi un problema con me, miña familia ou amigos. O punto é, todos temos as nosas preferencias, pero hai que concentrarse no que Deus quere para as nosas vidas primeiro. Bo ver que esta conversa é positivo.

  25. Intermitenciaresponder

    Gracias a Deus que escribiu o artigo, porque como un único mulleres cristiás, Eu entendo o quão importante é para ser totalmente aberto para o que Deus di, incluíndo quen permite entre a súa vida, e mesmo leva fóra del. Eu son grata para a declaración que fixo “temos que enviar os nosos desexos de que Deus quere para nós nun cónxuxe”. Isto en si me axuda a pechar a miña forma de pensar e entender, a fin de concentrarse no que Deus quere para min ea miña vida. Eu son negro e estou preferenced homes negros; porén Deus está a traballar no meu corazón nesa área dende que eu comezar a buscalo en relación a un home piadoso. Debería cantas persoas realmente escoller a persoa errada para casar ou incluso perder o que Deus ten para eles simplemente por mor das súas sobre restricións / preferencias. excelente artigo! Ten realmente bendixo e eu estou seguro que moitos outros.

  26. skateresponder

    Sendo desde o Sur e biracial, Eu lidei con conflitos sobre o mozo interracial unha morea. I pode ir de ser un neno fermosa de Deus para o que algúns consideran un erro ou un termo despectivo. Preciate falar sobre iso! Espero que o meu home é como aceptar de min como vostede ea súa esposa foron uns dos outros! 116!

  27. JONresponder

    Bo post creo que unha morea de veces que non é necesariamente que preferimos unha determinada cor ou orixe étnica, é o que está acostumado a. Por lle ser un cristián e permitindo a Deus para abrir os seus ollos atopou o seu bo. Parabéns bro.

  28. Daniel Troutmanresponder

    Eu creo que é legal e intelixente de ti para escribir este post. El axuda a xente que o amor non sabe categorías triviais como raza ou nacionalidade. 1 Corinthians 13 non di nada sobre a raza; fala sobre a paciencia, humildade, e sabedoría. Big ups ao gran post!

  29. vontaderesponder

    dereito sobre! Esta é unha bendición. fun invitado, rostros decepcionados visto, e eu oín persoas falando por / como eu liquidado ou se fixo “azoutado”. Eu orei por unha muller temente a Deus e El me enviou o seu. Eu amo a miña muller, que pasa a ser branco (Eu son negro). ela & os nosos nenos son a miña maior bendición de Deus e eu non ía querer iso de ningunha outra forma. Grazas pola súa honestidade aberta. O amor non transcende todo.

    Orgulloso de 116!

  30. maiorresponder

    Gran historia de viaxe e parabéns. Eu quero que vostede faría explícito que a elección dunha muller non tiña nada que ver con algo estar mal con ou desaparecidos nunha muller negra. A historia deixa un baleiro nesta área. tamén, debe quedar claro que, se cadra, a súa elección dunha igrexa e unha escola de poñelas en posición de ser en torno a menos mulleres negras. Moitos negros viven como minorías en todos os ámbitos da sociedade e iso ten un efecto sobre as mesmas unións de carreira. Eu, persoalmente, quere ver mulleres negras con homes negros de calidade, pero eu non pode argumentar co que Deus uniu. Moitas felicidades para vostede ea súa familia b

  31. Seanresponder

    A miña muller & I son brancos… temos 3 nenos brancos e 1 fillo africano (Etiopía). Estivemos con algunhas das mesmas preguntas e miradas estraños, pero sabemos que foron ordenados por Deus para ser unha familia!
    Eu aprecio a súa honestidade e apertura á vontade de Deus para a súa vida… que eu creo que é o punto principal do seu artigo – Buscar a vontade de Deus, no canto de a nosa propia preferencia!
    Este concepto bíblico pode ser “copiado & pegado” a todos os aspectos dunha vida crentes… e debe!

    grazas Tripp!

  32. JHollaresponder

    viaxe,
    Eu aplaudo pola súa vontade de compartir a súa “razóns” para casar fóra da carreira. O meu primeiro pensamento, como un home casado cunha muller asiática, Foi por iso que sente a necesidade de xustificar isto para ninguén. Por suposto, meu e miña esposa’ ton de pel é semellante, nosas orixes e educación están tan lonxe de cada un dos outros, Alguén podería dicir “por que casar con ela?”Como mencionaba, súa esposa, é a muller, A compañeira, a outra (se a miña muller está lendo, “MELLOR”) metade que ten proporcionado. Deus trae aqueles nas nosas vidas que necesitamos ter, a fin de nos desafiar para facer mellor. Entón, o que se alguén aparece diferente de min por fóra. como, todos nós deberiamos estar buscando aqueles cun Deus buscando corazón que é o máis fermoso atributo pode posuír.

  33. tendoresponder

    gran post. Para ser honesto eu creo que moitos outros cristiáns mulleres cristiás particularmente individuais (eu incluído) estaría casada ou podería ser casado antes, nos libramos de algunhas das nosas ideas planas. Só recentemente comecei a orar a Deus que quero mellor ur. Temos que confiar na nosa Pai Celestial que sabe do que necesitamos. Meu principal cousa é que quero un home que teme a Deus e eu amo como u dixo que principal cousa substitúe carreira aínda que Deus nos abençoará cos desexos do noso corazón. Gran post n Deus bendiga

  34. Nicoleresponder

    Gran traballo de non só expresar, pero facelo de forma que os outros van entender. Cando comezamos a cambiar a nosa perspectiva sobre a vida en xeral, imos ver unha chea de que “esperar” non ten nada que ver coa vontade do Pai. Canto máis preto estamos con el, cada vez máis a nosa “expectativas” cambiar, porque comezan a se aliñar coa súa vontade e non a nosa propia. Deus bendiga vostede ea súa familia. Continúe facendo o que está facendo o meu irmán en Cristo. negro, branco ou vermello, cor non desempeña ningún papel cando se trata do corpo de Cristo Unión. Fun bendicido con un home incrible de Deus, que pasa a ser o meu mesma etnia, pero máis que calquera cousa que el é un home segundo o corazón de Deus, que é o único que importa no meu libro.

  35. Andrearesponder

    grazas á viaxe! Realmente me fixo pensar sobre as miñas propias preferencias e como ás veces eu teño mantido unha lonxitude de armas de uns bos señores só porque eu non considera-los atractivo. Apunta a cuestións de orgullo. Pero realmente encoraxados polos comentarios de apoio relacións inter-raciais. Gustaríame que a miña familia compartido eses puntos de vista. Se eu casar con un home negro, Non será fácil.

  36. Jasonresponder

    Eu creo que é óptimo que mirou a cor da pel pasado e etnia. Non soporto cando as persoas teñen a iso e queren estar dentro da súa raza por calquera motivo. Somos persoas con diferentes tons de pel todos os afectados polo pecado. A miña nena é español e eu son negro, pero eu nunca mirar para ela e vexo unha muller española, Eu ollo para ela e só ver unha muller, independentemente da cor da pel ou etnia.

  37. MrsHendrixresponder

    Amén. Estou bendicido pola súa resposta. Unha vez que temos unha relación con Cristo, A súa vontade se fai a nosa vontade ea súa vontade era para ti muller súa esposa lol…. (que ata ten sentido). El proxectou o seu todo para ti na viceversa. Pode que colle unha morea de críticas por casar cun “negro” Janota, pero o Señor sabía exactamente o que o de vostedes dous precisaban. O buscan en primeiro lugar e todas as cousas vos serán engadidas ti (incluíndo o cónxuxe dereito).

    Sexa irmán Santísimo e seguen a ser unha bendición para os outros tamén.

  38. Leilani Baileyresponder

    Deus bendiga a súa viaxe Unión.
    Grazas por compartir a súa experiencia persoal.
    Deuses alianza de casamento non consiste en cor ou raza. O seu eterno amor supera todo..

  39. Stacyresponder

    Tan feliz que publicou isto. Como o produto dunha unión bilateral racial ea esposa dun home que non reflicte calquera deles :) este tema é moi real para min. Deus ten me bendicido alén da medida co meu home, e cústame pensar que hai xente alí fóra que ía rexeitar o que Deus ten para eles por mor da súa propia ignorancia / racismo.
    liña favorita: “Entón eu wifed ela.” LOL!

  40. Natalieresponder

    O que un gran artigo, e estou feliz que hai xente alí fóra como que se abren a conversa sobre un tema como este e ser real con el, porque hai sempre parece ser un estigma asociado a relacións inter-raciais.

    Eu son chinés e meu home é branco, e as loitas que atopamos ao longo da nosa viaxe xuntos foron difíciles e unha verdadeira proba. Nós casamos mozos como vostede ea súa esposa, estaba 21 e estaba 24. Temos 2 fillas xuntos, e cando Im só con eles, Vou estar parado na rúa e estraños sería como “é o negro pai?”

    Por riba de todo a loita foi coa miña familia, porque nunca pensei que eu ía casar cun home negro. Tivemos un casamento pequeno e máis da metade da miña familia quixo vir. Pero Deus é incrible, porque por todo isto, fe da miña nai foi experimento e probado, mentalidades dentro miña familia fora cambiado. Meu home é aceptado agora, e miña nai estaba a recoñecelo como o seu fillo en lei agora (que é un gran negocio para nós!) Aínda hai algún camiño por percorrer, pero moi progresou que dou toda a gloria a Deus. Keep it up Trip, é unha inspiración para os outros e rezo para que Deus continúe a bendí-lo, súa familia eo seu ministerio.

    PS: Debe baixar para realizar en Londres, UK tempo!!

  41. LoganSharpresponder

    Moi ben dito. A miña muller é hispánico, Eu son branco. Raza nunca chegou ao pensamento para min moito máis do que dixo cando coñeceu a súa muller; Vin a paixón da miña muller para Deus, o seu desexo de dar aos alumnos e Apreciamos moito dos mesmos filmes e música e rezou para o outro durante o mozo. Non entendo por que a xente pensa vodas inter-raciais son “estraño”.

    Grazas por compartir isto cos seus fans e dando impulso.

  42. Natasharesponder

    Isto foi incrible! Grazas por compartir viaxe. O amor de Deus non ten preferencia particular, pero Livramento. Your historia era unha bendición.

  43. LeonMartinezresponder

    testemuño fermosa! Sinceramente este falou comigo e que eu nunca tiña preferencia racial ou algo así, aínda tranquilizouse-me que Deus proverá o que necesitamos, non necesariamente quere. É unha verdadeira inspiración e testemuño vivo do poder de cambio de vida de Deus. Deus bendiga vostede ea súa pequena Fam fermosa!

  44. Reewantaeresponder

    marabilloso artigo, viaxe! Primeiro comentarista tempo aquí!

    Está etc. punto cando di, “Nunca quixen valorar as miñas preferencias para unha muller sobre o que eu precisaba unha muller.” ás veces, Eu me sinto ignorado como unha femia, porque a miña personalidade e temperamento son unha determinada maneira. Eu son o que se pode chamar “estraño” ou “diferente” segundo moitos que coñezo. Algúns caras como unha nena que é un pouco máis en moda mainstream ou alguén que é un pouco máis social e Franco que eu son. Noutras ocasións, Eu creo que quizais eu estou me facendo menos dispoñibles por miñas propias ideas discriminatorias pequenos. Estas formas non están baseadas na raza, pero máis no fondo de alguén ou o seu modo de transporte… porque eu incorporarse o autobús para a escola, e eu non apreciar-lo cando un cara intenta flertar comigo no transporte público. (A idea é que como un home andando de autobús ou tren, non pode dar o luxo de ir nun coche e dirixir un, ten pouco diñeiro ou están gastando nas cousas erradas, e, polo tanto, non ten ningún negocio tentar falar doce para min. LOL… pero iso tamén é mal.) Estou orando para que o Señor me axude a estar na súa vontade para a miña vida, de xeito que cando chega a hora para aquel seguro alguén para atopar o “O bo,” Eu estarei listo. :)

    Deus bendiga, bro.

  45. xuñoresponder

    Eu estou de acordo totalmente que a raza debe ser unha desas preferencias de man aberta, pero eu non estou de acordo que, ou outras preferencias '’ son sen sentido cando se trata sobre o conflito. Desafortunadamente, na miña experiencia, o que eu sentía era unha preferencia man aberta, e rendeuse en favor do home de Deus diante de min,fíxose unha seria fonte de tensión no meu casamento, moitos anos despois, cando meu home gañou unha morea de peso, enriba do que eu xa considerado foi un marco sobrepeso. Sempre fora atraído máis tipos de atletismo, por iso, cando fun confrontado con aínda máis a ganancia de peso, admito, Estaba sexual desactivado. Iso levou a un conflito, eo conflito fixo a miña preferencia facer unha montaña. En vez de ser unha preferencia físico simple engada de lado en favor do cadro maior home marabilloso de Deus, é, the conflict we were having about me not being enthusiastic about sex, sparked feelings that I ‘gave upsomething that was tangibly important and necessary, and now was faced with having to be a dutiful and loving sexual partner to someone I could not respond to physically. Only God’s grace has brought us through thus far, pero, honestly, his body is still a major turn off, and I still wish I had hung on to my preference and waited for someone who fit my physical type, as well as my need for a Godly husband

  46. SheilaTurnerresponder

    As a multi-raced individual, I have raised my children to look at the character of an individual when choosing a boyfriend/girlfriend and less about color of skin. Because of that they have dated people from all races and have been exposed to many cultures. My comment has always been as long as they treat them with respect and love them, who am I to tell you that you can’t be with that someone based on skin color.

    I have to say that my favorite part of this blog is this statement right here, “Nunca quixen valorar as miñas preferencias para unha muller sobre o que eu precisaba unha muller.”

    That right there sums it up!!!!

  47. Ericresponder

    Good news! She isn’t evenwhite”! And you aren’t even “negro” viaxe. Those terms are bunk. Praise God we are all of the one Adamic race. Even though we are different ethnicities, we are reconciled in Christ! Amen bro. Good article. One Blood. One Son.

  48. Jessicaresponder

    impresionante! Thanks for writing this. You are such an encouragement, and I praise God there are godly couples like you and your wife out there. tamén, I’m sure that together, you are able to reach a lot more people than you would be able to apart. Keep reppin Jesus.

  49. mención: Why He Married a White Girl by Trip Lee | 9jagirl4real

  50. Leesaresponder

    This was so awesome to read! Very encouraging. I myself have dealt with the disppointing and rasist comments. My husband is white and I am black. We both come from to totally diffrent worlds. I never thought I would marry outside my race. I even vainly prayed that God would seen me a black man with dreads lol. But I thank God he knew what was best for me and blessed not with just a white man but my king on earth! Since we’ve been married I have truly understood what it means to love in these earthly bodies. Not to tell all our biz but we have been struggling with fertility issues and I thank God for my husband because he has continued to encourage me. We love your music and your ministry. Deus bendiga vostede ea súa familia!

  51. kaileybrownresponder

    I am white, and my husband is black. When i introduce him most people wait until he leaves to sayhe isnt what i expected!!” it used to make me mad. como, who are you to judge my marriage. Now i just shrug and sayhe wasnt what i expected either, but i know 100% that he is the one God sent to meits nice to know your aproach. And just know your true fans know why she is your wife.

  52. Taylorresponder

    ****TRIP LEE****

    que “martinComment has me rolling on the floor Laughingbut I definitely feel this entire Blog!! Man looks on the Outside and God looks at the heart. My wife often quotes that A womans heart should be so hidden in God. That a man has to seek him in Order to really Find her

  53. jakeresponder

    All who have been baptised into Christ have put on Christ, there is neither Jew nor Greek, Scinthian nor Barbarian. This is the truth revealed in holy writ, con todo, many a believer still haveunrenewedminds that’s. Why ethnicity is still an issue. I will continue to grown in birth pangs until Christ be formed in us all.

  54. Leesaresponder

    I am not married yet but a lot of my cousins are and they are married to people from different races from all around the world. It’s so cool that families can be made of so many different skins colors. I think interracial marriages are so beautiful because they remind us that we are all His children EQUALLY and beautifully created. The Lord looks at the heart and so should we as humans in friendships and romantic relationships.

  55. IAMDJLADYJresponder

    This inspired and blessed me in so many ways. I love to see interracial couples/marriages! It’s always been my desire as a black woman to marry outside my race. I look forward to the day I meet my spouse knowing he was hand picked and designed for me! We have to get to that place above all else where we turn to God and accept all He has for us. Sure it’s OK to ask or tell God what u want or like. Dig this He already knows. Better yet He knows what’s best for us. So we have to be mindful of what we ask or pray for. What u want is not always what u need! Trust God make your petitions known and allow Him to do what He do!

  56. AmandaBresponder

    I’m really glad you married Jessica. She is an amazing person with an amazing heart. You two have an amazing influence on people as a married couple who are in love with each other and Jesus. Just thank you so much for looking at the heart and not the color on the face.

  57. Paularesponder

    viaxe, all i can say is excellent, words can’t express the joy in having you share with such transparency about why you married your wife, This is really going to help those see from another perspective and who maybe pursuing marriage in the future. God truly knows what’s best for us. May the lord continue bless your family!

  58. dmoneyresponder

    viaxe, thank you for preaching the truth to the misinformed and to me personally. though i am black im always pictured myself with someone of a different race. but i God has been slowly dealing with me to be accepting of all races and that the important thing is his heart reflects that of Christ. Thats what matters the most. Plus you have the full love and support of my home church. we are full of biracial couples and mixed kids. plus i have so many mixed friends that there overrunning the country lol. im proud of you for standing up and telling the world what they need to hear :)

  59. SPresponder

    I enjoyed reading this post, viaxe. It hits close to home. I am also in an interracial marriage. I am black (Jamaican, Native American, the ancestry can go on) and my husband is hungarian, german, etc.—so he’s white. I always knew I wouldn’t marry a black guy and I didn’t know what race my future husband would be. So just like you, I went to college not wanting to date but to grow as a Christ-follower and get an education and I met and fell in love with a special young white male.

    When we started dating, a few months in we knew we would get married some day and we did just that a few years later. I was privileged enough to grow up in a diverse area and have family members who were also in interracial relationships so, his skin color never phased me. I saw him for who he was; a godly man whose heart was full of love, humility and kindness. He looked past my skin color as well, looking at my heart and seeing me for who I am on the inside. There is no doubt that God brought us together. I couldn’t have hand-picked a better husband for myself on any given day. si, I may have had my preferences too as to what I wanted my husband to be, but truth is, God truly did give me so much more than I deserve and so much more that I never knew I even wanted.

    There are times when being an interracial couple seems awkward in certain situations but last time I checked-we all bleed the same color.

  60. Jeffreyresponder

    “Non hai nada necesariamente malo en ter preferencias, but we have to hold them with an open hand.Great quote in every vein of life!

  61. Melodyeresponder

    I’m thankful for people who are willing to listen to God above society in all areas of life and allow their minds to be conformed to His will and His way. I think often we don’t even realize the box and parameters that we place on ourselves. My family was military so we’ve been colorblind for the most part all growing up. However in the South preferences and stereotypes reign supreme, oftenI even had a close guy friend in college tell me that I was the most beautiful, smart, amazing girl he’d ever known but he just never thought he’d date a ___( insert race here)___ girl. BROKE MY HEART. hah and I didn’t even like him in that way. I’m glad you allowed yourself to fall in love and are in turn obediently opening your story up to others.

  62. Jasonresponder

    Numbers 12:1-11…No need to justify yourself to men bro, seek to show yourself approved unto the Lord. A pure heart & faithfulness towards the Lord Jesus will cancel any charge or words any man can spek against you.

  63. kangstawillzresponder

    Yo trip u are the man.I will also do the same.lol.I will marry in the lord and skin colour race,e.t.c won’t matter as long as she a godly one.GOD bless u man.

  64. Lindseyresponder

    Its so encouraging to read this. I’m white and my husband is black, and we live in a mostly hispanic neighborhood. Temos 2 beautiful girls but as you can imagine we get alot of looks. Our own families can be pretty negative at times. But the most important thing we’ve learned is that even though there’s cultural differences (especially when it comes to raising the kids), the most important thing is to keep our hearts and desires with Jesus.

  65. FortuneLawrenceresponder

    I’m so blessed by your post Trip!
    I have a question though. I am an African(negro) lady and I prefer white guys to black. That is mostly because I’m not so comfortable with some of the traditions in my home country. I must say, I love black men a lot but like I said, my country has some ridiculous beliefs. Would you say I’m wrong in making such preferences?

  66. Juliaresponder

    Great article Trip. I love what you said about race not being an issue. I’m white or at least look it to most people. I was raised in a biracial homemy mom is Italian and Hispanic and my dad was white. I am currently dating a wonderful black man who doesn’t have an issue with me not being the same race as him. He sees me as beautiful. Black women on the other hand see me as a threat. They only see me as whiteif they only knew the truth. It shouldn’t matter what race you are all that matters is that 5he person u marry is a believer too. Thanks again for the article.

  67. Danielresponder

    I used to use verses to discourage this kind of marriage. “Adam and Eve were most likely the same color / Samson’s dad wanted him to marry someone from the people of Israel / Isaac’s dad went to great lengths to find a wife from among ‘his peoplefor Isaac, etc…”

    My discussions on this topic were unkind, spotty and — quite frankly — baseless.

    And then God changed my heart and put me in a situation where I had no option but to lean on Him. He taught me what it is to trust in Him. And that’s when I started valuing those around me who also trust in Him. I drew closer to God’s people — regardless of culture background — and fell in love with His disciples because of the grace, faith and love they demonstrated.

    And that’s how this American ended up marrying a beautiful, godly Brazilian girl. It’s been 10 months and God has taught us both so much! It’s been a sweet relationship that has proved over and over again: God’s ways are best, when our conceptions are put to the test.

  68. Tracyresponder

    I have always wondered how a child feels being mixed. I know for me I would want to be fully one race or the other. It wouldn’t matter which, Chinese, Eskimo, Indian etc. It is a question I have never heard addressed.

  69. ELVISNIXON.comresponder

    gran post

    One caveat:
    Hungarians are Magyars. Magyars are lineal descendants of Attila the Hun (hence the term HUNgarian) who are often referred to as theMongolian hordes” -Attila is still one of the most popular boys names in Hungary- as is Arpad- therefore they are,technically, Asian.

    So you are even more diverse/multicultural than you thought!

  70. BrendaFresponder

    That was awesome! Her race honestly didn’t even click to me until i saw this post. I am black and my husband is half black and white (although he looks hispanic) and i get jokes all the time from people saying that i don’t like black men. Oh and don’t let them see my kids. BOL! It’s always a double take. I have been married 7 years and it’s still funny to this day. God bless your family man!

  71. Keinyaresponder

    I appreciate this post so much. I am in an interracial marriage as well and my husband and I both have stories about how people who may know us and feel like they know us pretty well somehow learn of what our spouse looks like or in my case sees a pic of my kids (because they could pass for his look alone until you know they are part black then you may catch certain little features) and immediately sees they must likely don’t have a black dad and that was their expectation. tamén, my kids fluently speak another language so that really confuses people since our last name is Lawrence. There’s a story behind that too because he is of mixed race too (just not black). de calquera xeito, I love the fact that you touched on this because for some, it’s such a huge deal and even struggle as there are some strong racial influences and pressures in our world (media, our loved ones even, amigos, etc.). My feelings are mutual to yours and many others who commented. Grazas!

  72. Keinyaresponder

    By the way, I LOVE the songGood Thingabout your wife. It’s really beautiful and makes me think of my own relationship. Thx for great music too! :)

  73. Jasonresponder

    1 Samuel 16:7…The Lord judges by the heart, so why dont we? We should make what the Lord has said our standard, not what our flesh wants/neither the standards of this world. Neste caso, from a man’s perspective, the standard for a wife is Proverbs chapter 31, not skin tone/not the worldly standard of marrying inside your ownrace/ethnicity.

  74. Tonyresponder

    I appreciate this because I’m African American and my wife is Hispanic. Her race was never a factor to me, because of her heart for the Lord. We now have a baby girl. When I look at my wife and daughter I don’t see a Hispanic woman, or a mixed baby. I just see the two biggest blessings in my life (apart from the Lord Jesus). Sometimes I even forget that we are an interracial couple and family. It’s not exactly easy all the time because of other people, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family!

  75. Andrewresponder

    viaxe, thank you so much for this. Eu son branco, and from Cincinnati and where i grew up I was usually the only white kid on the block. My wife had completely different upbringing. she grew up in rural Nebraska as a Mexican. I can’t even begin to explain some of the stories she would tell me that her and her brothers had to grow up with because of the hate, stereotypes, and flat out ignorance of the people she grew up with.

    She moved to the Nati to be close to me. She moved there thinking she would not have to put up with, hear, or experience the things she went through growing up. wow, were we both shocked! The things people would say to us in the mall, at the park, or just out to eat. You would think we were on the show, “What Would You Do.It was a struggle, our love kept us strong, our friends had our back, and our God kept us together.

    We now have been married for 11 years have 4 beautiful children to show for it. We also now live in that same small rural town where she grew up. The hate is less, but the looks are still there. The thing we always say/do whenever we experience theseattackswe lift those who areattackingus up in prayer. The Bible talks about love your enemy as yourself, and though I don’t consider these people to be my enemies, the concept of the scripture is still the same.

    amor, we just need to show everyone love. No matter the race or background of a person, God loves them, and we are to be like Christ, so we too should love them.

  76. Takudzwaresponder

    Wonderful article Trip lee. As for i’m still single but since i was little i had interest in marrying a white woman because two of my uncles got married to white women. When i got saved i didn’t see any difference between black or white but as long as we are practicing the same Faith.

  77. Andrew Almondresponder

    Wonderful post Trip. I’ve been struggling a lot recently with dating questions such as who I should date, and when, and why, and how to wait on God through all that stuff recently, and this post was very insightful. Thanks for sharing.

  78. Jennaresponder

    pos Wonderful! viaxe, you have a beautiful family, and I thank you for sharing your heart. Although my husband and I are both white, we grew up very differently. He is a true country boy and self-proclaimed redneck. I have always felt more comfortable around black people, even as a small child. I was never opposed to marrying a white man, but my preferences were definitely geared toward men in the hip-hop culture. People often ask us how we ended up together, and most people are shocked to find out my husband is white. He isn’t what I had envisioned for myself growing up, but he is everything I needed in a husband and father for our kids. The Lord has truly blessed me, and I can’t imagine my life any other way!

  79. mención: The List | Relationship Resource Kit

  80. RGresponder

    No longer your heart or preference but what God has planned/willed. It’s amazing how God’s providence is revealed. I am Native American who grew up on a reservation and my husband is Mexican. We both grew up in different states yet we believed in the same Sovereign God who willed where he wanted us to serve HIM and made provision for us to meet. We now live near the reservation in my home state. I prayed (as a new Christian at the age of 8) that God would use me in my home church and I would never have known that God would grow me into a Pastor’s wife of this said church! aínda, I’m blessed to know that this same powerful God who created the world could also use us to show other His great love and grace. To come along side my husband as his helper to share the gospel to my own people.

    This was a great encouragement to me. And it’s great to hear how God can change a heart to do His will! Continue to do His work!

    Thank you for the songs and the truths you incorporate. Our family enjoys your music. Especially my teenage sons.

  81. halfNhalfresponder

    My husband is mexican, and I’m filipino. sei 3 languages and learning a few more. My best friend is black and her husband is arabian. It is amazing to see a mixture of races at churches and even in groups.

    We really do just look at the content of one’s character. It’s neat to learn languages and see all of the beautiful cultures. In Christ there’s no Jew, Greek, Male nor female.

  82. mattresponder

    One of my more embarrassing “preferencias” looking back was for my wife to be a Denver Broncos fan.

    agradecidamente, God allowed me to grow in maturity before he brought my stunner to me.

  83. Maríaresponder

    Eu son branco, I got pregnant, first year of medical school with a black mans baby. At three months pregnant, God sent me a frienda brown Indian man. We were both just starting our medical school careers. What I was about to do was crazy enough. When he told his parents about me they threatened to withdraw all support, his brothers refused to speak to me. After a year and a half we got married we are still in school, raising our son and still have people confused. God is so good, at one of the most difficult times in my life, he gave me a friend, a godly man, to love me, all of me, me + baby. Heres to a real man. Heres to a very loving and gracious Father.

  84. Aleshia Robinsonresponder

    This is hypocritical but when I see an interracial couple in public I think nothing of it EXCEPT for when I see a Black man with a non-Black girl. I don’t even flinch if its vice versa but I do know that being a Black man in this society is harder than most. I used to work in a hotel alongside Black men and while guests treated me with respect and believed I could do my job with excellence, they flipped the switch with my Black co-workers right in front of me. I could deliver towels to their room but the guests wouldn’t open the door for them. I could check guests in with ease but they were asked “Non sei. Can you handle this?” I could stand outside on break without bother but the police stopped them to askWhat are you guys doing?” People judge and treat Black men differently and I haven’t figured out why. So when I see a Black man with anyone else, my first thought isHe is trying to make life easier on himself.My second thought isHe wants his kids to have her features.But hey, who am I to judge? (Even though I do) I will most likely marry outside my race simply because of my LOVE of adventure so like I said in the beginning, this point is just straight hypocritical. At least you married yours for the right reasons.

  85. Lynn Burgessresponder

    I applaud Trip & Jessica Lee. Integration of the true church of Jesus Christ and “interracial” marriage within the church is the answer to racism in our culture. There is only one race, the human race, “male and female He created them…” (xénese 5:2un), and nowhere does scripture say to marry those of your same skin tone or eye shape.

  86. Tionaresponder

    Thanks for the article! As a single black woman who loves God and seeks to live my life in a way that pleases him and reflects his love to others, I have prayed hard about this topic. The single men in the churches I have attended have mostly been non-black men. At times I feel like I am at the bottom of the totem pole, competing against the white, Asian and Hispanic women with long, flowing hair and features that I will never have. Even in looking through some of the Christian dating sites, I have noticed that a large percentage of the men with solid profiles indicate they are interested in pretty much all ethnicities except African-American.

    Your article was encouraging to me and spot on. I will trust God to provide in all areas of my life, including my relationships. grazas!

    Thanks for your honesty!

  87. Grandmotherresponder

    Many, many years ago when my oldest son was about 2, we were driving through a black section of town and he commented that all the people were black and asked why was everyone black. I tried to explain that a long time ago people thought it was better if all the white people lived in one area and all the black people lived in one area. I further said that now we know it doesn’t make any difference what color your skin is. Out of the mouth of babes……el dixo, “Si, the important thing is that we got skin!”

  88. tendekairesponder

    marring a God fearing woman is the best you can ever do to have a happy family. well said trip what you want in a women is far more important than what she should look like.

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  90. Kailaresponder

    I love that you were so open and honest with this post. I feel like the act of interracial marriage and dating is a topic people need be more open to discuss because in every generation I feel as though people have an issue with it. From my point of view I think it’s beautiful to see how love doesn’t discriminate.

    But I also think my openness toward it is because I have always grown up in a community where it wasn’t just one race and my parents never raised me to dislike anyone because of their skin. pero, I did experience some slack my junior year when I took my best friend, who was white, to prom because my paternal grandmother isn’t fond of white people. con todo, her reaction didn’t change my mind about who I should or shouldn’t date.

    I never had a preference on what race I dated. pero, when my family found out I had a boyfriend and he was black, they were surprised. They were surprised because my immediate family has been living in a predominately white area for the past 10 years and they thought that would sway my relationships.

  91. danielresponder

    This was a very encouraging post. My wife is black/El Salvadorean. .. and I am a Korean man…. It is absolutely unheard of in Korean culture to marry outside of Korean race let alone a black/latina woman. As an odd interracial couple we have faced much adversity, but the only thing that mattered was Christ and our bond in Christ through friendship to courtship and now in our marriage.

    I never really post on things like this but this post did speak to me and confirm my resolve in how I council others who are in pursuit of finding a spouse in their ethnicity.

  92. Kevinresponder

    I think this is an amazing story. I love how transparent you are because a lot of us try to hide things like wanting preferences, but i love how you said we have to submit them. I pray that God continues to show me things like this because I truly believe that it will help me to keep my heart and eyes on God and His Word and not just the appearance of the women around me.

  93. MJresponder

    STELLAR! Than you for sharing your love story. xuventude, college students and young adults are in DESPERATE need of such examples! I know because I’ve been having a blast talking about sex, dating and relationships with them since 2003. Will definitely be sharing with them at https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.

    Deus bendiga, viaxe!

  94. zacharybrunotteresponder

    I’m a white man with a black wife. We are still in our first year, but no regrets! We have our fist child on the way and we love our little family. Like Trip Lee, I pictured myself marrying a woman of my own race (I think its just natural). But I never once questioned it or thought of it to be “dereito” ou “wrong.She is of God. Thats the only race that I look at!!

  95. Jennresponder

    viaxe,

    I remember when you and Jessica first started dating! I remain encouraged to see you two continuing on in God’s grace. This was a great blog and I think it may be freeing for many people as they choose to look at the heart of the person rather than the outer.

    Jenn :)

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  97. Joelresponder

    Amen brother

    Run hard and fast towards the savior and if you see someone, in the corner of your eye running in the same direction, you should take a second look

  98. Rachaelresponder

    Absolutely love this! I’m sharing this with my parents. My parents have issues with the fact that I find myself interested in guys of a different race. Even though I have not always been interested in the most godly guys, there has been times when I was interested in a quite godly man, but because he was not white my parents completely dismissed and forbade any sort of relationship with them. I am definitely sharing this with them, hopefully this will open their eyes.

  99. Mauriceresponder

    Never saw it that way. I’m not racist, but in my growing up, there was a notion they taught us in our culture that implied that white girls only love you and hate your family. They love to be closed in. So my grandparents always saidif you want us not to come to your wedding or not to pay you visits at your home, marry a white girl. Because she won’t allow us to get close to you.

  100. Abbyresponder

    I agree trip lee
    I think that if you love her dearly and god approves I say why not

    I think it was Gods plan for you to meet Jessica !

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  102. Livyresponder

    It’s funny. Eu son branco (part Hispanic, but no one would know by looking at me), and my husband is white, but he’s from the country and I’m from the city. He’s from the south, and I’m from the north. We aren’t THE SAME just because our skin tones are similar. We walk and talk and process things at different paces, and our families are really different, but we love each other, and God brought us together. Culturally, aínda, it takes adjusting for both of us. que, along with being equally yoked to serve the Lord, is what marriage is all about! Glad you spoke up!

  103. Amandaresponder

    viaxe! First and foremost, your music is beautiful and awe inspiring. I love the message you preach in each and every single song. Continue the wonderful talent God has given you! Interracial relationships and marriages are absolutely gorgeous. It shouldn’t matter what race one is, but like you said, a Godly spouse. I am Caucasian, but have been attracted to African American men my whole life. My family is very, very, very accepting of this. :) con todo, I pray that God sends me the right one, who has gentlemen and godlike qualities. I yearn for a man who says they love Christ more than they love me, respectful, and sweet. This has opened my eyes though to be open to all races instead of just black. God Bless both you and Jessica!

  104. Terriceresponder

    This was a great articlei really enjoy reading your blog. Thanks for sharing your stories and being so transparent. The Lord is using you in so many wonderful ways! Deus bendiga!

  105. Schiaresponder

    wow, this article is awesome! Glory to God! viaxe, you are a really good writer as well. I felt like I was reading a romance novel or something while reading your post. Lots of smiling andawwwwww!” LOL Thanks for being a godly influence on so many fronts.

  106. LeisleyAbrahamsresponder

    Thanks Trip that’s the best way it has been explained to me ever!!My girl friend and I are praying and waiting on the Lord for the next step.I’m black full blonde African and She’s white..I’m always getting questions as to why i like her and not girls my skin but all i see in her is a godly woman on fire for Jesus, Loves Jesus more than she will ever love me and that’s something I need in my life..You truly inspired me #wiseWordsTrip #NoWonderYouMyFavRapper

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  108. AprilCresponder

    I’m really glad that you took the time out to write this. This post is kind of random, never really thought about it (heck, I never even knew this page existed until today). Nonetheless, I’m glad you wrote itI think the part that sparked my interest the most was the whole preference issue. I was married to a man for 5 anos (temos 3 children together) who didn’t want to be married anymore because in his wordsI wasn’t his preference (he would often use a chocolate ice cream / vanilla ice cream analogy to attempt to prove his pointhis preference was a woman with a um….”nicebodyI’ll leave it at that). The crazy thing is he actually does Christian rap—(????). de calquera xeito, I’m glad to see that you went about the right wayputting God’s desires above your fleshly desires…..de calquera xeito, continue to Love your wife like Christ Loves the Church….I’ll keep you all in my prayers…..

    Sincerely,
    April C.
    Greenville NC

  109. ANDREresponder

    Yep. Same reason i married a white girl. Grazas por compartir. Good read. Gracefully put. God bless you and your family brother. Praise The Lord, foreal tho.

  110. Tgirlresponder

    ben, I think people are more shocked by the fact that the few GOOD BLACK men are wife-ing White women and not us MANY BLACK women. It’s sad that racial comments exist, but it just the way people feel, in especially, women- that are Black. I have double standards my boyfriend is Latino & I’m Black and that’s okay (for Black women to date outside of their race). On other hand, when I see a decent (which are very few) Black man with a White/Other woman, I be like DANG another one of our brothers gonenow that’s just speaking from the heart racism or not. it is what it is.

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  112. Jeffresponder

    hey viaxe, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult question. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. I only dated and had married a black women who I married more for obligation (neno) and cultural expectation than mutual interest. Since I had no relationship with God aside from occasional church visits I believe I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me. I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life. The point is the Kingdom as the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all.

  113. Jeffresponder

    hey viaxe, thanks for the excellent and thoughtful response to a difficult topic. Like you I wasn’t pursuing any wife when I met Michelle. She was available and I was available and we saw the world in the same ways. Our race is NOT the most different thing about us and our faith IS the thing that brings us unity. In the past I had dated and married a black women out of obligation (neno) and cultural expectation (familia) than mutual affection. Since I had no relationship with God beyond church attendance, I was ill prepared for marriage. While our skin color was the same we had very different values and after we separated and divorced God came into my broken heart to heal me.

    I am so thankful for my wife’s courage to look at my potential and not my past and love me beyond skin color. Our children and our church ministry will reflect the love of God for people from every walk of life and our desperate need for his grace. The Kingdom is the world’s great equalizer and Jesus as Lord of all the nations. We will pray for your family and please pray for us too.

  114. kennedyresponder

    I joined trip I never think I can get someone as some site always for lieying and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails but u can’t escape God’s plan thus was like exciting to me an I read it being back my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture only person love & care about herwho is mewith God all is possible she is my really choice.

  115. kennedyresponder

    I joined trip I never think I can get someone honest as some site always for lier and robbing people I was ignoring some sms containing emails to contact them but u can’t escape God’s plan this was like exciting to me and I read it being black my policy was any where who loves me but not only my ethnic then I got white American lady who didn’t care about race,culture etconly person right person & care about herwho is mewith God all is possible she is my really choice.

  116. Ryanresponder

    NEED ADVICE:
    I’m dating a girl who prefers black guysand I’m white. She assures me that she likes me a lot, but it’s still a huge insecurity to me. I hope to one day marry this girl. Is there anything to good read on this issue or any sort of advice?
    – grazas

  117. Maleshiaresponder

    Yes Trip! I am a single black woman and a predominately white university and this type of conversation always comes up amongst my circle of black girlfriends. Although I have preferences for black men (I’m all for black love), I’m always open to dating outside of my ethnicity because you never know who God can use to make a difference in your life. I see people for who they are based on their personality, character, their values, and their beliefs more than anything as I’m getting to know them. Looks do matter and there are certain social contexts that may be misunderstood if the significant other was raised in a different ethnic culture, but these factors are not dealbreakers. If anything, they’ll make a relationship more interesting. Your story is such a beautiful love story that I too hope to experience someday. All in all, you can’t help who you fall in love with, regardless of if their black, white, yellow, Barney purple, or Ninja Turtle green. Love is universal and transcends all ethnicities. We as Christians are supposed to love all even with our differences. Sometimes your soul mate, true match, life partner, and best friend is someone who is completely opposite of who you ever imagined yourself being with. It makes me smile to hear that embrace how you were drawn to Jessica for the humble, compassionate, and God-fearing woman that she was and still is. Your union is a true testament that your shared faith in God transcends all differences. Be blessed.

  118. marcaresponder

    ei, I feel you. I have Australian Aboriginal heritage and I always wanted to marry another Koori (Aboriginal) but because of culture and ancestral religions it made it very hard. I ended up marrying a Anglo Red head. But She LOVES Jesus and that’s what matters.

  119. ceceresponder

    God bless you and your family in Jesus name it does not matter what raise you are it matters on how they treat you and you are the best pastor ever real

  120. Ezraresponder

    xénese 15:12-14
    “And when the sun was going down, a deep sleep fell upon Abram; e, lo, an horror of great darkness fell upon him. And he said unto Abram, Know of a surety that thy seed shall be a stranger in a land that is not theirs, and shall serve them; and they shall afflict them four hundred years; And also that nation, whom they shall serve, will I judge: and afterward shall they come out with great substance.”

    According to the Song of Solomon 1:4-6:
    “I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother’s children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept.”
    Conversely Numbers 12:10-15 states that Mariam is cursed by God when she disrespects his prophet, thus Mariam was stripped of her hue or color becoming white as snow. The irony of this element is that Christians have murdered whole cultures and Caucasians claim they are the chose people, when the bible is Hebrew book about an Egyptian God who specifies that Israel/Jacob bore 12 sons and produced the tribe of Israel who are black, like all members of the Holy Lineage.

    I know who I am. And I am not opposed to Nubian people dating/marrying white people. I would never do it, but it just speeds up the process, so that peace can inherit the Earth instead of what we are enduring now.

  121. PKresponder

    I’m happy I found this post. I wish more people in interracial relationships expressed them9 in this manner versus having to put down other groups of people. In all honesty, the Lord has been working on my heart when it comes this subject. I used to not care at all about who someone was dating/married to racially speaking. con todo, some negative encounters with interracial couples and the current anti-black woman movement left me jaded. But thank God for his grace, because He’s restoring my heart and opening my eyes to see people and marriage the correct wayeven the ones that express negative attitudes towards the ethnic group I belong to.

  122. Aliresponder

    What I have to say is very sad .. I m from the eastern part of the world and my I married a white girl.
    its tough the cultrual difference.. We are getting divorce.

    My family doesnt wants to meet me and I never get adjusted in her family.
    She was the perfect women I can ever have, we are divorcing due to interracial issues..

    My parents are sick and they want to visit US and they cant live with my wife. I am the head of the household so I have to takecare of my family backhome.

    Im heartbroken, devastated right now becuase its happening now we are going thru divorce .

    I will always love her

  123. Giftresponder

    wow. That is very powerful, Encouraging and it open our eyes to see beyond our physical eyes because two people God unite them to Fulfil His purpose.

  124. TheHonestTruthresponder

    Well i am a white Good man and i still Can’t meet a Good woman to settle down with since the women of today are so much Different than the past.

  125. Ericresponder

    I really could care less what ethnicity your wife is, but it is incredible to hear you address this (or any) issue with such humility and poise. Thank you for seeking God first.

  126. Brookeresponder

    By all accounts are words could be no truer, for a believer or not. I must emphasize you use toward the direct,” I never cared, realmente, what ethnicity my wife was to become, as I first choice would have seen her as black.Like many, I have stuggled in my Faith as seeking duty in His will, but I do believe with all that is me, that He will send me the desires of my heart ( not just a personal preference) because for me, I believe that is where apart of my patience and/or Faith is developing. As I do agree with YOUR story as it is YOUR testimony, I equally hold account to waiting for what seems the impossible because it lead by a desire, a need, not just a want. To be more specific: I would physically love to be in the company of David Beckham, Chris Hemsworth, and Ben Affleck (when single), but I have no desire to marry them; not when my heart desires the beauty, strength, character, and valor of the wonderfully-created black man! Had we remained in a world free from sin, this probably would not be a much concern, but in a world were such a beautifully-made human has been degraded, humiliated, chastised, disrespected, etc…I foresee no need not to complete my journey with him sent by Him. e, por último, para min, given today’s disconcerning examples of a black man, I want and need my son to see that what once was, (a good man like his father before he passed) can still and will be again…….

    Sincerely,
    B.

  127. Marwaresponder

    It is a very great joy and blessing to my life, i and my husband have begin childless for 8years now due to my inability for me to give birth and it has resolves to problems everyday in my home,so i visited a female friend in Florida,and she came up with an idea of adopting a child which i never had in mind,and now i got no choice than to apply for a child and to my surprises everything went easily and today i am happy with the Hansom little boy(Wisdom)i adopted from the Inter country child adoption center.

  128. Maryresponder

    This makes me very relief.That was a good decision to make. You never know when the right person comes around.No matter what race I will stick to that as an African American.That I don’t always have to be in my comfort zone that I can go out the box. I really appreciate this statement you gave . May God bless you and your family with many many more blessings in your life.

  129. Marcusresponder

    Great to all of you who have married children of God. We should marry people who know how to love us and that WILL love us! This info is for daters onlynot married couples; así, if you’re married, stay married, PLEASE! If you are dating, then ask God to show who you are supposed to marrybecause you don’t know sincerely! People can play nice-nice/hypocrite well for different reasons and fool you, people can be good people(but not the right one for the road that God has for youNOT COMPATIBLE SPIRITUALLYeven 2 children of God may have 2 different roads that do not line up; remember the bible verses where I believe the disciples rebuked a man of God because he was not associated with them directly; Xesús’ answer shows that people can have acceptable missions to God, but be incompatible; then again, God told Hosea to marry a prostituteif my memory serves me correctly). así, by choosing the wrong one(sometimes, a child of God can be the wrong one for you), you might miss out on blessings that might only be unlocked with the right one. You may even bring a curse to you; your kids might be sickly or some may die before you; you might not be the right parent for you child; you may be infertile or infertile for a long time; you love one another and something’s still not right; you might get someone who has fooled you(there are witches, wizards, hypocrites, violent abusers, uncaring naggers, cheaters, ascribers to open sex or LGBT lifestyles, mentally unstable people, ascribers to bestialitywho only use the family pet as a cover, atheists or agnosticswho have used religion to win you over, liars, the narcissistic or selfish, alcoholics and drugheads, conpeople and getting illegal money, pagans/satanists, lazy people, the childishnegatively speaking, por suposto, verbal abusers, cursers, people who will never repent, serial killers, pedophiles/incestuous people, etc. out there).

    You ask God, because He has a plan for you and because(if you divorce for whatever reason) it’s my sincere belief that you aren’t supposed to get married again until your spouse dies(or have sex again for those who are crafty). You’re not supposed get divorced period(except for sexual unfaithfulness), but you should be without sex or marriage if you do for whatever reason. Can you honestly say that if you(if you get a HORROR of a spouse and you can’t take itit shouldn’t happen even then, but what are most going to do) or your spouse is the reason why you get divorced that you can go without marital sex for a period that might go outside your sexual prime(this period could be several decades)?! THAT’S WHY YOU SHOULD ASK GOD WHO YOU SHOULD MARRY! It avoids sin later(because you may or may not get lucky, but He knows) and your Christian journey is maximized! What if God did not answer your marital issue(kids, máis) prayersletting you reap what you’ve sown for choosing to marry for personal reasons only?!

  130. Marcusresponder

    On another issue: there are some marriages(unless you know God has signed off on themask Him to be sure; don’t guess) that could be asking for trouble: 1. BMWF marriages in America: we live in world of white progressive, objective racism! White racists are aggressive with racism more than any group that I’ve ever seen! And the black man is enemy number 1! They put disgusting things in your food, blacks and their kids may get filthy/germ-laced hugs and handshakes, spells/curses may be put on the man or his kids, cops profile and mistreat black men far more aggressively if a BMWF marriage is proclaimed as you are supposed to, they disown family, theynepotizepure white family members(kids, máis) and discriminate against mixed members(kids) and the black man, they murmur against theirenemies”, they attack and/or kill black men, certain brother/sister relationships will become strained or inimical and almost all white brother/sister-in-laws will have no or an inimical relationship with their black counterpart, teachers subtly villify, etc. Can you imagine possibly your kids having no/a cheap relationship with their maternal family? At Christmas: white kids get a $150 gift from this member, but your kids get $25 gift or nothing. Can you imagine if something happened to your loved one(husband or child) and wondering whether your family had something to do with it and not being able to prove it? Many of these things can be expected; but also, these couples have to deal with the things that other marriages have to deal with, máis! Bills, domestic home/property care, family expenditures(sometimes unexpected), kids discussion(SPECIAL and requires more time than otherseven encouraging your child to realize that racist whites see them as black and maintaining a balance that he/she loves both parents and all people the same respectively), jobs, spending time with your friends so that they remain your friends, etc. There’s so much going on that makes the marriage unhappy, if God did not ordain it!

    2. Marriages where there’s a big gap in religious philosophy or where the main points of the religious teachings are opposite or not compatible. Just ask king Solomon. Christian and muslim. Christian and buddhist. Christian and hinduism. Christian and atheism. Christian and satanism(illuminati, freemasonry, and their other sects and ties). Be sure that God wants you there before entering, because God may use you to convert the person or someone else in your journey who will listen!

  131. JoshuaKirklandresponder

    viaxe,

    I really admire your drive, determination, willingness, & faith. The fact that this disease you have has plagued you & really made life difficult for you is absolutely crazy! con todo, you perserve & fight through all of that & continue to complete the things God ask of you. When I heard that the Unashamed Tour of 2012 was your last group tour, my mind began to wonder as to why you’re hanging it up. Once I found out that you had your fatigue disorder & that you were staring a pastoral internship, I began to understand that God had another purpose for you. When Rise was released, I was SOOOO excited! home, I was soooooo hype! To tell you the truth, The Good Life was the 1st Christian Hip-Hop album I listened to & purchased. Ever since then, I’ve been hooked onto hip hop music that praises Jesus. Your music has been so influential in my life. I pray that you continue to fight through your struggles and impact the kingdom! #116

  132. Blosamresponder

    Wonderful story. I am happy or you. I am married to my own ethnicity but that didn’t save me from miserable life I am living. I only kept my marriage to protect my kids future and God hates divorce. I live in a hell hoping to go to haven.

  133. LaKiKIresponder

    Who are you trying to convince of your choice? You, or us? If you truly picked your wife, because of GOD this article would not exist. You don’t need permission. si, I am sure there were plenty of Black Godly women that were just as amazing as the woman you chose. But you didn’t want them, nor had an interest. Your desire was for your wife. This is fine. Just stop trying to justify it, as it is ridiculous and condescending.

    I AM Guessing only comments that cosign your status get posted, but I will try again. Free speech matters!

  134. Tiffanyresponder

    What’s up Trip. This is Tee. I really enjoyed this article. Even though I’m years behind. lol. But honestly there is a reason I’m just seeing this. My husband is white and I too grew up imagining myself with a black man. But God created me to be different. Even growing up I was the cool kid on the block, known as one of the fellas. Then in college the fellas title change when they thought I was cute. But because I’m a officer that was to hard for a black man to support me on. So I got blessed at 30. 3 years strong with a beautiful little girl. I just pray the world can come together and know love has no color. God Bless
    P.S. My Lil brother wife is Asian, married 9 anos. My mom calls us her melting pot of love.

  135. Millzresponder

    Good Morning,

    Both my wife and I appreciate such dialogue as we feel these types of narratives astouchyas they can be need to be addressed in our society and more importantly as Christians. I am a young black man myself, my wife, who is white, is seven year younger than I. We both love Christ deeply. As we truly believe that through prayers Christ gave us each other. We now are parents of four beautiful children in a blended family. This union God created for us certainly didn’t come with its obstacles we lost friends and family along the way that we still pray for. The truth is God’s plan for us is never what we intended. And the bible is chock-full of scenarios that speak on our God’s plan and His divine perfection. (Hosea/Gomer is a perfect example)

    I think the world view of interracial unions have been marred by the tapestry of prejudice, hate, many other wicked and evils things that have plagued the thoughts of mankind since our inception. It’s the reason why the bible which is the greatest love story of them all still resonates even after all these millennias.

    My wife and I have experienced this hatred first-hand from both our cultures and even others not our own. It’s even more interesting when it is from a person who claims to be Christian or those who haven’t processed their own ignorance. When these things occur to us we see it as a blessing because we realize just how close we are to hearing God’s voice and not our own. el (Cristo) at those very moments hits us with Galatians 2:20, it is then we realize the fight we may want to have isn’t ours to fight. Does it make it easier to hear that? De ningunha maneira, they only reveal more questions like: “Ok, I can’t fight back but what about my children? How do I protect them from the hatred they see?

    That’s when you realize that your marriage was not only a personal, physical journey but a spiritual one.

    My wife and I are in our ninth year on marriage (insert applause) and we haven’t been more stronger and more united because we see our mission now, it couldn’t be so much more clearer. When the bible says we are the light of the world, we truly are! And some may not comprehend that, but then you find the few who say to themselves: “Si! What you two have I want that!”

    To my brother Trip and his wonderful family and extended family I say this,

    Your journey has just begun my brother and sister . Be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might. He will guide you so long as you never stop running to Him.

    There will be many obstacles I know for certain you probably have already experienced them living in the South. But you are an example of the true beauty of our God, and Lord Jesus Christ. In love and marriage this shows best, for the bible says multiple times thatFor there is no respect of person with God” – romanos 2:11

    God Bless You and all the others on this post who name the name Jesus Christ

  136. Dawnnresponder

    Bro, I so appreciate and respect you on this post. I’ve heard my fair share of reasons why black men marry women of a different race/ethnicity. This is one of the few times I’ve heard a brothaexpress the importance of Godly attributes over comparisons of why women of one ethnicity are better than women of another ethnicity. And truly it is about Kingdom purpose over preference. May our God continue to bless you, your wife and family!

  137. Trinitee Hudsonresponder

    My brother in Christ. I am so blessed by this article. Thank you for allowing the word to teach and settle issues people don’t understand.

    I am encouraged by your stance in your marriage but also your ministering truth. Deus bendiga vostede ea súa familia.